ITT: Ask the Opposite Gender Anything

Do a lot of girls like steak?

I mean I get that, but not all women can use birth control and knowing my luck probably all future partners won't be able to without losing sex drive or becoming a massive bitch.

It's a condom a woman puts in her vagina.

>went on date with a girl I'm into
>not our first date but most have been platonic
>drank a bit of whisky before going to calm my nerves
>spent the entire time trying to be as intimate as possible with her having gone from no intimacy
>while holding her hand I asked her if she was interested in me because I was getting hints that she was
>she was flustered and told me she was unsure
>tried my best to keep pushing intimacy throughout the entire date anyway
>she accepted all my advances
>even gave her a little autistic kiss before leaving
>now waiting a few days to give her time to think and figure out if she is interested or not

Did I do good or did I dun goof?
Kinda interested in both an experienced man and woman's perspective

I'm super inexperienced in dating

There are tons of normal contraceptives, but condom is probably not the word you are looking for.

Can't hell you though. Been on the pill since I was 10 due to hormonal issues that they fixed, and it certainly isn't impacting my sex drive.

That's quite lucky for you! A hell of a lot of women, like more than 50% experience negative side-effects from the pill.

Count your blessings!

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Want to get coffee some time?

Considering you are super inexperienced, this was a bold and confident move so I wouldn't say you ruined it.

I don't like coffee

pretty good, good job, well done.

now ignore this girl and try again.

Keeeek

Generally speaking, it is just about trying different ones.

But yeah, it's a mixed bag for me. I dont get the adverse effects, because they are usually caused by a hormonal imbalance. For me, they *fix* that imbalance, so what should have been a negative side effect, instead becomes the main positive effect.

Interesting! I can't imagine that being much different to a condom made of the same material. Makes me wonder why it should be better to apply to women instead of the man. At the end of the day, it's still just a layer of whatever material.

I'm sure the shop's got something you'd like. I know it sells icecream too.

It was okay, I think asking if she was interested is something you don't ask a girl on a date. You have to figure that out yourself by how she is responding to your advancement. When you ask that you automatically put her on the spotlight to force her an answer and women don't like that.
Some say not to kiss when you are leaving but rather kiss during the middle of the date so then when you kiss goodbye it won't feel rushed.

What makes good pussy good?

>Interesting! I can't imagine that being much different to a condom made of the same material
I'm not OP of the question. Yeah, I should have bought some just to try them.

To either men or women.
Anyone have any experience with long distance relationships? Long distance as in an ocean apart, not just across the country.
I used to very firmly believe that LDRs are stupid because they have no way of working, the couple could never spend enough time before deciding to move in together (if one is willing to leave their whole life behind) and if it ends up not working out than the other is stuck in a foreign country, having to figure out what to do next.
With that in mind, I have absolutely fallen for someone overseas and she fell for me too, we're talking about meeting up in the future and she said she'd be willing to immigrate for me in the far future, but as much as I want to believe it could work, i'm not confident.

Any thoughts? Any success stories? Any cautionary tales?

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Not a fan of hormonal BC and I've researched this quite a bit. I would not contemplate using them for several reasons. The biggest one is that even after getting one personally fitted (this is necessary, you re-use them, it's not like a pack of rubbers), for some women their bowels being full puts a certain pressure on the vag which means the "condom" tilts and semen can slip through and reach the womb. Basically you only find out that you are this type of woman once you are pregnant despite using them. I 100% do not ever want to have an abortion, or a child with a man I'm not ready with, so this would make me so anxious.

On top of this they are not superpractical, it's more akin to inserting a tampon and you have to get in deeper still, even for someone practiced inserting can take a minute and doesn't really look flattering. More importantly, you are supposed to combine them with spermicide which tastes gross and means any oral after penetration is a no-go.

Women have much more options than men but all of those also suck in their own ways. Individual people can get lucky not having any side effects from BC or even just positive ones, but overall every contraception comes with a price.

Are women afraid of sex robots taking their position?

