Everyone else has to keep texting them till they're annoyed or show the slightest interest
>be me >be 18 >graduated HS this year >girl I was school friends with all year seemed to like me a lot >Text her after graduation a bit and ask about what shes doing for summer job and how it feels to be done with HS >She always text back w/ answer, but never says much. >last text I say good luck at Uni from Instagram post, she just says thank you >don't text her for almost two weeks now, and she never texts me
I guess that means she doesn't give shit about me. Not even enough to be my friend.
I am ugly, and short, but not socially inept, her and her friends went out of their way to talk to me and thought I was hilarious, and I am in good shape to where people comment on it all the time. My hygiene is good
All you people saying "get fit 2 get girls" and all you people saying "it's personality that gets girls" are liars..fuck you guys
You didn't ask her out why the fuck would she text you back you moron
Ryan Wright
>shows no indication of interest to girl >"s-she doesn't like me, u-u guys lied" holy immaturity
Levi Lee
Wait a second, why does she have to think I like her to text me back?
Sebastian Lewis
Hell, I keep fucking texting her don't I?
And I don't mean text back, but at least say something like "hey, how's summer going so far" or anything. She's totally fine with just never talking to me again
Ryder Richardson
So is it too late for OP?
Landon Lewis
Shut the fuck up and stop overthinking it. If you like a girl, ask her out. You're not an archaeologist, and she's not texting hieroglyphics.
Grayson Morales
nah girls will text plenty of guys they don't like romantically
Nolan Lopez
Would you really stay in touch with her if you weren’t going to pursue a relationship?
I’m sorry man this ship has clearly sailed. If you can figure out what the issue was you may be able to change the outcome in the future though.
I had a lot of rejection in my youth as well. The funny part is how I get more attention from women then I’ve ever had in my youth.
If I told my younger self what life would be like down the road I would have never believed it. You may find a similar transformation yourself as you age.
There is something to be said for the whole ugly duckling and beautiful swan thing.
Fortunately, it is not complicated getting to a woman’s heart. It may not be easy, but it is certainly not complicated.
All else fails there’s one guaranteed way to get women’s attention. Money.
Don’t rob a band or anything, but if you can plan for the long run and come up with a way to get a lot of money. I’m not shitting you dude women will just start appearing like fucking magic. One day your just walking along doing your thing then one day you’re like “omg I don’t remember there being this many women around here.”
Then if you’re broke they just disappear. I don’t even know they like climb up into the trees or something it’s like magic. I’m 5’6”.
Christian Brown
she has no idea what the fuck is your mind and probably just sees you as a school acquaintance
Ethan Brown
Op here
also 5'6"
>I’m sorry man this ship has clearly sailed This is what I was afraid of, but I guess its best to accept it early.
I am going to be going to community college next year, and honestly I don't know if I will be able to meet girls like I could in HS. I know at 21 guys go out bar hoping, but I don't think I'd really like girls like that. At this community college orientation I saw no girls. I am in CS btw
Also I guess I am afraid of rejection, honestly I feel better having you tell me ship has sailed than I would if she said something like, I don't really like you.
I have confidence, but I feel like id lose it all if I was rejected by someone I got along with so well
fuck off you stupid shit head, shes not some party whore who needs to be told that her ass is "lookin' hella phat" just to feel good. She likes those little comments and shes too shy for anything else.
How many girls have you talked to? Probably 0, so fuck off
Ryder Parker
>She likes those little comments and shes too shy for anything else then why are you bitching about her ghosting you lmao
Zachary Perez
That's bullshit. I'm gorgeous and no one likes me
Tyler Price
user, he is right. an occasional comment in person directed at her appearance is fine but texting them compliments like these is unneeded
Ayden Morales
>Girls only text guys they like Yes that's correct. In fact that's what everyone does. >WHY ISN'T SHE TEXTING ME? Because she obviously isn't interested in you mate.
