ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

t. jobless roastie
I guess so, but she's been telling me she wants to hang out more and while I agree I'm finding it very difficult time wise.

Is it worth to move abroad for the girl that looks as the love of your life?
We synced so well even though we only know each other for 3 months. Timing is not right but I wanna risk it.

I asked a girl if she was free tonight and she wasn't because she was gonna watch a movie her housemate. She suggested another hangout but its going out to eat and not "in private". She texts me a ton of random stuff all the time but I don't know. Can I just assume she's not interested?

i did a similar thing this year. we broke up after a month since i came to her, which was a month of constant fights

Do girls understand that guys don't look to make friends with girls and only pursue girls to date?

>She suggested another hangout
>Can I just assume she's not interested?
that's the problem of most sad anons on this board. you strongly believe a girl won't get involved with you if she's not choking on your dick in two days after you meet

>guys don't look to make friends with girl
funny. guess i'm not a guy, then

I inserted it a couple of times as a virgin, even tried fingering myself with 2 fingers and full length. I still bled a bit when I first had sex and could see hymen pieces torn on the condom ew

Why do girls dress too sexy at work?

u were completely fucked byit or you had several reasons to move abroad apart from her? Or at least you sort of made some reasons (like getting into some university or getting a job that suits your needs/wants and education).

Where do you work?

we were just traveling together. i was considering moving to her country afterr the trip.

Girls,
Do you think that if a guy makes you laugh and puts up a good conversation but doesnt do any physical contact, isnt interested in you?
Sorry for broken english

My husband and I were across the Atlantic ocean when we met. Dated long distance for 3 years.
If you think that 40 minutes of highway driving is too much, maybe reconsider your relationship.

How many guys did you fuck during that 3 years?

None, lol. He's the only guy I've ever been with.

Yeah, if a guy doesn't flirt or make a move I assume he doesn't want to do me.

Nah, it's simply not true in my experience.
I'm friends with guys who are married.

I mean i can flirt verbally but no physical contact. I guess its the same outcome.

Did you become friends with them before or after they got married?

>tfw think I'm being friendzoned but now worried I'm misinterpreting what she said and she was thinking I only saw her as a friend

Fuck me, if thats whats happened my head will be in utter disarray. What a clusterfuck that'd be... its unlikely though. More likely she just realised I'm a mess.

What does it mean when a girl tells you she loves you and then starts to cry?

One right before he was married (was engaged), the other was married already.

Yeah. If you don't make a move I can't really assume you want to do me.

do women always say yes to invitations and then not come?
Jesus, sometimes they do the invitation themselves and not come.
this is not a problem with 1 girl but like most girls I've had the pleasure of doing plans but not fulfilling them.

usually guys just tell me they will come or not, and they just do. Am I overthinking it? well the thing is, I stopped getting excited when women say yes to invitations, I invite them, they say yes, and I'm like "whatever". And they can feel my non excitement, and it makes them uncomfortable. But I can't trust anymore that women will follow what they say, it is meaningless to me

was there a legitimate reason as to why she couldn't come? Maybe she didn't do it on purpose?

When should I stop having a crush on this girl? What are the signs? I don't want to get obsessed.

I'd assume that she's either conflicted or really relieved after getting it off her chest

Everyone I've ever met is a flake, I learned that way. Can't speak for anyone else tho.

If you don't wanna be obsessed, you should've killed the crush before it started.

Can I have advice on wording of a text I wanna send to my bf please.

>Hey, don't really know how to phrase / say things like this but are you alright? Trying to get conversation out of you this past week has been a bit like pulling teeth and if you've just been busy and not feeling it that's cool, but I wanna make sure it's not that I've done something wrong or there's something that I'm suddenly not doing.

Cus currently I read that and think psychopath. Its mostly that phrasing of "are you alright", I don't think there's anything wrong with him but I don't wanna say "have I done something wrong" cus apparently that comes across needy or passive aggressive and I'm just trying to honestly communicate.

Its fine

Any girls want to have a family of 6?

Hell no.

So "are you alright" isn't too accusing?

Nope. It sounds concerned and normal.

For why, to be super poor instead of just poor? And to spend half of my youth being pregnant?

Any good ways to find out if a girl sees a future with me/likes me?

