So I have a female room mate (I am male) and we had a bit of an argument with regards to cleaning (I found her cleaning of the kitchen to be lacking).
Eventually things got heated, but I tried to calm down and rephrase my words to which she subsequently walked away. I was and still am furious, but I let it be for now.
Why do some women think it is okay to just walk away without saying anything? My ex did this too and it makes my fists itch. Who the fuck does she think she is, the fucking queen?
How do I handle this situation? I feel like me telling her I find it massively disrespectful is either going to make her laugh or she is just going to shrug her shoulders.
>I found her cleaning of the kitchen to be lacking based Common female tactic when a woman knows she's lost an argument is WHY ARE WE ARGUING and your experience sounds like a variation on that
Jacob Brown
>WHY ARE WE ARGUING Exactly mate, before she walked away she said it thrice: "Why are we even talking about this" trivializing the matter, when it had been an issue before and I had specifically requested her to clean up after herself. There was grease everywhere.
Fucking hell, own up to your mistakes!
Henry Gonzalez
if you have poor enough childlike self control that you start getting the urge to punch shit in the middle of an argument, she is absolutely making the correct decision by walking away and waiting to have the discussion later
Colton King
>poor enough childlike self control that you start getting the urge to punch shit >urge >meaning it did not happen
wut?
So walking away is not childish?
Jeremiah Bell
You were raised by the internet so you expect anything and everything to be a Ben Shapiro Epic Owned style argument.
Move out or get a new room mate. You're too autistic to be living with women.
Ryder Ward
>so you expect anything and everything to be a Ben Shapiro Epic Owned style argument. I never mentioned the content of the actual argument, strawman steve
It's a power move, but just makes them look childish.
If you can't compromise you may have to move.
I've had lots of roommates over the years. A bad roommate is a moveout situation.
Chase Morris
You were expecting an argument, didn't get one, and now you're mad at her for not arguing with you.
Jose Cruz
no walking away is a standard adult way to handle the situation when someone in an argument is more invested in being angry than in finding a solution it's certainly better than sitting around and yelling back at them, because angry people are stupid and you'll never convince them of anything or get any valuable discussion out of it until they calm down anyways
Caleb Harris
Nah, mate she was arguing just as hard as I was, she just walked away mid sentence when I was trying to calm down and offer a solution
Well maybe I was raised differently. Walking away can be good, but you got to say something / the reason. Just walking away mid sentence without saying something half rolling your eyes is demeaning and disrespectful imo
Isaac Nelson
Yeah, in the future no more room mates for me. I always end up with people that never communicate and then expect me to know their personality or thoughts.
Jeremiah Lopez
>Nah, mate she was arguing just as hard as I was, she just walked away mid sentence when I was trying to calm down and offer a solution
okay so you didn't get as big of an argument as you were hoping, you didn't get to win the argument, you didn't get to use your cleverly-crafted words, etc.
Regardless, you're more upset at her walking away from the argument, than the argument itself and what led to it.
John Wilson
>okay so you didn't get as big of an argument as you were hoping, you didn't get to win the argument, you didn't get to use your cleverly-crafted words, etc.
You seem to be hell bent on making this an ego centric point for some reason. You are all making this up as I didnt mention this at all nor was it the purpose of my OP.
>Why do some women think it is okay to just walk away without saying anything? My ex did this too and it makes my fists itch. Who the fuck does she think she is, the fucking queen?
and also, because you missed it >Eventually things got heated, but I tried to calm down and rephrase my words to which she subsequently walked away >How do I handle this situation? I feel like me telling her I find it massively disrespectful is either going to make her laugh or she is just going to shrug her shoulders.
>Regardless, you're more upset at her walking away from the argument, than the argument itself and what led to it.
Carter Butler
>Regardless, that is your opinion based on things that weren't mentioned and you could not possibly know without further information
Ooookay then, enough thread derailment, let's get back to the original point of the thread.
To everyone:
How do I talk to her about this and make it clear it is not constructive? How could we reach an agreement on the cleaning and communication around that?
You made it a point to explicitly write in your post about how she walked away from your argument. It's literally half of your post. Now you're pretending that it didn't bother you, when you said it was making your fists itch.
No wonder she walked away from you if all you do is deny things you said and argue in circles.
Kayden Robinson
I never said it didnt bother me nor that it wasnt an important part of my post. That's why I asked the questions. You, however, are persistently drawing conclusions based on information you made up and try to shift the focus.
If you dont have anything constructive to contribute to this thread and instead want to shitpost all the time, I ask you to kindly leave.
Luis Turner
This. Op what exactly do you want to happen? You want her to just tell you you’re right and do exactly what you say. She walked away because you both hold different opinions and obviously weren’t going to agree so there’s no point to keep arguing constantly, people have to do other things in life than just sit and argue. Just move out op
David Torres
Please read my OP carefully.
>Just move out op
Too bad I have the first right to the appartement so I can kick her out.
Logan Gray
Lol you sound like a crazy control freak boy
Jason Edwards
Okay love. Why do you derail threads? Do you self-insert as the girl in my OP?
Cameron Howard
Some people need to walk away to calm down and think about things. You sound pretty anal because you demand a response right then and there
Gavin Rogers
Op hasn’t realized multiple people are responding. Yes I have met a control freak before and you sound pretty similar. Although the one difference is you didn’t go as far as assault. Yet.
Samuel Wilson
Okay, miss speculation
True I understand that, but she did not uphold her promise to properly clean the kitchen as there was still grease anywhere nor did she say that she needed a minute. She just walked out mid sentence. How would you respond?
Grayson Diaz
women are physically and emotionally inferior to men. this is why as a man, you must display the proper behavior and apply discipline as needed. Ex. After cleaning the kitchen properly, reward with a treat. (not getting hit)
Jaxson Reyes
Okay, but can you give me an answer without trolling?
Charles Sanders
you should have fucked her
Logan Bennett
if it was two men, walking away without saying anything would be disrespectful. Women do that all the time though, especially to each other. Just let her do it, it's a way to not say something you'll regret or to leave a situation to go calm down.
Nkt everyone follows your code of respect, nor are they obligated to. She's not your spouse or you significant other, or you sister, or even your friend.
Let it go.
Cooper Lee
OP I don't know why, probably because Jow Forums is a sad place full of people with no real life experience, but this whole thread is gaslighting you hard. Part of what people are saying is true though, you can't force the argument. Just talk to her about how you feel later on when things are cooled down. I know it feels right to talk in the moment, but sometimes waiting is the best move. If she laughs or otherwise invalidates your opinions then seriously consider kicking her out/moving out. Proper communication between roommates is extremely important.
