Am I right to be cautious about being a sugar baby? Is this a scam?
Sugar baby scam
Maybe you'll find some girls who have done sugaring here, but man, Jow Forums is not the avenue I'd expect a lot from. You'll probably find more experienced sugar babies over in /soc/. I know there are some online communities about how to not get fucked over. You are in a vulnerable position as a sugar baby: financially, physically, and emotionally. You are right to be cautious and you need to educate yourself before you go further.
I looked into sugaring myself a couple years ago, but I decided it wasn't for me. I don't have the resources I was using on hand, but you should look around. Maybe try reddit too. Some subreddits have great compiled information.
Thanks :)
Good luck! Stay safe! Trust your gut! If I were going to give you any advice, I would say to establish firm boundaries early on and be almost absurdly anal about upholding them. Be confident saying "no" to anything. Always have an exit strategy.
my last sd paid me in cash. i wouldn't give bank info to some guy.
This is a scam. Anyone who asks for bank info is. Accept cash only on meeting. Don't let this discourage you, there are plenty of good sugar daddies out there, keep looking.
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Just open up a new checking account separate from your primary and give """her""" that info.
Asking for bank info is against the terms of seekingarrangement so you should report him.
i hope you get scammed, roastie
I like how you were the only one that caught on that she’s a sugar momma kek
Holy shit
yeah I think i'll delete my post so people are less likely to notice. OP if this is legit you should delete the thread you dumbass, names are clearly visible.
Maybe it was supposed to be a PR campaign?
I'm a curious femanon. Most girls my (college) age joke about sugar daddies, but what did that relationship really look like? Was it just like escort but with the aspects of monogamy and going on dates/hanging out? Also why/how did you become a sugar daddy?
Most importantly: when you bought her things on credit, did she call it an SD card?
>Most girls my (college) age joke about sugar daddies
I wish I could find girls serious about this because I'd consider it. Even without the sex.
I would consider it. It's maybe not super healthy but I always have empathy for men who just want human needs like affection met. I'm also in a place in life where I'm low on money will studying and not looking for anything serious. Yet also don't like hookups.
I mean I'm not ready to start finding someone for this but it's interesting. My guess would be most women would be scared of being basically sex workers, being outed, or being assaulted. I guess you would have to establish trust first, which explains the difficulty.
As a guy it gives me the chance to support a girl, which I would like, and removes some of the stress of expectations because I'm paying anyway. Like if I had a gf I wouldn't mind supporting her so there's not a huge difference here anyway.
Actually meeting someone is difficult becuase it's mostly online and chock full of scammers, and you can't seriously discuss this stuff irl with people. Imagine trying to ask a girl about this, she'd think you were calling her a prostitute. Also, I don't want to get outed either.
So you just want a regular girl, but regular girls don't usually go on the hunt for a sugar daddy. Gotcha.
I wonder if, in the right setting, you could casually say "I once considered being a sugar daddy" in front of a girl/women, and see how they react. if they react badly, say you were never serious about it. If they seem into it, you have an in.
I got curious, so it might work irl too. It also has a bit of a taboo element to it, it might get some girls thinking, haha.
>So you just want a regular girl, but regular girls don't usually go on the hunt for a sugar daddy. Gotcha.
exactly, I'd rather find a girl who hadn't considered it before but would consider trying it out. It feels more authentic that way. What you mentioned is interesting, I might try it if I ever get the chance. Is that how you got curious?
Nope, I'm the "curious femanon" poster who hadn't really thought about it before this thread. I just thought it would be a good way to phrase it :)
I wonder how many girls would consider it under the right conditions. It's one thing to be curious but quite another to actually do it.
Who knows. Probably your best bet would be college/university students though.
true, but I don't want to be predatory about it.
Yeah sorry, I'm really not sure then. I don't really know what it's like to be you or how difficult this might be. Im mostly just projecting what would work if someone was talking to me irl haha.
I don't think it's necessarily unhealthy, it makes sense to me at this point in my life, but maybe you might be better off just finding a regular gf anyway.
nah thanks anyway, it's insightful to get some perspective from the other side and it might help in the future. A regular gf isn't too likely so this might be my best option.
>regular gf isn't too likely
mind if I ask why? idk why I'm hijacking this thread with all these questions, I guess i just get interested when I get a chance to understand people more.
Feel free to ignore me lol
nah not at all, talking about this stuff is cathartic. I'm shy and terrified of rejection so I never let myself open up or express anything romantic (or even in general), the only time I asked a girl out I was rejected. I dont' flirt or do anything like that, around women I keep myself asexual. I also feel quite strongly that the real me is not something that a woman would want. Some kind of sugar relationship would help overcome those feelings somewhat, because there's less pressure on me.
>giving money is sexy
gross. why are you people so fucking weird.
Well you're not the type of person I would have imagined a sugar daddy to be, so thanks for the response. I can understand that feeling of being inherently flawed. I know it's a meme but therapy could help. However yes, I can see how getting a sugar baby would really help you to overcome certain things and gain more confidence. It's a sort of controlled environment to roam in, with less risk or surprises.
So I guess you would just have to careful not to cross the line of being sort of lied to and used for your money? Is that the main worry?
You sound like a nice and thoughtful person user. I hope you can overcome your issues somehow soon :)
While I'm sure it varies I think a lot of sugar daddies must be similar to me, albeit much older than me. Yeah if you make mistakes I feel that a sugar baby is going to be more tolerant, although I'd still want her to help me develop and points mistakes out.
>So I guess you would just have to careful not to cross the line of being sort of lied to and used for your money? Is that the main worry?
It's not so much of a worry as it is professional women having far less sincerity, in my mind at least. I feel that a more normal girl is likely to be somewhat genuine, especially if I meet her casually rather than specifically seeking her out.
Thanks, I'm not sure I will be it's not impossible yet.
>Thanks, I'm not sure I will be it's not impossible yet.
*but it's not impossible yet
Huh well, maybe I should look into it myself then. I'm a bit lonely but like to think I am sincere, honest and good at making others comfortable and happy. I'm at a point where I value an almost autistic level of blunt honesty in relationship expectations lol.
I could also use a simple and enjoyable relationship to enjoy them again. I have some health issues, but maybe that's something that's less of an issue than I would imagine.
I don't think there's much harm in it, although I can't say how common a guy like me would be with absolute certainty. There's definitely a few quirks I have that might make me rarer but again I think many sugar daddies are probably lonely men. I'd love to be able to give that blunt honesty, no dancing around expectations and worry about whether or not she's going to be put off. Just put it all up front at the beginning and go from there.
Why do you think health issues would be a concern?