Just be yourself

It works for people who can socialise on autopilot.
For those who never learned how to socialise and/or talk to females at the appropriate age, it just makes you look like a creep.

>You are because you're not confident about beeing yourself though.
Yes you retard. That's exactly what it says. Go Bee entirely yourself offline for a while.

On people who change, yes.

People to proud to change, no.

Like I act myself all the time and it "works" for me, almost always. But I have made a lot of mistakes over the course of my life and learned a lot. I never let a mistake happen twice as I always learned from it.

Buuuuut. If you're the type who makes excuses in the face of your mistakes. Buries your head in the sand. A bad person who doesn't want to improve.... wellllllll..... Then no, being yourself is a bad idea. Because you are a terrible person and you now have to lie in order to be liked by others.

So you have a choice to make right now. Start being yourself and face the pains of changing. Or start lying right now and hide all your faults, hoping that you can keep the act up long enough to last the rest of your life. You'll always live in fear knowing that your friendships are false, ETC

The answer is pretty obvious, I think. If you think about it for more than 3 seconds.

"strive to be the best version of yourself"

>being insecure about yourself is being yourself
It's like the antithesis of the meme.

>Go Bee entirely yourself offline for a while.
Did that since I'm 19 or so. Feels great and actually made connecting with people much easier; people started wanted to befriend me without any trying from my side.

>If you're the type who makes excuses in the face of your mistakes. Buries your head in the sand. A bad person who doesn't want to improve.
But almost every person is like that, somewhat at least. Your brain generally hates change and will attempt anything to convince you against it. Hence following dumb instinct is not really being yourself (which would require exploration of your potential) but stagnation.

It's never worked for me.

Honesty is good if you’re a quality person. Stop being trash lol.

>just be
>*your healthy
>self
Mental and Physical illnesses allways need to be addressed. To make sure you're able to propperly associate with others, self care is essential.

This, basically. Doesn't seem to work for me because my lifes a mess that I'm only just cleaning up. I'm happy because I started but to them I'm still a mess with an unpredictable future. Problem being I'm attracted to girls who have their shit together, relatively, and want to settle down... I want that too. Just not really an option right now. It hurts.

It works if there's chemistry and similar interests, otherwise it probably won't work out either way. So in a way your being more honest and wasting less time

All memes aside, hiding yourself and your personality doesn't seem like a good strategy to forming long term relationships.

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You can do things when you're afraid to do them.

It does but not as in "being yourself will magically give you friends" rather, it'll avoid you wasting time with people who won't be good friends with you anyway. if you're fake with someone they'll either sniff that out or have to go through the whole sorting process down the line when you eventually get close enough to reveal yourself.

if you spend less time playing those games and more time being yourself then you can spend that extra time working on real issues of your real self.

Well it depends, what kind of person are you? What do you like? If you're going to be dressed in a black robe holding a cross upside down and a star marked on your hand, you're going to get attention from people but the wrong kind of attention. You have to either blend in to some extent or as other user have mentioned not give a damn if other people think you're part of a satanic cult. That's just an example in extremes. Most people from what I've seen around aren't THAT different from the norm, their personalities usually boil down to a small group just differentiated by very specific things.

It's not, you usually want to be upfront and honest with your partner. It saves both of you the trouble of having potentially serious problems later.

In one sense, its outrageous advice:

>Just do the one thing that by definition, YOU always have to do :)

In another sense, it means

>stop trying to play a character. Be open to your own shortfalls, your own quirks, the fact that there are things about you which you don't like. Sometimes you will say or do shit that you later consider embarrassing. Relax. You can't get rid of all your quirks and everyone has them, and you're better off coming to terms with them than trying to change them.

In sense 2, it is good advice.

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if I were myself nobody would have talked to me in my entire life lol

When people say that, they do mean it, but in a certain way.

Being yourself is the easiest way that you will be confident in an interaction, which makes you more attractive and thus in general increases your overall probability for a positive interaction and increased future interactions.

However, if you are a miserable human being in multiple ways that does not seek to meet a respectful dialogue in the pluritude of ways that this can be implemented by (bad hygene,staring, rudeness, disagreeableness (to a degree)), then please do not be this person.

What the sentence should say is to be the best version of oneself.

Are you really being the best that you can be?

Because if you are, then you should be robust enough by yourself to stand up to scrutiny.

Pepe over here doesnt seem to do so.