Ask the Opposite Gender Anything

Pretty efficient way to deal with e-arguments when it's clear that the other party is trolling and/or too stupid to genuinely argue with.

Because it's usually aimed at woman, and just generally a creepy way to tell others what to do when no one asked for your opinion.

>Everyone (of course, including men) who works with customers should smile.
Please no. It makes low level wagecucks look like drones. People who work with customers should be polite. Smiling is an indicator of more and shouldn't be misused.

I'd assume most people don't like being told by strangers what to do based on what the stranger would think would make them more appealing.
As a guy that works in customer service I'd be pretty annoyed if I was just standing with a neutral face, not engaged with anyone, and a random customer told me to "smile more"

What's a good way to respond to a a girl giving you a compliment on your appearance? Surely there's something more interesting to come back with than "Thanks, you look nice too" because that's a conversational dead end

I tend to cut out the people. At some point I stop replying to the messages, greet them, or anyhow interacting with them. I also never give an explanation why I do so. The only beings who I didn't cut the contact with are my parents.

Am I right to give no justification and explanation?

say "thanks, our babies would be SUPER cute"

>normies left

[ CLOSED FOR THE WEEKEND ]

to the single girls here try to believe that I am not some hopeful beggar, I honestly want to ask you;
do you actually want a boyfriend? obviously if you would ever consider getting a boyfriend from here, you would already have one.
So lets assume that is TOO pathetic of a meeting scenario for you. what then, is the most pathetic (basically farthest from real life socialization) could you imagine accepting male advances?

I dated a guy and now that I've been away for a while he'd occasionally text me. Thing is, he would initiate but when I respond he'd rarely say something back then, he's just really bad at texting. Last night he sent me a heart for the first time, and asked how I am, but when I responded, he read it the next day and just left it at that.

I don't get him. I feel like he only texts me when he's under the influence and then he'd be closed off when he's sober. Even when I was at home and we dated I was always the one making the first move and asking him out. Like he'd make conversation but never do the asking out himself, but when I'd finally do it he'd say yes quickly and enthusiastically. After we got more comfortable he would ask me out sometimes too, but otherwise it was mostly me.

Just wondering if he's just not that interested in me or if he's shy in a way? He always struck me as a confident man, and he's had way more relationships than me, since he's older. I'm just a bit afraid of how things will be when I get back and if he actually wants to see me again

girls, is there any set of traits a guy could have, or claim to have that would get at least a little positive attention?
basically the equivalent of a woman saying that she is a pretty white virgin and looking for a boyfriend.

Girls

Is it needy to ask your girlfriend to be more compassionate and affectionate?

Things were good, but the last few weeks I just don't feel as loved as I was. It's pretty good when we hangout, but things have changed.

I would ask her if anything is wrong, and simply ask why she's been less affectionate.
Nothing wrong with communication. If something is bothering you, let her know

Either. Containment post not worthy of whole thread. Probably not really a question, more like a story I want some human acknowledgement of but...

>Slowly realize over the years I'm getting kind of sick of masturbation. I would just chalk this up to libido or something
>Gets worse and worse
>Eventually realize the disappointment I feel isn't because of libido, it's just that I think I can't do/experience certain things through porn and romance stories are just painful. I try to use porn and masturbation to get over my loneliness through inner-fantasies and it's not working any more.

Goddammit. Don't get me wrong, I know that relationships aren't something to be put on a pedestal and all that shit, but this just gets worse and worse...
The closer I get to acknowledging everything and doing something about it, the worse it gets and I know it's going to get even worse...
God damn it.

Is this shit even worth the pain? What am I even doing thinking about this shit? Fuck.

I'm delusional. I must be. I don't need anything.

Not really does this mean something? Sort of post but it kind of is.

I have a couple of classes with a girl. I'm usually one of the last to leave and she always seems to leave at the same time, just after but usually never before me.

Am I missing something? I'm not asking if I should make a move but more so do girls do this for a reason?

I'm military now
How much does that change my dating profile?

I'm guilty of elongating wooooords and sometimes posting words in caps and saying ugh but those two I generally don't do on Jow Forums because it looks out of place.

It's annoying because sometimes the stream connects to your thigh and then your thigh gets wet.

