How do I deal with intense feelings of subservience to attractive women? I see them and want to be their findom slave. This is very unhealthy and I don't want it to tip into my real life.
How do I deal with intense feelings of subservience to attractive women? I see them and want to be their findom slave...
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you find a queen worth following who knows how to operate in public without ruining your life
you joke but I would do that if I found a willing woman. The problem is I'm trying to resist this mindset.
How much you payin' user?
Why, are you attractive? Thousands for somene I can meet irl, which fortunately I doubt we could do.
What he's saying is that denial will make the urges stronger, but a healthy acquiescence will make things potentially better for you overall.
>What he's saying is that denial will make the urges stronger
hah tell me about it.
>but a healthy acquiescence will make things potentially better for you overall.
that's true, but what is a "healthy" level of findom? I'm not sure such a thing exists and if it does most women doing it would be more interested in squeezing you for everything they can get.
Yeah but the distance would probably be a problem. Oh well, if you're ever in the mood to pay for and carry my shopping bags in Berlin, Paris or London, just make a thread.
Ay, but are you attractive? I only want the finest accessory pigs.
dammit that's tempting, I don't want to be tempted
bump for any practical advice
some girls are into that stuff. date normally and then bring it up on the 3rd or 4th date. first sex is always pretty vanilla so don't get all kinky/crazy right off the bat. but definitely bring it up early. just ask if she's into anything kinky and if so what is it? that'll get the convo started.
well I mean findom rather than femdom. The latter I can see working in an otherwise normal relationship, the former not so much, and that's a problem.
oh, my bad. the only findom i knew was a college-age brat who was trying to avoid having to work a dayjob.
i dunno man. you're probably better off spending that money on sexual therapy. maybe you can get your urges redirected. i don't know if play money or acting out sexual fantasies involving findom would help or hurt. or take 50 bucks or 100 bucks to the local strip club, but otherwise don't carry cards or anything, idk man
First: stop with masturbation, pornography and everything that leads you to have lustful thoughts.
I think that what you're feeling is related to lust.
You may be idealizing her because you may have a disordered desire for her.
You need to look at people through the eyes of the soul, because on that matter you can almost fully recognize yourself in her. And in this way you will see that both of you have the same dignity.
A person is more than a mere flesh.
You cannot purify your mind alone. You need God's grace. God can help, but you need to also do your part. So pray, study and go to a Catholic Church. Seek Christ!
Watch this video which deals with the matter of purity: youtube.com
>you're probably better off spending that money on sexual therapy. maybe you can get your urges redirected.
That's definitely something to consider, but good god talking about this to a therapist would be hard. I'm not sure a strip club would work, but perhaps play acting would if I had a willing gf.
oh yeah it's lust no doubt. I have no religious beliefs and lying to myself and others about that won't help.
I haven’t slept normal for a month and I have begun to make innuendo like statements, to a female therapist she told me I should try yoga or meditation to help sleep, and then I just start smirking and can’t control myself anymore.
It is very out of character for me because I was always a very good boy in the past, I always did my homework and I was respectful, but now something has changed and I lost control.
>why do I start acting weird after I haven't slept for a month
Because you haven't slept in a month, you dumbass. Your brain's having a shitty time trying to keep you alive, let alone making you seem normal in society. Sleep.
also kill yourself slut
Go the fuck to sleep
stop watching porn maybe
Check 'em this is real this is real
Give her your contact info
any time you think of findom or think it's a remotely good idea, sing the beverly hillbillies theme song to yourself, become self aware and force it out of your mind and replace it with the beverly hillbillies theme song
"come and listen to a story by a man named jed..."
also remember people are literally starving on the street and it could happen to you so dont blow it on some stupid whore.
I don't watch much porn at all, maybe once a week at most.
I tried something similar once, every time this thought came up I'd imagine beating the shit out of someone as some sort of masculine fantasy (in case you haven't guessed I'm a massive beta). It was tough, maybe your music idea will work better so I'll give that a go! Thanks.