people in college: I miss high school, we had so few worries back then
people in late 20s: I miss college, we had so much freedom and so few responsibilities back then
people in their 30s: I miss my 20s, they were the most beautiful days of my life
people in their 40s: I miss my 30s, I was still young and could do anything
how to stop wishing for the past and start making the future even better than the past?
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You obviously are very young, barely an adult or even underaged. I can tell you pretty much nobody misses high school or college or their 20s or 30s.
I don't know user, I don't know. Some people will say to start a family so you can live vicariously through your kids, but I don't see it.
At 35 life is infinitely better than it was in my 20s.
This. Who tf would miss high school
You're completely wrong. I am 32 years old and I desperately miss high school and college. There's nothing quite like realizing I'll never have more than a few days off at a time until I'm in my 60s, and too old to do anything but sit around my house and watch life go by.
I'm still in that mild range where if I get lucky, I can bang some hot early 20s girl, but the reality is, there will never be spring break with my bros, a summer break with a part time job that I barely have to think at and make friends at, my future is set in the career I've been in for nearly a decade unless I want to go back and make pennies.
Now life is 8-5 70% of the week, come home too mentally exhausted to do anything, drink copiously on the weekend to forget, do chores, repeat. Life is suffering.
You fucked your life up, then. If you're 32, as I am, you should be smart enough not to generalize entire age groups. Unfortunately you seem to be stupid, as well as poorly motivated.
My 30s have been the best time of my life so far because I've stopped giving a shit about other people and started moving forward with my life. I suggest you re-evaluate yourself and get into a field you enjoy. It's not the world's fault you've fucked yourself up.
you don't miss high school because you were a bullied shut-in, a lot of people actually enjoyed that time and just had fun with barely any responsibility and shitloads of free time
You are an exception then. People in their 30s can enjoy life way more than they did in their 20s. Unless you are a total fuckup that is. It sounds like you made bad life choices and are having a shitty life. Instead of whining about it do something about it and get a better career.
If you're sitting there reminiscing about your high school years, you peaked there and that's a shame. :^) Such is the fate of the mediocre.
I'm not stupid, and I have a challenging job that pays very well. Unfortunately it's stressful as all fuck, isn't something I'm naturally talented at compared to other things, and the irony of being pretty good at it is that I get promoted and only get more stress. It's not just as easy as changing fields when you have a mortgage and shit to pay.
I don't know how "not giving a shit about other people" is supposed to be some positive example of why your 30s are great. I'm not a lonely shut-in, so losing my friends to their wives and kids is inherently depressing, when I have to struggle to find people who aren't all about that family life and want to have some fun.
I'm guessing you didn't get laid or have fun in high school/college, so now instead of being someone with nothing to do, you're someone with nothing to do but more money.
Yes, I would so much rather spend my entire summer free of responsibilities playing vidya than have responsibilities and a job and be forced to spend my free time socializing and traveling and enjoying life and banging hot girls.
I'm in my 30s and my life is better than ever. There is so much more I can do now that I couldn't earlier, and there is nothing that I could do before but not anymore.
How can you "enjoy life more?" No matter what I do, I have to keep a job, and a job is always going to keep me from having the freedom I yearn for. Two days a week is nothing. I wake up exhausted pretty much all but one day of the week. Life is so wonderful being tired and on someone else's schedule 24/7!
>I would so much rather spend my entire summer free of responsibilities playing vidya
unironically this
So you have a shitty job. Get a less shitty one.
>there is nothing that I could do before but not anymore.
yeah, except spending an entire summer free of responsibilities playing vidya...
I bet you're not American. Because here, you get two weeks of vacation (three if you've been a good boy and haven't left for 5 years), so there's barely any time to go on a real vacation. And you have to plan it out months to a year in advance. Wahoo! Such adult freedom!
>the only way you can enjoy life is through your job
Is this what wagecucks actually believe?
It doesn't magically work that way. What kind of job do you have that gives you all the time off you want? Please tell me what makes your life so wonderfully happy. I'd love to know.
I could take my vacation days all at once and do nothing but play vidya at home. But I very much prefer instead to go on awesome travel trips. Something I could not do as a youngster.
I'm in my 30s. I miss childhood sometimes but mostly im fine.
I do not miss my 20s at all, and I do not miss highschool at all. Both were fucking awful
32 fag here. Sounds to me like you've just designed a shit existance for yourself and refuse to do anything to change it.
Have fun complaining.
