I want to get a girlfriend but I have no idea how to start

Gonna let you in on a secret. The girl is always more interested in talking about what she is interested in than what you are interested in. Doesn't matter what your hobbies are as long as you don't drone on about something she is not interested in.

I'm in the same position except I live in the country with a tiny commuter city full of people who still think the earth is flat. I see little chance of hitting it off with even normal friends here.

I think my point flew over your head. It doesn't matter how passionate she is about uninteresting things, she is still uninteresting and a shallow relationship in inbound. Now, if you and OP can settle for this then more power to you.

Travel, interact with people online. In this day and age it is not unusual to meet people from the Internet.

Who says you can't do interesting and fun things together? The experiences you share are more important than whatever hobbies you do by yourself on your own time. All you need to do is get your foot in the door and you don't need interesting hobbies to do that. My girlfriend and I have both tried new things we never would have done alone.

I didn't say you can't, just that a relationship built entirely off of liking adventure time and food is not special or interesting and typically remain shallow. The line I draw is how much you consume vs how much you create. But hey, I just don't find some cartoon's lore as interesting to talk about as making them and sharing animations together.

What exactly isn't shallow to you?

I can kind of understand where he's coming from with this:
>The line I draw is how much you consume vs how much you create.
He'd prefer a relationship where the two can use their imaginations and the topics can create themselves, rather than consuming things and making commentaries on them over and over. It also helps you understand how each others' minds work over time. I used to have a friend I tried to create a story with together and over the course of the years we were able to finish each others' sentences or there would be many instances where we could almost read each others thoughts.

>The experiences you share are more important than whatever hobbies you do by yourself on your own time.
Bzzt bzzt.
The more hobbies you have that you are passionate about and do on your own the more you have to share with the other person and vice versa. For instance, I didn't know or gave any fucks about sewing. I still wouldn't say I am that interested in sewing myself. I certainly know a lot more about it than most people, especially men because my wife has a huge interest in it, she can carry a conversation about sewing any day and teach you a lot. That is interesting. The fact she can get me curious and learning about something I didn't think of at all because she herself had so much knowledge and passion to share on it. And hell, its great to be able to help her with her hobbies too. I love helping her create, I love when she helps me create. Sure, there are plenty of things we experience that are new to both of us, but nothing gets deeper between us than when we can share our deepest passions and create together rather than just consume.

Shallow minds create shallow relationships. And if you are truly able to settle for someone who lacks real ambition go for it. I personally could never see myself in a relationship with someone who is uninteresting and unambitious, like op likely is. So my advice, from my perspective, is to get into new thing. Learn, create, explore. Sorry for replying twice, but felt the need to post this.

Again who says you can't do that? You need to GET a girlfriend before you can start doing that with her and my point still stands. You don't need interesting hobbies to talk about, you just need to talk.

OP said his only interest is video games. The problem OP has is he doesn't even really know who he is. Do you think he ever tried anything else? Not likely. Do you think he is unable to enjoy anything else? Of course he is able to, he just hasn't tried.

If he doesn't know who he is, if he is that bland and vapid of things to do and talk about, he will never be ready for or form a serious relationship until he explores who he is.

OP specifically asked how to get a girlfriend and where he should start. The answer is with himself.

Maybe he thinks people can be measured for their depth right from the get go? I dunno

Well, thats how most human interactions go. You talk to someone, both of you judge each other if you're interesting to talk to again, rinse repeat.

>you need to GET a girlfriend before you can start doing that with her and my point still stands.
What? Creating? Having in depth conversations? No. You can do this with friends. I would never recommend jumping into a relationship if you are unable to carry strong conversations together, learn new things together, create together. Its not like our interests and creations are only allowed to be shared with romantic partners.

Actions speak louder than words. All you have to do is hold a conversation long enough to get a date and then you go do something together. Sure some women would like nothing more than to sit and talk over a coffee for a couple hours but others will want to be more active so even if you have nothing interesting to talk about as long as you both have a good time then you have everything you need.

See, you want to jump right into dating when you don't even know each other yet. That is dumb. Just be friends, if they can't be your friend they certainly ruled themselves out of being a lover.

It can go either way. You can become friends and then start dating or you can start dating and then become friends. OP said he wanted a girlfriend so dating first approach would be more in line with his wants.

Depends. Does OP want a girlfriend, as in find his life long partner, or does he really just want to have sex?

Doesn't matter because I doubt he could manage a lifelong relationship. Dude can't even manage his own life.

You are correct, you are going to die alone. Men are the sexual aggressors and by refusing to make a move you are being filtered out from the dating pool. No woman is going to make a move on a self pitying loser like you when it is almost guaranteed another guy with the confidence to approach will talk to them. Enjoy the rest of your lonely life.