I'm sure this is asked a lot, and I've certainly heard the general responses, but I've never heard a general straightforward answer. "It's not the size, it's how you use it, etc" I hear the same amount of times as "whoever thinks size doesn't matter hasn't been with enough guys to tell the difference" so I don't know which is more genuine. I'm at best 5.5", which is perfectly average I know, but I can't help feeling like I'm inadequate. I always hear "porn is unrealistic" but if that was entirely the case, I'd imagine there'd still be more than enough average male porn stars as opposed to only the biggest dudes, since they should be considered "good enough", right?
To clarify, I'm a young fit man, fairly confident in my body and appearance in general, and I have a loving girlfriend. Being that I've been her only sexual partner, she can't tell me for sure if I'd fall into the "inadequate" box at some point. All I'm really trying to find out is if the game is really rigged from the start, or if I'll actually have a chance at pleasing a woman who isn't a virgin.
Girth matters just as much as length. What are your full measurements? I'm well above average on both fronts and the "motion of the ocean" is still the general agreed upon consensus from women I've been with. Anecdotal, but there you go.
You don't even need a dick to make a girl cum. If you know hot to eat her out or at least work the clit you should be fine.
You don't see average penises in porn because porn isn't about average. Do you see ugly small chested women?
If your penis is tiny, you might have a problem. Otherwise it's about how you use it. Having a giant dick is not as fun as you think. You have to be a lot more careful during sex, blowjobs cause problems and hit the teeth, and anal takes a lot more effort. Average is best.
You are perfectly capable of satisfying your woman with what you have. Technique and emotional connections are far more important than dick size, and dick size can easily cause pain and problems for your woman.
Parker Reed
Femanon who has had a dick your size, and one like 8". Big dicks are great, but I sometimes missed the 5 inches for real. As in, able to fit it all, not accidentally having a lot of pain, certain positions were much better, quickies, was able to give blowjobs. I think ideally your size plus a little girth would be perfect. It doesn't really matter though, I cum best with one or two fingers hitting my gspot. Bonus points if he's got his mouth on my clit. What I'm trying to say is, it really is true that average is enough. After 6" I can't fit anymore dick anyway, and it's similar for most women.
Jayden Howard
I don't know my dick's circumference, but last I checked, at the thickest point it was around 1.5" across IIRC. Another thing that I'm concerned about is the general stigma that average dicks have, specifically, I worry that I'll be turned down by women who don't think I'm big enough, before we even get far enough for her to experience it (say hypothetically she asks me how big I am before anything physical yet, or she see's a dick pic and deduces that I'm not good enough). I get that it's more contrived of a situation, but I've had plenty of girls people make their conclusions based on just the number.
Alexander Reed
Planning on dumping your loving gf soon then? Lol
Wyatt Hall
>do you see ugly small chested women?
Yes, yes i do. Porn is full of ugly people.
Luke Evans
If you can't fit more than 6 inches, why are big 8 inchers "so great"?
Caleb Torres
No, but we want to try threesome/foursomes. I want to be sure I'll be good enough for the other girl and confident enough to know my girl won't be dissatisfied with me after feeling someone who's bigger.
Josiah Rogers
Mostly cause of the girth. Also it's visually appealing. That's the main reason you see it in porn so much, I think.
Jeremiah White
Your relationship will never be the same again. How are you going to look at her in the eyes like things are okay after seeing her suck another guy off and BEG for his huge cock? I've heard plenty of stories of guys sharing their gfs with bigger guys.. The girl always gets drunk on the bigger guy's cock and cums in a minute or two, faster than the bf was ever able to get her off.
Thomas Howard
Does she want the threesome,etc? Or is this mostly a you thing?
Henry Edwards
That's true user. Women would say Im being insecure but lets be real if I saw and heard her moan, scream, and sweat in a manner she never did with me then I think my insecurity is justfied. Moreso if the other guy was an alpha in every sense of the word. Hell, I wouldnt be surprised if my gf dumped me the moment the guy asked her to go with him.
