ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

>Is it just me or does every girl that is wife or gf material out there have a boyfriend?
Most of the sluts have a bf too. The fact is that they get targeted even doing not much, so it's hard that a good girl doesn't get noticed for very long. A male on the otherside might be very passive and still be single and a decent candidate even later on in life. This isn't the rule tho, usually those that are singles are like that for a good reason. Me included.

Grills rate this "date request" plan I have

>be me
>at the library, reading also waiting for the girl to finish her studying
>walk home together (as we live close together)
>near the end of our common route
'So, what are your plans after your last exam?'
"Whatever she responds here"
'Wanna go see a movie together?'

Is it clear I am asking her out
Would it be weird if she asks "who else is comming" and I respond with "just the two of us?"
I will start the conversation near the end of the route so if the answer is a definite no she can bolt to her home
If she happens to say yes should I have a list of movies that appear and hours memorized or should i go for the "dunno what playing, I'll go home and check what's playing and offer her a few different movies and hours"?

Well without asking her out I would consider her a friend and she sees me as a friend as well

For what reason specifically? I can only assume you're talking about dating older in your late 20's for younger women in their early 20's.

I'm 22 and haven't dated in 6 years since all the women I'm interested in have bf's already. Kind of feel like I missed the starting gun for a race or something, or many I have some grand delusion if true or romantic love still stuck in my head and that's why I'm so disappointed and impatient.

Maybe would pick a movie you actually want to see instead of going for some cliche movie for dates. It will also give some hint on how you are and what you like. Pity most movies are shit today. Anyway it seems acceptable plan overall.

I'd say to offer to get some food, and maybe you can throw in the movie when you're planning the date with her.

I've been meeting with this girl for a month now for sex and simply hanging out. She has an ex bf that she still loves and they separated about a year ago. According to her I'm the first person she had sex with after him. At first she was really into me, saying how I helped her forgot her ex-bf and I don't think it was a lie, the sex was amazing. But recently she started talking about how she doesn't feel it or something like that, I was kinda drunk so I barely remember, saying how she doesn't feel ready for a relationship. I took that as a sign that she never even liked me and simply used me as a stand-in for her ex-bf (we're both depressed alcoholics) so I said it's over. Did I do right? If she writes me again, do I meet up just for sex or do I find something else?

reposting, but I don't even need advice, desu, already made up my mind, god bless alcohol

The usual reasons. Very ugly, social misfits, random losers. Yeah i'm approaching 30s so it might be a different pov from you. Also had your troubles in the past, all the girls i liked (not many) already had a bf. Waiting for their relationship to break up usually is a waste of time if not straightly self damage.
To find singles you should go with numbers, as long as you get to know new people everyday some will be singles, statistically inevitable. People break up, you should be there when the window is open. Otherwise, someone else will take that chance.

Imo you did the right thing. If you are not emotionally overloaded and can handle casual sex that she offers, why not.

girl I'm dating said she was going to the movies with two couples she's friends with, her, and her ex. She didn't invite me. I found out she was at his house without my knowledge while my phone was broken

she's cheating on me right

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yupp

Anyone who keep their ex around you gotta stay clear of, nothing good will come of this.

She knows how to play my buttons, I think it's better not to meet again, I wrote to another girl too. Never even liked her, desu, but at first she showered me with so much affection that I was dumbfounded, should have trusted my gut from the start

Yeah, cut her off. Godspeed user.

A sad fact of life. I feel like some nerd waiting to get his waifus autograph at comic-con.

Usually, girls that go through men like that are bad news, but I'd sooner die single than compromise for someone I'm not genuinely interested in. They're out there. Somewhere. The women I'm genuinely interested in who are actually single and not whores going through men like used dishrags. Just got to keep looking and not seem desperate on the way.

Maybe one day that person will come up. For now, all I can do is watch and wait.

