I recently got a phone number from a woman on bumble in about 4 messages. I have never been this far with a woman before as in its the first number I have ever gotten in my life and I am 28.
How should I proceed? Anyway, its been about 3 days. We text each other quite a bit. I want to ask her out but I am fearful. She lives maybe 45 minutes to an hour away and I don't know her town at all. I don't know any good spots. So lets assume I do ask her out and she says yes. What now? How do I pick a spot if I am not familiar with the area? Maybe I am worrying too much. The other issue is that I don't want to ask her out too early. I can't go out with her this weekend but I don't want that fire to die you know? What can I do?
Hey fuck face tell her you wanna meet her , but don't know the area. Make plans with her not for her.
Colton Russell
I see. Should I ask now or later? I can't go out with her this week or the next because I am working on the weekend. I doubt she would come to me also.
Asher Ortiz
Basically, I just don't want to ask to soon because I don't want to seem over eager even though I am really eager. I also don't want to ask too late and have her lose interest in me.
Adrian Clark
Now Make time Don't plan on things too far (more than a week) Once again talk to her she knows what she likes you can cam together and watch movies if she likes
Brandon Wilson
Dude what do you mean make time? I literally cannot go to her on the weekend because I have work. I don't think going to see her during the week is a good idea either. But that might just be me being a bit weird. Honestly, I am afraid of driving on the highway which is preventing me from doing a lot. I am trash and I hate to admit that fear. Fuck.
Nicholas Butler
Lol this sucks
Jace Reed
yeah, I guess I have to conquer that fear otherwise I probably can't do much. I just get so nervous when driving in unknown areas that it feels like I can't fucking see even though my vision is near perfect. I just feel like my brain won't process that I need to take this turn and such. I feel like I get overwhelmed by the roads.
Ayden Sullivan
Is there anyone that has any advice on getting over this particular fear? I am really embarrassed about it but now that I am actually facing what is hurting me most, its clear that its crippling me. It stresses the shit out of me having to drive on the highway. Merging just seems so weird to me. What if there is high traffic? What if I get to where I am going and the parking is trash? What if I hit a curb?
Xavier Reyes
Bro just follow google maps and stay in the right lane if you're scared and you'll be fine.
Ryder Bennett
its legal to stay in the right line the whole drive? I don't have to lane switch?
Jonathan Thompson
What if every time you want to meet a girl, you end up not being able to because of this dumb fear about driving on the highway? Are you really okay with that? It's just like anything else. Do it enough and you won't even have to think about it.
Levi Bennett
Do you even know how to google maps? It literally tells you "stay in the right 2 lanes to turn left onto blah street in 200 meters" etc etc It's impossible to fuck up.
Also try and meet as soon as possible, in my experience getting a phone number and texting is a long way from having it in the bag so to speak. If it goes on more than about a week or two without meeting, she'll loose interest and stop talking to you.
William Young
Yes you don’t have to switch lanes. Just be aware of people merging and let them go ahead of you or speed up a bit if you need to, so it works out
Just tell her you’re not familiar with the area and ask her where her favorite spot is
Cooper Baker
Can you practice?
William Martin
I have been driving for about 20 years and I'm not aware of any rule that says you have to get out of the right lane.
basically if you didn't realize the right lane is the slow lane so you could get into the right lane and stay in it the whole time if your feeling nervous about going over to the left.
However as the other non pointed out the right lane is tricky because people are constantly merging in and out of it that is where they enter the highway and exit the highway the majority of the time so it may be more difficult than just getting over. But the issue with the left lane is that's technically the fast lane and people will run up on top of you.
Ryan James
Depending on the highway I sometimes get scared too. The ones I typically drive don't bother me, but when I drive to other cities and everyone is going 90-100 mph and the roads are utter shit and filled with potholes I start to get really nervous. Like other anons said just stay in the right lane and go a speed you feel comfortable at, let cars pass you on the left. Turn on some music and try to relax. Also, if you use google maps you can always ask it for a route that avoids highways, and you can try to partially or entirely avoid them.
45 minutes by highway is not that bad, I make that drive 2-3 times a week.
I understand you bro but just try not to let it get in your way.
Luke Evans
This helps me. Thank you. I will try to practice also. I just don't want to actually get a woman in my car and have to have her see me drive. So embarrassing but I will make it through some how. I might try tomorrow actually. Early morning maybe. I just don't even know where to go though.
Bro i dont give a shit about your bumble thing. But shit like this is gonna fuck you out of a lot of women so fix it. Who gives a fuck if you miss a fucking turn, just catch the god damn next one dude. Having tiny ass fears like this leads to a bunch of little spazz outs that will make you look like a freak
Jordan Morris
This. Being at least mediocre to good at driving is actually quite the important factor for a lot of women. So drive you dumbass and learn to get comfortable with it. Also finding parking spots and parking in difficult locations is important when you take her out somewhere.
James Hughes
"Hi. This is user. My thumbs were getting sore from all the texting so I thought I'd use the phone for what it was invented for and talk through it. [chat chat chat} Say, why don't we get together? I don't know your town well. Where would be a good place for us to meet for lunch Saturday?"
Ethan Clark
Dude just bee yourself
Justin Ross
The best success i've had with conquering fear is exposure therapy that i implement myself. for roads, maybe start with high-traffic local roads. drive on them for as long as it takes to feel bored. then move to interstate high-ways or your areas equivalent. drive on them 'till you get bored. then move up to highways. fears exist to be overcome or to keep you alive. i would overcome this fear before worrying about women, user. it will give you confidence.
Jason Carter
There's some truth to this but most people don't think through it enough and interpret it as "you shouldn't have to change jack shit in your life to be more likable/get a good job/etc." This is the king of microwavable wisdom