ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

No. But men will always be open to fuck a female friend they find attractive. Hell, most men think the ideal partner would be an attractive friend.

How offputting is gyno? (genetic kind not fat kind)

If a dude I like spends the whole night talking to me about random stuff at a bar, does that mean he could like me back?

Possible. How many get togethers does it suggest? If a guy is constantly contacting you first or initiating getting together, he is probably open to more.

If he is just friendly when you run into each other, maybe not.

Men are low effort with female friends they dont want to fuck. They wont be mean, but they will be lazy. If they want more, they will put in more effort.

Dont get me wrong, high effort doesnt mean a secret plot to fuck. It just means he is open to fuck.

if they are single, and it applies for girls too.

You're liable to get into a relationship with someone you don't like purely because they have a vagina, therefore dooming the relationship and wasting time for both of you.

Girls won't care if they like your personality.

i was in a short-lived LDR with my therapist and we'd have phone sex all the time
i really miss our conversations and the noises she'd make guys! i want that back! how do i find a gf who has a cute voice and is into phone sex?

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Is wearing a suit to a date autistic?

I'm talking a jacket and pants with a casual pattern, no tie (obviously), belt and shoes in a casual color like tan or burgundy, and a shirt with maybe a floral or checkered pattern/colors.

I guess kind of like pic related but without the waistcoat/sweater thing.

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I don't think so really. But I think pretty much every man looks better in a suit.

Unless both of them are asexual or homosexual then one side is going to feel something towards other one.

What/Where is the best way/place to meet girls online?

for women.

why do girls like being smacked on the ass/thigh or whatever? my friend does this to the girls in our class they say it hurts but it seems like they like it? i dont get it.

>Sooner or later men and women will always want to fuck.
Some people are just not too attracted to each other.
But even if they are, so what? Just because you consider fucking your friends doesn't mean you're not friends. Based on your logics, bi people can't have friendships.
It's extremely off turning and pathetic. If your life is so shit that you need a gf, why the fuck would any girl want to be your gf?
Depends more on how you handle it. I know a few guys who have larger tits than my girlfriend, but they are cool about it, so no one really cares too much.
Holy kek. Please tell how it happened in the first place. That's some based shit.
Generally, yeah but depends on the where and what you wear normally.

I run into him almost daily due to work. He initiates conversation most of the time. Caught me by surprise he stuck around so long to chat since most of what we share at work is small talk.

Validation

You would like it too if you knew it was a compliment.

I'd say true in theory, false in practise. Two humans that are sexually interested in each others sex and forced to spend long times together alone would start to want to bone, but irl that situation is rarely going to actually happen. I definitely believe if you have a healthy social life you can have friends who's sex you're interested in but not interested in them at all. I believe this because, whilst it's not exactly what you're looking for, I'm bi and have had friendships with lots of people for a good few years without ever developing attraction to them.

Because women want you to want them as individuals, not just because they're a woman.

Depends where you're going, make sure you don't overdress or it'll make her feel silly or like you're taking this too seriously.

Dating websites, they're specifically made for it.

I don't like either, so I guess it depends on the woman

My boyfriend doesn't seem to be that into me anymore, and we've not been together very long. I don't know if it's because I'm an awkward person or because he's quite blasé about most things. Is there any way to rectify this? I'm quite interested in continuing this, but if I can't find a way to improve it then I can only really think of leaving.

I'm a sensitive guy, some people might even call me a bitch. I've tried to grow thick skin and it works some days, but there will be days where everyone pisses me off/makes me sad.

Anons, how can I stop being a bitch?
Femanons, is this a turn off?

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If he starts coming to you to talk, and/or talking about more personal stuff, he is probably interested or you are just simply amazing at talking. OR he is about to quit and is wasting time.

Let me tell you about 3 girls I work with. There is a large fat lady far from my office that I will talk to when I see her, but I do not seek her out. She is nice enough but I do not want to fuck her.