The offer for dinner if she accepts. I know she is a fan of the marvel bs and all but far from homes comes a week after her exam so that won't work. I thought of going to endgame with the extra scenes so yeah too bad next week movies are all shit

>who are actually single and not whores going through men like used dishrags
This is not necessarily the case. Eg, one of the girls i liked was in a long term relationship since 6 year before i met her. Then she broke up and after a few months started another relationship that lasted another few years. Wouldn't really call this whorish behaviour, and many girls i know are like that.

Don't offer to go see a movie if you have nothing special in mind, it gets very awkward very quick and you sound like an awkward dude. Just offer to take her out for dinner to celebrate.

True there are exceptions like like that, I was just referring to women who date a guy for a month, then break up and move into the next one like clockwork.

I think I'm looking in the wrong places desu.
I should be looking for women like you've described who have dignity and self-respect.

>have gf
>have arguments over ridiculous non serious stuff
>she makes a tragedy if i dont do things precisely how she wants them
>i do tons of considerate stuff
>has the "what have you done for me lately attitude"
>fine whatever...
>i calmly later tell her that some times i feel i have to walk on egg shells around her

You get the idea...

>i tell her this
>she sends 3 laugh emojis
>says "thanks"
>i say "im not trying to insult you..."
>"Yea you are"

every time i try explain my side of things she takes it very personally and attacks me.

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don't even explain, just man up and handle calmly

There are certainly some movies I want to see but "shit" compared to what comes next week

Leave her dude. That's abuse.

what is this supposed to mean? can you be more specific? like using an example relatable to my situation.

Well i found a few like that and it always blew up in my face, so dunno if it's something i would suggest. While you wait for your chance, you pass on all the other chances you could have. I don't believe in the choosen one, the single person decided by God that will be your perfect lover. There are degrees of compatibility, the rest is work and dedication.
>women who date a guy for a month, then break up and move into the next one like clockwork.
Know those too. I think after a while they get broken by that, dunno if it's the pain of being unable of keeping someone close for longer than that or if they get some princess complex that makes their ego blow up. Some are even good people, not textbook whores.

don't do as much for her and don't be apologetic about the stuff you did, if she gets insulted that you do something for her it's all over anyway. Find a woman that appreciates you

Then offer the movie as a second date for the following week, if the first one goes well?

i know im a bit blind to peoples perspectives but i really try, im not a selfish person. ive tried to explain i get tired fatigued after doing so much shit all day. like working with my uncle, gym, learning Italian (which ive done for her) but if i say "hey i dont feel like watching anymore episodes of our show" she gets mad at me and makes it a tragedy and if i ever get upset over something she says I AM the one making a tragedy. yesterday i left her whatsapp message on read and normally id reply by afternoon (different time zones currently) and this time i had such a fucked day i lost track of the time and forgot to reply. she wakes up and is mad as hell at me for not replying. i told her how/why it happend (IVE NEVER DONE THIS BEFORE) and she accused me 100 times that night of "ignoring my gf" and being a "pos" and even said that i "forgot her" like i "forgot her" in a very very serious way.

i can only blame myself for so long. i just said i avoid topics with her because of her reaction. i even told her a bit about a book i was reading (cant hurt me by david goggins) and she LOST HER SHIT HARD because the dude is black. im a pretty easy going person and i tolerate peoples fucked up views most of the time but she went all out attacking me and aruging cus i read a book by a n******.

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after her raging at me now shes messaged me saying "ur very gay, i didnt want to argue today"...after a long long silence. i kinda wanna blame myself because i know im a spastic but idk...i asked a female friend and she said its fucked what she does. ive talked to her every single day since we've known each other (2 years) but if i forget to reply to one messages its 2 days of her being mad at me and trying to punish me. she even said that i should treat her like a princess and she got kinda mad when i didnt completely agree. shes 26 years old (im 27) and she unironically wants to be a child.

Let 's not put the carriage before the horse.
I don't think I'll even get to the first date as she hasn't been really giving off the right signals
I am convinced she sees me as her friend and nothing more. I wasnt really signaling that I am looking and neither was she even though i know we both want a bf/gf but almost certainly not me

100% facts right here user. Things like true love and soul mates are but old wives tales. But, things like romance, high compatibility, and results through effort are very much real.

