>Chubby lonely virgin femanon
>Met a guy on Jow Forums then on Tumblr from drawing requests
>He's nice and likes me
>"Aw that's sweet. Always wish to have a bf."
>He's kinda perverted but very consenting
>"I'm cool with it."
>Sends me nudes and selfies
>"Oh, he's average-looking and kinda chubby... Reminds me of a classmate I had in high school..."
>He's totally ok with chubby girls
>Afraid of sending nudes and selfies
>Helps and encourages me
>Done it anyways because I feel like it's unfair
>Still likes me and continues being kind and supportive
>Feeling regretful and conflicted
>Continue chatting and messaging each other
Call me shallow, hypocrite or having high standards. I like his personality and kindness but not his looks. Maybe if he were more fit I might find him attractive? What should I do or tell him? Should I come clean? I don't want to be an asshole and hurt his feelings. Never had a guy who likes me and will probably never find a handsome bf near me or anytime soon.
I don't know what to do
Sorry femanon, but you're chubby too. I'm sure he would prefer if you were fit as well.
If you really don't want to fuck him stop talking to him.
Why not give him a chance? You might end up falling into love with him eventually. You could give it a shot for a few months and if it doesn't work out after all that time, then you can leave him then. You'll get good experience and you won't be lonely for a while. Besides, if you're a chubbster, you're not going to be pulling the interest of fit men anyways.
People will fall for this blatant bait
i don't see the problem
this is bullshit.
here's the pity reply you were fishing for.
>femanon
Literally all your problems can be solved my walking up to any guy and saying
>hi, it maybe a strange thing to say but would you like to hang out, I'm kinda shy so it's not so easy for me.
You try this a few times to get the right guy and push all your problems on him
Tinder works for fat and ugly chicks, I know one who gets laid easy with half decent looking guys, and she really is not good looking.
(you)
Sorry if you guys think this is bait. First time on on Jow Forums.
>>Sorry femanon, but you're chubby too. I'm sure he would prefer if you were fit as well.
I know, I too wish and would lose some weight and start getting fit but depression and anxiety keeps me from being motivated.
>If you really don't want to fuck him stop talking to him.
I just couldn't turn down a nice person that I met last year but do you think I should stay as a friend or wait until he changes? If he does, I'll vow myself to lose weight as well. Hell, I'll try doing it at the moment if that were the case.
>Why not give him a chance? You might end up falling into love with him eventually.
I'm trying to but couldn't. I like his personality and kindness but couldn't get around with his appearance.
>Literally all your problems can be solved my walking up to any guy
If only I have the courage to do that without making it awkward.
>Tinder works for fat and ugly chicks
Never tried Tinder but that's interesting.
>I know one who gets laid easy with half decent looking guys, and she really is not good looking.
Damn what a lucky girl.
>I'll vow myself to lose weight as well. Hell, I'll try doing it at the moment if that were the case.
You should do it right now either way, I mean it's completely fine if you don't wish to but it's a healthy approach if you don't want to date chubby guys, it gives the idea that your standards are higher from the get go and you won't have to feel this way to begin with, it'll also help your self esteem, it's your call though.
If you want to keep him as a friend do explain that to him, that in some form or another that your feelings weren't what you thought, don't tell him it's because he's chubby, he'll either lash out or get devasted, if you let him down easy he might just be ok with it.
That said I myself love chubbier women, so I guess it can be a double edged sword for some people.
you could date me instead
If you ugly, your bfs kinda ugly too unless youre super mega interesting and stunning. Or rich. Thats the rules.
Yeah, you are kinda shallow, op. If you don't take care of yourself and just let yourself go, then you have very slim pickings. Sure, decent looking guys will secretly fuck you from time to time, but will feel the same way that you do about your current one. If you don't like his looks, move on. If you have have high standards(like 99% of females), you need to get in shape start trying to meet the standards of dude's you're looking for. Being shallow doesn't make you evil, but if you're fat and unattractive then it makes no damn sense. Workout, learn how to get kinky, dress well, and do your hair and make up and they'll come by the barrel.
Not for bitches, bitches can still get used as a cumrag if the hot guy wants someone easy and OP realizes this like many fatties such as her do, and doesn't care about love simply because women aren't capable of it.
You're fat.
He's fat.
Just invite him to lose weight together.
Grow together as person.