There is a short cute girl about half the distance from my office. I will sometimes go see her to talk about my weekend. I do not actively want to fuck her, but I would if she asked.

Then there is the divorced mom that is two years older than me. She's got this great butt. I would wreck her shit. I talk to her just as much as the younger girl. And I also give her small trivial compliments every 3 or 4 weeks. Like "oh man, nice nails" or "sweet hair, special event?" You know, not sexual or creepy, but she can assume I like what I see IF she wants to take it that way.

So if he is coming to you, he is probably open to fug. If he starts being really nice too, he probably actively wants something more.

Work on yourself. Work out and other hobbies you can feel pride in. Maybe get better at your job.

You're a bitch because you do not have high self esteem. Improve yourself and you will know your worth. Set goals and remember achieving them when someone gives you shit.

Hrm.. I've watched this friend ruin many a girl, so I'm hesitant. He's demisexual, so can only get off to an emotional attraction. I've seen him surf Omegle chat for days on end(while tweaking) looking for his specific type of girl.

He'd get them on the phone fairly quick, saying that he prefers to to text. Would ask about their family, tell about his, really find intimacy. Find out about her sexual experiences, relate them to his. Introduce her to his fetishes. Pretty much groom and indoctrinate from this point. He's.. deep, Psued, but philosophical enough to woo a girl in her late teens.

They'd be calling back all hours of the day, setting schedules! Like a call before and after school, every single day.. for a week or two. They'd fall madly in love and he'd drop them like nothing. Seen it happen start to finish a dozen times.

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Absolutely A+ perspective, thank you for the time and effort put into compiling it. He compliments almost everything he sees me do, nothing about my looks though, so I took it he might be reluctant to do so to not seem like a creep. That may or may not be wishful thinking.

Was he hot or something?

I literally cannot stop masturbating. How does a woman do nofap when there's no need for breaks longer than five minutes?

what the fuck is this
don't reply to me ever again

People ignoring my messages really fucking annoys me. It seems pretty inconsiderate but I suppose it could be that I'm the weird one for being so bothered by it.

>Depends where you're going, make sure you don't overdress or it'll make her feel silly or like you're taking this too seriously.
The same boring restaurants and stuff I always go to.

The girls I date/I'm into are usually the type who still live with their parents and have their close family commenting "proud of you!", "you look so pretty!" etc. on their facebook pics, and turn up wearing a dress - so I guess it doesn't look too out of place.

>Generally, yeah but depends on the where and what you wear normally.
I work in professional services so I wear a suit every day, and also I'm autistic so hard for me to dress properly, I usually just try wear what I wear to work but make it more casual by swapping the suit pants for chinos and dropping the tie, and going for a less casual shirt.

Am I autistic?

If you are interested you could probably ask him to eat lunch. Do that a handful of times and then ask him to get something to eat after work. If that continues to go well, ask him to go on a date, and use the word day.

If he turns you down for the date, just play stupid and say you thought he liked you and you're sorry for the miscommunication. He's not going to take you to HR. Men dont do that over lunches and dinners or being asked out. You'd have to grab his actual dick to get in trouble.

If you are not interested, dont let it weird you out. Just take it as a compliment. It means you're attractive. Men want to have sex with everything attractive. It's not nearly as big a deal as some girls make it.

Are you hot?

Being overdressed can be just as bad as being underdressed. It depends on the venue and what your date is going to wear.

Talk to him about it.

Ask them why they're slow to respond if it's bothering you.

>You're liable to get into a relationship with someone you don't like purely because they have a vagina, therefore dooming the relationship and wasting time for both of you.
>Because women want you to want them as individuals, not just because they're a woman.

But one thing doesn't exclude the other?

>If your life is so shit that you need a gf, why the fuck would any girl want to be your gf?
isn't that kind of the meaning of life? finding a girl and making children with her

Use the word date, I mean. Men are stupid. Unless you say date, they might not know it is a date.