I should grow up and learn that dating is a swing or miss game, and it's a much better idea to take your swing than wait for the perfect pitch. Guess I still have a little incel left in me who puts women on a pedestal instead of treating them like regular blokes like any other.

don't blame yourself, you're not doing anything wrong, she just sounds like a manipulative and immature person, leave her, plenty fish in the sea, don't put yourself into a position like this

this is textbook abuse
she's not mad that you watch tv or read books, she's mad you're not devoted and obsessed with her. she's trying to control you, user.
fucking run. and don't hesitate to tell people how she acted

Break up
Do you have no self respect?

I think my self esteem has dramatically improved over the last 2 years but when it comes to relationships im...i dont have a decent word for it but i guess a lack of self respect describes it to some degree, although not entirely accurate. i have my owns set of problems and i just dont think im really capable of having relationships easily with people. ive only had one other gf and that was like...well nearly 10 years ago and that girl cheated on me all through out the 1.5 year relationship.

see above

yeah she wants me to love the stuff she loves as much as her, she even said she wants me to be "child" like her...well i say thats ok sometimes im fine with all that and i find it endearing her childishness but i also tell her that we need to grow up a bit and become serious sometimes because it'll catch up to us eventually. i know im ahead of her on "adult things" but i dont mind helping her out and guiding her but she really resist me on this stuff. i feel like im a party-pooper.

now shes saying "ohhh why you take so seriously why is it so important..." just after she raged like fuck at me...

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>Guess I still have a little incel left in me who puts women on a pedestal instead of treating them like regular blokes like any other
Everyone has it. Don't believe the bullshit that it's just bitter virgins having it, everyone shares the same hate for human trash, be it male or female. Good people get caught in the crossifre.
You should still try and find what you want. I would want a reliable woman at my side, not some princess to protect. But it's hard to find since most of those are simply playing the tough girl role while being turbobitches.
Anyway i'm divagating. Try to figure out what you like in a person and act accordingly. Have no fear in telling what you like and if luck will assist you, you will get your chance. Accept the rules of the game and try to exploit whatever little advantages you got in life. If you find someone that you can actually like and respect, instead of some trophy wife, it will work easier.

user, i get it that it isn't easy for you to have another relationship, but you aren't in a relationship to begin with. what she's doing can't be called love.

Exactly. Trophy wives are like model cars you're too afraid to actually use. If a women were a car, I'd probably go for a Tesla or a Toyota.

Thanks for your input. I'm not spectacularly social, so picking up women isn't my strong suit. Like hell if I don't try though. I find it's easier when I treat them like I would any good friend and focus more of my time on my interests intead of glorifying them.
Still have to ask them out though. Can't totally ignore them and expect them to flock to me

How do women/girls view males who are 22, live with their mom, and are essentially live-in nannies? I don't mind it, honestly. The only reason I stick around is for my family. I spend my other time reading philosophy or other self-teaching shit. Im in college, as well, but that's not necessarily important right now

It's fine. She will at least have a hunch that you're talking about a date, it depends on her experience how sure she'll be.
There are only two real downsides to this approach. The first is that it is harder for her to say no (if she doesn't want a date) if you don't present it as a date. Not wanting to go on a date, most people understand that. Not wanting to see a movie with someone you're friendly with, that's awkward and assholish. So you have a higher chance that she agrees to go see it with you without actually seeing romantic/sexual potential. This is only a problem if it's a problem for you and you want to be 100% certain you don't spend time and energy if she already knows it's a no. If you're fine just going to see a movie together and have a hopefully fun night without much outcome, I would just go for it.

>Would it be weird if she asks "who else is comming" and I respond with "just the two of us?"
Not weird, it is pretty telling if she asks this though.

