>me, femanon, married >Stopped using birth control because husband is paranoid of bad side effects (he heard it can cause blood clots, etc) >Using condoms for a while now >Husband can't cum with condoms >Wants to cum with anal sex now because no condoms
So I've tried to initiate all kinds of different sexual encounters with him. Role-play, Dom, sub, spontaneous, oral, hand, etc. But in the end he still says he can only cum with anal. I like anal a lot, but it does take a lot of time to prepare. But now..At this point I don't want to have anal anymore because it's making me bitter by feeling really bad and inadequate.
He tells me guys have a one track mind when it comes to sex, and he's set his sights on anal. Is this true? Is there really no other way to satisfy my husband?
Just have him pull out and finish him off with your mouth.
Thomas Rivera
>now..At this point I don't want to have anal anymore because it's making me bitter by feeling really bad and inadequate. So you don't like the degredation aspect of anal? Then speak up and tell him he needs to do ass worship if he's dead set on your bootyhole being the answer to his gratification.
Joshua Turner
While I'd love that, he doesn't "think he can cum that way". It's a bit of an all or nothing mindset.
Xavier Ross
I like that idea a lot, I'll bring it up to him.
Ryan Watson
Does he eat the booty like a cupcake ?
Brayden Allen
well what the hell that's no fun ? just one position the entire time? thats hot as fuck if he finished in your mouth after fucking your ass
Austin Stewart
No but that'd be nice. I really do like anal. Oh I think I misunderstood. He'd finish in my butt. Because it's the only way he can and wants to.
Brody Miller
frick , i am also a proponent of the butt stuff. And thankfully my girlfriend loves it too. But ya see , he has to learn how to compromise in the bedroom. Literally it sounds like you have tried so much for him , and yet hes lazer focused on that one thing?
Ass worship , as this user said, will probably be a good transition ? like he could start doing then and then finish off fucking your ass?
Benjamin Rodriguez
Awesome. Like it's ok to not like degredation. I personally find it gross myself.
Christian Sanchez
why exactly is anal so degrading? What if it was passionate and lets say the girl got off on it? just curious
Easton Martinez
Have you considered getting a copper IUD? Using thinner condoms?
Jaxson Smith
It's when people do it in a degrading manner.
Adam Cooper
Make him eat your ass, then do a shit and say "whoops, I can only poo through analingus, you're going to have to get used to it". I guarantee he'll rethink "I can only ejac in your butt, nowhere else on your body does it for me"
Cameron Hughes
That's fair, i could see just putting all sexual importance into one act could be degrading in of it self. Almost selfish i could see , as it is just the dude getting off.
Xavier Thompson
Try the fertility awareness method, such as tracking your temperature each morning or your change in discharge to determine when exactly you'll ovulate.
Once you get the hang of it, like after 3 or 4 cycles of tracking, it's like 99% effective in preventing pregnancy. So other than like 5 days before and on the day of ovulation, you can have sex with no barrier or birth control whatsoever
I think it's shitty that he doesn't want to pull out because that will stop him from orgasming but doesn't care about your feelings on the fact he's ramming it in your ass everytime now
Luis Sullivan
Yes, I've tried all kinds of different compromises, which is why the bitter feeling is growing. It doesn't feel fair. 90% of the time I'm initiating sex. I don't mind if only one of us orgasms, but I do mind the "I can only orgasm" mindset because I think it's an excuse. I want to explore everything together and feel many different things, not only pleasure. Just that closeness and intimacy of two people with curiosity about each other. And him saying, "I can only cum x way," takes that away. Especially if he doesn't even try. Maybe I'm being selfish when I complain that it's not fair. I was just wondering if it's legit that guys have a one track mind. If that's really so, I don't think I'll compromise and give out, especially when I've given so much other. I suppose I'll just have to have a serious discussion about it before making any solid choices.
I never really had an opinion of anal before, and I hadn't been given one by society either. So when we tried it together it took some time but it was an enjoyable exploration of our bodies together. I can cum every time I have anal sex with my husband and it feels very good. Yes but again the side effects of it are unnerving. The copper just causes constant inflammation and the hormonal ones are the same risks as the pills and shot. I don't take any medication, never really needed it. He's very protective and doesn't want any complications because he knows people can die from them and he couldn't bare to lose me. (His words.) Which I'm okay with. I know the risks are slim but the chance is still there.
