ITT: Ask the other gender anything

How about you decide what works best for you and let your date know? Taking the lead is a good character quality for a husband and father. Start practicing.

Lol all you had to say was don’t kiss her at the beginning of the date

I agree with that, I want to be the one setting up things. I just want to know if there's things to avoid or must-do stuff that I don't know about because I'm new to this

The only thing to avoid is to be this nervous. It's okay if you make a mistake. Don't be one of those men who was clearly spanked by his parents every time he got less than 100% in school and never took a chance on anything as a result.

Get in shape, lazy

Guys, what makes you feel appreciated?

not being ghosted

Telling other people that you appreciate me, like your family and friends. I don't even have to hear about it or anything. It's just nice if people who aren't there to see that I treat you well still know that I do. It means a lot if you care enough to make sure that happens.

Anything else?

My ex texted a photo of her and her new bf a week after we broke up and claimed it was an accident and that she meant to sent it to someone else. What do

That's a good one! I'll make sure to casually do that from time to time.

Both guys and girls;

Do you believe male - female friendships are possible?

Don't give it any attention, that's what she wants.
Just reply "Alright" or something.

Good. On that same vein, I'd also caution you about being extremely careful when it comes to complaining about your guy to others. The reason why expressing your appreciation is so important is that too many women only speak of their men while griping. It's really hard to undo the damage toward his reputation which that creates, though. Say a few unkind things to friends and family and they might never look at him the same again, even if he's a great guy.

Fuck that guy answering my tag. You obviously did better than user could. You have set a precedence. Don't disappoint.

I have a bunch, so yes. Whether it's over appearance or personality or both, there are women in my life toward whom I have no attraction. They're still good people whose company I enjoy.

I am :(

My gf is quite fat. How do I tell her I want to lick whipped cream out of her belly button without offending her?

Guys, do you tell other women in your life (besides close family) about your sexual escapades or fetishes? It's fucking weird that men openly share this with me when I tell them it makes me uncomfortable. I don't come off as sexual and never mention my own personal stuff even in casual conversation. Is it like a trick to get me interested?
When a dude says he fucked some hot chick my age, like what am I supposed to say? Good job here's a gold star? Maybe it's because I'm a friend idk.
Any insight into this is appreciated. Thanks

You're definitively right about that one! I don't really see the point of complaining about your SO to another person to begin with, it's not like they can do something about it. You'd have more luck just talking to your SO about what's bothering you.

Women, how would you feel if you found out that your boyfriend stole from you?

get money if you don't want to get in shape. Women are easy these days.

If you're trying to better yourself both physically and mentally then I'm sure there are girls out there that would be willing to date you.

Women, how would you feel if you found out your boyfriend was stealing from you?

I don't tell anyone about my sex life because I'm a man and that's disrespectful, foremost toward my partners.

I suspect that it's a very trashy attempt to demonstrate to you that other women approve of them, so you should totally take off his and/or your pants.

What did he steal and why did he steal it?
Why didn't he just ask for it?

I thought this was going somewhere different.
If you like her body and make that clear then she shouldn't be offended. "Shouldn't" because people are stupid and for some reason care what people outside of their partner think of their body.

don't let her get a big reaction from it. literally reply with k and it will probably piss her off
kek

Boyfriend who?
I would be a little bitch and tell my brother and enjoy some popcorn while my ex gets beaten to a pulp.

>Money
Well that's out the picture. I'm on my own and after all bills I've got 200 bucks a month to use on myself.
Yeah but how do I get myself to think this? I'm only asked out 4 girls my entire life and always got rejected, twice just a hard no.
IDK how to mentally improve myself

yikes
exactly what I was thinking thanks for clarifying. This is my new boss and although he's a nice guy he's kind of immoral. fucking married women because they say it's fine and their husband's suck, oversharing sexual stuff etc. I just thought it was part of his personality some people are like that. I'm old fashioned so it's pretty gross. I literally have only talked to my sister about that stuff, not even my closest friends.

Your new boss is a slug.

