What kinds if fantasies do women typically have about their crushes?

rape. i fantasize about being raped.

not b8 :/

I've heard this before, not that uncommon. Is this like a pleasant fantasy or not?

Why is this a lie? Why is this a dudes fantasy?

What about it is disgusting?

I'm at my job right now. Using clover app on my phone. Getting paid to use Jow Forums during downtime.

Me sitting right up close to him and just being there for him feeling each other's warmth, our arms perhaps around each other.

pleasant but in a way that “hurts” me if that makes any sense

my bf is into it too but it’s kinda hard to rape someone when they like it lmao

So you're really a woman and this is your fantasy? It sounds cliche, I didn't think someone here would post something like this.

Yeah I just like soft/tender stuff focused on intimacy/closeness.
"Cliche"?
Why wouldn't someone here post this?

I imagine he's a bit of a degenerate and assumes everyone else here is too just like him.

Degenerate how? I didn't think I would see a long list of things like those, already explained that. I thought user was trolling and wasn't even a woman.

I'm already in my mid 20s while still a virgin who doesn't watch/like porn and only had 1 bf. I didn't even have sexual fantasies/etc. prior to meeting this guy... he had to basically teach me to masturbate and the only thing that drives me bonkers now is him. If he talks to me in a certain tone/voice my body feels Iike all the muscles turn liquid and i sort of melt and get horny in this weird insatiable inner ache way. If I masturbate it's pretty much exclusively to fantasies including him too.

What's wrong with those things? Just that it's a long list or the things on the list themselves are weird?

How tall is he?

6ft
I dislike it though. I had many little melt downs over him being "too tall" because I would prefer we are closer in height. He knows I dislike it too. Sometimes he says he will communicate with me only while kneeling to make it better. It isn't a deal breaker but I don't like the 6ft+ meme. 5'5-5'9 is ideal for me.

I think this isnt good because I really feel something genuine and caring for this person but I usually have zero respect for whores and I hope she doesnt treat herself like thrash and whore herself out like that but damn I really feel like her personality is interesting enough that I want to genuinely know this person

I need to stop this though but something about this person draws me closer and closer to them. Its been years since I felt this way

It might make me sound weak and pathetic but it's almost like I actually care about someone else now other than myself of my family

were you raped as a young child ? or do you just fantasize about it because its taboo?

how tall are you?

Well nothing is wrong, I just didn't think I'd see a detailed list coming from a woman in this thread. I didn't think it was a woman initially. I see a lot of troll replies every now and then and I thought this was one of them.

I only think about him one day telling me that he likes me too. Until then, no fantasy makes sense. I have masturbated to thinking of us having sex though. I’ve also thought about him having sex with girls he actually likes.

5'6"
Why are you so interested in my height and his?

like thinking about him having sex with other girls while you're pretending to be those other girls ?

i wasnt the origional user who asked his height. I was just curious as to how tall you were after reading your preferable height range starts at 5'5''.

Was desu thinking you were like 5 foot flat or something ?

Just him having sex with other girls because he prefers them to me.

that sounds deeply painful? and desu not healthy? is this just some crush ?

I for one if i imagine my girlfriend remotely doing that with someone else i would actually die.

It’s not painful. It’s not just a crush. I’ve been in love with him for many years. Our relationship is weird. We’ve been intimate... I guess you could call it that but I don’t think he even likes me or cares at all. He knows I love him and says nothing when I tell him I love him. That’s much more painful than thinking of him being sexually satisfied by someone else. It’s more realistic and that’s why it turns me on.

i was physically abused as a child and still enjoy being spanked/hit with a belt in a sexual nature but i was never actually sexually abused

Jeez, just find someone else who actually does care about you. You'll both be happier.

I have someone else who loves me. You can’t choose who you love.

