Going on my first date this friday. Quite anxious as this is a girl I've liked for a while (multiple years). What are your tips and things to remember for first dates?
We haven't decided what to do yet either though, any suggestions?
Going on my first date this friday. Quite anxious as this is a girl I've liked for a while (multiple years). What are your tips and things to remember for first dates?
We haven't decided what to do yet either though, any suggestions?
Here is what to do:
>She comes in
>You go for the hug to say Hello
>You get really close to her ear
>You wisper "Heil Hydra"
>Turn arround and run
>Never talk to a female again
I'll have it as a backup plan for now but any other suggestions would be just great.
Remember that dates are about bonding. Especially since Im guessing youre young (18+), she's probably not expecting much. Just do something fun, like get a bite to eat and go for a walk. Once you start, ask her if there's anywhere she'd like to go. Also, try to at least... Im not sure how to say this without it sounding autistic: reach a milestone of some sort? Kiss, put your arm around her, hug, hold her hand, something like that before the end of the date. But above all, make sure you two have fun.
if the conversation starts slowing, ask her about herself. people never get tired of talking about themselves. and just be confident. its okay if you do something a little wrong, just laugh it off and move on. and movies are bad first dates. food is always good and maybe somewhere like a museum or art show.
Yeah we're 18.
> reach a milestone of some sort
yeah that doesn't sound bad.
One thing to mention perhaps is that she didn't call it a date, she just asked if i was down to do something. However, she knows I like her, like I have literally told her before. Am I safe in assuming that this is more of a date than something else?
Just wondering as if it isn't it would be kind of wrong to make moves.
> ask her about herself. people never get tired of talking about themselves
great advice, thanks. much appreciated.
I second the anons comment. But when you ask her questions stay away from yes/no questions. Open ended questions so she can take all the time she wants and when she answers then ask another open ended question relevant to what she said.
But, I don't understand. You said she asked if you wanted to do something but nothing in particular so how do you think this is a date. Its more like hanging out.
>she didn't call it a date, she just asked if i was down to do something.
Thats pretty typical of women. They like to keep things casual, at least to start. Btw, did she ask you out?
>Am I safe in assuming that this is more of a date than something else?
If you two are going to be alone together (no third wheels or other friends tagging along), it's safe to assume so.
>Just wondering as if it isn't it would be kind of wrong to make moves.
Women are attracted to confidence. Being bold is rarely a bad thing amongst women. Just be confident, flirt a little, talk, ect.
"Hanging out" with a woman 1:1 is basically a date. Get with the times, old man.
I like getting a bite to eat downtown then going for a walk in a park for a first date, my city has some really beautiful parks. Maybe that's too mundane though? Most importantly just b urself user, ask her about herself, tell her a little bit about your life. Most important imo is don't overthink things, just try your best to relax, don't be fake, everyone can subconsciously tell when you're being fake unless you're a pro. If I'm feeling it I like to escalate some physical touch like touching her leg or giving her a hug/kiss at the end, but only if I'm feeling like she's comfortable. Have fun user, dates are scary but rewarding
>"Hanging out" with a woman 1:1 is basically a date
you've got a lot to learn. My friends nor I consider hanging out one on one a date. You are way off, hanging out is hanging out and you assume nothing. I guess it makes sense now, guys want to hang out because it cost them nothing but they expect everything.
> You said she asked if you wanted to do something but nothing in particular so how do you think this is a date. Its more like hanging out.
I know her well I suppose. She doesn't hang out with any other guys and I am pretty much the only guy she talks with as often as we do. I also don't see why she wants to go out with someone she knows likes her without it being a date. Also to clearify, she didn't say wanna hang and left it at that, it was more like we should find a specific thing to do on friday and go together.
> Btw, did she ask you out?
Yeah. how come?
> If you two are going to be alone together
Thats the case yeah.
> Being bold is rarely a bad thing amongst women.
Great advice, thanks.
> Most important imo is don't overthink things, just try your best to relax
Yeah trying my best to be chill about it
> Have fun user, dates are scary but rewarding
I'll do my best, thanks bro
Again, she never said hang out, she asked if I would be down to do something, and then we kind of talked about what we could be doing.
>talked about what we could be doing
then pick one of the things she talked about
she didn't suggest anything really, we chatted about this at like 3 am and didn't come to any conclusions as we were both very tired
>Yeah, how come?
Its just a little unusual is all, but if you're already friends its not that weird.
>hanging out is hanging out and you assume nothing
Sounds like a great way to stay a virgin.
>I guess it makes sense now, guys want to hang
>guys
Not sure if female or really bitter beta.
>it cost them nothing but they expect everything
Yes, I does cost nothing and the possible reward is a gf. Zero risk, all the gain. And being practical, if she likes him and user makes a move, he's golden. If she doesnt like him and he makes a move, then it wasnt going to happen anyways. Theres really no reason for him to not make a move.
> Theres really no reason for him to not make a move.
Well I'm going to see her every weekday at school, but people stop giving a shit about mostly everything after 2 weeks so w/e.
Go watch a movie/go to a festival/ go to a local music-related thing. Then go eat. If you didn't go to a movie for the first thing to do, go to the movie after eating. Try not to eat then do something, you'll be too focused on not farting/holding in a shit the whole time you're together
Are there not toilets where you live?
Bump
Ok OP here is some real advice.
Dating is just like swimming, it way easier if you're relaxed. Often times we get so into our heads that the date needs to go perfectly or we need to accomplish something when at its core dating should really be about enjoying the time you spend with that special person. So try not to be too anxious and just be present.
You've known this girl for a while so the hardest part is over. You don't have to ask her stupid questions that everyone asks when they first start to date someone. Ask questions that are more significant: what is she passionate about? Scariest thing to happen to her? etc.
Since it seems like the term date wasn't established you need to close the gap. Hug her when you see her or at least touch her in some manner. While you are on the date continue to build that physical comfort. This could mean placing your arm around her, teasing her and playing with her hair, holding hands, playfully pushing her, you get the point. The idea is that if things continue you ideally want to avoid a situation when you just go in blind and hope she kisses you when you lean in. Establishing physical rapport helps you break down that intitial physical barrier and it lets her know you're interested and it helps make her more comfortable with the idea of you touching her.
As for places to go, I think getting ice cream is severely underrated. You could also take her to get ramen or some other cool restaurant you know of. Going to the beach at night is a cheap romantic date. Avoid movies.
Thanks user, lots og great advice. I'll do my best to calm my anxiety. I have rationally convinced myself that it is not that big of a deal, but my feelings are still out of whack. It will probably go away soon enough
>girl I've liked for a while
>multiple years
You already lost.
Elaborate