>feel like I'm drifting through life >always spaced out and in my head >barely focus on what I'm doing day to day >put things down and forget where I put them immediately >get distracted very easily >impulsive and give in to desires to do drugs or drink or eat a ton of food >barely any self control >very lazy >constantly anxious or depressed or indulging in something to forget that I am anxious or depressed >find it very difficult to get started on something >find it extremely difficult to accomplish things unless I am afraid of the outcome >terrible socially but have friends >did extremely well in highschool(borderline valedictorian) but barely made it through college to get my math degree >starting work soon
This is kinda a weird thing to ask advice for, but how do I stop being so fucking stupid? Or I guess a better word is how do I start becoming a real person. I am CONSTANTLY spaced out. I am barely here as a person. I have no self discipline. I have no goals or ambitions. No motivations. Day to day I do almost nothing except distractedly watch anime or play videogames. I've only progressed slightly in life just out of anxiety and fear of being homeless.
What the fuck do I do? How the fuck do I begin being a person?
Talk to a professional, get a prescription that can hopefully help normalize your brain chemistry.
Wyatt Hughes
Get checked for the following: ADHD and hypothyroidism
Alexander Hill
could be brain fog, or depersonalization/derealization
you described me user
Michael Phillips
When I get insurance at my job I will get checked for both. Thank you. I've had this since I was a child though. My whole life.
Alexander Davis
damn that sucks dude. mine just started about 6 months ago after a terrible weed trip. I'd try SSRIs, they've helped me a little bit but I still have brain fog/ low energy. Oh and btw, your sentences are very coherent so you're obviously not retarded. It could very well just be a chemical imbalance in your brain
Ian Cook
i am the same way, nothing wrong with that
i took stimulants for 6 years. became a millionaire and retired, but it wasn't worth it. if i could go back i'd just be the old me and genuinely go through life. those years made me sacrifice an insane lot that i'll never get back. dropped everything once i finally had success with my business. don't even drink coffee anymore. life feels so much more right.
Accept that you're stupid and you'll be happy. Once you're happy, you'll know what to do. You can't expect to live a good life if you're down and out. Focus on what makes you good, even if those things are in the minority.
A lot of your green-texting resonates with who I am/who I was
You'll be okay.
Justin Martin
These are all signs of depression. Seek help
Nathaniel Green
medicate or therapy
Luis Roberts
>give in to desires to do drugs or drink or eat a ton of food Cut these substances. >OP pic Cut on THAT too. >find it very difficult to get started on something Evaluate how NOT doing it might improve your situation. If the outcome scares you, well, by your logic, you should do it. >barely focus on what I'm doing day to day Have a plan,a schedule. >feel like I'm drifting through life Set goals on yourself : what do you want to realistically accomplish before your grave? Then see how you can achieve them,and put in work to achieve them. Cut games/anime & Jow Forums.(or drastically reduce the time spent on these)
Hard, but necessary.
Adam Gray
what do you call it when you go to buy more weed then?
Joseph Clark
same but that's because i smoke a lot of weed
Lucas Nelson
I don't have goals. This is my issue. I don't have passions or things I want to imagine. I am sure if I had some goal I would die to achieve, quitting the shit food and drugs would be worth it.
I know I'm not completely hopeless. People tell me my math degree means I can at least learn something. I just don't know how people have a drive that pushes them to do things every day.
I don't smoke weed ever. I rarely do drugs honestly. I drink pretty intensely when I'm with friends but other than that I don't even do that anymore. I just do nothing.
yep this seems like the route. I'm starting to believe this isn't just me being lazy and I will try to start therapy as soon as I have health insurance. And medication as a last resort. At the very least I'll get evaluated for ADHD and get a blood work done.
Hunter Fisher
I guess a good first step is try cooking something you've always wanted to eat. There are recipes for everything.
Lincoln Thompson
I'm going through the same, i need some help but I'm broke and got no job. I can't afford a therapist
Matthew Morris
Not even a little bit sure how to advise you considering I was the same way in college. Broke and taking out loans. I'd donate plasma sometimes to pay for my antidepressants from the school, because doctor visits were free but medicine wasn't.
Not sure what the fuck to do now.
Julian Sullivan
honestly OP you have to suffer. try to do a hard fast, eat one relatively large meal a day. no drugs, liquor, binging on snacks. it will clear your head
Chase Davis
Google "brain fog site:raypeatforum.com" for nutritional approaches
If you're a math major, you're very cerebral, I recommend (from experience) looking into Bioenergetic therapy.
Also, generic advice still worth mention - spend less time on computer/smartphone, esp when it comes to gawking at pics of women. Fantasy and daydreaming will steal your life away. A bird on your arm is worth infinite porn vids.
>try to do a hard fast, eat one relatively large meal a day. no drugs, liquor, binging on snacks.
i call that a good day.
This is suffering? I call this a good deserved break from our dopamine chasing, hedonistic society. Truly the one time we can be happy
Elijah Morgan
You have no self discipline because you were always smart enough to get away with the bare minimum and waste the rest of your time. Get a hobby, take up martial arts, meditate, do something that will help cultivate yourself. Don't take pills unless you're on the verge of suicide.