It sounds like you are experiencing unrequited love , and i think for your own mental sanity if he isn't going to love you i would try your hardest to move on. Because it sounds like hes just using you as a fuck buddy. I know it will be hard but trust me it will be worth it. You love a glorified image of him that you have locked away in your mind. Thats not the real him

No. I just want him to be close to mine. I like being able to look each other in the face and I also like being able to carry/manhandle friends which is not doable when they are so much larger than me. I'm probably never gonna be able to give proper piggy back rides to this dude.

wait youre in a relationship? oh lawd the plot thickens

This is perfection

Thank you. I know this logically. Moving on is easier said than done. Yes, it’s not as interesting as you’d think.

aw im sorry about that :( literally the same thing happened to my girlfriend.. ive come to realize that those fetishes simply give you a controlled and safe environment where you have control over situations. where in the past you didn't have that control. It's sad honestly , but my girlfriend absolutely needs the most rough sex because of what happened to her in the past it but its getting better.

desu , i bet a lot all the money in my wallet , that the dude you're in love with is a manipulative asshole who has you on a leash.

Well for starters i would break up with the relationship that you're not in love with ? And i would start eliminating things that remind you of the person you are in "love" with. Find your passions, hobbies, what makes you happy . Not sexually repressed and truly sad. I believe in you

desu ive been where you were before except reverse genders in the scenario

God, I'm not made of fucking time. People think women want money, no, what they really want is your time. Lady, no dude has the fucking time to just cuddle and be cute with you all the time.

>Waking up to him getting hard inside me again, or to him thrusting in his sleep, then having sex.

So, rape?

Thank you. I do need to focus on myself. I don’t know who I am anymore. I want my life to mean something and do good things but I’m afraid. I’ve been paralyzed by the fear of change and the unknown for a while. He could only take advantage if I was willing and I was but I’m not anymore. He’s not a bad person, I think. I do really appreciate you taking the time to write that for me.

Yeah, I love time spent. I earn fine money and don't need that. I need time and attention. I've had to regulate myself with being too clingy. If given the opportunity I will just follow him around and lay near him, often.

I would be fine with it so not really rape. I think if you're going to sleep with a dick in you waking up mid sex is hardly unexpected.

It was written where I would be the one asleep, dingaling. Although I guess if he got hard and I woke up but he didn't I could grind/ride. Either way this would be in a scenario where both parties are ok with it...

What about it? Why do you like it?

This post was written by an incel, not a woman.

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He calls me a stupid bitch and takes me in headlock with one arm and starts massaging my pussy with the other, then he throws me on the bed, calls me a slut and then fucks the shit out of me from behind while putting his hand over mine. Tells me then that my hair smells good but Im still a gross bitch ...

regardless if hes a bad person or not , you're effectively rendering your emotions meaningless. You think you want to be loved by him , but first you need to figure out who you really are. And i think its fair to say he took advantage of you emotionally, even if he didn't mean to.

And anytime, user, we all want to be happy in this life. And im glad i help help someone out. I beg you to just focus on your self , set goal, get motivated, and complete those goals. All the other pieces of life will fall in to place if you just focus on your self , i promise you babygirl.

Do whats best for you

Why?
I am definitely female. I don't know why people think a dude wrote this.

holy fuck yo , i think i literally can taste the daddy issues in this post

nonetheless, p fucki

Nice try discord tranny.
You have a male mindset and it shows

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fucking hot *

What is a male mindset? What in the post is male minded? To me it seems sappy/sweet/gentle and lacking the virility of male fetish/sex.
I'm actually curious. People have said I am more masculinely minded before. There is also some correlation of autism in females and higher testosterone exposure in utero. I have overall higher test levels than is at all normal for a female and also have autism.

:3 I like being called babygirl so thx for that too

You say you don't like it but your actions speak otherwise.

Wanting a chill and cute family life with a loving woman.
Female mindset is getting choked, raped and slapped about.

do you have a mescaline clit ? kidding.

A male mindset is considered more dominant and aggressive? as in the way you wrote those posts almost seemed like the dominate party wrote them ? idk its interesting

but i dont agree with the anons who said you're a dude, because girls who fantasize about submissive situations incorporate dominate roles in those fantasies ?

ahahah anytime user, just promise me youll do what it takes to find yourself! and that you wont run back to that emotional rut. be happy user !

Fine... I promise. Is that what you did?

Uhh.. what? If you have a preference for any physical trait (tall girls, blond girls, etc) it doesn't mean you can't stay with a person who doesn't have it...
He has many other traits I really like. I don't know what "actions" you mean.

I wouldn't want to hurt someone I love and don't think they would want to either. I don't think the mindset that encourages is healthy for either party either...

It's slightly bigger but not a micropenis.

