ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

What the fuck do.

>me, F/friend, M
>neither of us are in relationships, he chooses to stay single and get some action every now and then
>I wanna get in on that
>have been friends for a bit, we met because we're coworkers
>it's unlikely we ever will work directly with each other
>have a few drinks, admit I want to bang
>he doesn't know if it's a good idea because he doesn't want to lead me on, he doesn't want rumors spreading, and he doesn't want me getting jealous if he does something with someone else
>I'm not emotionally invested and I'm not retarded so I wouldn't let any of those things happen
>He eats up the compliments I give him, asks me if I wanna give head
>I say yes and he gets pretty enthusiastic, then it happens
>He leaves shortly after, it was late and he needed to work tomorrow

I was quite tipsy but I still enjoyed that and remember it. It's now the next day and I'm really hoping he didn't regret that. I'm being autistic because I don't know what to do.

What is it like having a vagina?

Also, what do you find sexy in men?

He didn't regret it.

He didn't regret it and doesn't like you enough to keep you around. Don't be upset when he's showing off a new girl a few months from now. Moron why would you do that.

I just hope the coworkers thing isn't an obstacle to him, or that he's not suddenly uncomfortable with it. I want some more of that. His hookups are generally the same people so he's not a one and done kinda guy.

I saw your post in the gioyc thread.
Hearing the details, I think you're fine. The fact that you're overthinking it isn't a good sign and if he finds out, he's going to assume you're already attached and won't want to do more.
Keep it cool and casual. Either text him or tell him in person that you enjoyed the other night and ask if he did too.
If all goes well, invite him over or suggest getting a room. Good luck.

My ex girlfriend wants to continue being friend with benefits. She's also behaving like if she still was my girlfriend but at the same time wants to fuck other people. I'm not over her and it's clearly obvious that she's not over me as well, at least emotionally.

Does she want me to be her fool, fucking and having all the benefits of a relationship without the responsibilities? Should I do it?

I don't care about being kept around. We're just friends. No one needs to know about this. I just want things to be cool and maybe we can do things like this every so often.

If you are able to fuck other people, go for it. If finding other partners is easier for her than it is for you don't.

>having all the benefits of a relationship without the responsibilities?
Bingo. In any case, having her back as a fwb approves her behavior. If there's not even the jealousy factor because you are not seeing other girls, you are just a cuck.

I already smashed, user. But I realized while doing it that as long as she's around I won't have peace of mind. I want her to be only mine and I can't. I won't be able to offer friendship of any kind until I'm detoxed of her first so that I no longer care about what she's doing with her ass. That's what's driving me crazy and why I think it won't work as friends either.

Would playfully saying "let me see your hands" to someone you don't know well be autistic?
I want to check if she has any rings.

>autistic?
Yes. Just check her fucking hands.

>yesterday, nurse helped my relative after he fell down
>now, he is saying that she liked me
Can I hit on her by telling this story (which is true)?

Not as autistic as saying "let me see your vagina" to check if she has the hymen but yeah... it's pretty bad.
You can observe her hands in a casual way. Ask her to pass you something, for example.

Bump?

How do I find the clitoris if it's not pronounced?

>she wanted me to stay for the last 10min before she went on break at work
What? I'm not understanding.
Anyway, she doesn't sound interested. At least, not going alone with you.

Poke around until the girl moans

Yeah, and then I lose it

Squirter girls: ever seen that shit they do in porn, where they strogly brush with open hand on clit to make them squirt? Ever had something like that? My ex was a squirter but needed intense internal stimolation, not external.

Draw an X on it with a marker. Problem solved

I mean, she wanted me to stay longer to keep her company. Atleast until she was sent on break.

And maybe. But she seemed into the idea, but I took too long to spill the beans. (she's done other stuff to thar makes me think she's atleast mildly into it)

It seems that she just wanted someone around to kill time. Did she want to spend the actual break with you?
Honestly, when a girl is into you the signals are clear. I see nothing of that sort here.