>should I have a lot of movies that appear memorized
No, too much effort and too unnatural. Just suggest a specific movie you want to see and if she objects to it agree to look up what's playing.

she always says she loves me and often first and likes cuddling with me and buying me gifts on occasions. i dont have any friends either, i haven't had a friend since 2014 i think. i barely even talk to family members, i kinda just exist in my own bubble. i dare say it now at the risk of everyone here thinking im now the bad guy in this situation but i have mild autism (PDD-NOS) so that makes gaining relations with other people a lot more difficult and i understand its already challenging even for regular people. i have confidence (learned) and boosted my self esteem a lot with dramatic life changes but my interactions with people are awkward. i have flat affect and only like talking about my special interest...well i do enjoy listening to people sometimes but i kinda diverse to my special interest automatically without realizing it and go on tirades/speeches/rants. im also pretty shy so that hurts my situation a lot. im basically dependent on her for all of my human social needs.

How I'd view you in real life would depend on many factors, but if a guy still lives at home then being responsible there is far preferable over being an overgrown teenager snapping at their mom or something. Plus it is attractive in a special way if a man is good with kids.

It also matters how content you are with your living situation. It is never appealing when someone resents their life circumstances. So that's a plus as well (not minding it).

You're also at an age where people start to grow up a little more, an eighteen year old girl is much more likely to pout and not understand why you can't go party with her if you have to babysit than a twenty two year old. I think you're good.

Women: what are the chances of recovery if my first impression to you leads to "unfuckable"? Can i only aim to having respect as a human and nothing more?

Yeah, I enjoy dealing with the kids for the most part. My mom isn't very strict so they are hard to control sometimes, but at home they are pleasant enough. I used to dislike it a lot more, but since they've gotten older and me more experienced, it's pretty chill.
If it weren't for my family, I don't honestly know what I'd be doing. I don't think I'd kill myself, but I'd probably be a vagabond or something. Truthfully, that's probably what will happen when they are old enough to maybe understand. And it feels good being an influence on someone younger. I'd like to be a dad, but I simply can't see myself ever finding a woman, a job, and place to live to ever make that happen. So I guess it was a null question because I never interact with any girls my age. Oh well, thanks for the feedback

As for experience she has none that I am aware of. She was asked out once before and said no.
>it's pretty telling if she asks that
Pretty telling for what? Pretty telling as in "I want to confirm If it's a date" or as in "if she asks this she will definitely say no"
I want to emphasise the word "together". That should be pretty telling right ?
Also I realise it's a bit hard for her to say no but that's the only time I catch her alone in real life and I am not asking her over text and that's why I will ask her to the end of our common route so she can split very soon if it's a no

some context, i think my country is among the first in europe at domestic abuse, i always hear on the news about women (and men) being beaten by their partner but they never make a complain or get a retraining order, most of the time they don't even brake up and go back together after they come out of the hospital.
a while ago was with some girls at uni and one of them talking about her boyfriend and how he's abusing her so i've asked why doesn't she brake up with him and the all looked at me like i said the dumbest thing ever. one of them even said "you're such an idiot user".
now these girls come and tell me that she broke up with her boyfriend and she wants to date me and i said
i don't want to because i'm not into her and they start shaming me into dating her, that she had i rough and just needs someone to love her.
my question is i fell bad, not just for her but all the women in this situation?
and does this happen all around the world or it's just a thing in my country?

Terroni land? Lol.

In the sense that if you're excited to get asked out by a guy, you're not going to ask "who else is coming" and imply that it's the expected thing to not hang out one on one.
Still though nothing is certain, girls do awkward shit as well. Look for general patterns in her behavior not isolated comments - unless she's being flat out mean or offensive of course.

>I want to emphasise the word "together"
That's fine but again whether or not she realizes you want to go on a date will depend on her. Personally I don't think that's a bad thing. It's not going to hurt your chances or change whether she enjoys her time with you. It -does- matter if you want to absolutely rule out that you go see a movie with her only to find out she would've said no to an official date. Then just use the word. "Do you want to go see x movie together, as a date", or "Do you want to go on a date with me".

