I'm 18 and I'm planning to ask a girl out for the first time ever

I'm 18 and I'm planning to ask a girl out for the first time ever.

Basically she's from a different class and in the past 7 months I've tried getting closer to her and by texting her asking about school stuff, sometimes she'd text back asking too without me starting the conversation. There's less than 10% chance she's into me because of various reasons but I wanna try and get closure at least.

So when we're near the end of the school year I want to ask her something as usual and then add "you've helped me a lot this year I owe you coffee just say when you're free" or something like that.

What do you anons think?

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Posted this yesterday but didn't get many replies but the ones I got were supportive, also posted on reddit earlier and I got just 1 guy who kept telling me how manipulative it is and how I'm an awful human being.

We don't talk much in real life so asking her out irl isn't a possibility. Our real life interactions consist of a greet each day with a "hello/sup/hi/hey" and a smile.

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The answer is 'whenever you feel like it'. And immediately after so.

And always do it directly! With a yes/no response, and accept whatever she says. This is where guys mess up a lot.

They either do it indirectly (creepy) way like "hey i'm going to blah this weekend you can come if you want". This is bad because your intentions are not clear. Are you just friends? Is this a date? Will others be there? Do you normally do this?
Remember: ambiguity = creepy. Be direct and shameless.

The other half is the yes/no response. Some guys reaaaaaly want the girl to say yes. They want it so badly, that they'll pout like a little boy if she says no. She will feel this pressure. If you pressure her like this, then it's not a question anymore, it's a command. It's just super immature. So you just need to prepare yourself for both the yes and the no, and handle each with compassion.

So how do you do it? And when?
The MOMENT you feel it in your heart. Even if you never spoke to her, or if you known her for years, don't hide it and don't feel shame.

A girl you just met:
"Hi my name is user, what's your name?"
"Anonette"
"Anonette would you like to go out with me?"

This is very good because it's direct, she knows exactly what you're asking and why you're doing it. There's no ambiguity. Also you gave her the full choice (and no pressure) to say no. Or to say yes. You really laid the choice on her. Girls like feeling this. Even if she says no, you'll have made her day because she'll feel validated because a guy asked her out.

A girl you've know for a while:
You can say something relevant or personalized, fine. But when it comes the moment, it's very quick:
"Would you like to go out with me?"
"What, like out on a date?"
"Like out on a date."
"I... didn't expect this..."
"So is that a no?"
"Of course I want to go out with you!"

In this case, if she instead doesn't give you a yes/no, you have the right to remind her "Indecision is a decision, too."

But you have to realize that people are different. Not everyone is the same and not everyone can has that kind of personality and the ability to be that direct. I don't, I'm socially retarded and if I did the thing in the OP that would be the most pushy thing I've every did in my life towards a girl.

Don't force it like that, asking someone it needs to come out casually. Just ask if she wants to hang out after class and go someplace you think you would both enjoy. When you're young this seems like a big deal but as you grow older and gain more responsibilities such a thing is how you become casual acquaintances with people. Which is where you need to start off, so far you don't seem to know much about her and she doesn't know much about you either.

Just hang out for a bit, see if there is any chemistry, then meet trying to hang out with her with just the two of you. If there is chemistry, then eventually the two of you naturally become closer , hugs, hand holding, kissing , sex, all that comes pretty easily.

Then do it in your own spergy way. Christ you people make this shit so difficult for yourselves.

That's precisely what this thread is about, I've literally written my way and am looking for opinions.
We don't have any classes together and I rarely see her, maybe once a week or twice at most.

>I've literally written my way and am looking for opinions
You already had a thread full of opinions. At this point you’re just attentionwhoring

>Ambiguity is creepy
... Which is why it's best to get to know whoever it is you want to date casually so that they know what you're about. Jesus, the level of autism in the pasta is so specific it hurts.

user, you're the sperg for posting such an autistic copy pasta. You don't need to formally ask a girl on a date, you can literally just ask them to hang out.

>Hey, wanna grab a bite to eat after classes? I'm buying!
Or etc casual requests has gotten me more 1 on 1 time than formerly asking someone out on a romantic outing. It's just a bit intense , it's also why people fail on their first dates so often. They just expect too much from formality.

I had 2/3 people not full of opinions.

>user, you're the sperg for posting such an autistic copy pasta
No offense lad but you’re either blind or a huge newfag if you didnt notice that the user you’re replying to is different from the copypasta tripfag

Looks like you got a lot of good responses and attention. Not sure why you felt like you had to make a second thread that was exactly like the first

>We don't have any classes together and I rarely see her, maybe once a week or twice at most.
Kek, okay. In that case you are going to need to be a bit direct. Do you ever talk during lunch, or in hallway, or anything or just through texting?

Well, if are talking to her casually irl then it should be easy. If you look good, and act confidently, then women are attracted to that naturally. If you really are just an autist with few social skills then you need to work on that before you consider serious dating first. Types like you tend to grow unhealthy relationships, dependency to be specific. Otherwise you need to strike the concept of romance from your mind a bit and just try to get to know a woman.

Don't think of asking her out as asking her on a formal date, think about it as asking a friend to spend some fun time with you. If you're not the social type then this will be difficult because you're actually going to need to go outside and be sociable. So, on a scale from 1 to 10, 10 being Chrischan levels of autism, how bad are you?

4 unique posters other than me.
>Looks like you got a lot of good responses and attention. Not sure why you felt like you had to make a second thread that was exactly like the first
Because I want to be sure about this and want many people to see it, just pretend I bumped the old one I guess?
There are much worse threads on this board right now, I'm genuinely looking for advice and you aren't helping.

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You know that tripfags can turn off their trip and will commonly post on multiple different threads with or without their trip, right? Sometimes you just forget, hell I do that all the time

Have you never used it once?

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You don’t get it. What more did you need answered? What wasn’t solved in the first thread? You already got advice, don’t become those nutters that keep making the same threads because they need anons to hold their hand through every single situation

No, just texting, we do not see each other that often and there's no lunch cafeteria in my country.

I'm aiming for just that, I won't even mention it being a date I guess she'll catch on pretty quick if she's interested and make sure it's a date.

>So, on a scale from 1 to 10, 10 being Chrischan levels of autism, how bad are you?
Don't know user, like 5, moderate. On the outside I may seem like a 2/3 but it's a turmoil inside.

I mean probably, there's 4 of us unique posters ITT, Me, you, tripfag, and the user you're arguing with. It is quite obvious that one of them is a tripfag that removed the trip, don't know who he thinks he's trying to trick here.

Just pretend I bumped it, don't know what's your problem dude just go to a different thread

>No, just texting, we do not see each other that often and there's no lunch cafeteria in my country
What country? Dating / courtship is a pretty cultural thing sometimes.

>I'm aiming for just that, I won't even mention it being a date I guess she'll catch on pretty quick if she's interested and make sure it's a date.
Kek, if you're already thinking that way then you're fine. It's a stage all young people go through as they learn about courting to be confused about what is the "proper" way to do it.

Eastern Europe.

I mean I might as well start as that, obviously I want it to be a date and if she's interested she'll help make it a date. If she likes me she'll see this as me asking her out and would be happy.

Well then, all there is to do is to go for it. It helps if you ask in front of her friends in case she might be nervous about it as well.

Eastern Europe is generally more religious than my country, so I'm not sure if there are extra formalities involved in courting there. If you can't meet her irl, then try to meet her somewhere to talk about "schoolwork". If she does like you then she will already be thinking about meeting you more often. After that's done you can ask her out.

If you ask in front of her friends you're kinda putting her on a pedestal and she's pressured into saying yes more, that's hard for both parties.