tl;dr a girl wants me to beat the shit out of her. Wat do?
I've been friends with this girl for a while now. She's super cool, asian, getting her PHD in some niche type of therapy for tards, already a college professor, big weeb, does slutty cosplays at cons, does Muy Thai, rides motorcycles - she's great. Both of us had significant others for a long time, but we're both recently single and we've been talking a ton and bonding over our mutual sadness.
She's coming over this weekend and I'm hoping to finally sleep with her, ideally make a FWB situation out of it. I'm kind of apprehensive about being able to please her sexually because she's told me in significant detail that she's very into being dominated and her biggest kink is literally having the shit beaten out of her. "I just want someone to hit me until I'm bloody and then cuddle me tenderly and tell me I did a good job" and "I've never found a sweet boy that's willing to be rough enough with me".
I'm not a naturally dominant person. I'm far from a sub or a cuck, but I'm not used to asserting my will onto other people, and the thought of it doesn't really get me going sexually. I've also basically never hit another person, besides one or two 5 second 'fights' in grade school and occasionally spanking my ex's when my roommates weren't home.
Any advice on how I should make an effort to please this girl if I get her into bed this weekend?
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Mason Long
Buy a white tanktop, some malt liquor and get to work then. Start with some light slapping and work you way up. Spit on her face and grab her hair by force. Check out catalog. Im sure theres an abuse thread there for inspiration
Blake Powell
You bought repackaged redbubble stickers congratulations Don't neglect getting written or, even better, video consent. Its what all the porn studios who specialize in this do because bitches WILL be crazy and the law WILL side with them. Then just imagine she's someone you hate.
John Perez
The scariest part would be finding out you like it. Are you prepared for that? Cause if it awakens a thirsty kink in you and it doesn't work out between you two, then what?
Leo Lee
Is she a bit nuts? I would never do this because the backfire can be HUGE. (Imagine that you go too far and she changes her mind? Or worse, imagine that it was a trap from the beginning)
Ayden Anderson
Okay this piece of wisdom I am about to bestow upon you may seem out of left field but....
DO. NOT. PUT. YOUR. DICK. IN. CRAZY.
Jose Bailey
get the consent on video / writing.
William Bailey
you found a unicorn! go for it, and make sure you force her to drink your piss.
Juan Lee
It cannot be a good thing to expose yourself and lessen your inhibitions towards committing acts of violence even if it is consensual/in the bedroom/etc.
Jaxson Morgan
Not to kill your mood but I am going to suggest talk to her first. Plus, as with anyone, what they say and what they want can be two very different things.
First, talk to her up front and ask her: Has she done this before? If no, maybe a bit of rough spanking and LIGHT holding of her neck, not choking. Maybe pulling on her hair. Even if she says yes, break doen what she found comfortable and what not. Agree to safety words, limits and what exactly is OK and NOT ok.
My other suggestion is to play coy and pull an emotional judo. I.e "I understand why you may like it but something in my life which happened makes me feel uncomfortable about doing this".
If she asks what, your brother or friend used to violently beat you so you would rather not do the same to someone else. At the very least, you would like to slowly build it up than start so you can both learn together.
Owen Brown
Dude she just wants a man.
Are you a man or a bitch
Christian Russell
I’d say do it for the lulz You will never ever ever ever get this chance again so take it Talk to her about how hard and rough you can be and then just go nuts I guess you’ll enjoy it trust me it’s not a trap and she probably won’t fuck you over if you think otherwise make a recorded agreement or write it down and let her sign it so you have proof it was voluntary Godspeed user and Do put your dick in crazy it’s fun trust me ;)
Andrew Bennett
Obviously don't do that dude. It's an insane amount of risk ans such a fucking stupid thing to do for some sex.
Charles Reyes
Obviously you do it Maybe don't draw blood but if she's into a physical experience and she actively wants you to do it, what's the problem
Juan Cruz
I don’t think you should do it.
William Lewis
If you have no experience with this, then you should not go beyond spanking, possibly slapping and hair pulling. Just like everything in BSDM if both people know what they are doing, you can do this with reasonable risks. I mean... knife and gun play are a thing after all.
Of course, you should only do this if you want to and if you are interested in exploring this kind of stuff with her.
Ask yourself if you want a relationship with her or if you just want a relationship. Don't do something stupid just to nut.
Jackson Bailey
You are not into it so don't do it. Best scenario: You get nothing, she gets off. Worst scenario: It's some sort of entrapment for a rape allegation or she gets seriously hurt. Also either way she's fucked in the head.
Camden Perry
Google "BDSM for beginners"
You'll learn, among other things, that it is rather common for people strong in real life to enjoy the weakness of being subs, and that it is all really about role-playing more than actual pain. And you'll learn about safe words
John Sanders
>what's the problem? The problem is women always have the law on their side and sex cases so if anything in her "brain" says "Wow I don't like user anymore", she can file charges against him and instantly win.
James Perez
I actually get that girl. She wants to yank the bullshit out of her and be punished for them. A lot of people feel some weight on them because of little things they do, which piles up and a literal kick in the teeth can be really liberating.
I'd accept her request. I'd slap her real fucking hard across the face, let the burning sensation start and then drag her entire body to bed and hug her head on my chest while I stroke her head comforting her.
Eli Barnes
>because she's told me in significant detail that she's very into being dominated and her biggest kink is literally having the shit beaten out of her. >"I just want someone to hit me until I'm bloody and then cuddle me tenderly and tell me I did a good job" and "I've never found a sweet boy that's willing to be rough enough with me". Literally me but I'm male aged 8-19 I wanted a female to do this to me, tell me look into her eyes while she did it but when I figured out I didn't actually enjoy the sensation of pain despite hitting my balls for years I eventually mellowed out and just turned gay and I now only want to get hurt by anal sex from men with hard slaps from them. I wish I actually enjoyed pain because I would probably still be straight.
