Im 20 and all my friends like to go out to places and drink. I dont really like doing that, id rather just stay inside and play video games and watch movies and it feels almost inadequet compared to some coworkers and friends. I just wanna work play video games and watch movies and sleep.
Is there anything wrong with just grinding and spending time alone with my hobbies rather than partying and exploring?
You are just introvert and the other people you describe are extroverts. And as your other questions go, see pic related.
>20 year old asking "how to adult?? xD"
You're still a kid.
there isn't anything wrong with that particularly, but if you do value your friends, do something they want to do every once in a while.
i honestly think it's good that you don't go out and drink all of the time.
just vidya and movies can be pretty unfulfilling in the end though, i'd look into a more creative hobby
Fear God and keep his commandments: For this is the whole duty of man.
I just wanna play video games not worship a Jew, haha.
Think to yourself and ask if you will regret what your doing later on in life. If the answer is no then keep living on.
Nothing really wrong with what you want to do, but taking care of yourself well also includes your physical well being and maintaining something of a social support network.
If you're not getting exercise, correct this. You don't need to get jacked lifting, but you should at least be doing cardio.
Maintaining some real friendships is valuable. You can suggest activities during the day with your friends that don't involve drinking. Feel free to keep skipping the drinking. It's expensive, and the way most kids drink, it's also unhealthy and stupid. My observation as a sober person that goes to parties sometime is that a lot of people who get very drunk don't actually enjoy themselves but don't realize it because they're too fucked up.
>Is there anything wrong with just grinding and spending time alone with my hobbies rather than partying and exploring?
Yes. It's wrong because it isn't satisfying forever, and when you tire of it you'll realize you don't know how to socialize and engage with people well and your formative years are behind you.
Then you will be in a truly dark place, user. Trapped, posting threads on Jow Forums like
>how do i get a gf?
>yeah but HOW give me the exact steps starting from waking up
because things that come naturally to us like, "talk to girls, utilize your social network to meet new people that's how we did it" simply doesn't compute with you. We'll be in a world apart and unable to help you despite wanting to, simply because we can't picture anyone being so socially limited.
Im pretty happy with where I am now I just feel really inadequet compared to my other friends. Like is what Im doing right? Should I be drinking and going to new places every weekend?
Its more or so like. I just like being with like 1 or two friends playing board games and vidya and laughing maybe the ocassional Six Flags / Lake trip ya know?
Anywho thanks Everyone!
I dont have issues communicating people my social muscle keeps working out because I work retail and i keeo the cardio going by walking late at night here and there and I walk ALOT for the job that I do 95% of the time at my job im walking/lifting
If you lurk this board for a while, you'll see how many threads there are about vidya no longer being satisfying but no social skills, how do I get a gf, and other shit normies really can't help with due to lack of understanding. They all thought like you once.
I'm not going to sit here trying to convince you anymore. It's a dark road you're going down, be ye warned.
Also retail isn't real socializing.
Not really, just keep in mind that everyone is trying to drown that feeling of uncertainty in some way. Your coworkers and friends do it with socializing, you do it with video games.
As long as you know everyone's after the same feeling you're one step ahead of them.
you need to leave your comfort zone willingly so you will know how to handle yourself when you dont have a choice. also you dont have any real hobby, your just playing games and watching movies. you need to contemplate what your life is missing and how you can better yourself while you're still young. what skill do you wish you knew? i don't mean like for a job, I mean stuff like how to change a tire, how to give CPR/Heimlich , emergency maintenance stuff. >think of what situation you fear, and research the solution so you're prepared.
I know how to do those things took a CPR class and also changed brakes and rotors all that stuff myself. Im not a COMPLETE SHUT IN EITHER. Im pretty handy, movies and vidya isnt the ONLY thing i do. But its mostly what I do and then other things include car stuff, home stuff like shelving and room decor that isnt animu and the occassional art and writting. If that makes sense.
But I should start talking to girls (customers more at work so i can practice small talk so i can talk to the girls i like when I want to )
Religion aside, going out and socializing is great way to network for future employment and other opportunities. Just don't over do it. No one respects a bar star. Not even themselves.
Like dont get me wrong an ocassional bar trip with friends would be cool once in a blue moon but it isnt for me all the adventuring and going to see new places in my state and stuff. Just seems boring. If I intend to travel or go out id rather just go all out and travel to Spain, I know spanish I might as well and experience a different level of exploration but consistently isnt my thing
Never mind. It appears your retarded.
In that case
YOU'RE retarded. periodt.
>Adulting
Just give up on your life now desu
Dude you just said thank you to these people for their advice but you didnt actually seem to accept any of it.
I wish I had friends who wanted to go out drinking with me.
My male friends are all hobbyists like you, though, and the female friends just know better lol.
Just take a book. I see people reading at the bar. No one will judge.