25 male
If she doesn't seem to be putting in effort, and she knows I like her, is it time to give up?
25 male
Need more here user. How long do you know this girl and how?
Thats retarded perspective. In every single relationship one will be more active than the other. Ask her on date and fuck her brains out.
Or realize she isnt worth the effort anymore and either lower the efforr (instead of zoo and chill simply do netflix and chill) or indeed give up and see if she will ever text you on her own.
We did go on one date. It was supposed to be meeting for coffee but ended up going longer and we had supper together it was nice. She takes super long replying to texts but it didn't seem to change before/after the date. Afterwards I straight up asked if she was into me and she effectively said she needs more time to decide. I brought up the topic of a second date shortly after but the problem is she's always "busy". Going out with her friends, activities etc... so I'm beginning to lose my patience pulling the weight here and trying to make this happen. If I don't text she will text first but I'm not sure that's very significant. I had the urge to give up now because I suggested the date and she suggested next week Monday/Tuesday even though before she said she was free this week. Should I hold her to that or is that an asshole move?
You are overthinking nonsense and putting extra pressure on her which only makes you look like clingy loser.
Ask her on date. If she flakes, then it truly means she isnt interested. Dont say anything else to her, that is rude. In the meantime find new girl to ask on date while you keep this one on backburner.
And most importantly: DONT OVERTHINK BULLSHIT. If she cant be arsed to find time see you, simply move on but dont make drama out of it.
>You are overthinking nonsense and putting extra pressure on her which only makes you look like clingy loser.
You're drawing conclusions based off no evidence. In fact I've never double texted and asked for her availability to plan something... nothing more.
>straight up asked if she is into me
There, your evidence. Analogy is very close to proclaiming your love to somebody who doesnt even know your name.
Stop taking dating so seriously. Chill. Nothing with women is binary logic. They have a whole spectrum of
>i hate you
>i love you
And funnily enough you can be both at the same time. Chill.
dude you're wayyy too sensitive and defensive to be dating. go ahead and keep bugging this girl, she'll lose interest in you, then try again with a different girl. repeat until you finally get it
>There, your evidence. Analogy is very close to proclaiming your love to somebody who doesnt even know your name.
proclaiming love by saying she's "into me"? I don't think so
>Chill
quality Jow Forumsice
I didn't know someone could be too sensitive for dating. What's the ultimate fate of those types?
If she knows you want to be her boyfriend and she doesn't want to be your girlfriend then you can just move on from this.
Ask her out, if she says no then move the fuck on
i've been in the same situation user, in today's society, girls have a lot of options and are relatively promiscuous in nature. where you might have her as the only girl you're talking to, she probably has a good amount of guys she's talking to. im assuming this is your first experience with dealing with these types of girls so im going to let you in on something. the more interested you seem in a girl, the more likely she is to take advantage of and manipulate you. women are truly evil and operate in this way. in your case, i would try and pull back on that interest, and see if she reaches out. if she doesn't, either hit her back up after some time or move on. i would also get the idea out of your head of dating this girl, she will likely drive you crazy. treat her as a fwb and dont bring up the idea of dating unless she does first.
>I didn't know someone could be too sensitive for dating. What's the ultimate fate of those types?
the fate for these types is learning how to not be overly sensitive through failure and eventually succeeding in dropping this aspect of your personality after having your heart broken x amount of times.
Fuck her really hard and see if anything changes
>guys, she's made zero indication she likes me or is interested in dating me
>do i still have a chance?
come on
No that's an optimistic change in behavior, but thanks for your anecdotal insight
You know this thread actually changed my mood considerably for the better. Since making it I've completely forgotten about this girl and remembered I still have one more who I can fuck and still have my career to occupy my time other than that. Wow Jow Forums was actually useful for the odd time in 15 fucking years of wasting my life here.
Sorry it's 12 years for those who will get on my case
I am sorry to do this but, here we go.
Dude if she replies with "I need more time", it means no. People have time, if they are constantly busy you are just not that important to them. This goes for guys and girls, so this is also an answer she gave you.
Sheesh, man you need to learn to read between the lines. You sound like a 16 year old. It's also a little strange to post a feels dude when you have been on 1 date. You are barely friends.
I am sorry, I don't mean to be insulting but you don't have a chance. Move on.
>Women are truly evil
Pic related
Their fate is change or date a fat cat lady or something, because women don't want someone who makes them feel like they're on eggshells.
Nobody does.
I'm sorry for you, you apologized twice to someone you don't even know. Do you realize we're posting on an anonymous message board and I can verbal thought process here with zero consequences?