We've shared plates of food together and she has a tendency to stop talking to basically anyone to come over to me and talk

She could just like the attention or sees you as a close coworker friend. None of what you're mentioning implies romantic interest.

If you really want to know, ask her out. Alone. And be direct. None of that "let's hang out " bullshit. Ask her out for lunch or dinner.

Yea, I'll try. Just don't have any of the same days off. So it'll be a production to make something happen.

And also, what signs should I look for?

desu, I like them better because the ratio of them that actually keep up with their appearance is higher than straight guys.
A pain, my dick
Don't
Yes, that's weird, just observe.
That shit is staged as hell.

When you accidentally get too physical with a friend of the opposite sex, what the name of the kinda awkward bad feeling you get later? Embarrassment?

I was getting nothing but good signs from a girl friend whom I was flirting with (all smiles, laughing at all my jokes, touching herself, touching me, letting me touch her, flirting, making plans, invited me to her apartment, cuddled a little bit, etc.), but between actually asking her out and the day of the date she seemed distant. I asked her what she was feeling a few days ago, and she said she isn't ready for a relationship. What she said seems genuine (we're both abuse survivors), so I'm respecting her feelings.

What do I do with my feelings, though? I wouldn't say I want to wait for her, but I have strong feelings for her and I don't think they'll change. I feel dishonest.

Reading shit like this kinda remind me that I will be forever alone. Not once said a girl anything directly to me, or acted like she wants me. So there are only two possible explanations for this: either I only end up with stupid girls or it‘s me. Now that I am not 18 but nearly mid twenties, looks like it has something to do with me.

The problem is most women are raised to let the man do the chasing and all the courting.
There are only a small handful of women that take initiative and go for what they want in a man.

This may be right. But it‘s basically everywhere. I did saw enough girls following dudes on social media because they were interested etc. never had any of those. So there is no other explanation for me. But whatever, I should focus on other things.

Is it bad if my gf hits me?

Pretty much, yeah.
How and why does it happen?

Only if you don't like it.

How to fall asleep when brain refuses to obey because it's thinking of someone

>yesterday, nurse helped my relative after he fell down
>now, he is saying that she liked me
Can I hit on her by telling this story (which is true)?

girls: if you were a widowed mom of three young children and you met a young man who is really good with your kids what would you be thinking about him?

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Looks like somebody is emotionally dependent.

I want to ask this girl out at my college but i feel like she's too popular to be approached. I just have this guy feeling that if I ask her out, she'll act like she's out of my league and deem me trash.

Then again I think that about all women. I always feel like they'll take one good look at me and label me as untouchable.

Weed

sounds like he's not that into you. still hope but you gave up a lot of the power by blowing him.

alcohol or getting in touch with said person

What kind of pedophile he might be

Any other ideas?

(especially seeing as she has shared food with me. Stares at me semi often. And frequently ends conversations with others to come and talk to me. Even if I'm a ways away at work)

>she's finally single
>ask her out
>"We can go out but don't get your hopes up because I'm really not in the mood for relationships or similar right now... I'm currently savoring being for myself for once"

How do I proceed after a "soft" rejection like this? Obviously I won't wait for her, but would it be okay to keep it flirty or would that be creepy?

So I meet the same girls in the gym everyday, and some of them when I work (I work in a grocery store). Would it be awkward to introduce myself? I was thinking like " hey so we see each other a lot and I wanted to say hi, my names user, and yours?"

>that does something she expressed interest in
is this like a sex thing? im curious. 1.5 hrs away though.... invite her AND her friends to go maybe?

Not out of place, but be careful what you wish for.

Nah. It's one of the few places with a mechanical bull here. And it's in the city, we live in the suburbs. So for me it'll be 1.5hrs to the bar

And possibly. I'll probably ask her outright Sunday. (Next time I see her, though I may skip work that day due to other stuff, so it'll maybe be the following Sunday..)

