after going through a period of loneliness and depression, i managed to slowly fix my life up by going to the gym, force myself to socialise, etc. This resulted in me forming a close friendship with a girl which I got feelings for. i lost my virginity with her and the whole relationship was very wholesome. however, it wasn't official and we were just friends. but all of a sudden, she hasnt been texting me and told me she is on vacation, and on instagram i saw its with some giga chad guy: huge, tall, handsome and owns a company. I feel completely crippled and the last few days have been living hell, i feel worthless as a man and i cant get the thought of this guy railing my girl out of my head. I need some rational advice because my emotions have been absolutely killing me.
Girl left me for a giga alpha male
Get use to it and know your place.
She'll come back after she's had some kids with cahd and needs a source of income
Keep improving yourself. You were in a fwb scenario by the sound of it so it sucks to develop feels and get dropped. Despite that you got to smash, lose that v-card, now Chad gets the leftovers. This development was a product of your own self-improvement. Good or bad times now or ahead you're growing and moving. Don't let this bump break your stride or spirit entirely but know it's alright to be bummed for a bit. If I knew you irl I'd have a beer and chat with you user.
Bit much for losing a sorta-friend to another guy. This is pretty standard in the dating world, better get used to it. Remember; no matter how hard you work on yourself there will always be someone better than you. Just gotta deal and hope you find someone who likes you for you. We all work with what we got.
This. Sorry OP, but she wasn't "your girl" if you never made it official.
Relationships get better with experience, and this experience will inform your next ones. Also congrats on improving your health and social life OP, that will continue to serve you well. For now take care of yourself until you build up your confidence again.
I feel that everyday and im KHV
Oh man, she did a pretty shitty thing to you. People do that sometimes. Don't let the shitty things that people do bother you too much; they're being shitty, not you
Well, if it was never official, then she was never "your girl", but I understand how you feel. Don't despair over it, though, because then you'll just stagnate and end up pitying yourself. You mentioned having already managed to fix up your life bit by bit with exercise and socializing, so just focus on continuing with those. Don't forget there's the entire rest of the world besides that one girl. Just cry your tears out and get it out of your system (preferably in private), dust yourself off, and move on.
First one is always the worst. Move on, even gigachad had probably experienced something similar at one point.
great response, thank you. you are right in everything you said
thank you
i was really angry at her at first but i realised it was just a coping mechanism. surely she did the natural thing, why wouldn't she be with the better guy? it definitely crippled me and i've been stuck in a loop thinking about all my negative traits as a man
That's her choice and it shouldn't define you as a man. You could be a walking God and still get ignored or sidelined by some. This isn't to say you should become complacent or high on yourself. Self-reflection and improvement are great things, great tools, but know that due to no fault of your own you won't be able to please some people in life. By what I can tell you're doing good user so keep it up and remember bitches ain't shit.
this is an insane and stupid comment.
You mean most correct
It's just an idiot trying to bait.
He's completely right though
You'll realize that he is right once you get past 30 and look at the couples around you.
t. my best female friend had feelings for one of my male friends, they've dated for a while and then she left him for a Chad Thundercock. Meanwhile my friend got into IT and started making insane amounts of money in VR development. Then they got engaged once she hit the wall and Chad left her.
Things that did not happen outside your incel fantasies: the post.
Don't get sentimental dude
This reproduction stuff is all-out war. Take is as a learning experience and keep working on yourself.
Take it as you will.
To be honest I find it kinda nice. They seem happy together. If he can live with her being with him only because of money and not looking as good as before then why not? It would be much different if she had kids with that Chad but she doesn't.
Whatever floats their boat.
You sound like an angry bitter incel who only sees what he wants to see. Thinking that it's only about the money or looks.
You are projecting very hard sweetie.
You're a NEET and have never kissed a girl, correct?
Stop projecting who you are onto other people
Nah. I work in a family business, making decent money. Yes I'm single right now but not ready for a new relationship. The last one ended in April and it's all still very fresh.
Why does some hard truth trigger you this much? Woman care about socioeconomical stuff once they get older. Nothing weird about that.
It might be sad but that's just the way it is.
Why are you so angry?
you just got a taste of improving yourself can bring you. No sense to get down on yourself. there's always going to be someone higher in the pecking order, but if you keep on striving you'll find out there's more than enough for you.