Yes. Stoic, soulful, poetic. With a knack for the tragic.

tl;dr try Omegle

Female libidinal buildup is more of a passive tension, as opposed to the male active aggression. The female buildup is far less useful to sublimate - women tend to preform better without a buildup, orgasm is good for them in that aspect. They do suffer the aesthetic release from suffering and reinforcement of that Oedipal desire. But when the phallus provides both great energy levels and for great pleasure, it's pretty damn hard(and potentially ill-advised) not to actively pursue it..

This is why some eastern thought suggests that compassion is spiritual path for those born as women in this life, not enlightenment. They have a far more difficult time living a healthy life AND working towards denial of the will-to-life. However women are geared towards flow instead of structure innately, they develop far fewer layers of separation and, on a cycle, even flow past the ones they have. Spirit is far more accessible and innate to women in a comfortable family life, where as males essentially have to abandon such things to effectively work with spirit.

tl;dr all men should have clitoris envy

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you're fuckin weird

> and going for a less casual shirt.
I take you meant more casual shirt.

> same boring restaurants and stuff I always go to
How fancy are these? What do other people there wear?

>and turn up wearing a dress
What kind of dress though?

Your concern and thoughts put into it is a decent sign that you're not doing it too wrong. And specially if your behaviour is casual enough to balance it out, it's probably not too bad.

>isn't that kind of the meaning of life? finding a girl and making children with her
If you are an automaton ape maybe.

>all men should have clitoris envy
I kinda do and then remember than my dick doesn't bleed every month. So thanks but no thanks.

Don't force yourself to be someone else. Talk to him about your concerns.

>If you are an automaton ape maybe.
I'm pretty sure wanting a family and marrying young would be seen as contrarian these days

I know. I'm far outside the Oedipal walls: The boundaries of our self-repressive machinery of desire. All things outside those walls are known as 'schizophrenic', I am contagious too. The psychocops refer to us as 'logical singularities'.

The third stage of individuation involves the integrating the psychic functions of menstruation and the womb. I have a monthly cosmic cycle and a casual void which yearns for creation. Intense flows feel like fucking stigmata.

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>I take you meant more casual shirt.
Yes.

>How fancy are these? What do other people there wear?
Not very fancy at all. And a range of stuff, not sure why it matters tho.

>What kind of dress though?
I don't know enough about dresses to be able to comment.

Girls,
Do you find any off-putting facial features when it comes to guys?

None of that answered my question.

Would a tinder bio like this seem to needy or weird? I'm 23
I have collected a couple of decent pictures but I never managed to get alot of matches where I currently live and I am trying a different approach

>fond of travelling, humorous, 90's enthusiast
>Hey, I like long motorcycle voyages and taking walks at dawn
>looking for a non-smoking and conservative girl
>if you like vintage home movies it would be a strong basis for a match

I merely suggest against it. My point being there are innate difficulties to female nofap which lead to it having little benefit and potential determent.

Thank you, kind user! I'm very much interested, but I fear rejection. Would it be wise to wait a bit more and try to talk to him to establish his intentions first?

Yeah, I understood that. Its just not an answer to the question I asked.

What kind of girl are you hoping for when you say "conservative"? If you're having trouble making matches, then I probably wouldn't suggest anything that says "don't even bother with me if you are XYZ." If you give any fuel for a girl's hesitation, then that's just going to lower your chances of her giving you a chance.

Say for example, I'm not 'a smoker', exactly (assuming cigarettes). But I have smoked in the past. Not regularly, bumming one every couple of months. I decided around a year ago that I don't want to risk getting hooked or in a habit, so I decided to stop altogether. I might wonder, "Is he going to be judgmental of the fact that I have smoked cigarettes before? Is he going to be judgmental if I have friends who smoke?" And that kind of wondering might drive a girl to not try, even if she does actually tick your boxes.

It's always true.

The thing about friendships is that they get better or worse over time. If they get better with the opposite sex, and you keep getting closer and closer... then what's going to happen?

Otherwise you drift apart and you're not friends.

