Is everyone really depressed?

Someone please tell me the truth: Do most people have depression? Are all the people I see every day secretly depressed and suicidal? Am I just a lazy idiot that just struggles way too much with the common average problems that everyday people have?
Or is it NOT normal to have been depressed for many years and to think about suicide every day? To have no interest in any activity? So many people I see every day seem so functional, have friends, go out. I mean I know they have problems, but are they all depressed and suicidal? Is everyone dealing with pretty much the same and I'm just bad at being depressed?

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I mean I know many people have actual depression, but does everyone or the huge majority have it? To the point where I should assume most people I see everyday are currently depressed and suicidal, and have been for years?

>Are all the people I see every day secretly depressed and suicidal
No

You just need a therapist bro

I used to go to therapy. I guess I should have discussed "being suicidal" with him more but I was afraid to do so. The guy kept insisting that I should have sex though, like the /tv/ meme except years ago. I only went to one but it left me thinking therapy is for people who are completely "average and normal" except for some specific problems they suddenly have. I gotta find a new one I guess.

During the day I'm usually fine for the most part but right when I try to fall asleep, I get really depressed and have suicidal thoughts.

I think most people are angry instead.

I know what you mean, those moments are the worst. I wonder how common it. If it's an actual function of the brain it's a pretty stupid one.

> I guess I should have discussed "being suicidal" with him more

Careful with that shit. Depending on where you live, if they believe you are an immediate threat to yourself/others they can and will have you forcibly interred at an in-patient facility. Saying that it sounds relieving or whatever is fine. It's when they think you've got a plan. I am by no means trying to deter you from seeking help but I know that being forced into an in-patient facilty would turn my suicidal idealization to suicidal actualization. But that's just me.

Thanks user, yeah that's why I was afraid of doing so and just ended up talking about mundane shit. Idk how to properly get help about being suicidal. Idk how much at risk I am, I sometimes lean towards avenues to see if I can drop myself into traffic but always back away when it gets too dangerous. But that's probably not an actual suicide death risk.
I also don't know if there are any suicide hotlines in my country, there probably aren't. And if I will just get dumb generic advice if I call (like "promise me you wont kill yourself" like people say on the internet) or if I need to be in "actual risk" to call those lines. Or if they will report me to the cops or shit.

Definitely not. You are probably just under the false impression that you're smart, so whatever you feel has to be accurate interpretations of reality. Since most other people are at least as functional as you, maybe you assume they're also smart enough to interpret things as smartly as you do, and so they're also all miserable?

idk man, I don't know you. Seems reasonable with how smart everyone on Jow Forums seems to think they are.

Idk I think you got the opposite from my post, cause I feel like I'm less smart than the rest, since if most people really are as depressed and suicidal as I am (because people claim everyone has depression) then they are smarter than me because they are way better at dealing with depression.
Because most of the people I see every day have friends, go out, do activities. They must be better at dealing with depression OR they must not be depressed, they must be actually happy.
What made me question this is how many articles and people everywhere say that most people are depressed, that most people are not happy, etc. And that thinking you have depression "unlike the people around you" makes you "someone who thinks he's a special snowflake".
So I'm wondering if I'm as depressed as most people (if depression and suicidal thoughts are "the norm") and I'm just bad at dealing with it, or if indeed I have depression while most people around me do not.
Again, of course I acknowledge that many people have depression and are suicidal, but just that the majority of people I see every day do not.
I'd probably feel better knowing that my case is indeed "special" (not unique but special in the sense that most people aren't depressed and suicidal) so I know "why" I don't feel and look as happy as the rest. As opposed to knowing that I'm just like everyone else, because that would mean I'm a gigantic failure since I have no friends, can't enjoy anything, cant accomplish normal people tasks like having a social circle, enjoying hobbies, etc. Even if people around me are good at hiding problems they have way more to show than I do so there definitely is a difference between them and me. Idk what this difference is, if I'm depressed and they aren't or if I'm just lazy and dumb and doing something obvious wrong.

Shit sorry for the text wall

They definitely vary in quality. The first few sessions should be treated like first dates to see if you are compatible

>t. gaslighting asshole
I am not OP. I believe OP is clearly not in the mindset to be
>under the false impression that you're smart, so whatever you feel has to be accurate interpretations of reality.
and the whole point of OPs post is to question the views that you call him dumb for supposedly having. This is last type of mindfuckery a depressed person with crippling self-doubt needs to experience. Be ashamed of yourself.

