I broke up with my ex 8 months ago now and still havent been involved romantically with a girl for longer than a week. I broke up with my ex because during the relationship i started to develop immensely as a person and pretty much realized she wasn't good enough for me. She was still cool but not enough.
Now every girl i meet I feel like my brain instantly jumps to reasons why they arent good enough. I'll catch a tiny bit of feeling then tell myself they arent the one. I feel like a helpless romantic, there are several cool girls I could date right now and be in love with but i know theres something more that id be missing.
I'm just a weird fucking mix of a person, I feel like a shiny pokemon some times. I can fit into the elites of any group with ease. I have powerful chad friends, I have talented artist and musician friends, goth friends, normal friends, and im just kind of a mix of everyone. I feel like I've still never met someone like myself though, and im starting to think they might not exist.
Be careful you're not looking for some broken person to fix/an ego booster. Those relationships are the most passionate, captivating, magical, and also the most dreary, emotionally-draining, and taxing on your soul.
But hey you will do whatever feels good so go on, get your heart broken.
Jonathan Gray
And for some other info, my ex was the first and only girl I've ever been in a serious relationship with. We dated for four months and I had the realization that she wasnt good enough overnight and broke up with her the next day, completely out of no where.
I also believe that I'm going to be famous to some degree in the next year or so.
Angel Myers
I think this is usually common in girls. Just a heads up, the older you get the more baggage the people you meet usually have. If you get along well with someone don't worry too much about being good enough. Being single for 8 months is okay btw.
Joseph Gray
Famous people are not better just because they are famous dude
you are full of yourself little shit, lifes gona slap you bitch
Dylan Hall
My ex was extremely broken. I had no clue getting into it but then a few months in she just started dropping bombs on me. The girl I saw for a week was also very very broken. I think that was part of the reason I wanted to avoid her, because I’m not too messed up myself. But I feel like I have a lot of love to give and would like to give it to someone more deserving than others. Idk it’s a double edged sword
Colton James
Thank you for the advice, I think getting along is the main thing I should be looking for
Isaac Garcia
It’s good to be full of yourself user, or at least I think so. You can still be full of yourself and not be an asshole
Isaiah Fisher
I definitely see how I gave off the impression of being full of myself, but everything I typed is true.
Camden Butler
it took me 26 years of life to stumble upon the perfect one for me. it took 52years for my friend to get the same. getting ideals takes time.
Tyler Campbell
Kudos to your friend for waiting out 52 years, I’d probably an hero if I had to wait past 30
Jordan Long
So you've never had any trouble in your life and think you'll be rich and famous soon so anyone who isn't perfect doesn't deserve your love?
Something isn't clicking here. I think you are actually insecure, lack empathy, and and have a case of narcissism. You don't need to be with a wreck of a person but everyone has something in their closet, I find it odd you think you don't, and I also find it odd you keep chasing after these people just to jump ship soon after.
This pattern of behavior is very suspicious.
Liam Lewis
No sorry I’m just terrible with my words. The only thing that wasn’t perfect was that my mom was extremely bi polar and quite alcoholic growing up. There’s something off with the way my dad functions but I still can’t quite figure it out. My brothers ex of four years told him that he was the worst human being she’s ever met in her life. I think he’s pretty dope though lol.
And the mom thing yeah like i guess that sounds bad on paper but I never realized it growing up so it never really effected me. I didn’t even realize that that was an issue until maybe 3 months ago.
And the girl I saw for a week actually told me she wasn’t ready for a relationship. Then after a few days of waiting I told her that I didn’t wanna date again if she changed her mind. I don’t really know why I kept that part out intially
The first date she came over and we stayed up the entire night talking. On the first date. I think I like her still but once again, there’s someone I like better out there.
Jason Garcia
I also think I’m overly empathetic if anything. One of my biggest issues in life is i show too much fake love and every now and then it just ends up hurting me and the person involved.
Elijah Lopez
You sound like you have some sort of main character syndrome. You need to get over yourself and realize you aren’t very special and neither is anyone else. Your subjective experiences and believes aren’t any more meaningful than anyone else’s. Get out of your fucking bubble.
Colton Robinson
Okay this is really different..like this is what I expected from reading the title and then your posts threw me off.
I think you just didn't feel anything for them. There's no chemistry, not compatible, not the one for you. I get that feeling a lot, meeting someone you think is right for you is a different experience.
In which case don't force a relationship. Be single for a while if you must, the first relationship you have to focus on is the one with yourself.
Aaron Morgan
That’s kinda pessimistic yo, why not think that everyone is special?
Joseph Butler
You’re right, there was no chemistry at all. I just need to wait. Thank you for digesting all my word vomit here and talking through with me. This last month has just been weird for me. Having you talk with me about these kind of things is appreciated more than you know.
This is also my first time coming on Jow Forums too so I guess it’s pretty expected around here though lol
Evan Diaz
well, she's had enough of the sub-perfecft lovers to keep her company in the meantime
Anthony White
Yeah, can related pretty well. Don't think there is a real solution. Hence, no point stressing about it.
They tend to be better because they achieved some of their bigger goals. Obviously there is a lot chance involved but as long they didn't do it with help of rich parents, they do tend to be superior overall.
But user, everyone is special.
Dominic Green
Drop the snowflake syndrome. Stop believing you need someone like you to be happy.
>But user, everyone is special. If everyone is special than being special is normal. So there's nothing special about being unique.
Ayden Wilson
I used to be like you then I made friends with idiots a smart enemy is better than a dumb friend and if you're going to be picky about women you better be good looking, tall, and rich
Josiah Ramirez
Being special is inherently special. Being special isn't some unified attribute like a colour. Or even simpler, take numbers, where every person would have an unique one.
Connor Perry
Below average intelligence psychopath alert
Ian Morales
Glad I could help, hope you actually get famous. Think of me when your get some of that 10/10 booty.
Brayden Hernandez
He's literally a brainlet tier drooling retard with zero self awareness