Basically you fucked up by using it as a cure. Kinda like a lot druggies do. It's supposed to be a fun activity you do when you feel horny, not a solution for anything else.

Why does every guy think I'm too good for them? They end up thinking I can do better, push me away, and cry about it. I didn't do anything to them, whether I am confident or normal or low confidence that day, it's never enough. And yet they keep making me feel like it's my fault.

Maybe you're only going for insecure fucks. Maybe you're really that great. Maybe it's used as excuse to break up without hurting you.

More info needed.

All possible I suppose.
Some were insecure, and if you think "leagues" are real, then people would say he is below my league. But I'm not like that amazing either. Maybe because I don't see myself how others do. As for easy breakup, I'd believe that if they didn't all really try to get me to move to their hometown, or get married, or get mad at me and insult me and cry outside my window when I wouldn't run back to them. That seems overkill right? If you break up, then disappearing would be best.

I don't know what else to say.

My girlfriend said I'm ugly, but it doesn't matter because she likes me for my personality. Is that normal?

>get mad at me and insult me and cry outside my window when I wouldn't run back to them
Well, sounds like they got their share of issues.

>don't have to aim
>zero chance anything accidentally touches side of bowl or the water
>high chance tp finds its way into places you don't want it
>have to master the hover piss for public restrooms/port-o-potties/camping
>stuck with drip-dry if nothing to wipe with because shake shake isn't an option and you get pee on your fingers if you try
>can't pee name in snow
>can't surreptitiously take a leak in the hedges round the corner
>can pee when aroused no prob

at least shes honest

alright ladies

new question.
How do I get someone to snap out of a psychotic episode?
Just thinking back to my ex I just wish I knew how to help her when she got fucking stressed out and forgot everything.

Give me some steps, something to remember, something to say

Normalish.
Telling your SO that isn't super common but being with someone you think of ugly but like being with anyway is.
Physical attraction is kind of a preamble to relationships, a foot in the door. But more often than not people get to know other outside that context and find them attractive as partners for many reasons other than appearance.
My wife is a pretty plain 5 and I'm no chiseled Chad myself but I wouldn't trade her for anyone else in the world.

Really? I mean I know I'm no supermodel but I thought the term ugly was a bit harsh. Usually she's too polite

She may also just being playful. Had a girlfriend who would crack small dick jokes at me even with other friends nearby but never had any complaints in the bedroom.
People bust balls and make banter with people they like. It's a social form of play fighting.

it was a test. you being insecure about it means you failed.

Why can't you bitches ease up on the toilet paper?

Why does everything have to be a test?

so I can tell my gf her cunt is a gaping cavern and pass it off as her being insecure?

Do guys usually direct lewd jokes towards girls they don't fancy? Do lewd jokes generally mean the guy wants to fuck said girl?

Yes, go for it. And rememner, you're supposed to hold onto a woman for some reason and maintain a relationship but never have or show feelings of any type or you've failed some sort of cosmic shit test.

We respect people we don't want to fuck as human beings.

gf is incredibly sweet, loving, etc, the whole package, but she recently revealed that she used to send nude pics for money and occasionally old tinder bros send her texts

I'm trying really hard to fight it but I'd be lying if I said it wasn't upsetting to me. I don't want to feel this way I just can't help it. I don't even really know how to explain to her why it bothers me. I'm sure it comes down to insecurity but I feel so frustrated and angry.

Attached: _avoidant-24-year-old-doomer-textbook-case-of-self-deserting-avoidant-40110951.png (500x566, 30K)

nah that's fucked up. it sounds like a game man. dump her for someone who is crazy for you

I'm more likely to make lewd jokes around girls I don't want to fuck actually, because then they're literally just a joke with nothing behind them.

>get approached by a girl during my commute to work
>we hit it off as we take the same bus every morning
>she's not chatty over text but I understand not everyone is
>she seems to try hard not to appear "eager", when she initiated going out she wrote a full text, deleted it and sent a "sup after work?" kind of text, I couldn't go at that time and she didn't really try initiating again
>go out once, seems good

And then

>I go on a long trip to Japan
>it's obvious she missed me
>whenever we take the bus she's happy to see me, smiling, giggling, playing with things etc.
>the conversations are great
>when I try to arrange something she doesn't want to plan in advance or says she's busy
>I change my commute for a few days without telling her anything and don't text her
>when I return to the regular commute she instantly came up to me and asked where I was gone
>still no time/willingness to spend time outside the commute
>sees me off with a genuine smile when I get off and sometimes even stares at me as the bus drives away

Normally if I would not see her everyday I'd say she's not interested, but these commute interactions really confuse me. It feels like I am just a commute friend, or is she afraid of something?