>how smart everyone on Jow Forums seems to think they are

And you fall under the same boat, funny how it all works out

Not OP, but I'm also in the same situation. Just looking at other people with social circles and smiles and success makes me loose my already low self-esteem.

I'm thinking about therapy, but idk if it will just convince me not to be depressed, drug me out of it, or actually help me solve it. Also, idk how therapists treat people who aren't total normies who just think they're depressed one day and feel better the next.

Yes pretty much, the difference is that some people externalise their pain whereas some people internalise it. The ones who externalise it are cruel to others and they're the people we call happy. The ones who internalise it are cruel to themselves and they're the ones we call unhappy. Both types are deeply unhappy because they suffer from the same condition of a modern human being living in society that they have been conditioned to suppress their emotions and as such live in a perpetual state of emotional constipation. Children are happy because they haven't yet learned this fully, it's also why they are free to cry when they want and laugh when they want.

>I'm thinking about therapy, but idk if it will just convince me not to be depressed, drug me out of it, or actually help me solve it. Also, idk how therapists treat people who aren't total normies who just think they're depressed one day and feel better the next.
I have asperger and I have had a shitty experience with therapy. I went to therapy for severe depression and social anxiety. Difficulty with communicating is inherent to asperger, especially communicating emotions. I tend to be very concise and stoic when I answer question about my inner life. I have a hard time expressing myself. When the therapist asks if I am feeling sad I answer "Yes, very much so." with a blank expression on my face. The therapist interprets this as I am not that much sad, but really I am extremely sad and contemplating suicide every day. I rarely volunteer information about my situation that isn't asked for (I have often gotten bullied for blurting out things that people didn't want to hear, and they use it against me), and often I (wrongly) assume that the therapist are able to put all the pieces together from all the things we have talked about to (within reason) infer various things about my state. I feel like I have explained myself very precisely and organized, but I later understand that she have very little clue about the extent of my suffering. I realize what has going on after a while, and try to tell her that she needs to interpret my word more literally and logically than with a normal person. This backfires as it seems that she now sees my cries for help as attention whoring.

I absolutely encourage you to seek therapy, but you have to ensure that your therapist is somewhat suited to understand you. If you are a strange person, it might be that most therapists will have a lot of difficulty getting correct reading of your state.

I get the vibe that people are secretly depressed which is why many people look outwards for comfort from their own thoughts. Many people dont want to be alone at all and i feel this is to save themselves from their own mind, and the increasing weirdness of the modern world. The world seems to make a lot of profit off of people who feel incomplete and sad

Big thanks for the info. I'm strange indeed, I'm definitely not a normie but I'm also not a total aspie. I do have social anxiety and bad social skills though. Finding people Incan relate to and be friends with is hard, and dating is even harder. I hope I can find a therapist that can understand what I'm going through instead of the one you described, who sounds skin deep with her analysis skills desu. Maybe a psychologist? Regardless, it sounds to me like I will have to approach therapists like dates and see how it goes. Not like I'm going to keep searching for one till I hear what I want to hear, but it's crucial that I meet one that can actually read me and understand me more than I can myself.

>idk man, I don't know you. Seems reasonable with how smart everyone on Jow Forums seems to think they are.
you sound like a dude who says this to feel smart

Np.
> it's crucial that I meet one that can actually read me and understand me more than I can myself.
Exactly. You probably know this, but ensure that this person is a good person too. Trust your gut instinct.

everyone is self-absorbed and has problems user, but most people are not desperately suicidal.

>Do most people have depression?
No.
>Are all the people I see every day secretly depressed and suicidal?
No.
>Am I just a lazy idiot that just struggles way too much with the common average problems that everyday people have?
No idea, only you can know. Trust yourself.
>Or is it NOT normal to have been depressed for many years and to think about suicide every day? To have no interest in any activity?
Yes, this is not normal.
>So many people I see every day seem so functional, have friends, go out. I mean I know they have problems, but are they all depressed and suicidal?
No. Some of them are.
>Is everyone dealing with pretty much the same and I'm just bad at being depressed?
No. People differ a lot.

I believe all people experience a fair share of distress in their lives, but people differ a lot in how they handle this. Some of is genetic, some is enviromental. Both these factors differ a lot for different people, thus some can much more easily be thrown into the downward spiral that is depression. Depression tends to be harder and harder to defeat the longer you have had it. It's not a fair game.

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