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Hi my dudes, I need help here. I feel like it is really different and uneven in bed with my gf. Let me tell you:

>I get many bjs, I never do oral for her. I don't like it and it makes me anxious. I don't finger her too much either.
>We do have sex a lot and we try many positions which is good.
>I don't let her masturbate alone. I do it on my own sometimes when I am alone and she doesn't know. Am I being unfair to her?

Is this okay? How can I improve my sex life with her? She is an absolute 10/10 with a great body, I do want to satisfy her but a part of me believes she should be just okay with sex, I don't feel like fingering her too much, it's tiring.

What can I do?

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>i want an outcome but i don't want to do anything towards that outcome
just be prepared when she leaves you for tyrone

If you aren't going down on her or at least fingering her properly, you aren't giving her orgasms. She will either dump you or cheat on you for orgasms while you remain her emotional support fuck buddy. Stop being selfish. Focus on her clitoris with your tongue and learn how to hit her G spot with your fingers. Give her an orgasm and quit bitching FFS.

Ask your gf, not us. The key part of relationships is a bit of honesty and COMMUNICATION.

TALK TO HER RETARD!
>hey, are you actually satisfied with our sex? Arent I selfish shit lover?
Another relationship problem solved by /adv.

i always thought women like it when you give oral to them, but i'm conflicted since i was told
>they like the feeling but it is not a "manly" thing to do
any ideas?

however long youve dated for is however long she hasnt had an orgasm, poor girl

OP here.

If she does, that says a lot about her though. I've done a lot for her to get cheated on now.

Licking her makes me want to throw up. It's not her fault, I just don't like it.

My gf does like it, I know that for a fact. I just can't do it.

Well, she has had orgasms and good ones.

I've tried talking about it with her. The problem is, whenever she asks me to finger her or whatever it's really the worst moment for it. Sometimes I've said no at first, I change my mind and then she doesn't want it anymore. We argued about it once because it turns her off so quickly when "I always find an excuse for it and she never knows when to ask".

Youre a dickhead. Let her at least masturbate if you can't pleasure her.

>Well, she has had orgasms and good ones
No. Shes just polite and good at acting

She may be polite but I can feel her insides twitching hard when she cums. Can't fake that.

user, yes she can. It's not hard for a woman to manipulate her pelvic floor and walls. Look up kegel shit.

If you're not willing to go down on her or even finger her/literally any form of viable foreplay towards a woman's orgasm, you're not being a fair lover. You're being selfish, and it's going to bite you in the ass later.

Not OP, but should you finger /go down until she gets off and then fuck. Or just get her going good but not orgasm yet?

I usually go in this order
>Making out
>Feeling each other up
>Go down on her till she cums or pulls me up to kiss more
>If she pulls me up then I take that as the move to penetration
You should always try to make the goal of making her cum at least once orally. I'm really not good with fingering, but for some reason girls think the head I give is phenomenal. I really have no idea what I'm doing there either. I think it's the effort of giving head without being asked that impresses/turns them on more than anything. You'd be surprised how many guys are dogshit at it or just don't care/think to put her orgasm first.

>Cheated on
It's not cheating if she leaves you first

Why don't you let her masturbate alone?

You're lazy and don't feel like putting any effort into making her happy. Sex is about communication also. Do you even know if she wants to be fingered or fellated? Do you think a blow job is NOT tiring?
If you care about the person, you're willing to put forth effort into finding out what the other person wants and needs and doing some, not necessarily all, of it. There are boundaries but honestly it just sounds like a typical, selfish man attitude toward sex.

>Licking a pussy makes me want to hurl.
Hate to say it, but you're gay, son.

>What can I do?

Just please her? clearly she needs more and these kinds of things kill relationships.

I honestly don't get it, you have a good thing and you don't take the steps to 1) maintain it and 2) make it better. WHO are you to say what you give it enough when it comes to physical intimacy when what's needed to do is one of the most simple task a man can do to satisfy a women, do you love her? honestly.

not op, but im bisex who's heavily into gay stuff yet i love licking pussy, one of the best feelings in the world

Ok try wearing one of those condoms that take away the feeling. Then when having sex use that to judge her reaction while having sex. That way you can stop focusing on you feeling good and your girl can have a good time too.

Just as a mental exercise try this the next time you're in bed. "Tonight I am not going to have an orgasm. Tonight is 100% about giving her pleasure. "

See how good it feels to be the giver and not just the taker, and you'll want more of that happiness

>Is this okay?
No, makes you seem lazy and inexperienced
>How can I improve my sex life with her?
Eat her out and finger her retard, make her have a REAL orgasm
>I don’t feel like fingering her too much, it’s tiring.
Blowjobs are tiring and get boring after a while but you do it because you like the person the dick is attached to

>my efforts in the relationship are both quantifiable and can be qualified
Look, if the relationship is "I did good so she owes me" then just fuck right off a bridge at terminal velocity wouldya. That's bullshit and you know it and you know why.

Fingerblast your damn woman before someone else does it for you AND eats her out. Don't assume everyone good at sex is as an asshole; your worst nightmare is a dude who's nicer AND better in the sack.

But by all means give him an opening. It doesn't sound like you value your girlfriend as much as you like the status.