No personal experience but as it's pretty quiet now anyway, of course it can work, but you are taking a huge risk. Immigrating means that the other partner both makes a huge sacrifice for you and becomes quite dependent on you. It sucks being in a country where you have no memories, barely a frame of reference, you might not understand the language very well, you feel like a guest. And then your partner is your window into the world: into friends, how to get a job, everything really. This would put a serious strain on even the best relationship. And what's more, you never got to know each other in a different way, so you are only really going to figure out what kind of person you are dating AFTER they committed to you in a big way. Even for couples who have seen each other almost daily for years, moving in often shows sides of their partner they had no idea about. Just imagine what this is like for someone you talked and interacted to for a couple of weeks or something.

Basically success stories exist, they always do, but it's complicated and you are taking a huge risk one way or another.

Not a female but why would they be? Ideally sexbots would've keep the utterly unfuckable men further away from everyone, hence minimizing sexual assaults, rapes and harassments. Though probably they will end up fleshlight tier and not much would change anyway.

Nope.

I'm not. A man who looks at me as a pussy to fuck and someone to laugh at his jokes would not be someone I want to date anyway. I am looking for a life partner and someone who wants the same thing. Someone to hold you after your parent dies who knows what a big loss feels like. Someone to reminiscence about what you were both like when you were younger. Someone to understand the reference to the movie you saw together five years ago. Someone to understand and share the wonder and worries you have about your children. And so on.

I am a little worried that sexbots will be incredibly addictive to isolated young men without being able to offer the real feeling of connection that another person brings. That it kind of numbs them enough to not change their life for the better without being able to make them happy, the way vidya and porn already do in some cases. The people sexbots hold the highest appeal to are the ones most at risk to turn their back towards the world anyway.

Having said that I reckon it will still take at least two decades before they are cheap enough for your average teenager to splurge on, and this is hardly the only risk, I think stuff like virtual reality is going to pose a big threat in this regard to begin with and probably more urgently.

Great tier:
>She's responsive, active, makes you feel desired
God tier:
>Enjoyable to be around afterwards

Girls, maybe guys too, what do you consider a date? Does a guy have to actually say to you "let's go out/on a date" for it to be a date?

Mostly asking because my guy friends keep telling me that does not have to be the case, but I want some outside opinions.

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It's not a porn/vidya/VR thing but shitty parents who facilitate the escapism. Bet at least 50% of incels could get integrated back into society if mommy & daddy would've cut their Internet.

Of course parents need to install boundaries but some forms of escapism are more addictive than others. Reading, daydreaming etc can also be used as escapism. Technological stuff like social media or vidya actively aims and manipulates to stimulate our brains optimally and get you sucked in. Which in turn means you are going to get more angry if someone tries to limit how much time you can spend on it and so on.

Of course parents have a huge amount of influence but the challenge they're up against is only getting bigger and more persuasive. Besides kids also copy their parents and many parents are constantly on their phone as well.

Nah, usually I'd consider it a date if it's something I normally wouldn't do with a girl. For example I never go out for coffee with girls so if I ask you out for coffee then you know it's a date. If the guy is very social and is always out there getting coffee with his female coworkers or whatever, then assume it's not a date if he asks you out for coffee.

It's not that clear for me, unless he specifies that it's a date I go by context. Few people have literally mentioned the word to me but when a complete stranger asks you to get coffee it's pretty clear that he's not looking to just chat per se.

I also don't think it matters. "I didn't realize this was a date" is a knee jerk response from someone who feels put on the spot and awkward. But it's not changing my feelings about a guy, if I like someone I don't need to have anything official for him to make a move on me.

The only situation in which it matters imo is if you want to be 100% sure you are not spending time on a girl who already knows she's not interested. Then it's useful to make it explicit that it's a date. Otherwise whatever.

What's the right way to give a girl attention?

Nayrt
Alcohol, social media, and dozens of other things can be addictive.
At what point do we stop blaming the substance and start holding individuals accountable?

I'm not really interested in the question of who's to blame, only in the consequences, and realistically speaking I think that the trend of young people (especially guys, though that might also change in the future) becoming stunted in their personal and social development because of technological persuasions is only going to increase. I don't want to see that happen and worry about it, sometimes, regardless of who's to "blame" for it.

