What are the best places you can practice conversations with females?
A few weeks ago i had my first date and i failed miserably... What are some good places i could go and practice the basics of human interaction? I look kinda decent i'd say... should i just make a tinder profil and write in the bio that i looking for female chatting partners?
I don't wanna get a gf or get laid only get experience so i can try again with the previous girl i fucked it up with.
Also i'm 20 years old and kinda broke at the moment so preferably places that doesn't require a shitton of money to spend like dancing courses or whatever...
well... school really. I have aspergers, and interaction is fucking scary honestly, and after I finished my career, I haven't gotten "new" friends. I don't like new people, but if I had to say something. Go to the library, talk to some random strangers that may look for a book that you're also interested in.
^From there, take that example and apply it to your actual interests. You'll be surprised how many desperate girls you can find at a regular anime con, as long as you're 7/10 or above.
Well i'm unemployed and not in school atm, but if i didn't fuck up my exams i'll go to uni at september... but that's a little too late for me desu.
>You'll be surprised how many desperate girls you can find at a regular anime con, as long as you're 7/10 or above.
well /soc/ usually rates me 6-7 sometimes i get 8-9's or 5's but mostly 6-7's.
>conversations with females?
Wrong call. Either you can make conversations or not. If you specifically struggle with females, do something about your sexism, not conversational skills.
> i had my first date and i failed miserably...
You can't fail a date. The two of you didn't have chemistry, that's all. That's the point of dates, finding out if two people get along.
>so i can try again with the previous girl i fucked it up with.
that's not how it works. Girls don't give second chances. It's for the better, a second date wouldnt go any better.
what exactly is the problem user? For what I understood, you want to talk to a girl, but you're autistic as fuck right? I would try my ebst at going to parks, and cafes, or something, but really, you have a very small range of options.
I think it's important that OP should tell us HOW did he fucked up. Maybe that's the entire problem.
Alright, here we go (my english is terrible sorry about that):
Well we were classmates. We were both quite shy and quiet during shighschool but we had similar interests, and personality i'd say. I've always had a crush on her but i was extremely autistic during highschool, i didn't have any friends etc. so i was too afraid to ask her out, even tho i always thought she is into me aswell.
Anyways. One year later we had a class reunion kinda stuff. We all were kinda drunk. At some point i was talking to her best friend and we talked about stuff like what's our weaknesses and good qualities etc. (i hope you guys understand what am i trying to say, my english is terrible, sorry) And she told my my only problem is that i'm not confident enough. A bit later she literally insisted that i should go and talk to her. I was too nervous to do it so i didn't do shit once again, but a few days later i decided that fuck it... i'll do it idc what happens, i'll probably fail but at least i'll try. I asked her out and she said yes.
On the date: she was very cute and constantly tried to bring up topics to talk about but i was too nervous i couldn't keep up the conversations so there was a lot of awkward moment...I said a lot of extremly dumb stuff aswell etc... She ignored my texts after the date obviously as i deserve it... But i don't think we didnt have chemistry... i was just too autistic the behave normally.
I know there is not too much possiblity for a second chance but since she said yes for the first one and she actually tried during the date i have hope. I just need to get better first.
yep, happened to me, it's over dude. For now, at least. You need to stop fearing women, and then talk to her again, and say "sorry, I was very nervous. I didn't want to make you feel uncomfortable, and I wish we could still talk"... for now, I mean.
That's why i made this thread. I want to practice talking to women so i wont "fear them" i guess... But i have no idea where to start...
well... say that and work slowly. There's no easy way to accomplish confidence my man.
You sound low on self-confidence in general. You might need to spend some time working on yourself before you go after more girls. Learn skills, study a subject that interests you, practice an art form, exercise, etc. All of those things will make you feel like a more well-rounded individual and give you topics to discuss.
Do you have any male friends? Those are usually easier to make and keep than girlfriends. If you can talk to them you can talk to girls.
And your english is quite good, by the way.
>You sound low on self-confidence in general
Well, yeah. But not because of my physical appearance tho. I'm quite okay with that.
I really need to work on my social skills tho but isn't the best way to work on those is to force and put myself in social situations? Like talking with other random girls?
>Learn skills, study a subject that interests you, practice an art form, exercise, etc.
That's a really good advice aswell, but i'm afraid these would take way too much time. I know it probably sounds cringy but i really love her, and i don't want any other gf. I feel like the more time i waste the less chance i have to get a second chance with her... She might lose interest in me over time or just get in a serious relationship over the years or whatever. I feel like i need to get my shit together as fast as possible and try again.
shameful selfbump.
>i'm afraid these would take way too much time
That's the point. You can't change overnight. You don't become a better man in only a month. Your self-worth is something you should be working on your entire life.
> i don't want any other gf. I feel like the more time i waste the less chance i have to get a second chance with her
You shouldn't give a shit about this girl. You already had a horrible date with her. Why would you want to spend more time with her ?
Do you really think you'll never meet someone you like more? Get over yourself, you're talking like a fifteen year-old. She's already lost what little interest she had in you.
you may not like it, but this is the biggest redpill ITT
bluepill*
Strip clubs,not even kidding.The one I go to has all sorts of girls who approach you and some try to get to know you just so you can buy them a drink or a lap dance.
Imagine being right by accident and than fixing it.
Do you think she really lost all interest? Since i decided to ask her out and i finally did it, shouldn't i try to do everything i possibly can to make it work? Since she said yes for the first time and i believe she actually tried to make it work, i think there are still chance. Very little but still..
>Do you really think you'll never meet someone you like more?
Yeah, i probably could. But does it matter? If i thinked what way, i wouldn't even asked her out in the first place i guess..
If i was 100% sure that it's not gonna work i could move on easily, without a problem, but that's not case. I just need to be better i think.
Btw thank you for taking the time and replying to my thread/giving advie. I really appriciate it user.
From what you've told us you've had a date that went badly. You can ask her out again but chances are she won't respond positively.
Do you think another date will go differently right now anyway? It sounds like you're really fixated on this girl but don't actually know her that well.
>shouldn't i try to do everything i possibly can to make it work?
Not really. All you did was ask a girl out one time, you aren't trying to keep a marriage from failing.
Good chemistry and similar interests go a long way.
Yeah she probably wouldn't reply at all.
I'm hoping to meet her at a festival tho I know she goes to this summer. If we meet there i want to try and have a conversation and see how it goes. If she is not into it i'll probably just give up. But I need to make sure i do my best if I do it..
biggest bluepill*
that wasn't me. I think it's a redpill. That was some unoriginal dick that thinks he's funny. same as this incel
Seethe harder pussy-boy.
Gtfo with your shitty agenda faggot