I didn't make the comment that it makes it harder for her to say no as something to discourage you. Again it only matters if you want to be certain that you don't "waste" your time. She is more likely to say no if you make it explicit that it's a date is all. If she does find it difficult to say no and stresses over that, that's unfortunate but her problem not yours to be blunt. You're not cornering her at her workplace, or being pushy, or otherwise putting her weirdly on the spot. You're just asking her out. If she finds it too hard to say no when she doesn't want to then she'll have to learn the hard way and get better over time. I'm saying that as someone who took years to learn to say no. You are not responsible for her feelings all you can do is be respectful.

>she always says she loves me and often first and likes cuddling with me and buying me gifts on occasions
she either feels bad if she has any empathy left or she's conditioning you
>i'm autistic so it's hard
1) talking about your interests is normal, if you think you're overdoing it ask the person you speak to mention it if you start doing it
2) again, she's using you, so it's not like you should treasure this relationship even if it's your only one currently. trust me that you'll find yourself much happier when you get rid of her even if you're alone
3) i don't understand how this makes you a bad person
>im basically dependent on her for all of my human social needs.
do you understand how dangerous this situation is? that's just more incentive to get out of there

Unlikely, they are talking about it on every fucking tg everyday as if men are all out 24/7 to rape and kill some woman.

Yeah it happens all around the world, not to the same extent but abuse is common. Not just from men to women either, the opposite too.

They were absolutely, absolutely in the wrong to shame or guilt you into dating her. Honestly they probably mean well but they are not just being disrespectful to you but also to her, acting like she's a broken flower needing salvation, so you better date her out of pity. No fuck that.

You DID say a dumb thing though. Yes when your partner abuses you, you should just break up. But when you're an alcoholic, you should also just stop drinking. Get what I'm saying? The outside world only sees the dramatic final stage of abuse, when someone is being hit or ends up in the hospital. They don't see the prior manipulation, undermining someone's confidence, isolating them from healthy influences like friends or family, making them reliant on the abuser in as many ways as possible, often before the very first blow happens.

Besides for many people and women in particular it is a frustrating and recurring event that a man does something pretty terrible (abuse, rape, you name it) and that's treated as a given static thing, welp, people are going to be assholes, only for the victim to be scrutinized and questioned about their behavior. The abusee is not perfect because no one is. But they did not beat up their partner and having them be the focus of criticism sucks.

>she either feels bad if she has any empathy left or she's conditioning you

I dont think shes conditioning me intentionally, shes just VERY immature/childish and wants me to go a long with everything she wants. last year at my house she had a bit fit over the fact i got a bit annoyed she chooses EVERY activity and i asked if i could pick something for once. I dont think she has that much empathy...i mean shes great at reading me but shes a bit cruel in some ways. she really hates babies and...well she hates non-white people...despite herself being brown. yeah its crazy...but that self hatred comes from her being bullied for her skin color/race for years and being adopted into a white country. she also really hates children and babies, even my niece whom shes never met.

I dont know how shes using my really, shes just demanding as fuck and childish/brattish. Once at a shopping mall it was december and her mum bought some chocolates for her friends children and my gf got mad at her mother because she didnt buy any for her so her mum had to walk back and buy her some.

>3) i don't understand how this makes you a bad person

i assume people ASSUME if you have the mental illness you must be at fault some how. shes gaslighted me about my mental problems in the past. like "its your autism you're blind you dont see!" etc.

>do you understand how dangerous this situation is?

I dont know about dangerous but im aware it isn't healthy but i didnt choose this, ive been lonely most of my life, it was nice having her come into my life...finally have a friend.