I also find accountability generally tricky within this context. There's a personal decision to take a drug, for example, but it's not the full story. There's how genetically prone you are for example, the circumstances you grew up in. Someone who grew up in a stable, loving household where drugs were entirely out of the picture imo has no business looking at someone who grew up all around drugs with using friends and go "welp, you can just not do drugs, like I did". Personal responsibility is always there but that doesn't mean everything begins and ends with that - at least for me it doesn't.

There's this girl that I like and her friends kept telling me she likes me back, so I went for it and she rejected me. She's not the kind of girl that dates guys, do you think she rejected me because of her fears or being with someone or were her friends wrong? The friends that told me are not the type that they would lie about things.

With kids it seems pretty silly.

>She's not the kind of girl that dates guys
So she's gay?

I guess I don't really want to derail the thread, but how would you fix that? Force parents to completely ban Vidya till adulthood? Only allow a certain number of hours per day? What if they just start to do more and more after they move out? Also why can some people go out and have one drink but others become that guy I saw on the bus stop drinking a handle of karkov straight from the bottle?

Wet and wild.

ignore her

Quick reply because I need to go afk and I can ramble way too much about this. Limitation is key and actually even better than ruling it out 100% because this is what they will have to do for themselves as an adult, indulge reasonably.

Obviously this is MUCH easier said than done. Kids have a lot of creativity and imagination, and the capacity to find most any mundane thing interesting as being a child is kind of like being on LSD, however it needs to be triggered and the boredom that comes before coming up with an idea is to a child usually hard to bear. Ideally a parent should not just restrict technology by a lot but also focus on helping a child develop regular hobbies and encouraging social interaction so it's a two-way street where there's also real life "compensation" for the appeal of tech.

Of course they can fall into a pit after they move out but that always applies, at some point it's out of your hands, all you can do is not make staring at a screen the norm when they grow up so they have a basis. Limiting your own use is VERY important for that as well.

Obviously you are going to see a huge rift, already do in fact, where rich educated folks can afford the time and money to stimulate their kids in all sorts of ways. You bet the kids of Steve Jobs etc did not get iPads and did not go to tech-oriented schools. However the parents who are poor and drained by life, who work two unstimulating jobs and get home with no energy, they are going to find it infinitely harder to then push back and force their kids away from the computer. In fact they will probably want to collapse in front of the tv themselves. So the kids of lower class parents will get less attention, learn less social skills at home, less resistance towards tech etc and this is just one more disparity and another way that they are set back in life.

As for the alcoholic, obviously it's complex. Genetics mean the high from alcohol just feels much greater and more persuasive to one person than another, but life circumstances also play a big role. Someone finding out they love to get drunk is less likely to escalate when they also have fun friends, a nice job and so on, than when their life is pretty empty and unrewarding before they figure out that getting drunk is amazing. If your parents never drank warning signs will go off much faster than if you grew up with heavy drinkers and don't have a great "compass" because passing out from drinking sometimes was just life for you and your role models. On top of this diet, amount of sleep etc play a huge role in how quickly someone turns from a functioning alcoholic into a mumbling lunatic and money and upbringing play a big role in how well you are able to nourish your body throughout abusing. Then there's straight up mental disorders like bipolar disorder that make is superhard to limit yourself and stepping away from the big issues, some people generally have an easier time delaying pleasure than others (which is, again, a mix of genes, upbringing, life experience...).

I know you're going afk so don't answer for a while, or at all, but doesn't the whole, "it's genetics and my bad upbringing" mindset sort of create an excuse not to try? Same way a 5'4" dude might say "game was rigged from the start no reason to try"

"No".
Make a confused face at her for a few seconds.
Walk away.

I’m in a similar situation with a girl who didn’t read my last message. She’s on vacation and knows I wanted to see her, so optimistically she’s keeping the notification active so she remembers to hit me up when she’s back in town. Could be the same for your girl.
But realistically they’re ignoring us because they’re not interested. I wouldn’t waste my time waiting for her reply if I were you.

