My bf CANNOT accept my past and its killing our relationship

my bf CANNOT accept my past and its killing our relationship

I was promiscuous as a teenager and I have no problem admitting it, those days are long gone, but they seem to bother him and I can tell he never stops thinking about them. we recently had a fight because he asked me what was the wildest thing Ive done. now Im not stupid, I know its a trap and Im not gonna actually answer that, so I choose something kind of tame and told him I paid for an uber ride with a handjob three years ago. he was distant from me for two fuckin weeks for that alone. imagine if he actually got to know me

is this relationship doomed from the start?

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lmao yeah prob

>is this relationship doomed from the start?
Yes. Some people don't respect that sort of lifestyle. I distanced myself from my best friend after she went on an alcohol and sex binge for two months after breaking up with two boyfriends within 5 months of each other.

Once a hoe always a hoe. I’d keep apart from u too

this sounds like a incel larping as the kind of girl he likes to get mad at in his head lmao

if you are a real girl, then get yourself a boyfriend who isn't a incel and won't be like EW GROSS YOU HAVE CUMMIES ON YOU DON'T TOUCH ME REEEEEE he'd instead be like "haha hell yeah that's awesome free uber ride wooooo"

>told him I paid for an uber ride with a handjob three years ago
Hot

Once a whore always a whore

Break up with him, he deserves better

You're disgusting.

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Kinda. It's no stretch to say, and you could figure it out knowing him as you do, that instead of genuine digust for that behaviour it's just his insecurity manifesting. A quasi-jealousy, dread at the idea of you having taken so many men to town (the image of you being with anyone else alone) and the ever present chance of cheating. If it's the case, I'd try to heal the relationship with more visible but not phony interest on your behalf, display of committment and your "evolution" from that stage of your life.

Then again, if he is that distraught and shows no sign of change, it can also be him on a high horse. Sure, I'd prefer to be with a woman with a body count that isn't three times mine, but most of those mental gymnastics simply show immaturity, an inability to stop fixations on shit, an anxiety line of thought.

I wouldn't date someone like that if they're so fickle or stubborn, showing no signs of improvement if you put in the time and effort.

Not gonna lie, it is pretty hot. Is that something you actually did OP? What's really the wildest thing you've done?

the cels are ornery tonight yeehaw

and loving it.

There's the catch: it's his problem. You can only present yourself in that way, advise/help him with some shit, etc. But it's ultimately his responsibility. If he's that weak on his own, the relationships falters and, well, it will keep fucking you over as it currently is. Now there's a choice for you: keep at it with a different approach, or cut it off.

>I was promiscuous as a teenager and I have no problem admitting it, those days are long gone
Sluts like you do not deserve love, you do realize this, right?

You had a choice to make: Have a wild life with hundreds of sexual partners and never find love, or have a moderate sex life and find true love with the right guy. You chose the first option and somehow believes you get to have the second option despite that, you don't.

Every action has a reaction, every choice has a consequence. Learn to accept this sad truth about life and live the rest of your days in a promiscuous loveless way.

You don't have to be an incel to not like whores.

>I was a slut in high school
>is my relationship doomed?
Yup

I have a trillion cells in my body
They sure as hell ain't lonely

Male user here. My gf was a virgin, but I fucked a looot of girls before her. I didn't say anything about my past, honestly, that shit will just hurt someone.

Any whores or manwhores reading this----just tell your partner you had "a few" prior boyfriends or girlfriends, leave it at that.

What someone doesn't know, won't hurt them.

>Ive been with men and women of all shapes and sizes, young and "old", and now sex is just an activity for me.
>which in a way makes me more trustworthy
Do you even read what you just typed? Do you realize how fucking retarded you sound right now? You see sex as a fucking activity instead of lovemaking, and you wonder why your bf is disgusted by your past!

Seriously, what the fuck did your parents teach you when you were a kid?

If a man is the sum of his actions, then what is a woman? A man does not wake up one day and become a millionaire, he has spent his past working towards his success. If you are ashamed and angry of being treated as a whore in the present, then you shouldnt have been a slut in the past. If a man committs murder, then is reformed over 20 years, just because he turns a new leaf doesnt mean hes no longer a murderer. Just because you are monogamous now, doesnt mean youre no longer a whore. The fact that youre upset at your boyfriend for not accepting your past proves my point.

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I saw it as an adventure actually and I wanted to have many... to understand the various aspects of life. if a person doesnt fulfill all of their desires theyll always be wanting something they didnt have, wondering what its like. Ive done everything I can think of wanting... I am pretty much good now

they're not gonna like that

>Ive done everything I can think of wanting... I am pretty much good now
So why are you still alive? What do you get out of life?

