Sup Jow Forums
Need your guys help, up until last night I was a 30 year old virgin but I finally managed to work up the courage to start seeing someone. Long story short, we had sex last night and I could barely feel anything. It's got me kind of freaking out and questioning my sexuality or maybe Ive spent my whole life up until this relationship masterbating too much. Anyone else have similar experiences or some tips?
>tl;Dr had sex for first time, felt very little and couldn't cum what do
i dont feel shit through the condom. oral is the best for me to finish.
I didn't have protection on and even her oral wasn't doing much for me. She had given me a blow job before and I ended up having to jerk off into her tits. I was hoping that it had been because her mouth was dry.
Probably either anxiety, death grip or a mix of both
I had a condom and couldn't feel a thing either but when she started moaning to the rythm of my trust I absolutly lost it.
You gotta please your girl, change her into a sex craved beast that worship your cock.
By the end of the sex you should be dripping wet. Give it your all
Also stop fapping and porn
t. 28 yo former virgin
Are there any methods toincrease the sensitivity in my dick or am I just a faggot? I really like cuddling with her and being intimate.
read my post dumbass
Yeah I mean she was wet as fuck. I could probably improve my rhythm and tehnique. She doesn't know I'm a virgin though she may suspect something. Some positions were awkward for me since she is slightly taller. What did you do to improve when you first started?
My bad dude, at work on my phone and didn't see that shit when I was bumping the thread.
I'm going to get roasted but whatever
After two years of no gf and still being a PiV virgin I ended up in a brothel where I hired two ladies (not at the same time, obviously). Both were amazing at blowjobs, but even that didn't get me off. Needless to say, penetration didn't either and I even lost my boner, both times.
I felt like shit that night but it was the kick in the balls I needed to stop being a faggot and I mustered up the will to stop porn and fapping altogether. It was pretty difficult but I resisted the cravings.
After a little over 3 months, I fapped again to measure my progress and it was the best fap of my life. Sensations had come back, along with the pleasure of the whole thing, instead of going through the motions as fast as possible to get that final, always deceiving, rush.
I've never looked at porn or death-gripped like a retard again and sex (and fap) has felt good ever since.
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So yeah, if you go through that "reboot" the pleasure will come back. Then again, the whole having a girlfriend thing is going to be troublesome to that end...
Thanks for the input dude. Yeah before I started seeing her I was fapping everyday. Definitely cutting that shit out now.
I'm reading shit about low testosterone leading to less sensitivity as well. Also debating just getting some fucking Molly or x to help.
Hey bro, I had sex for the first time at 23yo which was 2 years ago and I had the same thing.
It was with the girl that is now my gf. We met online and after a month of chatting/skyping we decided to meet up in a hotel in Berlin and stay the week there.
We started having sex on the first day, and it was awfull. I lost my erection when trying to put on the condom, had loads of trouble getting my dick inside her for some reason, couldnt cum etc etc.
I was so excited to finally have sex that we just kept trying about twice per day. It got better and better but still couldn't cum. I would just fuck her for about 10 mins and then we'd just quit.
On the last day, so after having had sex for about 10 times by that point, I finally managed to cum. I never had any trouble with cumming, or losing my boner after that.
So, don't be worried. It's normal and it will fix itself, just keep trying.
P.S. - I masturbate aLOT. I avaraged about 2 times per day. I still do btw.
I'm of the opinion that you shouldn't take drugs unless it's absolutely necessary.
I dont know what your molly or your x do, but I don't reckon they would be consequence-free to your body, so be careful and do your research before taking them
Oh I almost forgot. My mate, who is 24, just started having sex too. He had the same problem. He got to the point where he bought some weird ass viagra-like substance to help him out. He ended up not using it thankfully and the problem fixed itself after a while, just by doing it.
We think that the thing is not really related to testosterone, or being a porn addict or anything.
The thing is just, after the 23, 24, or in your case even 30 years of jerking off, your body doesn't know any better than that 'sex' is sitting still in a chair, and having a specific feeling (your hand's grip).
The feeling of a pussy, having to actually move your body, being on your feet/knees, that's all really knew to your brain and dick. It's normal.
Try it out, go masturbate while standing and moving your pelvis in a fucking motion instead of just shaking your hand. You will probably have just as many problems cumming that way.
All you need to do is getting your brain and dick used to all of these new feelings and motions, which will simply happen by having sex a few more times.
And drop those retarded 'drugs' ideas you have. That's gonna be the last thing you need.
Thanks dude. I've never heard of something like this happening before, everyone always just goes on about how good it feels. Feel a lot better knowing I'm not the only one
I just fucked on time so I can't tell you what I did to improve
But yeah some position were awkward and I didn't like them. (She is quite tall too but I'm taller) so I just pushed her on the bed and made her change position. Just keep trying until you can have good hips movement and you feel you can hit it down. Also try different things every time and listen to her reaction, when she start to be visibly pleased keep doing that shit.
Vary between depth, speed, left or right, some times slow it down, some times give one strong shot to the back, sometimes do some jack hammer thrust. Just try shit, every girl is different
I didn't talked about her when I was talking about being wet. I said YOU need to be wet at the end.
At the end she passed her hand through my haire and to my surprise they were fucking drenched in sweat like I just played hardcore badminton.
I just gave it my all. Like I was the ace in a tied match of basket ball. I couldn't let down my team. The next day my muscles were sore.
Also another point that could help you cum is to simply think about porn you like. While I was ramming her I noticed my balls were hitting her ass and made some noise and it made me think about some porn. Idk if it helped because she was pretty hot on her own but if you are addicted to porn it might help you.
Just think about that one vid you nutted so many times to it and then do the jack hammer
Don't worry everybody told me that sex the first time was going to be such a let down
It was but at the same time it was the greatest experience ever. It's pretty strange but that's how it is for me
I also forgot something. Apparently doggystyle is the best position to cum because it's the most primal one.
Just put her on her knees and start thrusting your dick like you are some kind of dog. Maybe push her from her hand so she has the head on the side and she bite the pillow trying to resist your thrust.
If you can't cum to that sight I can't help you, I'm having a fucking hard on just thinking about it
Same problem at 26. Took 4 tries. Mostly sorted out, i can only come in one position though and eventually go soft in other positions. Oral is nice, but I don't even get close. If I go soft I get her to suck me hard again. Just relax during that and it comes back.
How mine is never that into it. Should I just ask her to moan more? It's hot as fuck
Yeah it's hot as fuck.
She is a foreing student so she isn't a native and when sex got really heated and she started to moan she hold me tight and said something in her native language
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Honestly, you might be at fault and maybe you aren't satisfiyng her. If you are but she is just shy ask her to express herself more and do it too when you feel pleasure so she'll get more into it
I was a total beast when we fucked. I straight up eat her ear when I was fucking her. Shit was cash.
Like I said it was my first time and I'm a pretty shy guy, but when I get horny I just unleash the beast in me
>I was a total beast when we fucked. I straight up eat her ear when I was fucking her. Shit was cash.
I also meant to see I didn't mask my pleasure. I grunted hard while looking straight into her eyes
When she was manhandling my cock I made her realize she was doing a great job
Does it actually feel good now? One of my main concerns is that I don't want her to feel unsexy. She is a little self conscious because she had some weight gain but she's still sexy af.