Attached: grafics04.png (400x400, 84K)

Because we want to be clean and not have drippy drops in our pants like boys do.

You can't really.
But you can try methods people use to calm themselves down.
Just start counting up.
Breathe between each number.
Don't raise your voice.
Or start naming one thing around you for every sense. You can use yourself or them.

I see a window.
You hear my voice.
I smell the grass.
You feel the sunshine.
I touch the chair.

Can't you just shake it?

Yeah but maybe six folds aught to do it. We can hear the roll spinning at a thousand RPM and shit. It doesn't need to be a ball, does it?

>implying it's that easy

There's a girl at work who comes across as very shy and quiet and generally just keeps herself to herself. She's really nice when I speak to her but also comes across as a little bit awkward. That's not just around me either, but everyone.

But then looking at her Instagram she comes across as really outgoing, always seems to be out partying, always writing witty captions for her photos, generally seems like a much more extroverted and fun loving person than the girl I know in person. What gives?

Take two squares
fold it over
suddenly six ply paper!!!

Shyness in women isn't a death sentence like men. They're so inherently desirable they can get away with a LOT of shit, and to some level it gets reflected back in some form on their personality.

What is your opinion on crossdressing?
Not sure if I should bring this up to any women, and if, when, but it is something I enjoy on occasion.

Hm not a huge ball no. If you have the super thin paper you use more, thicker you use less, we use more because we don't just pee, we have like hundreds of different liquids down there coming out at random throughout the day. If it's period time yeah gonna use more. And then I also wet some as a wet tissue to clean and then dry it again. If we are home we can shower though.. Actual wet tissue has chemicals that screw up the vaginal acidity.

I'm firmly against twerking.

In the end it really comes down to men not understanding womens anatomy. We'll try to use less if you stop pissing all over the seat and the floor and the wall and then bother to clean it up after. And wash your hands, your junk isn't a bar of soap and pee and other germs are on your hands.

If a girl is with a guy and seems happy with him, but then meets a guy thats more compatible, gets along better and generally shares more things in common, does she ever think of jumping ships? how likely is it that she actually will?

>inb4 "leave her, she has a bf"
I don't intend on doing anything, in fact I'm trying to not be flirty on purpose so she doesn't get any ideas but I feel like its not working so I'm thinking what she might be thinking about right now. She's not slutty or anything, but has a "wild" side to her so I don't know what to think, or if its a red flag in any way. Anyway, just out of curiosity, do women ever consider doing anything like this? or are they more loyal than internet makes them out to be?

Yes, she will consider it; sometimes they leave their current boyfriend first then get with the other guy, usually they just jump right in then pretend things aren't going so well with their original boyfriend after cheating for a while and dump him.

It's important to remember that women have absolutely no sense of loyalty or duty.

>do women ever consider doing anything like this?
Dude, come down to earth, women do it ALL the time, there is even a saying, she is not yours, its just your turn.

when you go for slutty girls, yes, but I mean girls that are more wife material than a cum dumpster, they would be more into security and getting through problems rather than jumping ships when things get heated right? I suppose thats what I wanna know.

The first point is something to think about, but the second I'll have to question. What about all those marriages that last for 20+ years? unless the husband is a cunt who doesn't take responsibility for his actions and his problems, I don't think these women are even considering jumping onto a different guy. But I could be wrong, thats why I'm asking

You don't get to tell other people what to do with their face, especially not random strangers. The reason it's sexist is that 9/10 times it's aimed at women. In general people (men and women) feel more free commenting on women's appearance or conduct.

It's different if you're a boss telling someone to smile more to please customers. Though honestly even then I think no smile but sincere attention, swiftness with service and helpfulness is better than forced, fake smiles left and right.