No. It sounds like an obvious baiter larping as bait.

So what you are saying is you are "settling" with your BF? "I am pretty much good now" translates to "I've had better, I've had worse, you are okay". For a man that lacks confidence and wants a partner that is supportive and makes him feel strong will feel like shit if you state that since you've been around the World you are fine with his shitty countryside shack.

>I saw it as an adventure actually
You saw sex as an adventure rather than love making, and wonder why people are disgusted by you? Seriously?

Were you raised in a broken family by a single mother or something? Or perhaps abused as a child?

>if a person doesnt fulfill all of their desires theyll always be wanting something they didnt have, wondering what its like.
I have always wondered what it would feel like to violently rape a random hot woman I find on the streets, yet I don't fucking do it because it is obviously wrong and imoral. Being a slut is also wrong and imoral, and yet you see it as a fucking "adventure" and don't fucking understand why you should not do it! It is almost as if you have no notion of right and wrong or morality!

So again I ask you, did you grow up in a broken family? Because that would totally explain why you have no sense of morality. Would not fix your shitty relationship by itself but could totally help in doing so if you explained to your boyfriend WHY you acted the way you did and how he is helping you fix your shitty life.

Yeah yeah whatever whore

Bitch that's literally prostitution
I mean it's his fault for dating a prostitute, but bitch that's not casual sex that's prostitution.
But an uber ride?
...
Bitch you wanna make some motherfucking money?

There’s an option to pay with a handjob? Damn I’ve been paying money like a dip shit all these years!

FakeUber slut

Cringe.

lmao this thread is so sad

yes OP its doomed because youre a slut who decided to fuck an insane amount of guys. ffs you gave a handjob to an old guy for...an uber? like imagine what that says about your values and who you are. and the fact that you thought it was funny says a lot about you too

hopefully this guy can leave you and find a girl actually worth keeping. and if you dont think what youre doing is that bad, once youre done with this poor guy i dare you to go and tell your next boyfriend everything youve done and see what his reaction is. other than rare instances i GUARANTEE he'll be turned off

and this is all coming from someone who dated a girl like you before along with girls on the other side of the spectrum and all in between. the ones who were promiscuous are much more likely to cheat and be whores as its in your mindset from such a young age

good luck to your boyfriend

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How long have you guys been dating? It's up to him if he can move past this. I struggled hard to deal with my boyfriends past history. We love each other much and I wouldn't dump him over his past. He said he regretted it and feels bad he did it which helped me feel a lot better. It still hurts now but if I don't think about it ill forget it. I would talk to him more about it and reassure you don't care for that lifestyle and say you're committed to him and try to help him cope with this. You should talk about it over the phone so nothing gets misunderstood over text.

t. Cumbrain

Kek

Just as it is your right to not feel bad about your past, is it his to dislike you for it.
If it has reached the point where you feel justified to lie to him then maybe you should break it off

>paid for an uber with a handjob
...how? they auth your card when you hail the cab

Even though this guy is a little bit too black and white about it, kind of this. Bf is running the gauntlet.

>instead be like "haha hell yeah that's awesome free uber ride wooooo"
If you speak in that manner to anybody at all you should end yourself.

Some guys dont accept that stuff, incels will tell you that you are damaged goods while feminists will tell you should be as slutty as you want with no consequence, i think the truth is somewhere in between

The past is the past, you cant change it and neither can he. So if it really bothers him that much it seems pretty doomed yes. I think the core of the issue is whether people believe people change

Personally i think its healthy to fuck around a little before you settle down, but being a super slut will often haunt you later like this is an example of

A friend of mine was single for over 10 years before she met her current (ex)bf and this was an issue for them as well. I dont have the exact number of sex partners she had, but at least 50-70 i would think and this has always bothered him

To be honest though, i think this deep down bothers men, even the ones that say its fine. Men always compare themselves to each other and being "the best" in the sack is super important to them. If you fucked around a lot, the chances of them being the biggest and best becomes a point of insecurity and if that takes over it will eat away at both them and the relationship

tl;dr: Being slutty if you want, but it might come back to haunt you and there is really fuck all you can do about it once the cat is out of the bag

>its obviously insecurity
Why do women pretend that when there is something wrong with them its everyone else's fault?
You're a used up slut.
Its nor his fault, get over your ego.
In fact, humble yourself and if you can't regret what you did, break it off with him, because noone deserves a slut who blames people for the shit she did.
>b-but it was a good ecxerience in my life
Well everything has a price, deal with it.
If your boyfriend wasn't insecure he wouldn't even date you. He would throw your ass to the curb. He isn't insecure, because he is mad at you for being a slut. He is insecure because he dien't dumo you yet. Typical male phenomenon. He really cares about you and as such he feels like breaking up with you would destroy all the emotional investment he made into you. His insecurity comes from the dissonance between his investment and you being a slut. It comes from you. You are the problem. You are the source of his suffering.