Idk we've tried a lot of condoms and I've told him to look into thinner condoms but he hasn't. Personally condoms take the warmth I like from his penis but that's better than being pregnant.
Literally the single track mind is something he personally has, that is not a universal trait of all guys i can promise you that. HE is however, fetishizing anal sex, which is probably making it more difficult for him to get off else where. But it is an excuse , i really think its just a complete excuse for you both to do exactly what he wants. You should figure out what exaclty you want , like kink wise, and tell him that you really want to do it. Hopefully with that level of sincerity he will actually compromise.
Tyler Morales
I know that's effective but I've never had a consistent cycle. And I don't want to risk it, there's a lot of room for error. We've talked about spermicide but the thought of injecting goo inside me just for pull out sex annoys me. I told him it still requires a condom because sperm stays alive inside there for up to 7 days and precum counts. That was a bit of an argument because he was put out by my insisting a condom.
Like I said, I don't mind anal, but only anal makes me feel like I have nothing more to offer. I have a whole slew of holes and methods I'd love to give him and enjoy him with, but he doesn't want them.
Aiden Jones
It's more like going from "This ass is one of the seven wonders of the world, let me make my princess into a Goddess" to "open that dirty shitbox for me, you hairy fuckslut"
Carter Nguyen
Absolutely have him go testing some ultra thin condoms. I felt nothing with those standard condoms but I bought some special ones online and now I can come without any issues. The wikipedia article said modern IUD's don't cause pelvic inflammation. I think testing one out would be your best option.
Noah Anderson
>open that dirty shitbox for me, you hairy fuckslut wait are you not supposed to talk to your gf like this?
Thank you for your thoughts. I had a feeling it was something he carried but I didn't want to make assumptions. I've been thinking about my own fetishes. (I'm sorrowfully vanilla when it comes to that stuff.) But I'm willing to try all kinds of things. I'll bring it up to him next time I can.
Hunter Morales
anytime! Well maybe we can figure out your true fetishes , anything that you can think of that turns you on just by thinking about it ?
Ryan Collins
Hm I'm very obsessed with his penis and balls. When he comes home from work all I can think about is taking off his pants as he stands by the door and stuffing my face in his crotch. I love the way he smells. I love his cum, too. I want it all over me and in me. I want to suck it out of his penis. For fetishy stuff I think I'd like to be tied up Japanese bondage style, but not tightly, just for the aesthetics. I'd do pretty much anything he wanted. Let him Dom me, or me Dom him. I like it rough and feral but I also like it soft and sweet. I wouldn't mind something like nurturing sex. He sucks on my breasts and I hold and kiss his head as I squeeze him with my vagina until he cums. Idk I've thought of a lot of random stuff. I'd really just like him to use all of me for his pleasure, that would satisfy me the most. But all he wants is this small part and the fact that it can only be this small part makes me sad.
Bentley Flores
Yeah i could imagine, it sounds like you really love a lot of things but his fixation on one thing is making your advances feel wasted.
Well tell him about the nurturing sex ! maybe he could finger your ass at the same time , so he still has that component in play. I would talk to him!
I would literally kill to have a girl like you hahahahah jesus christ
Tyler Johnson
get the coil and PiV. /thread
Brody Evans
Master the pull out wtf. Been doing that shit forever.
Asher Richardson
I find his argument dubious. He could probably cum in the vag again if he didn't get laid for longer, didn't Jack off or watch porn, and you edged him a bit. He could be retrained imo.
Adrian Bennett
"Pelvic Inflammation" as in pelvic inflammatory thing is a different thing. The copper IUD does work by causing inflammation of the uterus. Not the pelvis. Not pelvic inflammatory disease. Different things. The agitation that results in inflammation prevents implantation of an egg into the uterine lining, in addition to the copper killing sperm before it can reach the egg.
There is really no good option for birth control at this time short of irreversible castration. Hormonal birth control fucks with women and is not good for them. IUDs mean you uterus will be in a state of mild inflammation, nonstop, for possibly 10 years. Condoms are cumbersome, interrupt things, and don't feel as good. Spermicide is risky and impractical. All the outdated diaphragms and sponges and cervical caps are risky and also disgusting ("wait, honey, let me just cram this object inside myself right quick so you can feel it while we fuck"). Pulling out is risky and also disables any ability for cumming inside.