Oh, I guess I should clarify; modern women have absolutely no sense of loyalty or duty. Somewhere around 2007 - 2012 the last vestiges of 'respectable' women disappeared into a sea of social media positive feedback loops and mass media marketing messages. Long-term marriages prove nothing as they were universally before the current, totally fucked up, 'dating' climate.

Just say thanks, maybe follow it up with info, e.g. if she likes something you're wearing tell her how long you've had it or something like that.

Don't knee jerk give a compliment back. It's a way of deflecting really. Just take it without feeling pressured to go you too.

There's not a lot you can make of this but a compliment is a good opening to a more general conversation. So if thanks is all you can say just bring up something else.

Yeah that happens but it depends on many factors. Just because to an outsider they don't have much in common doesn't mean they don't have a bond that is hard to find.

If she's experienced she will know that you only really know what you're in for with another person when you know them quite well. Besides in a long term relationship you make an investment, you are not just dating that person for what they're like on paper but for the love that has grown over the years, your shared history, involvement in each other's (family) life, the shared future. Leaving that entails a lot more heartbreak than trading up a car or something.

As you said yourself, people don't date for decades (or even years, if they're attractive and in demand) just because there's no "better" option in sight. Just because there's a "better" suitor doesn't mean it's someone more compatible with them specifically.

That makes more sense, thanks. I suppose thats why I find it difficult finding anyone these days, instinctively I tend to move on from a girl once I notice any signs of what you're describing. I think I found like 1 out of dozens of girls I met recently that would be more "old-school" minded when it comes to dating and loyalty, but she was already taken and seems to want to stay that way so I didn't try getting flirty with her. I don't really want to conform and turn into a fuck boy just because thats what 99% of guys are like these days, but at the same time, finding someone who won't just leave when a better option comes along is like playing the lottery, possible but highly unlikely. I'll stick to what I'm doing tho, no point backing out now and compromising my values

Tldr don't date a girl that uses social media

tl;dr don't date

My crush(coworker) left my snap unread for like 2 days. For context prior to this we snapped like 5+ times a day so it definitely stood out.

I thought I had done something but left it as it was, we still talked irl during the time. When she finally did reply she said she had accidentally turned snapchat notifications off. I replied that it was all good and even joked that I thought maybe I had done something to piss her off.

She laughed but also immediately asked why I would think that. I couldn't really give her an answer other than joking that in this case I was just socially retarded and was overthinking.

When we next saw each other in person we laughed about it and she asked that if i thought that why didn't i bring it up in person, to which i replied that if it were true work wouldn't be the place to hash something like that out.

Since this event, in person we still chat and joke but our snapchats have pretty much all but dried up.

Has 1 bad joke fucked this completely for me? or am I overthinking even more now?

My question to men. What is so interesting about sports. Like really what? With current great production of cultural goods from movies to TV shows to video games and so on and on, majority of men is still obsessed with soccer

How much of a turnoff is it for a bloke to be a kissless virgin at 28? Would it be the sort of thing to terminate a date quickly (or at least guarantee no second one) if it came up naturally in conversation?

Only cavemen are interested in sports.
Only cavemen are loud enough and self-aggrandising enough to have social presence.
You played yourself.

Probably because
>it's a little awkward for her now
>if she didn't pick up on her being your crush she has now
>she thought it was harmless fun but now knows you took it a lot more seriously than her

You just can't let these things bother you

Femanons, what's the best way to make it clear to a girl you only want a casual sex relationship without hurting her feelings?

I think that's in her favor because a relationship would not be possible anyway: i'm not religious, she is, and we're of a different race, class and and culture. She wouldn't want to introduce me to her friends and family.

But she's also never had a boyfriend so isn't experienced so that makes me feel bad and I'm not sure I want to take her virginity, that should go to her husband or it might cause major problems. Me I haven't had a girlfriend before but I have had sex

Ok. Why is it that my boyfriend thinks that everything that I do has something to do with him all of the time. A week or so ago we were at the gym and I was just being playful and making jokes and just having fun working out. After we left the gym he told me that I shouldn't be acting that way. He said that I embarrassed him purposefully because I was jealous of how all the girls at the gym kept coming over to look at him lift weights and they would be bending over and working out in front of him. Even though honestly I couldn't care less since this just keeps happening the more he works out and gets stronger so I'm used to it now. Now he keeps suggesting that I stay home instead. Am I not allowed to have fun and enjoy working out? Plus what the fuck is up with not wanting me to go to the gym with him anymore?