We're already smexing.

>Text guy back almost instantly
>Genuine interest in what he's saying, asking questions
>Make plans to meet up
>Everything is all on me, have to initiate chatting 90% of the time
Or
>Respond 1.5x slower than him
>Only talk about shit that I have invested interest in, one word responses to anything else
>Don't mention meeting up or ask what his plans are at any point
>Fast responses, questions asked, now only initiating 10% of convo

This is the same guy, and every other dude I've interacted with has been similar. How am I supposed to game this if I'm a genuinely enthusiastic person who enjoys interacting with people? Because right now I just feel like I can't without pretending to be someone I'm not.

If she didn't like it there would be no smex. As to the future: ask her.

Mix it.

>Respond 1.5x slower than him
>Genuine interest in what he's saying, asking questions
>Ask him about plans to meet up

Sometimes the questions are because you didn't say anything.

>the questions are because you didn't say anything
Nah but they're not those kind of questions. Its literally "how're you / your day / Wuu2?" When I wouldn't otherwise get those. Give me a reason to go back to the way I was when it clearly makes men think I'm easy or desperate or completely uninteresting

>>Everything is all on me, have to initiate chatting 90% of the time
He was/is not all that into you

And yet as soon as I've pulled back, he's clamouring to get my attention and keep it. It legitimately makes me feel like the FOMO option. Should I dump him?

Have you ever regretted rejecting someone?

Meh. Could have cheated on my gf while she was cheating on me without me knowing.

Found out the guy I was seeing was married. I was the other woman. He has a kid, too. Apparently he is married mostly for the kid's sake. He says his wife loves him but he doesn't love her the same way.

Should I tell the wife?

what would that achieve?

Why can't men tell when women like them?

No, you should get out.
>t. Dated a girl who was engaged and now married until 5 days before the wedding
I was the other guy, it fucking sucks.

I am worried she doesn't know about his habits. It's not good that he's cheating like this. I think she needs to know so she can make an informed decision.

That's why I'm thinking maybe I should tell? I'm not sure, though. I know it would likely wreck the marriage. He wasn't happy to start with, but I don't know her side.

How long did it take you to get over your first love?

Are you asking this from guys or girls perspective?

A few months.

Many women are very vague. Be more direct.

Guy

No, but only because of the kid. She probably knows anyways.
Because I know I should know better than to want you. Because you cheated on your ex with me. Because I think you are no longer interested in me and jsut used me as distraction.

What did you do in those few months?

so she would learn about it. what options would she get? suddenly hurt by tthis info, yet forced still to carry on because of the child.
i see little point in telling her, really

two years and counting

Not many guys are good with subtle social ques especially shy and/or virgins because of lack of socialization in younger age.

I felt sad, mostly, but went about my daily life. In time I got used to my love being gone. I even spotted someone else I liked. This helped me get back into things.

When I broke up, I was already over it.
I could have started dating the day after.

Thanks. I won't allow myself to fall into depression or stay inside all day. I guess I'm not too sad about it because we had incredible times together and didn't break up because of something negative.

What about staying friends afterwards? Is it possible to be friends after a few months?

I didn't want to. I think it is extremely unhealthy.

You misunderstand, I'm not saying that I don't have enough money/cushion. I currently don't have any major expenses except a monthly car payment which is very manageable (not even 10% of my monthly take-home).
I currently have ~$14,000 in savings and I want to get some of it in soon with my brother who is is a great professional investor.
>then do what you want with the extra
This is the hardest thing for me. I don't know what I want/like to do. I don't have any great passions or interests in my life. The closest non-work related activity I actually enjoy is to make bread every now and then. It's easy, pretty consistent, and I'm pretty good at it.
I kind of want to get into camping? But that's not something I can do a whole lot. I dunno, I feel like I try new things, and then drop them in a week or two when I don't instantly fall in love with them. If I had more support/friends to do them, I'm sure it would be different, but I don't.
I don't know.
So many of my decisions in life have been for "future financial independence" but now I'm in my mid twenties and haven't really cultivated much of my social activity skills.