>Personally i think its healthy to fuck around a little before you settle down
Based on what? Evidence indicates that it's correlated to divorce.

you sound like a really stupid bitch wow

Move along, folks

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this has to be a troll right? or is this the absolute state of fucking zoomers?

Based on my personal views and based on the fact that divorce rates are actually going down in the younger generation compared to their parents

>Evidence indicates that it's correlated to divorce.
What evidence? Correlation is not causation and i'd imagine if you marry virgins, divorce is also a a big no go because of your values and beliefs

Sex is a pretty damn important part of any relationship and you should really try it a couple of times with someone before you tie the knot. If people magically knew exactly what person they should spend the rest of their live with then this would not be a problem, but you know, people break up

Society has changed and so has our relationship and sexual habits. Almost no one settles in their teens any longer, and when you settle later in life, chances are, your partner would have had more sex partners and so would you

Imo, complete abstinence is not healthy but neither is being a complete thunder slut either. If you give away handjobs for milkshakes and blowjobs for rides then it says something about your values

On my phone atm where's that literally Hitler tripfag when you need him. Not that I'd convince you of anything even if I had the study on hand but couldn't just let it go unchallenged.

>Correlation is not causation
But sometimes it is.
>Imo
Inconsequential paragraph.

men want virgins without tattoos, not a girl thats going to get recognized by three guys she had a foursome with when you are out together. his reaction makes perfect sense to me

Younger generations fuck less. Check the studies

That's the loneliest thing I ever read.

First off, you seem to already know this but in case you don't, there's no reason to feel gross, guilty, or undesirable because of wanting and getting something that everyone wants.

I'd recommend dodging these questions all together. Obviously he can't handle knowing this stuff about you, so it's best to just not tell him. Personally I think a relationship where two people can't accept the other's past is already on a rocky bridge to begin with, but if you really really want to take it as far as it will go, tell him what he wants to hear.

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You're doing a lot of mental gymnastics there
>I wanted to have many
>I saw it as an adventure
Do you even hear how vapid you sound? If you weren't an empty shell of a human being you'd explore creative hobbies, not whore yourself out because you have slutty desires.
He doesn't want a used-to-be pass-around slut. Go wonder.

For a guy it's healthy to fuck around because biologically we're built as polyamorous creatures - we're built to pump women full of cum. Women by biology are monoamorous - the easiest way to prove that is that they can get pregnant. That's why for women it's healthier to have regular sex with as few partners as possible.

So your advice is to lie. Beautiful

this entire thread is just jealous men mad at the fact that 99% of women can get their rocks off by downloading tinder or just asking for it

keep doing what you're doing, use protection or whatever

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Why would anyone be mad at social standards? Yes when you're a woman you literally only need to apply makeup if you're hideous and not be a completely vapid unresponsive piece of shit to get laid but come on dude

Would you marry a slut?

if she was hot yeah

>so I choose something kind of tame and told him I paid for an uber ride with a handjob three years ago
holy shit if that's tame then what the fuck have you been up to lmao

>based on the fact that divorce rates are actually going down in the younger generation compared to their parents
well considering younger generations fuck less I guess that correlation is holding up.

That's the joys of being a slut, baby.

>paid for an uber with a hand job
>tame

No self respecting man is gonna want your skanky ass.

Ain't that a story you've heard a thousand times.

So, a vapid person would marry another vapid person
I guess it was a stupid question

i guess so

Yeah it's his problem that he got into a relationship with a slut that has 0 respect for herself

Guys don't find it attractive when girls have no respect for them. This hot half brazillian girl I had some good times with was like this. All about that "strong independent woman" shit but no self-confidence and a character more brittle than chinese tableware

I mean she was hot but fuck that private school then art university bullshit I mean holy shit I thought it was a joke that those 2 things were red flags but oh fuck are they blood red

>on the fact that divorce rates are actually going down in the younger generation compared to their parents
And the younger generation is generally having less sex.

This guy basing his love life off social science studies kek

He is basing his entire identity on meme graphs.

>lol who need information anyways XD

Tell us the shit you've done. It'a hard to give you advice

Looks like a bait. SAGE

What do you expect when your 'tame' story is giving a guy a hand job for a car ride? Even if you've stopped dropping your pottery, it will forever be cracked. Your relationship, and future ones are fucked.