>Obviously I won't wait for her
dude. you cant be that interested in her then. that sounds really mature of her. decent girls are single for what? a week, month? take it slow and be friends with her for a bit. if it goes it goes.
not so forward, but yeah. if you see someone often enough, it would be rude to not say hi and introduce yourself. do it at work so you can ask them if they need help finding anything.

I have the opportunity to get my first gf now. She's really hot but her personality is not ideal so I wouldn't marry her. The problem is that I'll meet a lot of marriage-worthy women in a few months, so I'm afraid that I'll be ''stuck'' with this girl and miss my chance with the women that I actually can have a future with. Should I go for it now or keep myself for the women that I can have a long-term thing with ? I'm 18 so I'm not in a hurry but I'm starting to want a gf quite a bit.

If I stay a virgin all my life, will something bad happen to me? Like, is it possible to be otherwise a normal, functioning person? I'm a woman, btw. If that factors in at all.

Grills
Say you're sitting alone at a bar finishing your only drink and make a passing comment to a guy and he asks if you mind if he sits with/next to you
He's chubby and just wearing a t-shirt/ shorts and not that attractive.
You and he have some polite but not overly enthusiastic conversation about world cup, the beers on tap etc and he offers you some of his fries before wishing each other a polite good day as you head to work.
How would this make you feel? Creeped out? Resigned not to talk to randos again? Don't even remember a few hours later since it happens so often?

If she took your fries, she's fine.

She was offered but didn't accept since she had just eaten

See

Oh, well she was probably being cautious. I wouldn't offer food or drink anymore. Date rape is a thing that people are weary of. I doubt she was really creeped out, but I would just be conscious of that next time. Just think about it from her perspective. She's a woman. If you were a woman, would you be creeped out if some guy offered you food?

>decent girls are single for what? a week, month?
I mean it's been more than a month with her already. I'm not "saving myself" so to speak just in case she decides she'll be ready in half a year and then picks someone else entirely, you know?
I'm not looking to be in a relationship for the sake of it but obviously I'm not going to reject someone because she might give me a chance in a few months.
But yeah she could just be letting me down easy, but I'd also totally get not wanting something new straight away.

>I'll meet a lot of marriage-worthy women in a few months
grass is always greener, am I right? Come on bro, you're not settling down with some college girl anytime soon. the other girl sounds like a more sure thing, unless theres distance. "stuck" you are 18 man, you got time.
No nothing bad will happen, maybe even extra points in the afterlife. Women probably..... lol you dont deal with the "urge" to have sex like men do. No, you will regret it in other ways as you get older and have no kids. Make sure you have a purpose and passion in life!

>extra points in the afterlife

kek

I am already sad about the idea that I won't have a nice family and husband, but I don't think it's in the cards for me in this life and I have no interest in sex aside from that.

I just see all these weird social studies that people who don't bond properly will be some sociopath killers or something. I guess I just put too much stock in what pseuds think.

I have issues, but not because of sex or lack of it. I had a bad childhood, so I don't think I'd be a healthy partner anyway.

I guess I'm just afraid it will make me worse when I'm trying to get better. But, I doubt having a husband and family is a quick fix to my problems. I don't want to be one of those people that just do something because I think it will solve my problems or because you're "Supposed" to do it.

I'm fine being on my own. I have passions and purpose. I'm getting there anyway.

Women,

How often do you find yourselves manipulating men? I'm going to be more specific:

>Stunning looking girl was speaking between lines about a thing we had to do together and for some reason she was not honest enough
>Girlfriend...ish? Who I'm having a massive disagreement that could be a big dealbreaker for the both of us, is trying to keep me with her despite this disagreement and is using emotions for that

I'm at a loss of why women behave in this or that way and I don't know if I want to deal with that shit. It's making me awfully insecure and making me hate proximity despite I love having people being close to me.

Men, how often do you find yourselves being manipulated by women? Who were they?

