How do I cope with my girlfriend being a trust fund baby?
The moment she told me nearly a year into our relationship I resented her immediately and it's been eating out at me ever since.
Her: wealthy mummy, grandpa left her a fortune and she doesn't need to work, she'll never be in debt or have to take out student loans for grad school if she wants. Rants about communism and socialism and lefty shit while literally driving a Lexus. Her stepdad is her mom's sugar baby.
Me: parents worked their way from nothing as immigrants to being barely upper middle class. Busted my ass in a high stress STEM college environment, paying off my student Loans, and financed everything I call my "own" myself. My parents could've helped me out financially but chose not to so I'd learn the value of "hard work". Have to eat shit at a corporate job wageyslave and bust my ass there too.
My gf's situation infuriates me because she fundamentally doesn't grasp what I go through to keep my lights on, and has a very "LA-LA-LA" attitude towards life. If we do get into an argument I have to repeatedly tell myself to not discount what she says because the moment I hear "trust fund" I never want to hear a word come out of that person's mouth--they will never know what it's like to not-have.
I'll get fucking rocked at my job, will come home tired and irritable, I'll ask how her day was and she'll say stupid shit like "oh I toured some properties with my mom and then I got a massaged and baked teehee" and it makes me want to jump out a window
I've always known that rich people exist, life isn't fair and we all don't begin at the same starting point. But it stings that much more when it's right in your face vis a vis a significant other.
People don't want the own children suffering from being poor.
Jaxson Barnes
fuck her. and then dump her.
She's a commie. No reasoning with them
Chase Morgan
There's a huge difference between poverty and trust funds.
Michael Harris
>What do? Marry that cunt.
Robert Turner
stop larping poledditor faggot
David Gomez
Why does it matter to you?
Havent you seen The Notebook? She was rich he was poor. They had fun thats all the really matters.
Sebastian Turner
Just marry her and then divorce her ez
Nathan Gomez
I don't think you should dismiss her for simply inheriting a lot of money. I've met plenty of rich people who were very humble and many poor people who were awful.
However the communist nonsense and complete lack of awareness are serious issues.
Ryder Reyes
This. What the fuck is your problem? You literally have a free ticket to an easy life, keep your fucking mouth shit and get yourself a piece of that pie.
Kayden Russell
so let her date someone worthy of her attention, dreg.
Anthony Moore
You cope by telling us how an average guy raised in a poor family gets a rich gf. Op you're an actual piece of shit for not valuing what u got going for yourself. The commie doctrine can be easily overwritten
Brody Martin
Holy shit you're a whiny faggot.
Congrats, you chose hard mode and are miserable because of it. Preaching about how you have to eat shit off the floor to get by impresses no one.
This girl should seriously dump your ass because you have some serious resentment issues because "HURR DURR MUH BOOTSTRAPS" is gonna cause you to murder her in her sleep one night.
Grayson Baker
This, you are legit fucking retarded OP if any of the things you said is true
James Lopez
>Jow Forums: Useless neckbeard NEET low IQ niggers kek STEM >also Jow Forums: woah bro it's ok to be born rich and not do anything with your time lol
Lincoln Brown
This.
You sound way jealous and bitter user. You do not deserve such a sweet carefree girl. What are you, a demon?
Nathan Martinez
>women are never wrong (tm)
Brandon Thompson
Give her my number...
Cooper Robinson
Your parents worked hard so you could have a safe and healthy place to grow up. Her parents set up a trust fund so she could go through life without crushing unsustainable debt, especially from an increasingly marxist educational system. But riddle me this: a trustfund baby comes from the top 1% of the U.S., and nearly all Americans, including what is considered impoverished, live in the top 1% of the world. That 99% of the world could hold contempt for you for the same reason you hold contempt for your girlfriend. You could choose to disagree with her socialist drivel, but if you hate someone for being better off, it comes off as insecure.
Jace Anderson
>take out a bunch of loans to have your kid learn the value of hard work
I can’t imagine having parents this cucked by their corporate slaveowners. Your gf’s status as a trust fund baby is a direct reason hard work is a fucking meme. You’ll literally never be at their level of income no matter how hard you work.
Eli Rodriguez
>an increasingly Marxist education system
Name one thing Marx taught that has anything to do with the state of our education system you buzzword spouting faggot.
Lucas James
Traditional Marxists believe that education should serve the ruling class. If I knew ideologies hurt your feelings, I could have said “education that serves the interest of a ruling class who can afford the rapidly increasing cost of post-secondary education and mercilessly compounding student loan interest”. That said, it’s evidently that this is a bait thread.
Chase Rivera
>How do I cope with my girlfriend being a trust fund baby? Have a decent talk with her when you both are calm about how you feel. Find a compromise with her. Stop being envious. Enjoy the fact that one day you and your kids will benefit from her family money.
My boyfriend is a trust fund baby, I'm the daughter of two farmers. I worked my ass off since I was 15 to get into a good school without debt. He didn't work half as hard as me, didn't get into any debt, wouldn't need to work if he didn't want to but knows enough powerful people to find a 100k/year job in 3 day. He's lucky. I'm lucky because I have more than most people, and because I have a rich boyfriend who can look after me if I need it and will look after my kids.
Life isn't fair but both me and you got a good hand just by being capable and snatching a rich SO.
Matthew Cook
>traditional marxists believe that education should serve the ruling class
They don’t believe it should, rather that it already does, which is completely true you absolute retard. Not gonna read the rest of your dribble cause you have no idea what the fuck you’re even talking about.
Fuck you asshole I do what you do but don't have a rich gf to help me out wtf are you complaining about
Daniel Lopez
>to help me out
I don't want her help. The moment she dips her hand into her pot of gold on my behalf the control of the relationship is completely in her favor. I'll engage in a 50-50 with her no problem but I personally find it incredibly humiliating and disgusting to leech off of her and have her wear the financial pants. I'd rather engage her with my own money and keep it at that.
Jayden Cruz
It's not leaching if she helps you out. It's called giving a shit about ur partner and being smart enough to understad that she is far better off then her bf so she gives a part of her own money to help you cuz she fucking cares. Don't be blinded by the ima trough and gritty man who provides for himself and shit. Or you guys aren't close and just don't give a shit
Brandon Wood
This desu.
I wish my gf had rich parents so she could at least pay her share of the bills 50-50.
Justin Lopez
I can understand. Same backstory as you, kind of same situation too. My gfs mom makes 250/hr as a partner at a firm. She doesn't throw money around, but we basically have a golden safety net. We can't fail.
I'm 6000$ in debt and about to move into an expensive apartment we can just barely afford, and I worry constantly about my debt and my income and spending, even though the safety net is there. There's reasons as to why I'm in debt and why I chose this apartment, that's not important, what's important is you need to go with the flow op. Just center yourself, take a deep breath and release that hatred. It won't do you any good. I hate handouts too, never wanted them, because there's always a price. So I understand not wanting your gf to have monetary control over your relationship. It's a good mindset to have. However, you need to accept things as they are and try to use the scenario to your advantage. Don't look for problems look for solutions. Good luck op
Nolan Fisher
disregard all posts telling you to suck it up. they clearly haven't been in your position. im same as you. those thoughts will never go away. even if you eventually get richer than her you will stay very different people because of completely opposite upbringing which defines us in the firs place. there are people who dont mind this and live happily, but if you have those thoughts i can assure you, you are not that kind of person