It's a complex fucking topic one can fill books with, so to boil it down to absolute basics: Parenting that encourages confidence and self actualisation.

Vidya itself might be stupid but it's only harmful when used as escape from problems. So ideally a parent would take note of that and have a fucking talk; then offer alternative activities that improve the little faggot as a person and then only banning it if the little shit absolutely refused to do anything else.

>What if they just start to do more and more after they move out?
If they can afford it, at least they aren't being a complete fuck up. Though obviously it's much harder to help an adult wasting their life on vidya, since they would need to be able to acknowledge their problem and have the self discipline to do something about it.

>Also why can some people go out and have one drink but others become that guy I saw on the bus stop drinking a handle of karkov straight from the bottle?
Experience and learned impulse control.

user, you are filled with love hormones right now. You may feel like it could work, but a few months down the line when it all wears off, you are going to get tired of the distance.
Just enjoy the relationship you two have right now, but don't expect it to last.

>on tinder
>not getting many matches with women
>set my profile to "men or women"
>wake up to 65 matches
lol

t-thanks user, you have really helped me

Why are you posting this shit?

How much do people care about looks?

You guys ever feel like you were dating "the one"? When everything just makes sense and every minute with that person is enjoyable?

What do you do after that relationship ends due to unpredictable circumstances?

Good news: There's a guy I know, he's been an acquaintance of mine for a while. He's cute. I'd like to get to know him better and maybe we could go out or something.

Bad news: He broke up about a month ago and his ex-girlfriend is one of my friends. Normally it would be completely out of the question to date him, but their break-up was more of an "Incompatible lifestyles" thing that they both agreed with. Friend has cut herself off completely from I, the rest of her friend circle, and her boyfriend.

???? news: Before she left, my friend directly told me that I can have him. Even when I waved her off a little, she insisted that it's alright for me to go date him. At first I got upset at her and thought she was being way too flippant about what happened, but I didn't say anything. After thinking about it, that's not like her at all. Considering who she is, I think she just wants to make sure that he doesn't face the heartbreak alone and end up with a girl who doesn't care about him. I really wish I could ask her more about what she was getting at, but she's gone with no real way for me to contact her.

How should I approach this? I'm really tempted to ask him if he's talked to her recently and see if he knows anything about this (As far as I know, he doesn't) but we haven't talked in DMs for a while and that might be a bad way to start things off. It seems weird to just pretend like nothing's going on and suddenly message him about shared interests and all that crap, though. I'm already bad at talking to boys one-on-one, so I want to make sure I can do this right without looking like a creep who wants rebound dick.

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>at bus stop
>cute girl keeps looking at me
>bus comes
>walks forward and stands right in front of me to flag bus down
>takes weirdly long time talking to driver (maybe an extra 25%)

Did she want me to have sex with her or am I reading too much into this?

"No, I didn't. If I touched you, it was completely accidental, sorry" the same way women would get out of it.

Maybe she's dealing with those personal problems.

The female condom is worse for male pleasure than the male one because it moves, or so I have been told. In a ltr, I'd happily use contraception that isn't male condoms but it probably wouldn't be a female one.

Define "a lot". Probably about half, I'd guess.

Sounds like you did good to me bro, she wouldn't let you kiss her if she wasn't interested.

I would 100% not recommend it, but all I need in a relationship is touch, really. If you're less touch centric (check the love languages if you're unsure), it may work better for you.

No. If a man wants to only fuck sex robots then I probably didn't want him in the first place. Its kinda like asking if men are scared of semen dispensing dildos.

Yes. I think the only difference between chilling with someone and a date is the fact both of you know it's a date.

Like you would a dude and what you are comfortable with.

>Doesn't date guys
Isn't that your answer?

>Maybe she's dealing with those personal problems.
I guess, but in my mind if you have time to post memes and pictures of your cat then you can read a message

>girl i know from my group of friend
>goes to my uni
>very social girl
>in the other hand im very autistic
>friend told me that she likes me
>girl start following me on instagram
>she likes the pictures that i upload
>but every time i cross her at the uni and salute her and ask her how are you? she does not respond or say very few words and continue her way
>i thought, ok this girl doesnt want anything with me
>countinue my life

But i'm still getting likes on my pictures from her even that every time I greet her she does not talk or speak only a few words

This is strange cause with other people (girls and guy) she is very fucken social

What this means?