>why women behave in this
like*

Feminists and feminazis, are you watching the Women's Football World Cup?
If you are not, how can you call yourself feminist? Someone has to watch them, because I surely won't. :D
*I don't watch men's football either, so you can't call me sexist

I'm 18M and I'm quite confused about virginity and marriage. I'm muslim so technically I'm not supposed to fuck before marriage, but there's no way I'm not fucking until I'm like 25. My mom is a lot more religious than me and even she told me quite explicitely that I could have sex all I want as long as no kid gets made. The problem is that I feel like losing my virginity would make me lose value in the dating game ? When I meet my future wife I'd expect her to be a virgin so I guess it's fair that I'd be a virgin too, right ? I have a few women that I could fuck quite easily if I tried but idk, I think I'd feel guilty if I did it, for some reason. Anyone could help me clear up my thoughts about this ?

Step 1. Be born tall and very attractive
Step 2. Exercise semi-frequently
Step 3. Be very wealthy and famous

>I had a bad childhood
Sorry to hear that. That is no excuse to avoid intimate relationships though, sexual or not. No sexual desire is strange. You may be asexual or there could be a root cause somewhere. Talk to a therapist sometime
>Men, how often do you find yourselves being manipulated by women?
glad I'm single rn. this is a learned thing usually from parents (cough, distant father who caves to his daughter and gives her whatever she wants when she makes a fuss bc he's absent). yeah she's probably never going to change

kys, no one talks like this outside of reddit and this shithole. you should avoid watching women's worldcup because they have the level of 13 yo boys, not to epically own those stupid feminazis

I guess if you care about your future wife's opinion, then you're fucked. She's the one you are going to spend the rest of your life with, so I'd tried to make nice if I were you. Instead of fucking it up before it has a chance to start. Just decide what's more important to you.

Also be aware that you are still a retarded, hormonal teenager right now.

>glad I'm single rn. this is a learned thing usually from parents (cough, distant father who caves to his daughter and gives her whatever she wants when she makes a fuss bc he's absent). yeah she's probably never going to change
How do you even learn to detect them? I mean I literally had a friend spell it out to me before I realized my friend was in the right.

I have no idea about the stunning girl's past so I literally give zero fucks about her. My girlfriend, though? I know for a fact she has had a very distant father who was pretty much absent for her entire life and now suffers of trust issues.

It's not an excuse. I'm just being realistic. I know people like me don't make good partners or parents. If I can become healthier and things change, I'd reconsider. But there's another factor I'm not willing to talk about that's the real reason for my decision. The other stuff just makes me feel better about it.

I'm not asexual. I've just decided not to have sex. It's not that deep.

Plenty of people are watching the WFWC, it's the 2nd most viewed tournament of all time after the male world cup. Has more views than any other FIFA championship.

I watched some matches of my national team. Not that great, female football is slow and not particularly fun to watch.

Unironically how do you get a female dominated relationship? I don't even need the femdom sex stuff (though I'd like it too) I'd just like a gf to run my life and tell me what to do.

Walk into law school and pick anyone. They're all overbearing dominant bitches.

But seriously, this is unhealthy and you should work on your life so you're able to have a normal relationship with someone. Needing someone to tell you what to do is for faggots, have some dignity homie

>My girlfriend, though? I know for a fact she has had a very distant father who was pretty much absent for her entire life and now suffers of trust issues.
like fucking clockwork
Everyone is fucked up from their parents and childhood in some way. Acknowledging and understanding it is the only way to break the cycle.
>I've just decided not to have sex
only a woman would ever say that lol.
>I'd just like a gf to run my life and tell me what to do
I'll bet my left nut that this is every relationship you will ever have.

Well yeah I'd care about the opinion of the person I love. I get that I shouldn't let others define me but still I can't just ignore what she thinks and do what I want. It's a two way street I guess.

And yeah I try to control myself. There's a girl that is interested in me and I really want to fuck her, but I'm full of doubt about it cause she's not the kind of woman I'd marry at all. I guess what I'm not sure about is : should I only get in a relationship with the intent of it ending up in marriage, or should I just date girls even if I know we'll have to break up at some point ?

