Is there any way to overcome being stupid?

Is there any way to overcome being stupid?

I can’t math, I can’t get myself to learn any proper STEM thing, I keep getting told you learn to love the struggle and when you overcome a hurdle the joy of finding the solution will make you happy.

I’ve never overcome a hurdle in my life and trying to solve that kind of problems just feels like trying to peel a potato with another potato.

How do I fix this? How do I make myself enjoy making myself cry over numbers and formulas?

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you and me both man. i feel like a fujcking retard

Everyone in my family is university educated, they’re doctors and lawyers and everything. And I don’t know how to stop being stupid.

What maths are you having trouble with and what specifically do you find difficult. Can you show me an example of a problem you’ve worked on recently?

You aren't smart enough to know my pain
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Not everybody is cut out for STEM. Not to say that just because you're struggling now means that you aren't fit for it, but just keep it in mind to cut your losses if you find that your limitations don't make you suitable for STEM.

High school level math, physics and chemistry. I can’t even name the math anymore, and in chem I can’t fucking learn to remember what is a covalent bond, or what does it do or what were the other alternatives.

I can’t stand being nothing for the rest of my life.

it's possible you just might not be suited for it op, and that's fine.
you can keep trying to grind it out, supposedly you can learn anything if you try hard enough, but honestly, if you really don't care about it deep down, you might not actually want to learn it, in which case you are just wasting time.
try and change your attitude and give it another go, but if you can't brain into it, it might be better to try something else.
i assume you are still pretty young, so you can afford to try different things, give the arts a try.
writing, art, music, you owe it to yourself to try as many things as you can to see what you really fit into.

I’m 25 and I’m trying to force myself to study something real now after arts and writing spectacularly failed.

If I can’t do arts and I can’t do STEM either, it’s going to be the noose for me.

Harsh reality is that there are some people who are way too smart for studying and there are people like us who are too dumb for it, hence, requiring us to study 2x as hard and achieve at least the bare minimum passing score.

This doesn't mean that you are totally stupid. You just have to look for other things to study or work that would make you feel that you fit perfectly in. If you want to press on with STEM, then that's totally fine, but keep it in mind that you really need to work hard for it in order to pass. If you are not achieving desired results, then I suggest to stop giving in to your pride and find other things instead. If you know to yourself that you are most likely to fail then stop wasting time and back out.

i'd kill to be 25 again.
if that's the case you are going to have to grind something out until you get it.
it sucks, but that's just what us brainlets have to do.
be glad that you have a well to do family to back you up until you can find something

What would you suggest I study? I couldn’t make art, I couldn’t write a book, I keep fucking up even in trades I try to get into because I hate it so much.

I want to do something that people value, while not being covered in filth.

You're trying to learn it the wrong way.
The key is to appreciating the beauty of math is that when you see a new fact or formula, you need to answer this question:
>How could I explain this to a twelve-year-old?

I can’t even explain it to myself.

Exactly. So break it down into simpler pieces until you can.
Let's try it. What's one formula you're having trouble understanding?

You simply find something that you're passionate about. If you like writing books then you should just pursue it. It's not a matter of you not having any talent at all, it's just you not having any skills.

I gave up on it last year, I can’t remember anything anymore. I dread going back to it but it’s becoming obvious there are no other options.

Do you remember that thing as a kid when your parents are convinced you’ve taken something you weren’t allowed to take, and now demand you give it back, but you didn’t take it?

You try to tell them you don’t have it, but they don’t believe you, they get angry and call you a liar and demand you give them the thing.

And you start crying because you know there’s no way to make them stop screaming other than to give them the thing, but no matter how badly you’d want to, you can’t, because you honest to god don’t have it.

That’s what writing a book feels like, the whole time. I don’t know whether other people are just better than me, or more enduring, but it took ten years of screaming at myself before I accepted that I really don’t have the makings of a literary masterpiece in me.

so become a doctor or a lawyer, you don't need to know math for those professions.

My inability to learn things I hate also spans memorising info.

I don’t think I can learn to recite medical or legal textbooks if it took me ten years to remember my own phone number

Any example of something you forgot?

I don't remember any.