You're retarded and people rarely think this. Studies show people get happier as they age, peaking around age 50. I'm in my 30s and the only thing I miss about my 20s or teens was better physical health and effortless fitness.
>Stressful af job
Welp.. there's your problem.
>I guess you didn't get laid in highschool
I'm not the guy you're replying to, but I did fine in highschool, and partied and travelled a lot in my 20s, did a lot of great shit.
But at 32 even though my life is repetitive like yours, I'm fine. I love to chill at home. Odd concert or party is fun, my wife's pretty dope, my job is low stress (I used to have a high stress job I was talented and skilled at. Wasn't worth it.) And even though it's boring sometimes I don't live on the edge of a panic attack anymore.
You have 6 trillion options. Change your life. Change jobs. Look into certificates or other education programs to change jobs. Heck even see if your skills are transferrable and interesting to other fields or companies.
It's all up to you. And fuck, man, you kind of don't have a choice. Your life is going to be this terrible forever if you dont do anything about it. Is that even acceptable?? You goddamn right it isn't. Stop whining and change stuff.
I'm actually in better physical health in my 30s because I started doing fitness and eating healthy, something I didn't do in my 20s.
Congrats you worthless piece of trash
Nice, now do other new things that are actually useful and can lead you to a fruitful life you actually enjoy. If you just toil doing the same shit you hate day in day out without putting any effort towards actually changing your situation, you have no right to complain.
The fact you responded to that post and you had nothing to say but you've been working on your "physical health" tells us more than you ever could.
Why are there so many 32 year olds in this thread?
I think oldfags spend a lot more time on Jow Forums. Just a hunch based on nothing.
>a brainlet being condescending to a normie
Kek
See, this is the thing. Use all of your vacation days at once? For ONE vacation? I love traveling, but knowing I have the chance to either go on one, or take some short domestic trip for a friend's wedding or something else is always bullshit. When January 1 rolls around every year, I immediately plan out all of my PTO for the year, and then I'm fucked. That lack of freedom is awful.
Again, tell me what existence is better. The full time work week isn't going anywhere. My freedom is gone until I can retire, and even then, I'll probably die before I get there.
>Your life is going to be this terrible forever.
Yes, you're telling me nothing that's a surprise. "Change what you like" is not an answer. You love to chill at home, I see nothing but the bleakness of a repetitive existence ahead of me for the rest of time. Changing careers isn't going to change the amount I need to work unless I got be some kind of oil rigger or teacher, and take a huge paycut.
People for some reason are insistent that their 30s are omg the best thing ever, and seem to be mad that I disagree. No one yet has been able to bring up what's so fun about being in your 30s.
What's with all this massive butthurt? Or did you confuse me for someone else? That was my first post in the thread.
You fail to understand that you set yourself up for a shitty life, while most other people in their 30s were smart enough to get their shit together and enjoy life. You chose a shitty job and shitty career, so don't project that on people who actually have a nice job and career.
If by some weird circumstance i had to go revisit my school/study days i would kill myself. I’ve never met any adult wanting to go back.
I haven't missed high school at any point in my life since graduating
Yeah because if you enjoy work you enjoy getting money. If you enjoy getting money than you get houses, pets and mabey an expensive family.
This. The only college days I would go back to are community college for my AA. Happiest days of my life. Then went to uni and had my soul sucked out of me.
I have a good job with good pay. I don't understand the "shitty life" narrative. I have money, a home, a car, my health. Etc. That doesn't mean I didn't prefer the awesome freedom and carelessness of youth to this bullshit.
>money for pets you won't see, a house you'll barely be able to enjoy, a family you exist just to pay for
Fun! So fulfilling.
I'm pretty sure your primary issue is that you simply don't want to work.
That's pretty much right? I'd rather be putting half assed effort to get straight As in college and high school with the equivalent of four months off a year to party, hook up with teenage girls, and sleep until whenever I want. How is this confusing?
Whoa. Another 32fag here. What can I do to make my thirties good? I know a couple of young 20-somethings, they have really messy lives but at least they are always socialising and going out to places. Life just seems to be about gym, work and 'chilling' (read being lonely or bored) at home for me. I'm wasting my last years of youth (and I dont want a wife and kids). How can I make my 30s awesome? Also im not rich but have some disposable income.
Don't worry bro, none of the, want to answer how to actually do that. It's just "love it, it's awesome!"