>only a woman would ever say that lol.

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grow up

>Everyone is fucked up from their parents and childhood in some way. Acknowledging and understanding it is the only way to break the cycle.
I acknowledge this is a thing but how do I stop treating with broken women? It almost feels as if every single woman in this wicked world is broken at some level, either because of underbearing or overbearing parents. I cannot even recognize them at first, and what's worse, when they get affectionate I turn into mush and I stop thinking straight.
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You can do whatever you want as long as you aren't hurting anyone and being honest and upfront.

Bottom line is that it isn't fair for you to expect her to be a virgin, but you won't give her the same. That's not a good way to start a marriage. As you say, it's a two way street.

Maybe she won't care. Is that common in your culture?

>I'll bet my left nut that this is every relationship you will ever have.
Wouldn't know I haven't had one :/
I can see how it might seem unhealthy, it might be in fact, but I'm really not the type of person to let just anyone take advantage of me. In fact that might be part of why I want this, just to be able to feel comftorable enough and be able to feel vulnerable enough with a girl that I just do what she tells me to do.

Guys:
>be a shut-in, no friends etc
>leave a relationship with a serial cheater, so have zero trust in males, likely permanently
>scorched earth, leave the whole state
>in a brand new area, living in a major city for the first time ever, occasionally get lonely
>extremely cute coworker gives me compliments constantly, says we should hang out in a way coworkers do when they don't really intend to act on it
>find out he's in a relationship
>disappointment.wav
>still compliments me, buys me some small thing when i realize i lost my wallet
>crush still not going away
>get an offer to move my job to a different location
>considering just not even saying anything to him and leaving

I'm almost entirely certain that he isn't attracted to me in any way and just genuinely wanted to be friends. It's always been really hard for me to make friends, so I have mixed feelings about the whole thing. But am I doing the right thing by avoiding all of this, especially if I'm attracted to him? Not to say I would ever make a move on the guy, but I don't want to disrespect his relationship by essentially being an orbiter either, considering what happened to me in the past and all.

MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME

A man being attracted to a virgin is no more hypocritical than a woman being attracted to someone without boobs.

Shut the fuck up, you retard. Men who are virgins are not attractive. Women who are virgins are.

>should I only get in a relationship with the intent of it ending up in marriage
if that's your end goal, yes. or risk a child with a bad wife/mother. thats a fail
sorry I just can't fathom a man not wanting sex. crazy. I mean I've turned down girls before, but for good reason
all people are fucked. just look for a decent family. you might be a bit of a sucker though. just dont get taken advantage of, and draw the line at some point

>considering just not even saying anything to him and leaving
NO. Don't. This is a terrible idea and you should be gassed for doing terrible things.

Instead, say goodbye in a friendly manner. Can you say goodbye without appearing to be flirtatious? A hug, or just a wave? "Hey, I will be leaving in a few days, it was fun getting to know you". Don't make a move, don't do anything, say goodbye, be respectful and thank him for his time and for being so caring to you.

Only to pedophiles and abusive insecure control freaks who haven't matured yet.

t. permavirgin

Why are girls always suffering from anxiety?
Do the hormones of your insides cause or is it some socially made thing?

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>all people are fucked.
Yes, actually yes.

>just look for a decent family.
I think I will keep an eye at that and draw lines if they don't have a decent one? I dunno, overbearing parents seem like a perfect family until you're too way down in the way.

>you might be a bit of a sucker though.
I am, I have a difficult time reading between the lines and this even affected me at work with a client a few weeks ago.

>just dont get taken advantage of
How?

>and draw the line at some point
And, where?

Why not just be in a female dominated relationship with me? That way you know I'll never cheat on you.

Also I don't think he's being that weird, if you run into him maybe mention you're leaving and say bye, but you don't have to go out of your way to tell him or not tell him, it sounds like he's just a sociable office guy.