What's the distinction between 'edgy' and genuinely sad thoughts?
I'm probably depressed, I have thoughts that have been described as edgy by people, but it's how I genuinely feel.
Am I immature to be having those kinds of thoughts? Should I just suck it up and be an adult? How do you know whether you have real problems?
How important are your problems? Are they things that can ruin your life? Ask stuff like that to see if you're being mopey for no reason
Describe your so-called edgy thoughts then.
Edgy people share their sadness with fucking everyone just to get a reaction and some attention.
Everyone’s dealing with shit. Focus on improving your mental health and stop making people listen to your whining.
Important is subjective. People tell me that my problems aren't that bad but...I feel like life isn't worth living if they're not solved
Basically
>tfw no bf
>I hate my appearance and it's the source of most of the problems in my life
>I can never make up for what I missed out on
>I feel subhuman
>I feel like an extra in my own life
I don't really want attention for my problems.
I'm seeing a therapist and I've tried several medications, which in itself seems edgy.
>>I feel like an extra in my own life
That’s probably the edgiest thing you said. “Edgy” is kinda subjective but I see it as expressing negative thoughts in a hyperbolic, dramatic way. It’s not edgy to feel sad, but it’s edgy to describe it like you’re giving a soliloquy in a tragedy
Ah hello there,
I am another person who has failed every potential they have and literally wasted their entire 20s on random shit. Nice to meet you!
You know how you get out of it, unironically? You do it step by step. Very small steps, eventually they will add up.
I had/have suicidal thoughts for the last 4 years of my life. But i put on a happy face for people i know, there is no reasonto bring them down. My sadness belongs to me. And i am the only person that can get myself out of it.
So are you OP. You might need some help from others about what to do or how to do them. But in the end those edgy/depressive thoughts? Yeah they dont go away. You just have to bury them deep underneath. Underneath actions, always be in motion, always be doing shit. Cause if i stop, i die..
Now that you've mentioned it, it seems like a melodramatic thought
But I can't distinguish drama-queen thoughts from regular sad thoughts by myself.
How do I learn this skill? How do I get a grip on reality instead of having all these edgy thoughts?
I really do feel like an extra in my own life though...
>So are you OP. You might need some help from others about what to do or how to do them. But in the end those edgy/depressive thoughts? Yeah they dont go away. You just have to bury them deep underneath. Underneath actions, always be in motion, always be doing shit. Cause if i stop, i die..
Yes, I definitely need to keep myself busy. I'm going to try to fill up as much of my time as possible.
> You do it step by step. Very small steps, eventually they will add up.
What kind of steps, specifically?
I just assumed you over-shared because people have described you as edgy. People typically earn that title by constantly shoehorning their emotions into conversation.
Seeing a therapist and experimenting with treatments to improve your quality of life isn’t edgy. Your problems are common symptoms of depression, and nothing to be ashamed of.
>what kind of steps?
Lets see,
Are you in the best shape you can be? Probably not, so you go jogging, or cycling. A bit further/faster than previous time every time.
Physical action will unironically impeove your mood. I know it feels like a meme, and it essentially is. I hate cycling, every rep i do on weighs feel like a chore. But i feel better in the end, i lost 50 pounds(%20+ of my hody weight), and every body who knew me before szy i look much better. I feel it is bullshit but is effecting me positively none the less. It is the opposite way if somebody was yelling you "you suck, you are worthless" all the time. A person can be conditioned to feel better, as well as feel worse.
>tfw no bf
If you are a girl, this is easy to solve short term but very hard to solve long term. Why would a boy want to date you? Are you pretty/handsome enough?(you didnt specify gender yet) are you approachable? As in are you in places or social situations where people who dont know you can come and say hi? Cause if you are not you arent "out there" enough.
What zre your hobbies, what do you do in your free time?
edgy thoughts are thoughts that you want to share with people and be like "yeah, I guess you could say I'm cool and red pilled" or whatever and get a reaction from them. In other words, like 99% of this website.
exactly
I can mostly related. The best and really only thing is to stop dwelling on that shit and improve your appearance and instead of wanting to make up on shit you missed out on, go forward and find new opportunities to experience things.
Thanks
No problem, here OP, have a "cheers" on me.
This is the first day of the rest of your life.
If you care so much about being edgy you haven’t experienced real trauma. Do you like Marilyn Manson and do you have thoughts about killing people? That’s not edgy, that makes you a faggot.
Being edgy and being an adult would be transferring your pain into art and helping people, not trying to impress or scare people with your sadness and demons.
I don't know whether what I've experienced is "real trauma", but I don't think I'm impressive. I think I'm pretty pathetic, actually.
The only time I talk about my feelings is when I feel like it's getting out of control and I need someone to talk to just to feel better. Sometimes that ends up being the samaritans, which is anonymous.
Same user, I don’t really have support in my life. Never have. I’m lucky I’m not dead.
Why do you think it's that way?
Edge is usually out to get a reaction, while sadness is the kind of thing that tends to isolate itself in adults.
We decry 'edgy' people because most of them pull 'we live in a society' bullshit without A) realizing they're part of the problem anyway nor B) attempting to do anything besides complain.
In practice, usually sadness has many forms, but all edge wants is to be noticed.
What about teenage angst that manifests itself as a propensity for solitude and not opening up to people? That's still 'edgy' and 'immature' and something you're supposed to grow out of, right?
Depends and as a guy very guilty of it, my distinction is this; 99.99% of the time, excepting when I'm being coy with my girlfriend, I genuinely want to be left the fuck alone because I abhor myself. I have no selfies; I have a record like, three pictures of me with my girlfriend. I hate my face. I hate looking at me. I hate myself deeply and fully, and so I segregate myself out of that self loathing.
Never once do I bring it up unbidden, I usually just try to slide sideways out of social situations. Of course, it's all teenage repression, but I don't really care. It's gotten me this far.
What would turn it from 'a little dumb but still kinda tragic' to 'yeah no you're edgy' would be being one it those fafgs who says they hate themselves and then has an Instagram just fucking DROOLING for attention. To have a blog where you constantly need to be noticed
Basically, it becomes edge when you act like a tranny and need to be noticed FOR that, rather than for anything else on Earth; for instance rather than my abject pessimism, I prefer to be noted for being kind of a physical freak (double jointed) and for my ludicrous typing and reading speeds, as well as the natural stride with which I play video games.