I only know it works because someone I know is 250 lbs and well groomed and still gets women I guess. I'm sure you can find your own tricks to get with a woman. good luck m8

>Do you believe male - female friendships are possible?

Yes. The caveat is that just because they’re possible, it doesn’t mean they’re possible for *everyone*.

You need to be able to either be sex positive or e
exceptional self-aware and on top of your feelings.

I’m not saying that you need to be able to rampantly sleep with each other at the drop of a hat, I’m saying that you can’t be a repressed individual who is constantly walking on egg shells in fear of misunderstanding or of losing control of their emotions, who constantly feels like they have to repress and hide away things out of guild or fear.

Friendship don’t work when one side is constantly battling against alternative motives. That applies across male-male, female-female, and female-male friendships.

>Guys, do you tell other women in your life (besides close family) about your sexual escapades or fetishes?

That’s not unheard of talk between certain types of guys (not all), but it *is* particularly strange for a guy to tell that to a woman... For a case in point, see how controversial the whole trump “grab them by the pussy” thing got (from all sides with women being shocked, but guys being split with saying it’s normal, and some guys saying it’s disgusting regardless)

This isn’t so much a “guy” problem as it is a “guys in your life” problem. Apparently the ones in your life fall in to the spectrum or cultural backing of more crass behavior.

What are his motivations for telling you that? I haven’t the foggiest. Usually when it’s done, it’s done to brag.

I’ve DO know that I’ve had women do something similar to me, and in those cases it’s obviously something they’re doing to try to be sexually provocative, so that could very well be it in your case as well.

What do you say? “Gross.” or “That’s inappropriate “ And walk away.

How does it feel to be horny?(for women)
Do you get aroused by watching porn in a similar way men do?

Maybe offended wasn't the right word, it's more that she's sensitive about her weight and doesn't always appreciate that I think she's sexy, and sometimes she takes me trying to show her that the wrong way.

thanks for the advice

Whether you believe it or not is kinda irrelevant. If I were you I wouldn't be too bothered about getting in a relationship. So many people try to force relationships and it ends miserably. When you meet the right person, you'll both know it and you'll become a thing. No need to overthink it.

How close were you to those girls before asking them out?

>IDK how to mentally improve myself
Just try to be the best version of yourself. Take some time to appreciate what you have in life, learn new things, do something you haven't done before, be a better person than you were yesterday. Guys that always try to better themselves are a huge turn on.

Yes, but only if they aren't more than mildly attracted to each other. If you you would seriously consider dating/fucking them it's going to cause problems. Personally, I have very particular taste in terms of what kind of girls I'd date, and I'm friends with many girls who fall outside that.

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This question is for women. Do you find is unattractive if a guy is submissive in the bedroom? Additionally do the majority of women not enjoy receiving oral sex ? I really enjoy giving it and ive always got a poor reception when Ive brought it up thanks for any information you can provide

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From what I've read online my sexuality is pretty close to stereotypical male sexuality (very visual, always ready to be triggered by something). I used to be into mainstream porn in my teens but cut it out because I always got that gross feeling after jilling off, so now I just use imagination or look at nudes/cams/art for inspiration.
>How does it feel?
Swollen genitals and "holy shit wish I was touching someone's naked body right now"

It's not one-size-fits-all, though. Some women are only situational (like having a mood set with lots of foreplay) and others only get aroused by someone they have a bond with.

>How close were you to those girls before asking them out?
Relatively close, two classmates that were on good terms, one friend who I asked out and one random that I felt good vibes with tho I guess it wasnt

>bragging
that make a the most sense desu because this guy likes to brag about a lot, big ego and everything. personally I get dude talk to an extent with a close friend. My old friend from the south was a real crass guy. He was best friend though and it was whatever.
But I've known this guy and worked with him for maybe 5 months now but this dude straight up told me he had a certain fetish. like what? It's just like idk what to say. I said he overshared and it's gross.
Thanks for your reply. Even though I'm prudish, I try not to make people feel bad if they want to share so I laugh it off and try to be polite, but there's always a line.

Do u get turned on say watching a sex scene in a movie or on GoT?