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Imagine being this much of a cuck

If you seriously refuse to touch any girl who has had a sexual history, then you can scratch attractive women from your list of options, as well as women with an attractive personality, women who are just kinda cute and funny, pretty much any woman who is desirable in any way has had sex, multiple times.
At a certain age, if she didn't, she is probably mentally ill in some sort of way, huge red flag.
You are a delusional.

>cuck
Imagine being such an incel as to use this word without knowing what it means.

Cuck means that girls have sex with guys other than me.
If you get rejected by a girl and she gets with somebody else, you are a cuck.
If you break up with a girl and she gets a new boyfriend, you are a cuck.
If a girl has had sex before she met you, you are a cuck.
Etc. etc.

The only way to not be a cuck is to never talk to girls and be scared of them.

Being the village bicycle and having had sex before aren't the same thing.

>Whoring out during teenage years on the level a normal person would only expect from a porn star is the same as having any sexual history
Biology and anatomy defines whoring out as (a female) having more than one partner during less than two weeks consistently for any period of time.

literally just "no"

>Biology and anatomy defines
literally where lmao
Please show me some papers or encyclopedias that define it this way, since you clearly think there is scientific consensus on this somehow lol
Btw, anatomy is part of biology, Mr. Science

>Literally where
In this thing called a vagina and how it's essentially its own microorganism that exudes more and more vile fumes the more dicks it's had inside of it in a short period of time - usually 2 weeks is how long it takes for a pussy to "clean itself" after one dick
Look it up yourself and be amazed at the fact that I am right
Here's some teenage blog after a lazy google because I am a benevolent god:
shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/why-having-sex-new-partner-can-mess-your-vagina-balance
I know anatomy is part of biology. I should have typed "biology, anatomy to be exact" for your illiterate ass.

Can't tell if serious or bait but here goes anyway.

Life style blogs are not scientific papers, shockingly enough. Also "Microorganisms can fuck up your vagina" is equivalent to "This many partners makes you a whore!!! REEEE"?
That's neither a definition nor does it support what you said in any way. You simply linked a tangentially (at best) related blogpost.
You said "Biology and anatomy defines..." (btw who is the illiterate if you are too retarded to type it out properly lmao) but you have not shown me a scientific definition at all or even ANY definition of the word "whore".
Having chemical imbalances in your vagina (which can happen through many avenues btw) doesn't make you a whore, retard, and certainly doesn't scientifically define you as one.
The (literal) blogpost you linked even states this does not happen if you use condoms.
Are you then anatomically (lmao I have to restate how ridiculous and bizarre your entire premise is) NOT a whore, as long as you use condoms? Should logically follow, since none of the "vile fumes" (very scientific term) can form.
Also, this obviously doesn't happen to 100% of women who have a lot of sex, so are they not whores, since none of this happens?

So to summarize, not only is your singular article neither scientific, nor does it even really prove your point at all (remember, you claimed there is a scientific definition for whore, I defy you to find a paper, encyclopedia or any sort of scientific publication that tries to define the word "whore" in terms of "anatomy" - btw, I think you hardly understand what anatomy is, really.)
NOR do I believe you even fully grasped what that blogpost even is about, since from your level of understanding it states that a vagina somehow has it's own "microorganism" (just one? lol), that "exudes more and more vile fumes the more dicks it's had inside".

This is some next level underage cope or brilliant bait. In either case, top levels of mental gymnastics, my hats off to you.

>In this thing called a vagina and how it's essentially its own microorganism that exudes more and more vile fumes the more dicks it's had inside of it in a short period of time

What the fuck did I just read holy shit

Your relationship is already fucked. I'm not even sure you deserve a relationship if that's what you consider 'tame'.

When will you learn that your actions have consequences.

... cont

You don't seem to care at all about his feelings. He deserves better.

Holy shit you're one rare sperg needless to say tl dr

Incel pseudoscience.

Good bait must be subtle, retard.

lol this girl is gonna have to literally lie to all of her partners for the rest of her life bc most men wont find anything she did in the past ok. she can never in her life be 100% truthful without the reaction her bf had

hope you had fun doing the shit you did, it sure did affect you in the long run

This.

Anybody who is completely okay with your whore past doesn't actually value you. It's not as if it's nothing.

It's about as bad as a guy wasting his early adult years doing useless shit like vidya all day err day except worse, a guy can reform, get an education, get rich and it'll mostly wipe away the shame. Being a slut as a girl is a lot different, you're just not going to be the same or rather, you'll either get insecure guys, cucks, or guys who are fine with you being a slut. They'll be fine with you being a slut only because they won't love you more than you love them, else they turn into either guy 1 or guy 2.

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