Online dating is fucking soul crushing. I don't think I have that high of standards on tinder/okCupid/etc, and even then I have ended up getting a grand total of 1 match who has not replied back. My standards are:
>does not have kids
>is not morbidly obese
>has a bio on their tinder
Is this so unrealistic? Do I just deserve to be alone? This just feels awful.
Tip from mate who entered the online dating circuit: Go for landwhales. No really. You’ll fuck every day.
>>has a bio on their tinder
You are on tinder. This is your problem. Go elsewhere.
I'm on multiple services. I am on Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, and trying reddit.
Not op but even with landwhales you gotta be lucky nowadays. Shit is crazy. When i first started online dating 10 years ago, every girl was hot as fuck and easy approachable, had dozen of dates and gf's that were 7+/10.
Nowadays i even check out the ones i can see are crazy in their head (like bipolar, very autistic, chromosome thieves) and even then they have a checklist they want fullfilled and be like: why are you nice? You just want the prize (her pussy). Of course, you morbid bitch? What else? A nespresso?
Fuck dude too bad. Maybe more face to face dating? Never got into the online shit. General “hobbies/similar interests/mutual friends” shit applies
The sexual revolution was a mistake
I don't know where to go for that. My hobbies are:
>gardening
>brewing
>aquariums
>writing
>map making
Dude ace, all sounds pretty feminine except brewing but chicks will dig that because it’s like cooking with science or something (no homo). Maybe some clubs or classes? Maybe gardening will get you some milfs (the best)
Cartography is a feminine hobby?
nah it was the rollback of the revolution in the 80s that made women feel like they had to be career women. oversaturated the workforce and all that.
How good are your profile pictures? Also have you tried this new thing called offline dating?
none of those seem very feminine, user. Gardening maybe, but honestly I think more right-wing homesteader/collapsitarian dudes are gardening than women, now.
>aquariums are feminine
yeah I just see tons of poon lining up at the pet store
I think my profile pictures are ok. I don't have tons of pictures of myself but they aren't bad ones.
I have no idea where I would go to meet women for offline dating.
just be yourself
>I think my profile pictures are ok.
Post them and we’ll be the judge of that.
this
The first picture is of me at my sister's wedding dating with the groom's party.
The second picture is of my cat.
You're not any of the guys in the photo, right? That shit is cringe.
The second picture is of me surrounded by hotdogs.
So m, 0 for 2 are useful or interesting
>he actually posted them
cmon man that's like the oldest rule of 4chin
I see. I am unsure what to do I don't have many pictures of myself. The majority of ones I have are pictures taken of me by others and most of those are at holidays or during events (like the wedding). I am unsure what to do to change that besides taking more pictures of myself in some capacity.
I thought I could get advice.
Bitch you own a camera, this not a difficult problem
Aren't selfies really looked down upon in dating apps?
It’s better than a picture that isn’t of you
your pictures are fine. mine were just me in the bathroom and I got more than landwhales and single moms.
What I fear is I am merely extremely unattractive.
well you aren't "extremely unattractive". that'd be like super obese guys or burn victims or people with a clear case of fetal alcohol syndrome.
you're fine. if anything, shave.
I have encountered a slew of land whales and I can tell you I haven't gotten laid with none. I've been on a few dates with 2 landwhales and I have never gotten in the sheets with them. I'm also an avid chubby chaser, and boy I can tell you it's a hard battle.
Bad picture. Can't tell who you are in it. Choose something not at a wedding.
Not yourself. Who cares if your cat is cute. Sher's here for YOU.
Bad photo due to hot dogs being considered a low class food. Maybe something like you in a park would be better?
Here's basically what I've figured out apps like Tinder and Bumble do; they purposely limit the number of women a given guy can see at one time because there are way more men using the app actively than women do. If you're a straight male, you're automatically demoted alogrithmically meaning less women will ultimately see your individual profile meanwhile there's so many guys using the app that a woman will never have the same issue. That's why even ugly girls can get a ridiculous amount of matches, it's not just because they have it easier when looking for attention from guys, they're literally made more visible on the app due to algorithmic manipulation. A lot of people talk about the algorithm boosting or demoting you based on how attractive you are percieved, how often you message people, how actively you use the app, etc. but here's the thing, it's very likely these algorithms are applied mostly to the "male seeking woman" demographic of users. There's no other way that even landwhales could do so well on the apps if the same algorithms were applied with the same weights (no pun intended) as they are to their male counterparts. They couldn't apply the same weights to the female crowd because they would just get frustrated and stop using the app, then the male user base would evaporate shortly after. They obviously won't just get rid of the algorithms entirely because that would make it too easy once a guy finds a good match or matches they would just stop using the app. It's more profitable for them to string males along and have them chase the illusion that the next match is right around the corner because males are the most ambitious of the two genders and are more likely to use the paid features to boost themselves rather than giving up. Basically it's rigged against you if you're a guy so don't feel too bad when your fat female friend gets more matches than you, it's not because you're ugly, tinder is just sexist. So don't get so demoralized OP
none of those are feminine hobbies, you honestly come off as an uncultured slob and women would drool over those hobbies if it was a super hot guy who was into them. If he wants to succeed he should get into looksmaxxing, diet, workout, dress better. He already has a good personality with really interesting hobbies but personality alone doesn't always get your foot in the door. Looks matter a lot in dating
Jesus fuck. No wonder why.
Op, your photos need to be softer. First, the colors are very dark, and you look either awkward or uncomfortable in all of them. Having a dog would be better as well, as a cat has different connotations than a dog.
Further, I’d suggest changing your hairdo, and maybe thinner glasses.
You aren’t even that bad, you just need to get some good photos with you and the “boys”, and maybe a selfie or two. You got it homie.
Not gonna get into the whole "help me set up my tinder account" shebang because that's highly subjective. But you should know that Tinder or online dating in general is flooded with people (both male and female), so it will take time before anyone sees your profile, and having tons of potential mates to choose from makes us super picky. Nothing to do with women being shit or whatever else the incels on this board would have you believe. Also, keep in mind that most people that use Tinder use it for one of the two reasons: A small minority only wants to hook up, and for a majority, it's their last resort. Be it because they're bad at conversations, not attractive, or because they don't have any other opportunities to meet people of the other sex. I've had a few dates in my time, both with girls I met online and with girls I've met in real life. Haven't had one Tinder date where the person I talked with was interesting.
Online dating crushes your self-esteem, many times with the purpose of upselling. Use it only as a last resort, if that. You'll be much happier (or at least, less miserable) if you don't use it at all, seriously.
just wow, bro go outside and take better pictures. the hotdog one is a no go