There is no good solution. The most "practical" and effective have health tradeoffs for the woman, that the others do not.
OK, first you need to read about birth control instead of taking whatever bullshit your husband says as facts. He sounds fucking stupid to be honest. Please look into mirena. It has been a godsend to my wife and I. My wife got it after our second child and we fuck daily. No more kids and no more problems. She doesn't even really have a period anymore. like, some spotting every few months. It's the best thing that has ever happened to us.
Carson Phillips
I'm a married man and I can't fucking use condoms.
Not into anal so no advice there.
Just get an IUD. My wife has the copper thing and she has had no side effects and I can cum all day.
If you are truly done having kids tell him to get a vasectomy. Once my wife hits 40 i'm getting one.
I think you need to find a way to have condom free sex. Any other type of sex is terrible.
Cameron Ortiz
Pre cum still releases sperm, it's not 100% effective.
I've tried, he hasn't orgasmed in a while as far as I know. But he doesn't want to get into anything sexual with himself or with me if he won't be in my ass. It's just me messing with him trying my best to make him cum when he's told me he can't . It's dissencouraging. I don't think he watches porn.
Sigh you said it.
Excuse me. I knew the facts and was on birth control despite the side effects. When he found out about them it's him who freaked out worrying. This is all his wanting, that's why it's so frustrating. He wants me to be off of birth control, but now can only cum with anal. It's not fair. I feel like I'm throwing a tantrum at this point. The IUD freaks me out mostly because there's a chance it can also rip out of my uterus. Slim, but that freaks me out more than blood clots.
>pre cum still releases sperm Only if he hasn't urinated since his last ejaculation. You have to be mindful of that but pre cum in and of itself does not contain sperm
James Parker
>Pre cum still releases sperm, it's not 100% effective. Only if you go right back into it after having cum once without peeing. Read into the biology of this shit. Precum is released by the cowper's gland, which is too small to produce sperm cells.
Luke Hill
Some other anons brought up a study that found that some men actually have small amounts of sperm in their precum regardless of when they ejaculated last.
Isaac Robinson
I'd like to see that study, because anatomically that conclusion does not make any sense.
Christopher Morales
>He tells me guys have a one track mind when it comes to sex, and he's set his sights on anal. Is this true? no this is total bullshit, why would you marry a retard like this, why would you believe it
Jonathan Watson
The only way that is possible is if they masturbated earlier, which guys do to try and last longer. Otherwise, I don't see how the cowper's gland can produce sperm.
Logan Thompson
>can't have satisfying sex
ruh roh. i can hear divorce-kun knocking.
Aiden Campbell
Tell your husband that his anal obsession stems from acute faggotitis denialisis.
When a married man is a closet homosexual in denial, he'll make up bullshit to get the wife to let him cum inside her anus.
The act of ejaculating into the shitter is in itself a way of letting you know that you're the man he wants you to be.
It's not your fault. Your husband is a gay. My condolences.
Julian Bailey
thing is he doesnt want to get you pregnant also the asshole is tighter than your vagina. The problem is his condoms arent giving him any feeling to help climax.
Leo Mitchell
The ass is for pushing things out, not putting things in.
Aaron Brown
Shut the fuck up and spread your asshole, you dirty whore.
Luke King
>married >still using some form of contraception what was the point of getting married then?
Gabriel Hill
Based.
Wyatt Price
>Is there really no other way to satisfy my husband? No there isn't. As you describe men prefer anal to a vagina. The only thing that distinguishes a gay man from what society calls a straight man is a gay man likes dick in his butt.
Kevin Reyes
Is there any legitimate scientific article I could study on this? Not just google buzzfeed trash.
Before I got off birth control we were having vaginal sex too. It wasn't just one obsession.
What's the point of anything?
I know, in this case it's the condoms making him feel less and he doesn't research thinner ones and I'm not gonna do it for him, unless I cave which is infrequent but not unusual.
what the fuck is with guys and their obsession with pushing feces into and all over their dick. like, holy fuck that is disgusting. I don't want feces anywhere on me, especially my dick. Y'all are fucked in the head.