There's this girl that I used to hang out with. She was kinda into me, I was not into her at all. After some time I grew tired of her and her mannerisms, so I kinda ghosted her in the best way that I could.
Yesterday she ran across my girlfriend and some of her friends. She was alone so she went along with my gf's company, and at one point she told her something along the lines of:
>Shame on him (me), I called him for his birthday and he didn't answer, and I've sent him a bunch of text messages but he never replied!
Mind you, english is not our first language, the "shame on him" was more like "what an asshole!".
It annoyed me that she told my gf that, when she could easily text me and tell me her thoughts. It's true that I didn't reply to her calls, but she never texted me, and if she did I'd reply.
Should I let it go, or go all the way and text her something angry?

Hes gonna leave humanity behind

get over it. i got a rude awakening that made me feel sick when i found out that devout religious Muslim and Hindu girls are doing this shit too. imho humans are just biological creatures following impulses, and any made up ideas about purity or whatever are just ideas to obsess over and are not real.

The fucking state of us men.
And we will accept their behaviour because of our loneliness. I'm not any better, I'd take a slut who had 500 dicks inside her at this point because it's been years since I even hugged a bitch.

Okay, so I lost my v-card, when will life magically start getting better?

Oh we flirt regularly so its not her catching on or anything.

You are probably right about the rest though.

Still sucks.

In person though I am acting like nothing has changed though.

>crush on girls like every other second
What the fuck is wrong with me

Or maybe this workplace has such cute girls idk

One has very dreamy eyes, like she just got up from bed.
Top cute.
>ywn wake up next to her and see those eyes

A guy that doesn't want to have fun in public is not the type of guy I'd want to be with desu

But I've known plenty of girls who are extroverted in person.

Only interested when drinking indicates that he just wants to smash.
Soccer is the most boring sport there is.
Sports appeal to my sense of competition.
They also appeal to what I think is a very inherent human trait of tribalism, that's me/ our team and we are beating the hated other.
Just look at even threads here, burger vs the caliphate of europa. Even men vs women in some of these threads.
>Shoo shoo
JK, what exactly we're you doing?

Yikes I got news for you.

So your girlfriend disrespected you then gave you a back handed compliment. Imagine if some guy who she found attractive also had a good "personality" ran into her.

Maybe you should work on your looks. Are you working out? Are you eating healthy? Do you dress nice? You need to be improving constantly, her telling you that isn't a good thing.

Is it okay to follow up on a girl after being totally wasted, spilling booze on he, falling over and showing the worst of yourself?

Femanons: This might be a stupid question, but does it really bother you when guys ask you out in public? I always think I'm just going to bother you somehow by coming on to you when you're not interested, so I end up not saying anything. I don't like going to bars or clubs and I'm not interested in hooking up, but is that my only option now?

Nope, I've never even gotten asked out in public desu. The girls who get asked daily might find it bothersome though.

What does it mean if a girl lets you be big spoon and falls asleep?
t. virgin

Depends
She could have seen you as guy who partie shard and not mind
Or she could think of you with disgust

No way of saying without talking to her in person imo

Literally ignore

Are certain places off limits?
What if you are with a friend?

Do guys always come back?

The guy I'm seeing and I had a bit of an argument last night, and now neither of us will text each other. We've been seeing each other for 6 months now, but it's been casual up to this point. I don't care to see him anymore, but I don't want it to end this way where we both never text each other. All my friends keep telling me to just wait a bit and he'll eventually text but I'm not certain. Feels weird that it would just end like this with no closure, but he got mad about something stupid and didn't respond to my last text, so I'm not going to text him again.

I just want to know if it's true, like will he probably text me eventually? Literally all my friends are 100% certain he will.

yeah because men are capable of genuine emotional attachment while women are not

Attached: 1537256830880.jpg (600x598, 26K)

Nah that's not how it is in this case. I'm over it cause he's emotionally distant, and whenever I tried to escalate it to something more serious he backed away. I don't want someone who is aloof and uncaring, so I'm just not interested anymore. I'm certain he doesn't feel strongly about me. The only thing is we both had very high libidos and strong sexual compatibility.