So no, all attempts at this sort of friendship either have failed, or will fail.

I'm 27 and I've never once, in my entire life, seen a male-female friendship work. And it's not for a lack of trying.

Seeing something as meaning of life and wanting it are different things.

> If they get better with the opposite sex, and you keep getting closer and closer... then what's going to happen?
A lot of silbing fucking according to this logic.

Also see
>Asceticism and the Denial of the Will-to-Live
plato.stanford.edu/entries/schopenhauer/#5.3
>Schopenhauer believes that a person who experiences the truth of human nature from a moral perspective — who appreciates how spatial and temporal forms of knowledge generate a constant passing away, continual suffering, vain striving and inner tension — will be so repulsed by the human condition, and by the pointlessly striving Will of which it is a manifestation, that he or she will lose the desire to affirm the objectified human situation in any of its manifestations.

On more simplistic grounds, distract yourself. Practice a hobby, play a vidya. You've got idle hands, it seems.

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I don't think the type of girls i'm looking for are on dating sites, or perhaps regular ones

How long is "not that long"?

Can you describe the exact behaviors you have noticed that you consider evidence of his not being that into you? What behaviors would you consider evidence of him being into you?

You might consider looking into the love languages: receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch. Figure out specific actions that would help you get what you want and need and express desire for it. I'd also suggest spending some time expressing your love for him through a variety of the love languages.

It makes you look beneath them and girls want a guy who's better than them.

the first
>WHAT DOES IT MEEEEEEN GUIES.?!?!?!
post of the thread.

Congrats, read the FAQ and kindly fuck off.

>LDR with my therapist
Sounds toxic from the start.

Can I have the story how did this happen?

Yes lol
If you have to ask, the answer is probably yes. Remember that.
Anyway you don't wear a suit unless you're going to a high-class restaurant, a play, or a cocktail bar or something.

It's almost as if girls have sexual desire or something.

Can you understand why men love being stroked by pretty girls sometimes? Weird, dude.

Learn the art of teasing and allure. Men will lose all interest in you, fast, when you throw yourselves at them for free. He HAS TO feel like he 'earned' you. It's a promal need we evolved to feel. You must put a price on affection, especially sex, even if it just means delaying putting out 5 minutes, like asking for a backrub or something.

Doesn't matter how stunning you are. If it's free he'll lose interest. Like anything else really. Price is what makes things valuable.

>I'm a sensitive guy
Read anger therapy books. Anger issues and HSP is nearly identical, straight down the line. The only difference is in how you express yourself.

call me

Sounds like you want to control others.

Either they
>read the message
>or not

If the first, then your result is happiness.
If the latter, then your result is anger (or resentment, annoyance, etc - just lighter forms of anger)

To free yourself, you need to detach your emotional health from the actions of other people. You need to stop trying to, or desiring to, control others.
If they don't read - fine. And the world keeps spinning.

The other thing is if you're taking it personally, like they might not like you or something. Overthinking, worry, fear. Then you should work on your worry.

>A lot of silbing fucking according to this logic.
That's a different topic but yes, sibling sex is VERY common and far more common than most people thing.

Nearly everyone I know (including me) has some sort of story, something related to incest when they were younger. It's really common.

What does it mean when a lady calls you "angel" after showing concern for her situation? And what if you want to have an affair with her? How can I transform a cordial relationship into a romantic one (she is like 15 years older)?

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Yeah it's kind of dumb to ask for a "conservative" girl on tinder out of all places.
I was just hoping for a girl that wasn't a modern leftist but I guess that's quite alot to ask for.
Thanks for the hints though

ok girls help me understand something
when a guy is after a girl and she turns him down, how does he react? generally speaking, he moves on and that's the end of it.
now when a girl is after a girl and he turns her down, how does she react? from what i've experienced they become extremely vindictive and will spread rumors/lies and do anything they can to hurt the guy.

why are girls like this?

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Girls aren't used to being rejected.