Gabriel Wright
I'm like 5.5" and had a girl sigh and tell me how small I am. This was about 3 years ago. Completely crushed any self confidence or self-esteem I had. Now I've just convinced myself that I'm not good enough.
Yes we've talked and it's something she wants to try too, whether it be with another girl or a boy. Obviously my preference is another girl but I know that's not gonna happen often. We've been posting on a lot of r4r subreddits to no avail.
Jackson Barnes
Hello
I am about 1m70 too, I'm slim (not fit, just slim), my penis is about 17cm (last time I measured, at least), but I'm terrible at using it. Like, "sometimes I get hard just by thinking at things" and "I could not get hard enough to fuck the only girl who showed interest in me"-terrible.
Brandon Johnson
Sounds like you had performance anxiety with the girl. It's normal for that to be distracting enough to kill your boner. It happens to women, too (they don't lubricate as well and the vagina doesn't open up as well), but that's not something you can really see like you can with a dick.
Grayson Richardson
You are totally right, "performance anxiety" basically describes all my intimate experiences.
the "fun" thing is, before getting to end up in bed with girls, my thought was "Damn, I'll cum in minutes, I won't be good at making her feel good" -----> in fact, I had the opposite problem
Shame on me
Cameron Rodriguez
I wouldn't say that. Sometimes the thrill of being with someone new is enough to make you cum hard as fuck. I know i would probably finish in under a minute with some qt who works at whole foods or whatever. If i were you i wouldn't risk what you have over insecire thoughts. Your gf might love being pounded by another dude IF YOU LET IT HAPPEN, but she does not right now because you haven't. But you're tempting her with the idea, basically cucking yourself, idk why.
Joseph Rodriguez
What a sad post...I know this feel
Lincoln Brown
It's a very common problem, user. It's nothing to worry about. Once you get comfortable, then you'll be fine and your boner will be back with a vengeance.
Just focus on having a good time, let her know what's going on, and make sure she's satisfied. Do this, and a legit girl will be cool with it. If the girl gives you shit, you don't want her anyways.
You're not broken. Promise.
Daniel Flores
My last experience was about three and half years ago. Later I realized that she sucked my dick just to make her bf jealous (her bf was a friend of mine, I didn't know they were dating, I swear, I would never do such a thing if I knew). She ghosted me after less than a week. I totally acknowledge that I was a disappointment in bed, but what really hurted me is that she said stuff like "I don't want to be with him anymore", "He treats me bad", stuff like that. Two years later, she was still with him.
I can understand I'm not a keeper, that's fine. But, toying with my feelings, treating me like a tool to reach your goals? That's not fair.
Christopher Stewart
kek, reminds me of the time I went to a club and started hooking up with this chick in the back. We both played with each others' parts while we were there. We decided to go back to hers, and while leaving she said, "I like that your dick isn't that big!"
Ouch, thanks. I still took her home and performed but it was a stinging blow even though I guess she was trying to compliment me.
Brandon Cooper
Definitely not. Sorry you went through that, user.
Jacob Rogers
this is one of the reasons I don't even bother trying to date women. I'm 4.5" and to think that some girl might so casually dismiss me based on that kills me inside.
Bentley Robinson
I feel like that's part of the problem, as boys grow up being told they better have a huge penis or else no girl will want them, girls grow up being told not to accept anything but the biggest of dongs. Somewhere along the way some girls realize bigger doesn't necessarily correlate to better, but the majority that don't keep perpetuating the idea.
Jason Howard
lol when were you told that? I was never told that
Cooper Martin
Told what specifically?
Logan Gomez
I don't think that's the problem user, boys make a big deal out of their dick size from size insecurity. Women just know a bigger thicker penis will fill them more and the fact it's bigger just looks more attractive to them. Women are hardwired for more, bigger physique. Why else would they prefer taller men? Muscular men? If this is true then it would follow a thicker penis would be preferred.
Some women out there really don't mind to an certain extent but others do.
Kayden Roberts
>as boys grow up being told they better have a huge penis or else no girl will want them, girls grow up being told not to accept anything but the biggest of dongs