How is wanting to care for/please/make cute lunches dominant? My demeanor has been commented on as more dominant, but I often feel kind of ashamed or put off by inclinations I have here, as being "too submissive" or "too weak" or feminine or whatever.

I literally woke up one day, emotionally devastated desu wanting to end everything because i felt so lost. But my dad called me , and all he did was tell me how proud of me i was - not because of school or landing the dream job, just because he was proud to be my dad.

Literally i looked at that, and it was hard , but i attempted to change my life. I focused on setting goals , at first short term, then long term. And making friends with people who actually didnt make me feel alone being around.

I thought to my self , if i really have only one shot at life, and in the end its up to me what come from it then what the fuck am i doing. Now the girl i was head over heels with at the time , i still about some times ? i do, but now there really isn't anything emotional left. I finally met someone who literally makes me feel way better than i ever thought was possible. But i met her directly because of how motivated for change i was.

So in retrospect , that pain which resulted in such a fundamental change of my self was the best thing that has ever happened to me. And this time, i'm so much more confident in the relationship , and not overly obsessive. It's so much better now.

And it could be for you too , believe me if i can do it so can you

>But i met her directly because of how motivated for change i was.
That happened to me but it isn't going well desu.

how do I become he focus of this affection? Unfortunately 'meet in real life' is usually a requirement.

well that being said, i went through like 3 relationships before i met her. IF its not going well , then its ok! Thats the beauty of life, there is no true stop sign.

To be fair , it could not be going well because your love for the other emotional entangling person is still prevalent.

I think the first step is to cut that person out, and focus on this current relationship. Figure out if there is truly love there for you to save? If not ? move on. And regardless figure out who you are.

Idk I have autism and was homeschooled and a weirdo shut-in that grew up online on a farm. I'm used to taking care of others (animals, old people, etc) but also probably lonely as fuck from years of isolation.

I did meet him on Jow Forums though
We became friends through here and stuff sort of spiraled.

Fantasies I've had;
>introducing/taking them to something or a place you really enjoy and seeing their first-hand reactions
>being introduced to their family and really making a good impression on everyone, instantly bonding with their mom, chatting with their sister etc
>just romantic stuff like being in bed in the morning nuzzling into each other half-asleep, washing or grooming each other
>if I really really like someone sometimes a fantasy of revealing I'm pregnant (planned) creeps in
>not really a fantasy but I daydream/think a lot about someone as a child when starting to fall in love, seeing the inner boy shine through
>doing sexual stuff like preparing a strip tease or doing an oil massage on them, then elaborate oral, then slowly riding them
>the little moments like walking to the supermarket hand in hand, being goofy when brushing your teeth together in the morning

aw ok those are adorable

>Cooking good food for him to keep him healthy and meet his nutritional needs. Overall domestic "care" of him.
Lost me here
>Waking up in the middle of the night to cuddling/kissing that leads to sex.

you are who you are , its nothing to be ashamed of. Even if you have non traditional sexual desires who cares ? Sounds like you just want to be constantly romantically having sex ?

Perhaps that's due to absence of that feeling during your development ? Either way, it's not degenerate and its not vile.

I’m happy it’s working out for you. I think setting goals is the best suggestion for happiness. I struggle with setting goals because at some point I gave up trying. I tried a lot before but, for reasons I don’t want to go into, I stopped. I gave up on dreams. I definitely think this painful situation can be a positive if I learn from it and use it to motivate myself. I’ve been through a lot worse and my therapist, before she died, told me I’m so strong and resilient. It’s been so good to have your input, Jow Forums ain’t so bad after all.

regardless of whether this was posted by an incel or not, this is incredibly wholesome. i'd love to do some of these things to the person i loved.

if you dont even have the time to simply spend time with your gf then you probably shouldnt have one

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You're ok with cooking/feeding but not ok with middle of the night sex?

These are nontraditional? I just fantasize about PIV. Oral/anal and really anything kinky and I'm out. Anything rough or disrespectful and I'm out.
I am very very very romantic though yes. Even when not sexual.

Painful situations are always something to learn from , it can always fuel your motivation for anything. Look back and think about how badly you dont want to be in those situations , how badly you wish you could of changed things? Well, now's your chance ! You have the ability to change yourself , you control your destiny.

omg dont ever give up on your dreams, i emplore you to get out a sheet of paper and write those dreams down. Hang it up on your wall, and set goals , be it daily or weekly , working towards those goals.