>now when a girl is after a girl
when a girl is after a guy*

>Nearly everyone I know (including me) has some sort of story, something related to incest when they were younger. It's really common.
WTF. Are you in Alabama or something?

My perspective: Why is "wanting to fuck" mutually exclusive with "friendship"? Why is it not an option to be friends with someone you want to fuck?

Also pic related

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Haven't you heard the horror stories of some men getting abrasive and violent when rejected, calling her a no-good whore etc? Some men have literally gone on murder sprees.

From FAQ:
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

I'd say that weed those dealbreakers out after you're actually talking to her, and during your own swiping.

If it doesn't work out with the girl I'm seeing now then I want to try and stay friends at least. Probably difficult though, I'm probably even less confident of that working out.

I'm just fucking lonely desu.

i flirt with, ask out, seduce and then reject women for laughs. it's a hobby

am i a piece of shit?

>am i a piece of shit?
yeah

>WTF. Are you in Alabama or something?
And this is why nobody talks about it. It's too easy to subscribe to the taboo, even if you did it yourself.

It's fake, I mean you're fake. It's something everyone knows but never discusses. Then the occasional retard like you comes along and acts all shocked and aghasted.

Like no, you are just gullible and believe everything you hear. Society is not perfect like you so easily believe it to be.

>What does it mean
BOY OH BOY WE HAVE ANOTHER

Read the FAQ my friend

>am i a piece of shit?
Why are you asking this question?

>girls: reject nice guys like me and only go after the top 20% of men
>the top men cheat on them or dump them for other girls
>girls: *le surprised pikachu face*

XD

>And this is why nobody talks about it. It's too easy to subscribe to the taboo, even if you did it yourself.
>It's fake, I mean you're fake. It's something everyone knows but never discusses. Then the occasional retard like you comes along and acts all shocked and aghasted.

I'm surprised by the idea because I've literally talked around with incest fetishists (of which I am) and I feel like I would have heard more personal IRL anecdotes from those people.
How are you defining "something related to incest"? Maybe my definition is just too narrow compared to yours. Are you including the like, kids showing each other their genitals out of curiosity type of thing? I don't include that. I'm thinking actual sexual acts, where sexual stimulation is occurring.

those cheaters are more interesting than nice guys

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Ex Girlfriend literally drunk called me at 3 am this morning, she brought up something we used to do when we would go out to a club, then she initiated a little small talk, before I cut it off. I mean I've read that a Drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts, and she was clearly thinking of me. so does this mean anything?

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You mean more good-looking.

Ladies

Is a guy that can bend over and suck his own dick attractive?

How do I know if I'm being too picky when looking for a girl?

Girls are weird. She might say that she loves you one day, but completely deny it the next if the feels put on the spot and is sober.
The best thing you can do when someone drunkenly flirts with you over text in the middle of the night is to push for action.
If it were me, I would get up, clean the house while texting, then casually suggest she comes over and turn it into the date I would want it to be if she was sober when it was arranged and it was all planned ahead.
But it also depends on what you want.

There is no difference.

Do girls prefer men to have long hair or short hair?

I met a girl online. We've been chatting for a day. She wanted to see a picture of me so I showed her. She said with a smiley face that it wasn't me and demanded a picture of me. She then showed a picture of herself but continued to demand a picture of me. I insisted it was me and she started ignoring me (while still reading my messages).

I assume shes mad I didn't meet expectations but is there anything else I may not be reading correctly? Its a shitty feeling considering I've been ghosted many times before.

I basically need advice on how to handle ghosting (m and f can reply). Someone told me in order to avoid it I need to do social interaction in groups, but that not realistic. I've reached the same point of women reading my messages (basically forever), but they will not respond no matter what.

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COME BACK AND TELL US THE STORYYYYYYY!!!

>It's too easy to subscribe to the taboo, even if you did it yourself.
Even on 4chains where people have no issues with much worse things like racism, pedophilia and sexism? Seems a tad unlikely. Hell, there is a thread about someone wanting to bang their mom every week.