Ok I see your reasoning
I just want closure
If it's a flat no i am grateful
If it's a flat yes then i am happy
If it's a maybe yes then it will be difficult and I hate difficult things
I can't really go and use the word date. I am not from an English speaking country and the translation is too corny
And I think a movie then dinner is the best thing for us. On the surface this is a thing we both share and find it easy to talk about

it's called stockholm syndrome. in short it's when someone who abuses/captures/tortures/etc you is not doing it as bad, you start developing an extremely strong (one sided) connection to them as a defense mechanism, in some cases you would even die for them afterwards, which is why there's a video of a wife getting beaten by her husband and while the cop arrests him, he gets suckerpunched by the wife. it's very common for the abused, i'm surprised you didn't hear of it until now. i recommend you research it further.

the girl who called you an idiot was likely also abused, and can't concieve of a person who isn't like her, and i imagine the girl who wants to be with you now just wants to fill the hole from when her bf left

>If a women were a car,
Then my last 3 were monster trucks, large and expensive and people look at you funny

i know i sound like im just here bitching about my girlfriend but she'll say that i never admit to my wrongs or take responsibility when its the god damn opposite...since a few years im VERY comfortable with facing my faults and mistakes. i know when ive fucked up or done bad...but she will never accept any degree of responsibility but will deflect and say its me like that. no matter how direct or softly i say it to her or try explain it she just cant see whats true.

>I dont know how shes using my really
affection. as much as you don't think you can, you probably provide nice companionship to her, obviously she enjoys it, but she doesn't care for you. imagine a girl buying a puppy because it's cute, but then throwing it away once it's grown up and not as cute. she enjoys its affection, but she doesn't care for it beyond that.
also maybe money.
>i finally have a friend
read everything you just typed. how she gaslights you, forces you to spend money on her, doesn't allow you to have your own hobbies...
she isn't your friend user. i'm sorry.

bump

Man read up on abusive relationships, loveisrespect.org is a good place to start. The sooner you leave her the better. As you said yourself she is not just being a shitty girlfriend but eating through your self-respect and your ability to trust your own judgment. The shitty thing is that the longer you stay with her and allow her to abuse you, the more shit you'll have to work through and heal from afterwards, the more she will have damaged your ideas about what's normal in a relationship and so on.

Obviously breaking up is a big step but start by educating yourself and reading about patterns in unhealthy relationships. Best of luck man. There's more to life than being bullied by your own goddamn partner. It's called "lover". She does not know how to love.

>affection. as much as you don't think you can, you probably provide nice companionship to her, obviously she enjoys it, but she doesn't care for you. imagine a girl buying a puppy because it's cute, but then throwing it away once it's grown up and not as cute. she enjoys its affection, but she doesn't care for it beyond that.

:(

truth hurts.

money isn't really the issue here, we both spend money on each other...but at the end of the day when she spends money its more about what she wants to do and i just tag a long. every gift she gets me is just something SHE wants me to enjoy...like fiction books. honestly she has bought me a few good ones and she got me into reading again but ive told her i just prefer non-fiction/factual books. she gets mad at me too if i skip a day or two not reading a book she bought me.

yeah ive given her loads of affection and attention.,..she obviously loves that. she doesnt actually enjoy sex with me and shes said 1million times she doesnt know why...i think shes telling the truth there. i had no problems making my ex gf feel good..not bragging but she was always very, very aroused and could have multiple orgasms...sorry im not bragfagging or anything its just the truth so i dont think im making errors in love making here. whatever i dont know anymore.

>she isn't your friend user. i'm sorry.

ive just been lonely for so many years and abused in my past i would accept anything as friendship.

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If I'm a virgin in my mid-late 20's who's never had a gf, should I go out to clubs or just downtown in general and practice talking to people? Should I try online dating? My issue is that I don't have a car yet. Am I just making excuses?

It's hard to say anything sensible about this because there's so many scenarios. Speaking for myself, appearance isn't a big thing, people typically grow on me looks-wise and if I start to like someone more I also start to appreciate their physique more.

But there's many reasons to feel turned off and if the reason I ruled him unfuckable was because he made an incredibly unattractive comment about women that's a whole other story. Even if my opinion of him changed for the better I'd still be wary and wonder if he was putting on his good face in a situation like that.

what are your interests, user?