She'll like it if she's a domme or switch.
As for oral, many women are self-conscious about their genitals or can't be assed to show you how to pleasure them specifically. Women are self-conscious about everything.

It almost feels like an itch you have to scratch.

Yes, especially with sound.
I even get turned on by seeing a guy bend over in public, or if he's wearing a tight shirt and I can see his nips.
Agree.

is it pretty much a lottery to find a domme or a switch? Where do I even find a person like that?

I'm pretty submissive so I personally wouldn't want a submissive guy, it just wouldn't work out, but there are some girls that are into it.

Can you describe what it's like if you can't/don't?

Yes. As long as you aren't trying to eye-fuck them at every possible moment, guys and girls can be friends.

Not a chick, but biologically, not really...

Men’s brains tend to be wired differently when it comes to libido, especially when it comes to something like porn.

We have a much more visual stimulated libido, and it can get to a point where, through prolonged exposure to porn, we can literally rewire our brains so that the visual stimulus of seeing a pornographic image, completely bypasses the conscious part of our brain that normally process things like romance, and starts triggering endorphins that are associated with sexual pleasures, creating a direct sight to body response.

It’s basically exactly like an addict who hears the crack of a can and starts being consumed by a for beer, or a dog who hears his owner tell him to it to sit, and then immediately expects a treat.

At one point that behavior never existed, but eventually through enough training and associations it literally becomes a reflex.

By comparison, women tend to dwell on that romance center of the brain a lot more.

Not all guys are like that and neither are all girls, but the preponderance generally tends to sway that way for whatever reason (I have no idea why, I’m not a biologist, just someone who likes to read scientific articles from time to time, and none of them have ever said why, just that it’s an observed behavior with physiological backing behind it. My limited knowledge can only speculate it has to do with testosterone and the way it alters the brain).

I've been no fap for almost a year so I learned to just ignore it
and every time I suppress my urges and don't fap I feel a little proud of myself.

Yeah, probably a lottery.
It's as much a mystery to me as it is to find a submissive bf irl. Maybe a local BDSM meetup or some kink dating site? She'll probably be a big promiscuous degenerate if you meet her there though.

>Day of the Enamored in around 14 days (I don't even know the date exactly)
>no gf
>might be 31 Day of the Enamored alone
;_;

bummer man , oh well guess I figure out something addtionally Is there anyway to "convert" from a sub to a dom?

Both guys and girls, what is the most thoughtful gift you have received from the opposite gender? (family not included)

or rather, to expend on the question, what would be a really thoughtful gift in your opinion.
I want to make it extra special.

My gf crocheted me a penis cosy. I thought it was really sweet.

Addicted to drugs and the girlfriend doesn't know.

My Fiance once made me an angel charm out of wool. It was really well-crafted and I still keep it

Have all men seriously considered raping a woman and/or child?
Not an invasive thought, consideration, plans, and/or fapping to it.

So you stole her money?
What are you addicted to? You need to go cold turky, man. Drugs will mess up your life, you don't need that.

Men, do you agree with the sentiment behind the adage "in order to really get over someone, you need to get under someone else"?

Not in the criminal sense, but I am a fan of consensual non-consent with an adult partner.

That's super sweet, I love that idea!

Uhm .. cute.

No. I've gotten under someone else without it doing anything at all to help me get over the last someone. Likewise I've gotten over someone with just me and my hand. There's way, way more to closure than replacing sexual gratification.

Think of something you know he likes (band, star wars etc) get that thing.
It shows you pay attention

I couldn't really rate gifts like that as I've received plenty of thoughtful ones, but the good ones are those which speak to my personality in creative ways. By that I mean in a way that I would never have thought to ask. What I would suggest is to avoid anything with practical/functional value.

Outside gifts my mom has given me, the only thing I can think of was a girl complimenting my flute playing once at the park. I often hike in the state park to a field and play under a tree there. Usually nobody comes, but once a lone girl passed by, stopped, complimented me, and we had a brief convo about music before she went on.

I melt just thinking about it. Damn I'm a sad piece of shit.

Nope.