If I start drawing will I have a chance of getting a gf from here?
not likely from here, not op but i did meet a gf on a general, though you'd have much better luck on discord
This reminded me of myself, kind of. Me and my gf are insecure about our bodies, me more as i used to be obese and i couldn’t look myself into the mirror. But i wanted to feel better, to be able to look at myself, so i compromised to lose weight by dieting and excersizing, my gf is doing that too. We love each other’s body, but we are trying to get the figure we want together, you should do that with him too.
As far as I know discord is only useful when you have a channel to join, and isn't useful on its own
Like telling someone to get a gf on skype
>You should do it right now either ways, I mean it's completely fine if you don't wish to but it's a healthy approach if you don't want to date chubby guys
I have attempted on doing it but sadly gave up along the way. I want to try again but I might fail anyways. Eating healthy food hardly fulfills my hunger and exercising can be painful and exhausting. Maybe I'm doing this all wrong.
>it gives the idea that your standards are higher from the get go and you won't have to feel this way to begin with, it'll also help your self esteem, it's your call though.
True, especially what you said about helping your self esteem. Being insecure and constantly checking yourself at a mirror can be tiring.
>If you want to keep him as a friend do explain that to him, that in some form or another that your feelings weren't what you thought, don't tell him it's because he's chubby, he'll either lash out or get devasted, if you let him down easy he might just be ok with it.
I remembered he kinda pestered me wishing for my nudes or asking why I wouldn't show them which I was hesitant and anxious about. He would always give me a choice if I wanted to show them or not and tells me to have confidence. It was kinda annoying so maybe this could be a good reason.
I guess having a talent for drawing doesn't count then?
>Yeah, you are kinda shallow, op. If you don't take care of yourself and just let yourself go, then you have very slim pickings.
>If you have have high standards(like 99% of females), you need to get in shape start trying to meet the standards of dude's you're looking for.
You're right even though it'll be hard along the way.
>Being shallow doesn't make you evil, but if you're fat and unattractive then it makes no damn sense.
Yeah, it seems unfair. I'm just hardwired to like fit handsome guys like most girls do
>Workout, learn how to get kinky, dress well, and do your hair and make up and they'll come by the barrel.
Thank you for the suggestions.
Don't know. I drew requests on Jow Forums and uploaded them to Tumblr then said dude happened to find the same drawing he requested and start chatting with me.
I really like this idea though I don't know how to tell or get him to do this together.
I'm pretty average in bodytype, maybe we could work out together? Or was there something about this guys personality, where you wouldn't want to contact from here?
Tldr:
>Hypocritical fat and basic bitch female mad that she cant have chad and is left with equally low value male
>"Attempted to improve" but stopped due to muh depression excuse card
>Thinks that if he can get in shape she can which is untrue cus muh depression and potato chips taste good
Go get yourself a cat you sorry excuse of a person
why are women like this? guy put himself out there for you, just be with him ffs
I'm in a similar situation where I'm talking to a nice person™ who doesn't look amazing and is also really beta. I don't look amazing either. I still held hands with him and it was nice.
>nice person™ who doesn't look amazing and is also really beta
jesus the poor sap. If that's your opinion then leave him alone goddam.
>How to destroy a man in few simple steps and other tips for vile cunts: The Book
>losing to depression
Lmao if you can't handle your life go get professional help
If you like his face and think he'd look good fit, why not get together and exercise together? Win-win imo
well you lowered your standards but understand that he also may have lowered them for you too. If you arent feeling it then dont force it.
If you are attracted to the person inside the package, you come to find the package attractive
dunno about your boyfriend shenanigans, but look up leaky gut.
fixing that might go a long way in helping you in general
The guy is pretty nice and all. We both have some similiar interests and we both draw stuff as well.
Not even mad. Just pretty conflicted. Oh and I already have a cat. Two actually.
That's what I'm trying to do. Guys how do you do it?
That's nice to hear. I hope things turn out or stay well for the both of you.
I was thinking about doing that but at the same time I feel like this can be done by yourself.
Yeah I really like this idea and I want to do it.
>dont force it
You're right, I should've told myself that a long time ago.
Sounds painful. I'll look into it.
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Wait wait wait one fucking second
This isnt who I think this is is it???
Does this bitch think I'm actually ugly
What the fuck
This better not be about me.