Nah, try house parties, music nights at smaller venues, festivals, if all else fails bars. It's really hard to strike up a real conversation in a club.

I mean, apparently a good chunk of female population decides in the first 5 seconds or so of meeting you if you are a passable partner or not. A mix of look, phisical behaviour, posture etc with multiple not too well defined factors that will lead to either fuckable or unfuckable. Obviously after that more stuff contributes to moving a part of the fuckable guys to unfuckable, but the opposite apparently is not that common.
I can more or less understand when a woman has labeled me as unfuckable, what i wanted to know is if it's pointless to struggle and try to change her mind.

Of the human population. Men even have a catch phrase for it. ("I would" / "I wouldn't") And yes people do change their mind. However I think it's pointless to invest time and effort trying to make a no into a yes. If it happens it happens and that'll likely be because of new experiences in their life, getting to know you better etc, not because you impress them with a good story or anything else you can actively steer for. In general in life it's better to invest in the people who give you something to work with, not just for success rates but also because playing and flirting with someone who reciprocates to some extent is much more meaningful experience than trying to charm a dismissive girl.

Completly reasonable. Guess my ego is just a little bitch.

fitness, health, geography, nutrition, lifting weights ...which was a hobby from 13-18 years old until "life happened" and i quit. ive picked it up again at age 27. i really enjoy reading the books by Yuval Noah harari. There was also this book called 'the social leap'. Stuff about understanding humans, how our bodies work, our minds etc and anthropoligcal stuff is really fascinating to me. Since probably 8 years old I've never stopped enjoying studying maps and geography. Google maps still entertains me a lot. I had a lot of joy when it first came out, I always used to take loads of Atlas books home from school and study them for hours every night. As a kid I could impress my family with my ability to recognize cities by their skylines and recall capitals of countries and recognizing flags and that type of stuff. Not anymore but as a child I was unintentionally deeply obsessed with cataloging the simpsons. I remember this kid from my class brought a large trivia book on the Simpsons to school and I could instantly answer every question correctly, even the most obscure type of stuff.

Good times...I had a lot of very strong passions growing up but my Dad was physically and VERY emotionally abusive so that fucked me up plus I got drugged on medications by a shrink at age 14 so that ruined me even more. Only since age 24 (the exact time I met my gf) I begun gettng my life together and really going forward.

thanks for the chat everyone, its way past my bed time. gave me a lot to think about.

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>Nah, try house parties,
If I had any friends, I would. Been invited to them before but due to my depression or just not liking some of the people there, I just wouldn't go.
>music nights at smaller venues
I actually met a great friend earlier this year at just this sort of thing so I really need to go out there more since I promised myself that I'd go to more music shows after never having had gone to a concert early last year. Been working and dealing with school too much I guess.
>festivals,
Poorfag but I've always wanted to go to one.
>if all else fails bars. It's really hard to strike up a real conversation in a club.
Yeah, I hate clubbing anyway.

Also, should I mention that I don't have a car? How do I go about revealing that sort of information?

Girls

Best place for a first date? People don't actually go to coffee shops for dating, right? I don't drink coffee so I've never even been to a Starbucks

Depends a lot on girl desu. For me it's somewhere where we can do some talking while seeing stuff, and close to a decent cake shop lol. Either an open air event, city exploring, museum/gallery visit, stroll in the park etc.
People usually stop at cafes during a date to rest and to grab a drink. Big chain cafes are kinda tacky imo. Tea houses usually have a more intimate atmosphere overall.

My best first date was a lunch date at the pub. Conversation just went so smoothly that we just chatted for hours. We ended up getting drinks at the park, and then dinner, and then drinks again, and then we made out in a uber.

Cafes are fine for first dates: it's informal, inexpensive, and you can talk. You don't need to get a coffee necessarily, it's just to have a place to sit down and chat. Local places are better than chains.
You can really just go eat an ice cream or go to a museum, or walk at the park.

