What is it actually like having a gf?

I’m giving you advice you fucking idiot. You asked for it.

I love having my girlfriend in my life. She's become my best friend and she's got an amazing thicc ass that I get to smack and play drums on whenever I want to. She makes me food and brings me beer when I ask and has a fun quirky sense of humor that keeps me laughing. She likes video games, movies and the same shows I like. I got fucking lucky with this one. She can be a grouchy-poop when she's had a bad day, but those are kinda rare. I've only ever seen her fully angry once and that was due to circumstances beyond her control.

I'd highly recommend you all get one. 10/10, would smash.

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It's like having a really close friend you do intimate stuff with. They can be expensive though

What do you think happens between all that stuff, you fucking moron? You don't spend all day and night together, you both still have lives to live.

I'm with the other user, it's not the greatest thing ever, it's not perfect. I'm going to tell you now because no one told me, but getting a gf won't fix your life

As others have said, outside of the sexual and romantic things it's just like having a buddy. You talk about your day, banter and have inside jokes, mention interesting stuff you read about, or just do your own thing together. Like when you go on a weeks long vacation with a friend, if you're on another long drive there's nothing weird or awkward about an hour of content silence.

You are just living life together, you are not constantly focused on each other let alone in the stereotypical boyfriend-girlfriend way. There definitely are couples that don't share much beyond romantic and sexual attraction but that's a very poor foundation for a long term, sturdy relationship. The best couples are those that know how to make it just a liiittle better when the other is having a shit day, how to make their life a little easier (and do it, again and again), how to make them crack a smile even at a tense moment. That's the stuff you can rely on down the line, not wanting to tear each other's clothes off the moment they walk through the door.

>She comes to my office to meet me just to ride home with me
>She cooks food for me, cleans the house and does all the laundry
>Gives massage every now and then
>Irons my shirts
>”Pappa, can i have this?”

Yeah, she is a thai lady.

>deep meaningful talks
Doesn't ever happen. Women are incapable of deep conversation.

>What happens in between all the cuddling, passionate and loving sex, and deep meaningful talks?
boring talks, having to go out when you're comfy home alone, jealousy, envy, etc

You basically live life at an accelerated pace. Two incomes means everything you can split effectively costs half as much. Two sets of hands means you can split work and enjoy more free time. Two minds means you have double the ideas for fun things to do. Want to try an activity which requires a partner? Already done. And when shit goes wrong you always have someone at hand to support you, so it gets resolved sooner.

She cooks for me and cleans, fucks me everyday, we also cuddle and hike together and talk about history. If you move in with your gf its like having a friend always around and you dont care if you fart / piss in front of each other.

You two are introverts who have no problem getting GFs.

I am an extrovert who can't get even a first date no matter how hard he tries.

Do you understand the problem here? You have what you neither need nor want. I want what you have, I actually need it, but cannot get it.

My friend actually thinks I’m an extrovert. I can be introverted but we can all be that way. I just know the truth behind what everyone sees on the surface. Not trying to be an edgelord either. I’m just not a fucking idiot who believes in lovey dovey bullshit. It doesn’t exist.

Okay but how is that gonna help me bro? All I know is I'm a full grown adult man who can't get a date. Everyone else tells me it should be easy. My friends tell me "dude anyone can get laid these days" but I've never had a girl interested in me in my entire life. You don't know what it's like to live like this...

Kek, came here to post this.
Even the so-called smart girls have very basic thoughts, never anything that would surprise me. Most of the talking with gfs is just mundane shit mixed with sweet talk.

Not the user to whom you're responding but I'm going to give you the same advice I give everyone who has trouble finding dates: you need someone to mentor you in-person. There is virtually no chance that you will make any positive change on your own or through advice from the internet. Your friends are worthless if all they do is tell you anyone can get laid but don't tell you what you're specifically missing. Pick one of them who is the most trustworthy and close to you and ask him for some direct help. Encourage him to be frank. I promise you that there's shit you need to fix that is fixable if only someone bothered to help. But every second you spend here trying to make that happen is a waste.

There’s a saying or some shit like if you keep wanting something you won’t get it. It’s like trying to not think about a pink elephant. You’ll definitely think about a pink elephant after that. Maybe see a therapist. Maybe you don’t know what you want.

>Your friends are worthless if all they do is tell you anyone can get laid but don't tell you what you're specifically missing. Pick one of them who is the most trustworthy and close to you and ask him for some direct help.
I genuinely did ask some friends and no one knows what's wrong. They also didn't even know I was a virgin and definitely didn't know that I had never even been on a date or kissed.

I just want to not be a kissless dateless virgin god damn.

>no one knows what's wrong
Then they're either awful "friends" or they're lying to spare your feelings. Either one is disappointing. I don't know what social resources you have but you need someone to be attentive and honest with you just one fucking time.

Well I don't know what to say.

My friends tell me they think I'm better looking than they are, that they think I'm funny and cool. My friends who are girls say I'm good looking and cool and should be able to get a GF. I don't think they're bad friends, they have no reason to lie to me and they genuinely seem sincere when they tell me these things. Some of my friends didn't even believe me when I told them I was a KDHV, they insisted that I MUST be lying.

