I'm honestly not sure. It seems irrelevant, but at the same time, I'd prefer to know if he did sexual things with a friend years ago. I'm just not sure if it should stay buried information or what.
Am I supposed to tell my boyfriend that I did sexual things with a friend years ago?
Well you know your boyfriend better than us. Does he hate sluts or not?
If you still see that friend in any capacity, then yes. Also don't ever be alone with that friend.
I don't see him in any capacity and haven't in a very long time. He contacted me recently and I was thinking about hanging out with him again, but this thought occurred to me.
>hanging out with your previous fuckbuddy
And the fact you don't want to tell him that you used to fuck said guy?
HAHAHAHAHAH *breathes* HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Enjoy watching your relationship crumble because you're undateable.
Yes, you whore. If he isn't alright with your past, then give him an opportunity to leave quickly and cleanly. If you keep it hidden only for him to find out years later, the results could be very ugly, even violent--and you'd deserve it.
? I didn't fuck the guy. Why are you guys always so quick to pull the 'slut' card? It's kind of bizarre..
>He contacted me recently and I was thinking about hanging out with him again, but this thought occurred to me.
Don't keep contact with old FWBs while you are in a relationship.
How would you feel if your boyfriend met up with a girl he used to fuck?
>Am I supposed to tell my boyfriend that I did sexual things with a friend years ago?
My girlfriend knows about my sexual past and I know about hers, it's a talk that just happened some time into our relationship. I wouldn't force it but once the situation comes up simply be honest.
What does this mean exactly then?
I wasn't keeping contact with him however.. If my boyfriend had a FWB randomly contact him one day, how could I be angry with him? Also, this guy is not a FWB anyway. I think I will tell him anyway though.
I poked his penis when it was soft then we never talked again.
Some anons here jumping the gun here. But you should tell him. Typically one partner would not tell the other if they were in fact hiding something. I don't believe that is your case though.
This is a bad place to ask these questions. It's filled with angry incels waiting for a woman to get pissy at for their own problems.
Anyway, I wouldn't. And you're right not to hang with him. If attraction and tension existed before, it will again. Even if you don't cheat it'll fuck with your head. Being human is weird.
>I didn't fuck the guy. Why are you guys always so quick to pull the 'slut' card?
What do you expect us to assume when you say "sexual things"? That you had a long, heartfelt discussion about the plight of transgenders in the Hindu untouchable community?
And I can't speak for the other guy, but the reason I assume someone is a whore is because statistically they probably are. Are you living with/fucking your bf? I.e. fornicating? 95% chance that you are, and that I was right in my assumption.
>I poked his penis when it was soft
Clothes on or off? If they were on, I'd call it weird and inappropriate, but I can forget about it if it just happened once.
If they were off, I wouldn't believe you that it stopped there if I were in your bf's position, especially not if you opened up with "sexual things".
>Why are you guys quick to play the slut card
This is Jow Forums. You aren't talking to normal people. You're talking to angry social rejects with Puritan wet dreams, which is more based in "if I can't have sex no one else should"
Sounds like an old unrequited crush, why would you want to talk to him when you already have a boyfriend?
>if I can't have sex no one else should
>"Incels don't exist because their problems are with themselves, but these people who are voluntarily celibate are the real incels."
Make up your minds, degenerates.
You do realize that moral standards have fallen through the floor only very recently, right? It's the domain of drooling retards to claim that the only reason to advocate restraint is "hurr you're not getting any".
Yes, I probably will tell him. I'm not and wasn't hiding anything, I was just wondering if it would matter. I know my boyfriend but I'm not sure if he'd be uncomfortable or just laugh at me for worrying.
Yeah.. I don't think I could be attracted to him again. It's kind of like when you rewatch a movie you used to like when you were younger and you realize it wasn't all that great in the end. But maybe hanging out would be inappropriate as well.
If you believe a whore is someone who lives with their partner or has sex with them, I don't know if your advice or perspective is one I should listen to.
He reached out to me and I remembered besides that one time, we were very good friends and had good conversations. I guess I miss that a bit.
I'm was just going to lurk this thread, but you really need to know how much of a faggot you are.
No they haven't you plum.
Alfred Kinsey did the first massive scale sexual behaviour survey in like the 50s and was nearly lynched because people didn't like finding out literally no one was waiting for marriage and everyone was masturbating.
Oh stop. That's subjective. You finding skin friction a moral issue is silly.
Im over here thinking things like murder and stealing and being a dick to your friends is morally wrong and you're all wound up about icky icky penises and vaginas.
This & based
Btw. Just came back home after hanging out with a girl that has a BF she knows I'm a scumbag didn't care we got to her place after some time she said she wouldn't do anything with me . Guess who massaged her fully naked and had his fingers in her at the end of the day . Woman are just stupid as fuck .Facts !!!
