How do you learn to love yourself?

" You must love yourself before you can love someone else"

How can you love yourself when you're a lonely, unattractive, incel?

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I started loving myself after getting rid of bad habits like watching porn, binging on junk food, ETC because I felt clean and pure.

Hit the gym.
Dress nice.
Wash your hair every day.

It's a cycle that only you can break.

I work out regularly and I'm super hygienic. Doesn't stop the self-loathing.

Do you have any hobbies or skills? If not then just develop some. They can help you be proud of yourself.

By forgiving yourself for the past and try, just try to better yourself every day.

This and also dedicate some time to helping others.

you accept the fact that you are a lonley, unattractive,incel and quit lamenting it.
then enjoy your hobbies
be self aware and undaunted when you go to the adult arcades, brothels, or strip clubs.

Bump

I still don't understand how you do this when you hate yourself.

Set some achievable goals for yourself so you can feel good about meeting them.

-gym
-no fap
-intellectually stimulating hobby

The rest will take care of itself. Gotta start with the basic user

Try to learn something new every day or work on a skill

I sorta think that if you have any shred of self awareness you can't ever truly love yourself because you'll be aware of things that you aren't able to do, or things you can't do better yet. This doesn't mean you can't constantly strive for improvement but the nagging feeling will never go away

like what this user said for example, I've started taking the gym seriously, 6-7 months down the line people I know remark on how much more slim I look, compliment me on my hard work, but you see the guys and girls in the gym who are just miles above you and you know your gains still aren't enough

...

>-no fap

I find that fapstinence works for a month or so, but then I get super horny and depressed.

Treat yourself like you'd treat someone you love. Brush your teeth, shower every day, buy clothes that fit you, get a haircut that you think looks good on you. Also, get friends and have a good relationship to your family

You could probably start by not calling yourself an unattractive incel

Just calls 'em how I sees 'em, dude

Exactly what did you do to fill that void? I've tried many times to stop porn, bad eating, sleep habits, etc but it's all so fucking boring to live a life of purity but also something I desperately need

>how do you fill that void
Not the person you replied to but i like to practice doing things that i can get paid for eventually, and occasionally going out and getting drunk to balance things out

You don't. You can change yourself in any way, but deep down you'll still know you're a loser.
Ignore the shallow advises ITT, these people have no idea what they're talking about.

>do this
>people begin to like me
>hate myself as just as much, perhaps more

You understand this is the result of it and not the cause, right?

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You'd be surprised how easily you can trick yourself just with constant repitition.

At the point of repitition you've already trapped yourself in the cycle of self-loathing though.