She rejected me. what are the chances she could realize something and come back to me...

how fast could i do this?

Depends on how fast you can stuff your brain full of things and activities that interest you besides said piece of tail
She’ll never look back dude you gotta move on and let new things happen to yourself

Could be months, years, decades, or never. That’s most likely, that she will never want you again, that you will never even see her again. And you both move on with your lives.

As other user was referring to, you need to expand your mind, find more hobbies and interests, get in better shape, work harder, make more money, make more friends, develop more skills, acquire more resources, and move on from her. Then and only then is there the smallest possibility of anything your thinking of happening, but by that point you won’t care anymore anyways, along the way you will gain life experience wisdom and likely meet new women you think are better anyways

as i said, what i feel for her wont fade soon, and i cant help it. and honestly, i need a reason to do stuff, i dont really have will power otherwise. so if i build myself up, not for her, but thinking about a greater objective, which may include her, even as a friend again, wouldnt that be good?

Cut the cancer out
She is the cancer
All that is great but don’t let her live in your head rent free
Thinking of people I loved and not letting go like that nearly drove me to suicide, take it as a warning, when I let go and moved on I was free to grow and I’m so much better for it
Do all that but cut her out

If you feel that’s necessary to take action sure whatever, taking action is the most important thing, but just know you do have to get over her and by not doing it you’re just prolonging the inevitable. It will have to happen and the longer you draw it out the more pain you will feel. But ya understandable first part of a break up u do feel some physical withdrawal symptoms kind of

but i dont care enough about myself to do all of this for me. since we have the same interests, shes everywhere i look, which makes it even harder to move on. when we were friends, it was actually way easier to just settle down, but now she wants to cut contact for a while. also, i cant bring myself to do any of this, i havent found an objective yet.

Ok, tell me the reason why you would accept her if she "came to her senses," and retracted her rejection.

i still love her

Go through your mourning period but take back all the fucks you give about her and give them BACK to yourself. It takes time and effort but trust me, you’re the one stuck in your body and mind for the REST of your life, whether you think it now or not you ARE worth it. I was in a very similar place as you for a long time and that is what I learned. The longer you wait the more you damage yourself and the harder it is to repair

i never cared about myself.

Yeah but...she doesn't love you. At least not enough to be with you. Live that's one sided is obsession, infatuation, or a crush. You can't be in love when the other person doesn't reciprocate. Reset and try again.

Also, think about this. Why do you love someone who rejects you? I think it would be more fruitful to work on getting over this person than contemplating whether she might change her mind someday sooner or later.

Not happening lad, sorry, time to move on, girls don’t really find obsessive dudes cute, they find that creepy

Yes you do. You’re made of the same star stuff as her. It’s a learned skill loving yourself, choose your pain. Practice the skill or spend your life in your current state. The choice is yours alone

Also this
Voice of experience, 10+ years spent wallowing and it’s not worth it.
They blocked me and I was left to pick up the pieces

*love rather

i dont act obsessive

well, many times she acted reciprocative, which gave me hope for too long, so for over a year, i thought she could have a sliver of interest. thats the part i love. i am trying to get over her, but in the small chance she could develop love for me, then it would be reciprocative.

Keep trying to get over her
She rejected you and she will never reciprocate js

how do i do it? how do i find will to do everything for my own sake?

At first you just wake up, develop a routine and go through the motions
Steady sleep schedule, 3 square meals a day, go for a one mile walk each day. Start simple and build onto the routine as your energy increases. Throw variables and new experiences at yourself. Read. Pick a craft or hobby. Exercise. Watch videos, play games. Incorporate things you enjoy or search for them. One step at a time but reputation is key

Repetition is key *

So basically she was a stroker.

Also finding and keeping a job you can tolerate or enjoy helps structure a routine and get money

all i can currently bring myself to do is play vydia. im not unhealthy, maybe a little sedentary, but i eat well, definitely not fat, should sleep more, but i guess i can manage it. i really dont like physical exercise tho.

Go on a walk.

Vidya is nice but in the end it’s escapism and provides next to 0 exp. We all wake up to real life every day. I also vidya a lot but I’ve found thinking of real life as a vidya to be helpful. Big open world RPG with your body and mind being a blank slate upon which to level up skills and gain experience. I too was averse to physical until circumstances lead me to a very physical job to survive. In a matter of months the way my physical growth affected my mind was unbelievably positive. I suggest getting your feet wet because as you grow your body your mind follows. Explore the map, do quests, get skills and level up my dude, it’s well worth it
Stop saying you can’t too
You just won’t as of yet
But you have the power to change that

Don’t get to level 26 on empty exp from vidya and get absolutely wopped in PVP it’s not worth it

that was weirdly inspiring. ill try to do that, thanks. you seem like a nice person, someone id get along well with. actually, all of you anons here on Jow Forums are good people, thanks for helping a depressed user.

That girl is not worth ruining your life over or staying stuck. It's time to move on. I know it sucks but it's better than ruminating and holding on to false hope. I am saying this from experience, so trust me. The people who string you along and don't get down to business or just that stringing you along. they want the attention and the possibility from that person but they don't actually want that person. They are just users and you don't need that in your life.

my wound is really fresh, i still have to process most of what happened, so it still hurts a lot. she was a great friend, from what i know of her, she wouldnt do this on purpose, but yeah i know i have to move on. it still hurts very much tho, and it will for a while

Get a buzzed/drunk. It makes the pain go away.