For tips

Just think about other shit. Its easy to get over someone if its early enough

cutie pie, you seem to really care about your man. You seem like a good girl, I hope he opens up

What the fuck, tell her immediately.
Cheaters are fucking scum.
>what options would she get
If she knows she can start compiling evidence with an attorney to get a divorce. Nobody should have to live in such a one-sided forced relationship. If he's too much of a dickweed to break it off himself, he deserves to get fucked via alimony payments.

Sometimes. If it ended messy, though, it isn't likely.

Bluh I hope so. I've been tweaking that text for the last four hours and I don't think I'm actually gonna send it at any point because it feels so naggy

It ended well. We have plans for her to visit a few times during the summer. I don't dislike her, she doesn't dislike me.

user, you clearly believe she's a type of woman who can easily deal with this kind of shit.
but what if she isn't?

There's nothing wrong with what you posted.

It's not for you to decide what somebody else is capable of.
I don't think it will be easy, but it's still worth doing.

neither it is for you...

girls, judge me based on the bumper stickers i have on my car

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you again

>be getting uglier
>women show more interest in me
why?

you probably look older
young women want mature settled men

I think it's morally wrong to not tell someone if you know that they're being cheated on.
I didn't tell a girl I knew that my friend was cheating on her, and I still regret it a decade later.
If you don't tell her, she'll keep on a relationship that WILL get worse and worse. The longer it festers, the worse it will be when she eventually finds out.
If it was you, wouldn't you want to know?
Ignorance isn't bliss.

I have a gf and this feels very weird to me. I’m so private about it that everyone thinks I’m single. There is nothing wrong with my gf, but she is my first one so this all feels so weird

>gf getting fatter and I'm now no longer sexually attracted to her like I was earlier in the relationship
>I tried suggesting working out and eating healthy as a group because I could stand to lose a few pounds in the hopes that she would jump on
>she freaks out and asks if I think she's fat (I said no, but yes)
>fast forward a few weeks and I'm down 10lbs and she's still eating like shit
We're both in our early 20s so I know it's only going to get worse. What do? Should I just be honest and tell her she's gaining weight to the point I don't find her sexually attractive?

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>she freaks out and asks if I think she's fat
>I said no
You pussied out and gave her permission to continue.

Tell her that’s her unhealthy habits bother you

Is it okay to reply to someone's text hours after they sent it? I'm not interested in them but don't want to hurt their feelings.

yes, be honest. you are allowed to have expectations of a person you commit to
but if she reacts this way, don't expect wonders. prepare for breakup

>Is it okay to reply to someone's text hours after they sent it?
Of course it is. Been days with no response/not responding before now.

>I'm not interested in them but don't want to hurt their feelings.
All I'll say is either make it very clear if you respond or don't at all. Don't give them any glimmer of hope or it'll torture them.

for guys with gf's

bf and I wanted to make a porno for ourselves but he can't hold the phone steady, it is wildly pointing at things you can't make out and all you hear is his breathing. So, he suggested one of his friends shoot for us and with convincing I agree.

Friend agrees we drink, me alot, and though I'm really nervous, we view what he shot and it looks ok so we resume. Bf wants to give me a facial, I'm on my knees giving a handjob and the friend is close and out of the corner of my eye see he starts rubbing himself outside his pants. My bf is taking a long time so I keep on and see the friend start to unbuckle his pants so I start to glance over as he starts to pull his pants down and I involuntarily reached over and helped him. My bf called me a cunt and pushed his friend and the porno shoot over. Now my bf won't even speak to me.

Should he be this angry, I didn't touch his friend and my bf could have told his friend to stop when he started rubbing. What can I say to my bf, I know this whole thing was massively stupid in the first place.

>and I involuntarily reached over and helped him
lolwut?
Yeah, that's pretty fucking retarded of you.
You guys should have laid down groundrules that he wasn't supposed to have joined in like that.
Did your bf see your friend rubbing his dick? I would be rather surprised/upset if my gf reached out for my camera man's dick like that.
Probably feels self-conscious that he wasn't getting off and then you reached for another cock.
Trust lines have been crossed, hard to tell if there's ever going back.

dun goofed and hard, all of you.
i don't know if he 'should' be this angry, but those matters are about emotions, not rational thinking. he is in the wrong here just as much as you are, so you could perhaps appeal to him through this channel. but if his emotions last, theres little you can do