Connor Flores
dude, you're just a pen pal. you've already been friendzoned. invite her out or better yet, stop responding. if she's interested, she'll ping you. then casually invite her out. odds are she's not interested, but this is the best way to maximize your chances. in the meantime, ignore her and pursue other women
Juan Gomez
You actually have to express your interest in a woman to get them, user. They need to be chased, it's in their nature. You have to ask them out, flatter them, be bold. That's confidence. That's attractive. If you never ask, you'll never get. It won't be because you're short or ugly, it will be because you think they will come to you. Stop it. I want to literally slap you.
David Gutierrez
Send here a dick pic
Isaiah King
Only text girls for logistics and to arrange meetups. Your mistake is trying to chat. Try inviting her somewhere.
Yeah, girls don't text first unless it's for logistics or they fancy you and want attention. Get over it.
Jacob Wood
She didn't ghost me cause she always replies. She just never sends me a message if I don't message first.
Jordan Lopez
> I'm gorgeous and no one likes me I've heard this before
Look, I've seen people be complete assholes to the hottest girls literally telling them to fuck off, and they still won't leave them alone cause they want them so bad.
I've seen awkward weird dudes who are tal land have good face have girls flirt with them like crazy.
Never have I seen a girl do this for a short guy, or a guy with an ugly (but clean and acne free) face. It just doesn't happen, and instead I see these guys get ghosted by girls, who "just wanted a friend"
Why would she say thanks, when she could have ignored it if it was so cringe?
Owen Peterson
You guy's seem to be in a world of your own.
Girls only go for short/ugly guys if they have a perfect personality, and even then its up in the air.
Those types of guys have to do lots of chatting, and social status building to get anywhere with girls. They can't just ask them out and have it go their way
Hell, the other day I asked the ugliest girl to go to a bar with me. She said "eh, you're not really my type sorry". I swear no guys would hit on her in a million years, I just wanted to see, but nope.
But go ahead, keep spouting your >just be confident and look like desperate fool, destroying all the dignity you have to work with bullshit
>Your mistake is trying to chat Every guy who gets girls that I know chats with girls over text and in person first before asking them out lmao
Owen Gomez
>hahahahaha
ABORT ABORT ABORT ABORT
You have lost all interest.
Anthony Wood
Speaking as a clinical social retard here is my best tips. 1. You would marry her yesterday. She might marry you in 10 years. You have to ask yourself. Am I asking 4channel for help because I am happy or because I am not happy. Calmly walk away from things that get you pain. Unfortunately your lady friend is one of the things you should walk away from.
Nicholas Jenkins
If you don't at least try you stand no chance. Good on you for at least giving it a try. I can only suggest working on yourself until you feel happy regardless of females, then approach. It is always likely that you'll be rejected. I've been rejected many times. But I've also got girls way out of my league just by having the balls to flirt with them directly. I hope you make it user.
Asher Price
Attraction IS NOT the same as physical beauty
Tattoo this on the inside of your eyelids if you have to.
Angel Turner
>I guess that means she doesn't give shit about me. Not even enough to be my friend. 2. Women don't analyze things like we do. You want to be treated better than she probably treats some of her girl friends. In her mind the two of you have a good distant relationship. In your mind the two of you have a bad close relationship. She is not bad and your are not bad. Understand that she is a square hole and you are a circle peg.
Owen Miller
I'm available orbiter.
Bentley Moore
>All you people saying "get fit 2 get girls" and all you people saying "it's personality that gets girls" are liars..fuck you guys
Yeah these are some interesting text conversations. How can anyone read this and not think "omg this guy, such personality, such hilarity".
Grow some balls and call her. Have an actual conversation. Unless you're one of those losers that can only "talk" to someone even in the same room via text, if you date someone you're going to actually have to talk to them.
>I have confidence, but I feel like id lose it all if I was rejected by someone I got along with so well
Why do you bother lying to yourself?
Noah Morris
bump
Levi Robinson
>lemme know how it goes
There, now if she texts you back you keep a dialogue rolling, if not she isn’t interested. Fucking hell, dude.
Liam Ross
>I'm still beautiful, but people just aren't attracted to me
Everyone is "beautiful". Being attractive is something else entirely. It's not what you are, it's what you do.