Saw this video last month, maybe you can use it for yourself:
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I'm in college recently out of high school. Does life really get better after college (not suicidal or anything, just stressed and kinda bored)?
we just said it does you stupid fucking piece of shit. KYS before you ever get old enough to be happy, faggot
>Does life really get better after college?
If you enjoy what you do, and find a decent hobby or friends that you can indulge in between work, then absolutely. Whether it's hanging with friends at restaurants/cafés, just sitting talking with people, some evening activity, or whatever, just build up and accumulate enjoyable things to look forward to on a regular basis, and you'll find yourself happier overall.
>people in their 30s: I miss my 20s, they were the most beautiful days of my life
yeah, that's not a think.
Turned 33 the other day, and I look back on anything pre-26 as being a literal child. I enjoy a much richer life now than I did as a kid.
Fucking this.
High school was fucking shit.
College was better because it was more mature but it was hard as hell if you wanted to do well.
Being an adult is better, I have my own money and can do what ever I want.
My only regret about high school is not fucking young girls.
Life gets 10x worse after college, don't listen to these people. They obviously either had helicopter parents that wouldn't let them do anything, or lived in the middle of nowhere/spent their college high school days locked in their rooms playing video games. I can see why people don't yearn for high school, but college? Oh man, the most freedom you'll have in your life.
What can you do now that you couldn't in college? Where do you find the time?
Dude, we get that you're miserable, but do you really need to go around projecting your misery and shitty life onto everyone else? If you hate working so much, either find an online job or some shit, or just quit.
>What can you do now that you couldn't in college? Where do you find the time
Travel, go on dates, fuck girls and live on my own.
Having money is king user.
>Where do you find the time?
After work, weekends and holidays.
I finish work before 5 most days.
Also it helps not being a miserable no energy fuck.
I mean, you're the one coming into the thread about people feeling this way insisting that they don't, so maybe you're in the wrong spot? Want to offer advice? Then do it, but don't just say lalalalala everyone is happy.
Outside of work, you start losing your friends around this age. They have kids, wives, girlfriends... the gang doesn't get together anymore. It's a perpetual struggle to find buddies who want to go chill and don't have to ask their girl for permission.
You couldn't date, travel, or live on your own in college? I dated a fuckton more in college than I do as an "adult," and it was fun and casual. I traveled plenty, because I had the time to do it. I wasn't stuck to one week a year or a 3-day weekend trip where 50% of it is travel.
I have money. Money gives me the ability to watch my bank account stack up, with no time to use it, unless I want to spend it on useless shit. Get off work at 5-ish, go work out, get home to make dinner, and there's an hour and a half before bed each weeknight. No time to unwind or enjoy much before it's right back to bed.
Also, as the guy complaining about work, I do want to say that my life isn't entirely miserable, it's just the comparison to college that I don't get. I can't for the life of me understand how people are enjoying being babysat under someone else's schedule, compared to maybe 3 days of classes and some papers/homework.
I still have an active social life, I have money, I have my health, etc., but it's nowhere near as fun. Jow Forums is the only place I hear this, and I assume it's because it's chock full of people who are satisfied with sitting at home and not doing much.
32... Also feeling the stress from work on a daily basis. But I love it too, best position I've ever been in with a really good company. 3 weeks vacation from right after being hired. Could pay more but I am frugal and get by just fine.
The hard part of me is the time. I too hit the gym, then it's basically eat shower and bed if I want to function at my highest level the next day.
Friday I just want to chill, saturday I enjoy being lazy. Sunday I feel great and accomplish all my random chores etc. Bed early because soon it's Monday morning.
If I didn't really enjoy my job this lifestyle would really suck. Don't get me wrong, it's still stressful but I prefer it to any other period of my life when I was bored at work and not doing something that is very high paced and stimulation mentality.
The heck with this thread?
Enjoy the fullest on what you have right now in the present day.
Given how anything could happen, you could be dead in the blink of an eye caused by something completely unexpected for you.
Therefore you should give the energy you use thinking about the past on enjoying your life today.
Thus making the future better.
am I the only one who feels infinitely better now that I'm out of the out of touch brainwashing facility called school? I finally spend my time doing things I'm actually interested in.
the only way to stop thinking of how things were better back then and make a better future is by focusing on the now rather than the later. Keep the later in mind of course, but focusing on what you are now and the present will help make a brighter better tomorrow. It's hard though so dont think it's an easy thing to accomplish.
>But I love it too,
No you don't. You just like being able to support yourself with the money they pay.