Mine would be: "in order to really get over someone, you need to visit a brothel"
:D

No wtf
Have all women considered marrying a rich man then divorce and take his money?
That's how you sound

He is the type that loves useful gifts and he also loves computers. He often talks about old, in his opinion iconic, GPUs but I really don't remember the models, I don't know much about this stuff. I'm having a hard time thinking of anything both useful and thoughtful that he would also like.

My bf literally said to do the opposite, he wants something he can use.
I like to think I'm pretty creative so I could make something for him but I don't want him to be disappointed.

That's a really sweet story, you should had stayed in contact with her.

>Have all men seriously considered raping a woman and/or child?

>Seriously?
No.

>As a passing thought?
No.

>As an act of revenge/dominance/anger?
No.

>As an irrational “I’m so horny right I can’t think straight and just really want to fuck something” Kind of way?
I’ll admit, when you’re that deep in to the pit of hormones, lines get fucking blurry, and sometimes that will make you more pushy or want to lead you to interpret things in your favor, but they’ve never gotten to full rape point for me.

In spite of what you may see on here, not everyone is as degenerate as sections of the board like /gif/ and /h/ may lead you to believe.

>Men, do you agree with the sentiment behind the adage "in order to really get over someone, you need to get under someone else"?

No. A lot of times that just leaves you in a deeper hole (seriously, no pun intended). In my persona, it experience it just makes the whole thing feel cheap and kind of gross.

The idea behind it is to form attachments elsewhere and realize that your former ones weren’t as intense as you believed, giving your perspective, but I think that comes from a place that assumes that those attachments were something that was possible of being taken away by a distraction from them in the first place—but that isn’t always necessarily the case for everyone with every attachment.

Men, how often do you shower?

yes, even when they fuck

how do I tell if my gf is catfishing me? she won't send pictures, but she could just be insecure, plus she's busy. are there any other ways?

Once every two days.

Sorry to tell you but your gf has a dick

>That's a really sweet story, you should had stayed in contact with her.

>a man and a woman alone in the woods
>woman compliments flute
>thanks, h-how about your phone number
>pleasant look turns to one of discomfort, then fear as she realizes how far from anyone else she is
>slowly starts backing away while trying to disengage as pleasantly as possible despite her fear
>"oh haha no I don't have a phone" (or some other obvious lie made up on the spot)
>w-wait no, I'm not creepy I just want your number to text you later
>pretense of pleasant disengagement now gone from face too
>"p-please, I just want to walk in the woods please don't hurt me"
>no please wait
>she literally sprints away

No I think I made the right choice wishing her a nice hike and rest of her day, thanks.

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Girls, would you be more upset if a guy cheated on you physically or emotionally?

Meaning, would it be worse if he had sex with a girl he had no feelings for
or if he fell in love with a girl he never even kissed?

Never, I take baths

Same question for guys too

Something he can use is a nice gift, but it isn't a thoughtful one. How much thought is there behind "He needs a jacket, I'm going to get him a jacket?" Don't get me wrong, I love functional gifts and my minimalist side dislikes accumulating random stuff. But through all my purges of disused junk I've never gotten rid of a truly thoughtful gift, even if they serve no purpose beyond sentimentality. Sentiment is a purpose.

Twice a day, once in the morning and once after work/being out doing stuff.

Physically. Falling in "love" under those circumstances is a crush. Annoying but whatever. Physical infidelity is how diseases and misattributed pregnancies happen. No thanks.

>Men, how often do you shower?
Before I leave the house.

Sometimes that’s twice a day, sometimes that’s once every two days because I felt like just staying in with Netflix and pizza. Honestly the most annoying part is having to shave.

Pretty sure this has been written about and studied by basically every sociologist and couples therapist looking to get their name in a paper, and every late night radio host looking for a “shocking” or “controversial” call in segment.

General consensus sits at about
70/30, Women tend to find emotional cheating worse
75/25 men find sexual cheating worse

Both are equally stupid and dump worthy to me. Fem

Just wondering, are you a girl or a guy?

I didn't know about this but I guess that answers it! Thank you for sharing