Oliver Kelly
Another cuckold detected
Dylan Scott
Yeah cause you clearly know what she likes. That's why your here.
Aaron Thompson
they dont think its cringe, they think its beta.
Dylan Morgan
>inviting a girl to hang out is desperate
What's desperate is assuming a girl won't like you so spending ages friendzoning yourself by making inane, tentative chit chat where you say nothing.
Chatting is very different to logistics and teasing.
Logistics: hey you going to x? Ok see you there Teasing: banter in very short back and forths every now and then Chat: hey how are you, yeah I'm good thanks...
Guaran fucking tee your friends aren't chit chatting. I've been in a relationship for 2 years and if I'm bored and start actually chatting to my gf over text, I sense her getting bored within 3 messages or so. And she fucking loves me. It's not women's, but people's natures, they don't give a shit.
Wyatt Diaz
Dude the ship hasn't sailed at all. She knows you, she responds to you positively. You don't need to fear rejection, you're going to make her chase you.
Joshua Thomas
>Dude the ship hasn't sailed at all I want to believe, but the rest of the thread seems to think that there is nothing I can do to save this.
I honestly don't know what I should do at this point except wait till I see her in person again. Maybe there is something I should do when I see her?
I will be seeing her in person again at this event my HS does where graduated students share with new freshmen their plans, and advice.
Also I was gonna go to the uni she enrolled at, but I have to do two years in CC cause $$
>>lemme know how it goes
>There, now if she texts you back you keep a dialogue rolling, if not she isn’t interested. Fucking hell, dude.
I wish I had thought of this... then she would have at least had a reason to text me back if she wanted to.
Still, if she thought of me, wouldn't she just say "Hey, hows summer been going?"
I just don't know if she was just being nice the whole time.
I do know what she likes because they make her blush, what I don't know is if she likes me
Joshua Morris
bump
Caleb White
Persist in missing my point if you must, it's only you that will suffer.
Nathan Moore
If your point is that you can somehow make yourself attractive by doing things despite your initial appearance you're wrong.
People are not so intelligent, or at least diligent enough that they bother to see past basic appearance
I can come up with countless examples. The picture is just one of them, where we both know if that person had everything else going for them girls would still be offput.
If this is not your point please explain what it is or how I am missing it?
the difference is they will still take it as a compliment, but chances are she has heard the compliment before and you just look desperate by reassuring her of what she already knew. girls prefer a guy who plays somewhat hard to get and doesn't give off the impression that she is the only girl hes talking to.
Daniel Sanders
Not really. I'm a guy who befriends women easily. One of them is actually my best friend in the talk and hang out almost every day sense. She's not romantically interested whatsoever. But that isnt to day her texting first can't be a good sign - just don't read into it .
Jackson Richardson
you cannot build intimacy via text messages so stop using that as your primary method of communication
yes, the ship has fucking sailed. you can talk to her next time you see her but for the love of god stop texting
Aaron Reed
We bred them that way.
My point, dude, is that women don't necessarily see men as walking sculptures to be admired or compared to Michelangelo's David. Women see men as potential lives. If a man is interesting, funny, successful and smart, she will jump onto that ship regardless of his looks. Women see opportunity in men. Sexual desire is only a part of it, and this can be produced by sufficient quantities of the others. Women are not visual creatures except when looking at each other. I get that you feel like you're never going to be loved. All I can say is work out, focus your mind, find something in life to believe in, and strive towards a better life. Changing your life is the only thing that will ever change your luck with women. It's not something only you have to do, we all have to contend with this fucked social hierarchy we're put in. You either climb or you die lonely. This concludes my advice to you.
Evan Cox
Just because someone shows interest in you doesn't mean they actually want to date you. Girls interact with attractive guys all the time, so they can simultaneously find a guy attractive but not boyfriend material.
But yeah if you have to force the conversation, don't force it. Just let it die.
Ethan Davis
>girls prefer a guy who plays somewhat hard to get and doesn't give off the impression that she is the only girl hes talking to.
what if im dealing with a shy self conscious girl, does the same apply ?