And yet no girl has ever shown a sign of interest in me. I feel like giving up on life.

Telling you your strengths is kind but dishonest when you're seeking critical feedback. Imagine asking a professor why you got a C- on a project and all she does is tell you what was great about your work. You're asking what isn't great so you can improve it, and "I don't know" is pretty unbelievable as an answer!

Enough with the flattery. For all we know it's literally that you don't even know when girls do have interest in you and you're missing opportunities. But that's just a random guess because *I don't know you.* Yet the people who do know you aren't giving it to you straight.

>I just want to not be a kissless dateless virgin god damn.
there's your problem

No woman wants to pity-fuck some desperate kid just so they can say they're not a virgin. The talk will be boring and probably weird, he'll have no idea how to kiss and probably do something gross, and he probably won't respect boundaries when it comes to sex since he's so desperate.

The other thing is that you probably think you're going to stop being a loser when you lose your virginity. You won't. You'll still have all of the traits you had before, except someone pity-fucked and now you get to say you're not a virgin.

Start grooming yourself better and learning to socialize. Hell, you can start with the easy stuff like going to bed at a normal hour and keeping laundry folded and put away, then start cutting out junk food and shit.

>speaking as a 23 yo virgin femanon that's never had a second date btw

>And yet no girl has ever shown a sign of interest in me
how often do you ask girls out on dates?

Did you not read even one of my posts?

Jesus fucking christ user. I groom myself. I have friends, I go outside. Don't picture me as some fucking stinky unkempt troll just because I'm posting on Jow Forums that I'm a virgin.

And I don't want a pity fuck. I just want to have normal relations and a sex life like literally everyone else I know has.

Never, they don't show interest in me.

fine, I'll admit I assumed you were a total fucking loser, but at least you tried to get a date

>Never, they don't show interest in me.
you're a fucking idiot
what do you expect girls to do, walk up and rub their cunts on you?
if you're hygenic, well-groomed, good looking and reasonably cool and funny according to your friends, then you're probably drawing interest and just not noticing it.
Take some risks here and there, yknow?

Well I always assumed girls are meant to flirt with guys. I've never been flirted with.

My friends who have GFs, it's like they didn't even try. They just met some girl, maybe a girl in our social circle who was a friend of someone else and they met at a party. The next thing I know they're making out. Then they're going on a date the next week. Then they're suddenly BF and GF. It's like it happens effortlessly for them. That never happens to me.

Life is really really fucking hard for me, being a kissless dateless virgin. I feel like there's something fundamentally wrong with me. Like god has cursed my very existence.

You give a lot of us hope, user.

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why don't you ask one of those friends who initiated the making out?

cuz I've got $50 that says he approached her and started talking, then she only started flirting in response

Is that really how it works?

The way I see it, I just see guys and girls flirting at parties. It's not clear who started the flirting. Then I go do something else, happen upon them later, and they're making out. And it's not clear who started the making out.

It's like people just have these magnetic energies pulling them together. But there is no energy pulling any girls to me.

Mature love says "I need you because I love you"
Immature love says "I love you because I need you"

Whatever dude. I'm not even thinking about love right now, I'm thinking about how the fuck to get my foot in the door of life by just having one first date or one kiss. I can't even do that.

>What happens in between all the cuddling, passionate and loving sex, and deep meaningful talks?

You don't always get to have sex, especially if she's a virgin which is what 90% of all frogposters are after apparently.

But generally speaking between all that positive lovey-dovey stuff it's just like the mundane banality of everyday life. Making plans to go out, if you live together you gotta like plan your budget together or whatever and go grocery shopping, listen to them complain about their problems in life, etc.

Yikes. You can usually tell within the first few weeks if things will turn sour and if you're that incompatible.

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Fuck you. It was a month long relationship and she was my first girlfriend. Plus she kept secrets from me. There’s no way I could’ve known.

This is a very subjective question/answer.

"Show me who you're with, and I'll show you who you are."

The choice on the person you build the relationship is up to you. I had a depressing, self harming state of mind during my 20s and dated women that treated me like shit. I did my best with them, treated with respect, but deep down I thought I deserved to be disrespected. I had not dealt with other deep rooted issues and engaged in toxic relationships.

Let go of of a lot of negative shit in life, got an amazing woman with value and goals similar to mine. It's a relationship that you take on day by day. Rewarding, infuriating, amazing, etc, the whole spectrum of emotions. It takes a lot of work

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>a month long relationship
Like I said, you can tell in the first few weeks.

it's more like they both approach eachother equally and sorta push and pull to see what exactly the other person is interested in and whether they'll take the next step.

You can't just expect them to take all the risks for you.

She will get period blood on the sheets and the shower drain will get clogged with hair but you will get used to it and it wont gross you out anymore

But you just said they approach each other equally. That implies that it isn't necessarily the male making all the first moves. That implies that the woman would be putting out feelers to entice the guy to approach, and then the back and forth motions begin.

That's never happened to me. No signals from women at all. They talk to me but never flirt, never give me those eyes that indicate desire.