Is it too harsh to tell a guy your breaking up with him because youre not attracted to him anymore?

Is it too harsh to tell a guy your breaking up with him because youre not attracted to him anymore?
My bf treats me in a way that hurts me. I have attemoted to break up with him before saying it "isnt working out" but I didnt follow through and we stayed together.
Truth is im still attracted to him, i just dont want to be. I feel like if I use that as an excuse this time he will.know im for real.

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and hes pretty fed up with me saying i want to break up then chickening out. When I break uo with him I still want there to he a small chase as if its a shock to him, as bad as that sounds.
I want him to realize why hes hurt me and hurt from it.

Have you tried getting him pregnant?

too bad you arent getting both ways. stop trying to create more drama and break up.

So you don't just want to end it, you want to make it hurt.
Why not just break up? There doesn't have to be a whole thing, just tell him you are leaving him and stop talking to him.

Jack him off while he’s asleep, and collect the jizz, then flip him over and empty the jizz container into his butthole. It’ll be like he came in his own butthole lol. Or you could try putting the jizz back in his penis hole

You are not a dumb blonde, you should just tell him it's over. It's not that complicated. He wasn't the right guy for you.

When I've had enough of any guy I have no problem being as cold as necessary because I don't care anymore. Its obvious you still do.

Now I have been with guys I really liked but knew the relationship wasn't going anywhere or they aren't husband material ultimately or they had done something that embarrassed me so bad with friends and family I didn't want to be seen with them. If thats the case you need to date one or more guy to keep you busy as you detach emotionally from your current bf. It does work and if possible stop sleeping with him.

Because I feel the need to mean more to him. I feel like I cant leave until im more desirable
Lol was this intentional
I envy you I wish I could just turn cold and stop caring like that. He hasnt done anything like that he does the opposite. Hes pretty neglective and avoids me frequently. This has been going on for years and I still cant tell if im in the right for thinking hes wrong or if hes in the right since he works long hours.
But I cant stand the incinsistency. I want someone husband material and he seems like he is except for that.

Ive never considered cheating but should I really do that? Idk how to even find guys to sleep with. I only like guys who only like me basically.

>Because I feel the need to mean more to him. I feel like I cant leave until im more desirable

Lol? Bitches are crazy.

Actually maybe that is best. I guess i dont have to make a whole thing of it. I dont know
Im so lonely is there someone I can talk to privately about this

You are with a guy that is emotionally and frequently physically unavailable and still hoping this will someday change and you'll hold a higher priority. It won't. You just haven't gotten to the "I'm disgusted with myself for putting up with this" stage yet.

Good luck. I dated a married man once for over a year and you want to talk about stupid, I was. But I have also been with guys that were for me at the time but over time realized I was maturing and needed more and they weren't and couldn't give anything. You're a convenience to him most times and an inconvenience when you make any demand. Don't live like this or the guy that can really make you happy will walk on by because you are still attached to Mr Going No Where

I'm not suggesting you sleep with them at all. I'm saying to date and they don't have to be husband material. You need a diversion.

Im sorry to hear that.
And thats a good point. Vut it really hurts to hear. Ive given up a lot for this guy and we have a future planned. When hes present it feels like he really does love me. But his absense says otherwise.
And i dont feel like i even require a lot of attention.
What will I do after I break up? Im approaching my mid twenties and hes the only experience I have. I dont know how to deal with a breakup. I dont know what im going to do when im alone for the rest of my life/prime.
I want a family before I hit 30.
I dont know who to trust..I had my doubts about him but him being loyal and good to me overpowered my feelings of neglect, which sometimes drives me to cause more problems.

I dont know what thats like. I dont even know what its like to desire that. Just seems like a waste of time if hes not husband material? Wouldnt I be better off having a friend distract me?
I dont know how to find a guy to have sex with and i dont have any close friends that will engage in fun activities with me.

>Don't live like this or the guy that can really make you happy will walk on by because you are still attached to Mr Going No Where
This is making me think..

Ill bump this thread with a rant.
Why does it seem like most of the people that come into my life end up being the bad guy? Especially important people like this for example.
Not saying im an angel but maybe since im a bit awkward the only pepple that stick to me end up being manipulative in some way. Its like im a doormatt.
Theres only one friend I have thats genuine and looks out for me.

A male friend will work that you can go out with and socialize. If you want to talk about wasting time, you are doing it now with your current bf and much more damaging.

Your life isn't over and you haven't squandered an opportunity to have the life you want. Its ok being alone and that give you time to refine the kind of partner you really want and settle for nothing less.

All types of people come in contact with you but you let in the wrong kind. I promise, before I could walk into a room of 10 guys and have all of them approach me but pick the one rotten guy in the room. Maybe not for you but I took over a year to clear my head and turned down a lot of dates because I didn't trust my choices and was right in turning them down. I noticed a pattern of types and learned to stay away from them. I did accept light dates where there was something in common but no expectations and I didn't sleep with them so I wouldn't confuse myself or them. Hard but doable

I never thought of it that way. I guess I am.
Should I suggest having an open relationship? He said that if I wanted to sleep with others he wouldnt leave me. And I feel like it would help me get over him nore so that when I do leave him I wont feel suicidal like I felt when I suggested breaking up the last few times.
But idk what kind of impact doing that would have.
Realizing things like how it wont change gives me more motivation to break up.
I just cant get over how I trusted him so much and put so much into our relationship, and took me so long to see the other perspective.

>Should I suggest having an open relationship?
Now you are being stupid and I must be wasting my time.

You already wrote it yourself. You're a doormat who doesn't set boundaries, so people will trample them. And then you let them because you're too afraid to stick to your boundaries.

Lucky. Guys never approach me.
Nonethess, what type of guys did you go for and what were the red flags you found? You sound pretty wise.
Ive had guys online like me and act like im their soulmate, but something just was off about them. I dont like to think those were the good guys that I turned down. But I also dont like to think that no decent guy has liked me.

So I should just break up? What should I say?
Idk how to not be a doormat. Saying that that type of thing is bothering me to them seems just as needy as ignoring. I just prefer to be passive aggressive and ignore it. I dont know how to not be like that.

I have a similar problem with my gf. Both of us realize it leads nowhere, but still chicken out to stop it all. Idk what do, I know it’s never fair to her and shows me as bad person, but we’re still here.