Don't let yourself live a miserable existence, when you have the human capital to do what you have always dreamed. You got this babygirl

tell me about your dreams !

I had a list somewhere of stuff I wanted to do for him like the wild flower thing. Just stuff like inviting him over for a weekend and on arrival surprising him with a packed car and a road trip to nowhere. I also keep a box in my apt that I put random goodies/gifts for him when I find something, so I can have good gifts on hand for holidays and also stuff to randomly give him. Some of it's just stuff like feathers I find on trails or snacks I want to share some of with him.

I really really really love him jejsidjsosjogkndidncjdjsd

Fair, i think everything you wrote is absolutely awesome.

How is it nontraditional? Seems very vanilla to me.

It usually is different with every crush but mine now is a male boss and I fantasize about sex in his office. Not original I know but its a loop in my head all day.

correct
or anything below that in fact

So you just don't like sex stuff?

don't enjoy it very much
first half of things made me smile tho
especially
>Gardening together.
>Going for walks together.
>Camping together.

not who you're replying too , but same. Sex is amazing and all but falls short in importance to having a real connection. BUT once that real connection exists then its so much more than "having sex".

t. male

I want to volunteer at Safe House because I had to stay there before but I never feel ready. I’d like to work with the children there. I like kids and animals. I was in college to be a teacher but I dropped out three times ;_;

thats really cute, hope that works out for you.
fuck, this makes me wish i had someone like this in my life

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Aw see that right there is something to be passionate about, it truly has meaning to you! That alone is something that most people dont have. I would try to get back in to school! And while youre doing that volunteer with your free time at the Safe House. I feel like youd be smiling so hard in that enviroment !

Think about the feeling completing college , making the difference in those kids life's , and then one day getting a job truly doing what youre passionate about!!

See thats awesome babygirl ! sounds like you're a great person

I'm not that into it either. When we met I wasn't at all. He had to kind of coax me into stuff and guide me just for like...
masturbating.
I associate it as an expression of closeness but if you removed him I'd be borderline asexual. I kept expressing discomfort with it initially and he had to remind me it was a normal part of intimacy/closeness.

I want a little homestead with him though. A garden. Chickens. The forests and mountains of the PNW nearby. It's a good place for hiking and camping.

I would dream about holding hands, cuddling, and going on walks. Then I'd daydream about blowing them, watching them jack off, and just fucking in general.

Coming out as a couple, collaborating on projects, traveling, risky sex, seeing him succeed, midnight car rides, getting a house together, caring for a pet together, etc.

I've experienced only brief glimpses of what could be a real connection and those days were lovely. I remember them vividly.
the idea of together inputting mutual affection, feelings, and understanding in building a bond is lovely
maybe after achieving this I would naturally desire some form and level of sexual intimacy
but I just don't know
creating things together, going on adventures, appreciating nature and life itself, indulging and sharing in hobbies and passions (ideally mutual ones but it's important to be open to and embrace new things and ideas) are things I know I desire
but also simpler things like preparing a meal together, reading something together, playing a board game, even cleaning a home together
and even simpler: twirling their hair, caressing their back, and giving surprise hugs

I want to snuggle with him in bed while listening to music. Lots of kissing too..

I want to marry you so fucking hard.

just being able to touch him all over

wearing sexy lingerie/pajamas and seeing him get turned on by me

us fucking, like constantly

hanging out on his couch with his pets

cute couple stuff like him putting his arm around my shoulder

Us cooking together

him picking me up and spinning me around, or like, carrying me

us just actually being married and being madly in love after years and years

making him happy every time he sees me

sitting next to him while he plays video games and I'm reading, like us doing our separate hobbies next to each other and being comfortable having alone time together

Him playing with my hair absentmindedly

any variation of kissing/fucking/etc.

>Mescaline clit
Are you retarded?

Anal

...

Small intimacies
Sex obviously
What kids would look like
Other future idealizations

Had all of those things. It was amazing for a while.

Together 11 yrs, took her virginity in high school, married 6 weeks.
Then
She sabotaged / threw it away because she was worried she was missing out and wanted to change our monogamy into poly.

Usual story of a supervisor / coworker temptation.

Grass always looks greener . what glitters isn't gold,etc.

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Hitting him on the back of the head with a Nerf gun.