I can't seem to figure out how so many people are so confident when talking to others and conversing in general...

I can't seem to figure out how so many people are so confident when talking to others and conversing in general. I find it hard to talk to certain people and especially new people. What is the key to confidence?

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Same problem here brother

I don't know if there's a magic key or revelation that suddenly removes all social anxiety. I doubt there is.

Instead, I suspect that conversing with other people is like anything else; it gradually becomes less intimidating the more you practice doing it with people.

Have ball and don't give a fuck. And don't be fucking autistic.

You can either feel that you are the boss. The boss never feels awkward because he is within his domain and everyone is his lackey.
You can stop giving a fuck. Fear, anxiety, apprehension and whatnot only matter because you care about the outcome. If you are fine with everyone at the table scoffing at you, then it doesn't matter if you make a fool of yourself.

These are actually the same thing, but viewed from different angles. The boss doesn't care if his underlings laugh, because the boss knows that the only opinion that matters is his own. That is why he doesn't have any anxiety.

Just remember that true, real, actual, non-fictional confidence *never* comes from putting other people down or trying to show off. *Everyone* in the adult category knows that only insecure people ever engage in such behavior, and after a certain age it's not possible to pull such insecurity off as confidence anymore.

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just relax, it's not that serious
get to know new people by asking shit

The key to confidence is to not give a fuck what anyone thinks about you. Seriously, think about it. Why are you so afraid that somebody won't like you? What value does their opinion have for you? Especially strangers, right? When will you EVER IN YOUR LIFE see this stranger again? Probably never. So why the fuck would you care what they think about you or what you have to say? At the end of the day, when you're going through your day, do you think, "Gosh, I sure hope ________ thinks I'm cool."? No. You don't. At the end of your life, do you think you're going to wish that everybody thought your joke at last year's party was cool or cringy? No. Because nobody fucking cares, which means you shouldnt fucking care.

Stop giving people control over you. Take your authority back. Your opinion of yourself is all you need in this world to be confident and happy. Just be yourself and love yourself for who you are - quirks, defects, disorders and all. Love yourself. Be proud of yourself. Live a confident life knowing that even if everyone else doesn't like - YOU like you, and that's all that matters.

OP please read this. If you took a driver's license and drove your car everyday for 10 years and then stopped for 30 would you still have the same level of confidence driving it?

Consistency is key, talk to family talk to friends talk to literally everyone, ask people on bus stops for the time, ask them about the weather report wtv

stop being a beta. you'd be surprised how simple this is. let go of your insecurities, your doubts, your fears, your bullshit, and let your soul move with your friends' souls and with the will of the universe as surely as a stream flows downhill.

^^^^^^