I'm 18 and I'm planning to ask a girl out for the first time ever.
Basically she's from a different class and in the past 7 months I've tried getting closer to her and by texting her asking about school stuff, sometimes she'd text back asking too without me starting the conversation. There's less than 10% chance she's into me because of various reasons but I wanna try and get closure at least.
So when we're near the end of the school year I want to ask her something as usual and then add "you've helped me a lot this year I owe you coffee just say when you're free" or something like that.
Posted this yesterday but didn't get many replies but the ones I got were supportive, also posted on reddit earlier and I got just 1 guy who kept telling me how manipulative it is and how I'm an awful human being.
We don't talk much in real life so asking her out irl isn't a possibility. Our real life interactions consist of a greet each day with a "hello/sup/hi/hey" and a smile.
Leo Collins
>hello/sup/hi/hey I hate to say it user but I think she is just being nice
Jace Walker
You have nothing to loose if you go for it, i mean, even if she say no, its not like you are proposing to her, its not gonna end your relation with her...
Go for it champ
David Davis
Yeah I know I'm almost 100% sure she's not interested but I just want to try. I mean it's not like I do anything different I also greet her and that's it. Precisely, even if I get rejected and she says "sorry I'm not interested in a relationship with you blah blah blah" I can still save myself by pretending like I didn't mean it that way.
Tyler Anderson
I wish you only the best of luck pal
Daniel Brown
What is the anime user
Jack Nelson
If you're going to do it i really suggest doing it irl, don't wanna risk being made fun of thorough screenshots ot text convos
Easton Hill
Thank you, look out for a green text about rejection in a couple of weeks. Tatami Galaxy, psychological anime about wasting time and chances and living your life.
Jace Richardson
Do it user, just don't be an autist when you get rejected.
Kevin Morris
wowee, let us know if if you make it back alive user
>asking a girl out by texting is this what younger people tend to do now? i know it's out of topic but I'm just curious, because when I was younger people would make fun of you if you do this.
Juan Fisher
Didn't think much about that, I mean I wouldn't sperg out either way. I won't. I mean I don't see anything bad about it, I don't get much chance when we're alone irl and asking her out with her friends nearby isn't a good thing
Isaac Edwards
Give her a call if you have no good opportunity to talk to her personally. Doing it via text is top tier spineless faggotry. Women respect confidence above almost all else (I've been told), so don't go for the pussy option.
Asher Mitchell
Friendzone incoming. I hope you enjoy it.
Landon Foster
At least it's something, I've never asked anyone out. It's weird to call someone like that and we've never talked over phone like that. I think it's just more casual-like if I do it over text when we text normally .
Ryan Lopez
>I think it's just more casual-like if I do it over text when we text normally If you think so. But I can tell you I've only ever asked out one girl and got rejected, yet my biggest regret about it is that I did it via text rather than personally
Chase Phillips
But she's either interested or not, if she is she'll say yes if not then no, how does the method change that? If it's in person it might be a little more pressuring to her so she may say yes even if it's a no but that's bad and not good.
Justin Murphy
Good luck, mate! Success comes (or should come) with experience. Don't worry if she refuses. The important thing is to try, to not question yourself what it might have been. >also posted on reddit earlier and I got just 1 guy who kept telling me how manipulative it is and how I'm an awful human being. Reddit is literally the worst place on the Internet, they are all a bunch of bitter cunts. I could only imagine the level of šõý coming from that fucker.
David Lopez
Well shit, I already posted here and on r9k at the same time but the r9k one got moved here so now I've 2 here.
Sorry.. my bad.
If a janny could delete the other one that'd be cool.
Yeah I'm going to do exactly that, I'd rather have a no than questions.
He did seem pretty white knight-y telling me I should even bother because she deserves someone much better and more manly and not someone who's going to play psychological tricks on her
I'm 19 and just asked a girl out for the first time ever and she said yeah sure.
Turns out mate, nothing ventured nothing gained. Go for it, nobody's ever died of embarrassment lol.
Justin Bell
As far as i kno.... She is just being nice to you... Some girls really appreciate having a friend... A good one at times...
Robert Rodriguez
I hate that line. So much. It’s the coward way if asking someone out. And it’s become a common thing now too. It’s so indirect, yet based on assumption that we’re past asking. If you’re gonna do this for closure, fucking ask her.
Owen Powell
You are correct but then again no one is just running naked through the streets, you can't die from embarrassment it brings but no one would do it. I'm almost sure she doesn't like me but I still want to try just so I can say I asked someone out because right now I never had a girlfriend but also haven't asked anyone out. It's the only one I can do it as of right now.
Blake Kelly
You’re setting yourself up for failure. Just be straight with asking her out. When she says no, at least it wasn’t because you half-assed it.
Nolan Butler
>at least it wasn’t because you half-assed it. Nah it's not like that, if she's interested she's going to say yes even if she thinks I wasn't inviting her for a date, she'll look at it as a chance to spend time with me. if she says no it's no
Dylan Miller
I feel sorry for this girl.
Easton Rogers
As long as she doesn't already have a set of qualities that would make her really great, she is not entitled to someone who's manly or better than you. The whole manliness thing is a joke to me, as it encourages to be a talkative moron who looks like Hulk, at least, that's many see it. It's a lot more than this, you're manly enough if you simply ask her out, as you might outgrow one of your fears.