Girls would you be ok with a relationship where the majority of your sex was your bf eating you out

She’d be dealing with those personal problems regardless of whether you had talked to her or not. She’s ignoring you.

No. I hate oral

Receiving or giving?

Pls help

Both

oof

How do I ask a guy out if he's pathologically shy? He has a speech impediment and I don't want to put him on the spot.

I just found out my boyfriend cheated on me back in Jan. We moved in together in March. I know he hasn’t seen her since then because I always know where he is but he still talks to her a few time a week via text. Should I confront the girl?

>How do I ask a guy out if he's pathologically shy?
Isnt that very apparent?

>salute her
please tell me you're just being sarcastic and you don't actually salute her

Why would you confront the girl for your boyfriend's shitty behavior?

you will do something very very few females venture to, you will have to.. lead him.
So ask him out, plan the date, do everything, once you realize it's easier being a woman, and taking the passive role, you'll give up on him.

>once you realize it's easier being a woman, and taking the passive role, you'll give up on him.
this. once you realize being female is easy mode, you'll never initiate anything ever.

>she is very fucken social
lmao
LMAO
she is treating you worse than her peers, and you think something about this girl, damn, forget about it. She probably likes everyones posts.

I don’t see the point in confronting him because I know he’s not seeing her anymore and I don’t want to break up, we just moved in together a few months ago. But I know she still messages him and I would like her to stop and leave him alone.

he's probably ESL and salute has a secondary (less used) meeting of "greet"

what a faggot, always confront your partner, what if there was another girl, are you going to micromanage your partner's friends without him knowing, fucking delusional.

Also it's fucking rude to confront people that have relationships with your partner

If it was I wouldn't have asked.

I'm not going to give up on him, he's a friend.

I don't want life to be easy.

Go for it, strong girl ;)

You are digging yourself a whole by enabling his behavior. He shouldn't even be replying to her and it's incredibly rude of him to even humor her after cheating on you with her.

>whole
hole*

>He shouldn't even be replying to her and it's incredibly rude of him to even humor her after cheating on you with her.

I agree but it’s not that simple because the girl he cheated with, he’s been friends with her for almost 10 years. He even called her his best friend last year.

What do you tell a girl you like when she asks "what do you think of me"
RESPOND REALLY FUCKING FAST GENTS

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I was about to comment on that

who the fuck cares what she is. If you are his girlfriend, either going out is cheating, and is not okay, or is okay, and you can make him a cuck.

>If it was I wouldn't have asked.
So what makes you think that's he super shy?

I tell her the truth

what do you think of her?

Lmao I just did and I got my first girlfriend ever right now
It was that easy huh

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He's my friend and I know him enough to know he's shy.

You're welcome.

btw making girlfriend on chat is lame, dump her, and get a better gf.

I had an epiphany today. I talk with women, like a woman. I have two sisters and grew up tresting them like people and talking to them on their terms. When my little sister came home crying about school, we'd talk about her feelings and I'd make her laugh and validate her. I didn't jump straight to the typical Male response of trying to fix everything for her, but I could do that too if she wanted advice.

I've trested every girl I like like that. I figured that's just what you do with women you want to be close with. Most of the girls I've done this with have become friends. Only a handful have turned into gods. And those were always the ones I was the least interested in.

I'm an adult Male and I've made it to adulthood without having any idea how I should persue women. Everything I knew was wrong.

Really, it's no fucking wonder so many girls want to be my friend. My conversational skills are a perfect combination of Male and female conversation. The emotional support of a woman and the humor and affection of a Male.

Just fucking depressing. How was I suppose to know this was wrong?

>I have two sisters
That's pretty common if you've never had any male friends. Also males dont usually show affection towards girls if they're not girlfriends.

Guys, have any of you gone through this? How'd you get better?

Girls, why is it off putting to have a guy talk to you like another woman? Do you really not want to be validated?