>If you believe a whore is someone who lives with their partner or has sex with them
Someone who does that whilst unmarried, not in general. Treating that behavior as morally acceptable also lets partner counts fly off the rails, when it should be one--and in turn, this is to the detriment of all, not just you but everyone around you, as they are thus deprived of the surety of moral standards.
>I don't know if your advice or perspective is one I should listen to.
Don't take my word for it, look at the evidence. Keep in mind the hedonists on this board have none of their own, they simply screech and whine ad nauseam.
>Bivariate results suggested that delaying sexual involvement was associated with higher relationship quality across several dimensions. The multivariate results indicated that the speed of entry into sexual relationships was negatively associated with marital quality, but only among women."
>"I find that premarital sex or premarital cohabitation that is limited to a woman's husband is not associated with an elevated risk of marital disruption. However, women who have more than one intimate premarital relationship have an increased risk of marital dissolution."
>"Both structural equation and group comparison analyses demonstrated that sexual restraint was associated with better relationship outcomes, even when controlling for education, the number of sexual partners, religiosity, and relationship length."
The bottom line for your particular issue, though, is that you should be honest. I said as much in my first post.
>I miss something I had with someone I had sexual encounter with in the past
>sh-should I tell my bf tho?
LMAOOO this thread is a trip
Don't know if it's true, but two seconds in google gave me this.
>Compiling thousands of interviews, Kinsey reported that American women were eithersexually repressed (married) or highly promiscuous. Kinsey’s studies have had anenormous impact on the law and the culture, despite later evidence that the research wasfatally flawed and even involved cover-ups of child rape.In Kinsey, Sex and Fraud (1990),3 Dr. Judith Reisman and Edward Eichel unmasked theKinsey studies as a massive hoax. The medical journal The Lancet reviewed theirfindings and said: “[T]he important allegations from the scientific viewpoint areimperfections in the (Kinsey) sample and unethical, possibly criminal, observations onchildren. ... Dr. Judith A. Reisman and her colleagues demolish the foundations of thetwo (Kinsey) reports.”
You're just as bad as the incels.
I don't understand what's funny about asking? I'm genuinely trying to do the right thing.
Interesting read if anyone is curious: concernedwomen.org
It's funny because you are a dishonest retard looking for the internet to coddle you and make you feel good about your dumb decisions.
You can pat yourself on the back for making the effort though, since that's really the point of all this.
I think he meant it in another way .
But oh okay .
If you don't see this issue in terms of sex your part of the problem ,kek.
Based women doctors dabbing on retarded men
? What's dishonest? This person contacted me and I haven't hung out with him. It's been on my mind on whether I should ignore him or talk to my boyfriend about it. I think your hostility is weird and unnecessary.
I feel bad for your boyfriend.
Because the answer is obvious as fuck and you still come her to ask it yo bitch tits or gtfo .
All you dishonest cunts what the fuck is wrong with you ?
She needs to think about telling her boyfriend or not haha fuck off
Not even seeing the issue
It isn't obvious. Why open up about past events if they're irrelevant? For example, if this guy never contacted me, I wouldn't have brought this up anyway. Isn't it weird to tell your partner about your sexual history unless they ask out of curiosity or explicitly state they want/need to know?
>Alfred Kinsey did the first massive scale sexual behaviour survey in like the 50s
Alright, dipshit. Let's engage on this one. Kinsey's "studies" relied on volunteer samples, which is going to skew the results in favor of shameless degenerates to start with
>nearly lynched because people didn't like finding out literally no one was waiting for marriage
First of all, this is false--it showed that fewer people were waiting until marriage than is ideal, which is always going to be the case. You wouldn't have moral standards if nobody was ever at risk of breaching them regardless. That people flipped their shit over the report goes to show the stark contrast with today, where people similarly get assblasted at evidence like . There are differences with STANDARDS.
Also, the government-run NSFG, which started collecting data AFTER the disastrous sexual """revolution""", had a total of 1 in 4 women waiting until marriage in the 1970s, and 2 out of 3 only had sex with their spouse, which is a far cry from today, where it is barely at 1 in 4 for spousal exclusivity (and that's mostly by sheer luck, that people marry who they first date).
>Im over here thinking things like murder and stealing and being a dick to your friends is morally wrong
That's also "subjective", you brainlet. Morality is not an arbitrary set of actions you deem "good" or "bad", that's completely useless to individuals and to society. It is a structure you use to define good or bad, from a given desired end. If you value stable and happy marriages, it is unarguable that moral restrictions on sexual behavior are necessary.
>just as bad as the incels.
I'm no incel--to be involuntarily celibate is to desire degeneracy but be somehow 'denied' that as if it's either owed or beneficial.
No it's totally normal in a healthy relationship to talk about your past sex life .
Just block the dudes number and be done with it .
>You finding skin friction a moral issue is silly.
Isn't murder and stealing just modified forms of skin friction too?
if this question arises in your mind, that means you should tell him.