Not a girl but from my experience most prefer short hair. In the end it rarely will matter as long your style looks aight.

Have you found any actual people like the ones you're looking for? Do you expect from them something you don't offer?

Gotta agree with you on the incest thing, everyone does retarded things like that as a kid. I remember licking my sisters tongue once and being grossed out when we were like 4/7. I don't have any incest fetishes for reference.

I think it's false. I don't disagree with the sentiment, but I think platonic is used too much as "zero sexual tension ever, the idea of being with them disgusts you". I don't feel that way about most of my friends, male or female. I am not not having sex with them because they repulse me, but because of a combination of 1. not feeling a strong incentive/not being emotionally invested in fucking them specifically and 2. having a platonic friendship I am happy with and fulfilled by and don't wish to endanger for a fleeting, lone shimmer of lust after five drinks.

I see people I find (more) attractive all the time and feel absolutely okay with knowing I will only ever have sex with a tiny fraction of all the possibilities out there. I feel fine with that even if there's no potential risk other than the usual (STDs, negative experiences etc).
What's more, if I'm friends with someone long enough the idea of sleeping with them becomes weird. Awkward moments happen, the idea of (let's say) farting and the guy losing his boner in the heat of the moment is never outright fun, but feeling humiliated and rejected around a stranger or around a friend you usually have a good connection with is incomparable.

Personally I've had a handful of really long term male friendships in my life and have ended up in bed with one of them and I am sure we both regret it. We didn't go beyond spooning naked and touching a little and still our friendship so far did not recover, it is obvious we both feel awkward. It hurt me feeling just how much he wanted to gtfo in the morning. It makes me cringe remembering details I think might have made him feel awkward or bad about himself. I physically enjoyed it, a lot actually, but it wasn't worth it and if anything he feels more strongly and has not initiated seeing me since. It has really confirmed all my beliefs about how this is not worth it. I still kick myself because I 100% knew it was a bad fucking idea when I told him okay.

Not really. Many more girls do this to men, so they deserve it and I thank you for your service.

>True or false and, in detail, why:
male responding:
true. I only am interested in an interaction with a women if i find her attractive. else i dont care about her. Friendship is indeed not an option. (I dont have female friends, maximum is loose acquaintance)

I love everything to do with self-pleasure so it's not a complete no to me, but I never had a thing for autofellatio just because it's so hard for me to imagine it as actual fun. Part of what I love about masturbation is the image of the man lying back and spoiling himself, relaxing himself, and autofellatio just seems really intensive/straining and a lot of effort. In all honesty I wouldn't really know exactly how I would feel if a man I was into told me he could do this, he would have my attention for sure, but the concept itself is not something I fantasize about or find quite hot.

What are some things girls do if they like a guy?

You could ask her for a request, like the shoe on head thing. That way she'd know it's a unique photo.

I've rejected plenty of men in my life, of course the whole "stupid whore I was never even into you" is the exception not the rule, but implying men just shrug it off and get on with their life is not accurate either. Some level of guilt tripping ("but I really thought we had a connection here... wow guess that's just me"), passive aggressiveness ("wow who said I was interested in seeing YOU again?"), persuasion ("just tell me why" and then when you say something "how can you know that about me already, that's not who I am I was just having a bad day, give me another shot") and so on is more common than not.

It just really sucks to be rejected and it is an art to accept it gracefully.
I definitely think women can be even worse because as the other user said, they're not used to it, and there's a bullshit societal narrative that any man just about loves attention from any woman at all that can make it feel more personal to be turned down instead.
However then I'm talking about getting insulting, playing the victim, maybe telling friends he led you on and turned out to be a dick. Not spreading lies about how he beat his ex or something and going out of your way to make someone's life worse, if someone does that it's insane no ifs or buts.

False. In high school I had a really fat friend who was one of my best friends, and I like more slender girls. 0 sexual interest.