Ok, next semester starts in two months. Im 22, basically a sophomore. Never had sex, don't have friends, no hobbies, etc. Usual outcast stuff. How can I get sex easily either with young college cunny or older women?
Thanks

I'm a guy, btw

1. Be good-looking
If you were good-looking, a bitch would have approached you by now.

Buy a prostitute. If that's not what you're looking for, find the most vulnerable-seeming girl you can and pretend she means something to you. Keep it going until you can fuck her-which shouldn't be very long-and you're good from there.

How do i make sure or rather minimize the chance that women will hit on me without resorting to bad hygiene or similar tactics?

Get wedding ring and pretend i am married?
Other "legitimate" measures?
How to declare that i am taken and fuck off?
I am asexual and don't want any woman to consider me and i have no desire to explain each fucking time.

I see. Thanks.

poster here;
They become my friends. They buy me food, they buy me water bottles. They bring me stuff. They tell me they want to go out, i assume as friends but it never is, and they pay for everything.

They buy me stuff. They say they are never bored with me. "No matter what happens i am never bored with you" its like a copy pasted quote.

But i am.

A friend of mine is the owner of a bar/club.
I am a regular there, know most of the staff by first name, know many of the people that frequent that place.

My friend, the owners girlfriend is having her birthday party there.
Apparently this was planned as a big event for some weeks now.
Another friend brought to my attention a whatsapp group chat with 60-80 people in it.
I am not in it and nobody has said anything to me.

I don't know why, and I don't really care. I am thinking they simply forgot, which is a bit insulting desu.

Should I go to the party anyway, and if so, should I dress up or down for it?
I was thinking of showing up in sweatpants and acting like I am totally clueless as to whats going on.
Or dress nice and maybe just pick up some chicks there?
Or should I just stay at home and play vidya?

forgot to add; Then they will eventually become angry or something similar and they will either spread rumors about me or cause trouble. Low-key but trouble.

Everyone is different, etc. but ladies do enjoy Daddy talk?

On the semi-related note, do you enjoy being called "Princess"? I ask because that was always a pet name I intentionally avoided in fear of it sounding too creepy.

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I personally don't enjoy either. Seems p/corny.

Parties, bars, tinder, talking to and hanging out with girls. You can talk to girls pretty much anywhere in uni. Have small conversations with them everywhere you go. Just a "hi, how are you, how're classes going, cool gotta go". That's planting a seed for future coversations. Before class is an excellent time for this. I used to stop at the coffee shop in the morning and chat with whoever was in line with me, guys and girls. Then whenever ever I saw them again I'd say hello or at the very least nod in their direction with happy recognition when our eyes met. People like being recognized and being remembered. It paves the way for hookups and bros. You want to develop friends too, because dudes are the ones you'll hit up to find parties, and parties are where the real magic happens.

Drinking and smoking (weed) is always an acceptable activity to most college kids, if you develop some rapport with a girl you wanna fug see if she wants to hang out and smoke/drink sometime. If she's also 21+ see if she wants to grab a beer after class.

Never believe incels who claim you have no hope. They're a cult and trying to convert you.

I'm not older, but 23 I'd say. Shortly after I turned 23 I got a job I love, started saving up some money (enough that I should be able to consider buying a place by the beginning of next year), started getting more exercise and sunlight, and generally started feeling happy an excessive amount. And considering I arguably used to have depression, that's quite a significant change!

Not him but I'm going to be transferring to uni next year but I'm going to be in my mid-20's. Will it be a good idea to try talking to girls there or no?

>daddy talk
Only those into DDLG. The rest, nope
>princess
I don't mind it desu. My bf calls me that because I'm annoyingly picky

why are you on Jow Forums?

Would it be too corny/romantic if I gave my date at the first date a rose at the end because she told me a story about how her mother received &kept the rose she got from her father on their first date for 15 something years ?

girls: opinions on men who spray pee all over the bathroom? is this a display of dominance or is it just inconsiderate?

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