I broke up with my gf 3 days ago because we've been in a long distance relationship for some months now and we haven't spoken since. I got curious, made a fake Tinder account, set it to her location and age range and found her profile. I sent her a Super Like but hasn't replied since (it's about 4 AM in her time zone).
I know I should probably move on and give it up, but it was a 1.5 year relationship and in less than 3 days she's moved on despite her acting like she never wanted to break up, and it really fucks me up. What bothers me is the wonder if she had been trying to hook up with others since before we broke up. She let me know she was using Tinder before we met and she didn't have it installed while we were together (I'm sure of that), but I don't think Tinder would pop up an account that has been inactive for over a year.
I don't know if I should log into her account using her Facebook and see what messages she could have (all her passwords are the same as her laptop's login). Should I do it just to find out if I should call her out and call her a thot or should I just suck it up?
Would've done it already but we're in different countries. I'm afraid that she would receive a notification like "somebody tried to access your access your account from x please write the code from your phone" or some shit. I would need to get some VPN.
Landon Miller
Maybe she still has her account but doesn't use it anymore, I met my boyfriend on tinder and I still have my account, but I don't use it anymore, and NO I don't plan to cheat on him cause he's the fucking love of my life I just have the account cause I'm not going to download tinder again just to erase my account and then uninstall it. So it's there untouched and it will remain like this
Matthew Carter
That's a bit too much of an overexplanation but I understand you'd get shit otherwise.
I get what you mean, but Tinder is the biggest dating app and runs with an algorithm as efficient as it could possible be. I don't think it would've shown my ex's profile as the first 20 results if it wasn't at least somewhat active.
Anthony Bell
Yeah I know it was an overexplanation but I know Jow Forums and If I only said "I date and still have my tinder profile" tons of guys would call me a whore... People here judge too much without knowing nothing. But yes you're probably right I don't think tinder would show your ex girlfriend's profile if it wasn't active
Connor Cruz
What should I do then, anonnette?
Levi Williams
Do nothing dude, I know this is the worst answer but some people move on faster than others and and if you enter her profile to search for shit well... You may find something that will make you even more sad, my advice is cry a lot, allow yourself to be sad, it's ok the cry for someone we "lost" you will be sad for a couple weeks but one day you will wakeup and be like "I don't feel like crying anymore" and then move on with your life, find a new girlfriend I know you can do it you're one of the nicest guy I found here on Jow Forums so I'm sure you'll find a nice new girlfriend too
Levi Torres
>my advice is cry a lot lol I literally do not know how to cry. How do women even do it on command?
>you're one of the nicest guy I found here on Jow Forums aww
Well, should I tell her I got curious and looked her up on Tinder? Should I ask her to honestly tell me if she's been up to something when we were together even if it was for curiosity for some other men's attention? Should I tell her "I didn't know you'd move on so fast"?
We're supposed to be friends now. We didn't have a tough break up. We agreed that the long distance thing wasn't for us (her) and that we should still stay in touch because we really are our best friends.
I feel like if I don't find closure to this, it will be ticking inside my head forever.
I'd move on. Right now you're trying to do stuff to get her back. You'd probably eat rocks or run a five k to get her if that was on the table. Anything really. You are not going to make reasonable decisions.
I know her actions are kick in the gut. You see them as disrespectful. Or insulting. But in her mind, she's been thinking about breaking up for weeks. What you see as days could be 2 months for her. You might even remember a day weeks ago that she acted different or her kisses felt different. That's when she started on this path.
It sucks but its life.
Easton Martinez
>I feel like if I don't find closure to this, it will be ticking inside my head forever.
I would just put it out of the mind. I tell you this as an older man, you will never get the closure you want and it be fulfilling. Whatever you find out will be the dumbest shit.
Example: I had a girl break up with me because she dug through 5 years of my posts on a popular game forum and found sound shit I said that was pro abortion as a teenager.
She never confronted me about this. She just talked at me one day about abortion and 2 weeks later I got the talk. It wouldn't be until years later that I would peice together these weird events to know what she had done.
How fucking stupid is that? And it's the same for all guys. Whatever reason she gives you isnt going to be worth shit.
I'd just try to sleep a lot. Play a game or something. Find friends you can vent to. Just give it time. It does get better. I never think about that girl except to encourage other anons. It does get better.
Joshua Hughes
It was me who broke up with her though.
You're probably right. I'll just have to have a friendship with her ignoring this shit.
Jordan Baker
>I would need to get some VPN. Facebook will still pop up a notification unless her account's been logged in to your phone for a long long time and you've never logged it out
Camden Sullivan
It would take you all of ten minutes to delete your account Just admit you don't want to delete it
Aaron Bailey
Oh fuck you and suck a dick. I won't admit anything there's nothing to admit, you just think you can judge me cause I'm a girl.
Adrian Ramirez
Fuck off roastie. No amount of mental gymnastics will change the fact that you know you're going to use it again when your relationship eventually goes to shit.
A tinder account takes 5 minutes to setup, even without the app. You obviously think its likely the relationship will end at any time.
Christian Sanchez
You could try to get a feel for how much shes moved on by talking, or you can try to break her as a person too. Or you can ignore it
Oliver Smith
No. Its because you are an idiot.
Justin Miller
# Yes! YES! YEEEEEESSS OP!!!! Dig. Dig farther down; find out as much as you can about her tinder. And after telling that slut how much of a piece of shit she is, and then telling her to bite the end of a shotgun for thinking she can use you and just throw you away, channel your rage into getting stronger by exploring more productive hobbies. The sciences in particular. You'll find that humanity still has a long way to go. I'll be awaiting your decent, user.
