What is it like being an extremely good-looking person?
I'm like a 7.5/10 and I really wonder what's it like in the upper levels.
What is it like being an extremely good-looking person?
You get hit on by gays and uggos all day long.
Random people want to sit next to you at restaurants and cafes, complimenting you for your appearance, a few people will hit on you, people will want to help you more in achieving stuff, etc.
Also, I want to have sex with an alien.
4/10 here with a 9/10 cousin.
I like hanging out with her, because I like to people watch and she attracts all kinds of looks everywhere she goes. Men get straight up stupid when they see a pretty girl, and it's a constant source of entertainment for us. I don't think I'd like having all that attention. I'm an introvert, so I don't do well with groups of people and she's constantly being bothered by randos on the street.
What kind of alien user?
Isn't that a robot?
My boyfriend is really attractive. 6'3", same face as young Johnny Depp, the most amazing smile I've ever seen, full hair, fit but not too fit.
People are super kind to him. They bright up when he's in a room. Everyone is super polite to him and tries to chat him up. Men and women tell him he's handsome. People hit on him all the time. Two girls thought he was a minor Hollywood celebrity whose name I can't remember and asked for an autograph.
Side note: I had people tell at me that I am too ugly to date him.
this
and this but no aliens.
irl Johnny Depp is in an abusive relationship with a psycho woman, and that also happens when you give ugly stupid people chances they don't deserve.
I like 'em with a few extra add-ons.
I don't know if I need to make it clear, but my boyfriend isn't Johnny Depp?
Just commentary, on from being average and generally rounded normal "attractive" vs celebrity status.
lol
I just meant to say that his face looks a lot like pic related.
Wasn't mean to mean anything deeper than that.
Johnny sucks.
Okay? I'm not especially invested in Johnny Depp.
Someone that’s a 9/10 has the option to tone down/turn off the attractiveness based on preparation before going out. She must really enjoy all that attention
Sorry if it's a really rude question but how come you two date if so?
Like are you also incredibly pretty or how did you two get together?
>People are constantly watching or staring at you, it gives me a lot of anxiety
>Other men are intimidated by you and will either react friendly, or try to belittle you
>People always listen to what you have to say which is pretty nice
>drunk girls in groups target you, which can be pretty cool if they're attractive but fucking shitty if they're not, especially if they're obnoxious
>I've never had a problem getting a job anywhere
It's probably the question I get asked the most when anyone meets my boyfriend.
I'm pretty much average. 5'6", 130 lbs, 6.5/10 face. Ex fatty so a little flabby, too.
We met through common friends and literally talked for 20 hours straight. Just pure, absolute and perfect chemistry. We became best friends overnight, shared things we never talked about with anyone else. We felt super comfortable around each other.
He's so fucking funny, intelligent, has a heart of gold. And I guess I'm kinda smart, not too boring to talk to and a pretty caring person. You know when you meet someone and you're just "wow, I'm done, this is the real shit"? It was like that for us.
While I absolutely do recognise he is the most handsome human being I've ever walked past and it baffles me that he wastes his Greek God genes on me, we've always been just... really good friends of each other since the start? I'd take a bullet for him and actually like him for more than just his hot ass. I think it's the same for him.
I want this life
100% this.
Some other things:
- People have higher expectations for you socially but become disenchanted when they realize your personality doesn't correlate to your attractiveness.
- I also tend to overcompensate in my sex life.
- You can bang other hot people, but eventually start avoiding them entirely because a lot of attractive people are boring or are too socially transient to truly emotionally commit to a relationship
I'm not complaining. But for me it contributed to making most of my romantic connections fleeting and superficial. I'm an abrasive, awkward, emotionally distant guy with a lot of esoteric interests, a slight ego, and bipolar disorder. When I open up, and the fantasy evaporates then people jump ship.
I guess the trick is to be both attractive AND have a malleable, well-adjusted personality. But most people don't work that way.
I think a value of being average looking or ugly is that you have no doubt that the people who want to be close to you are there for you as a person and not just the IDEA of you.
Depends. I’m really attractive. Pretty much what everyone here has said. But depends on the energy you give off. I’ve always been reserved and quiet. So depending on whether I’m confident in that moment in time I’m all of a sudden this “strong silent mysterious type.” Quiet equates to brokenness so most of the women i attract are chicks who are fucked up. Now there have been points in my life where I’ve been outgoing as well, and that’s where you attract the most people. I’m attractive, intelligent, well spoken. And if you can throw outgoing and exciting into All that people just want to be around you. They respect you by default. Having wisdom, intelligence, strength, passion, all that shit you think matters seems to only earn respect if your facial symetry is on par. It’s fucking absurd how the world works. I know for a fact if I was ugly being quiet and reserved and shit people would think I was a serial killer or a creep or some shit. I was dating a chick who called one of my friends a creep. He literally radiates the same energy I do, but he’s ugly and I’m not. I called her a cunt and left her out of principle. I have compassion for every dude on this planet. I see the certain advantages I have in life. Literally just because I was born. So I like to think I’m pretty humble about my situation and compassionate about other people’s. I have a very keen insight into women that has made me bitter. It’s really hard to actually respect women when i see a girl holding her lovers hand eye fucking me across the room.
sounds like me but im not handsome
its pretty cool
Side note.
Despite all of this. It’s actually incredibly lonely. Now some ugly guy might read this and say “how fucking dare you. You have no idea what it’s like being ugly and how shit life is like this.” I totally do not. I have no idea what it’s like to be ugly. I have some insight but i don’t fully understand. When you’re attractive you realize how fake everything is. How unfulfilling. When you’re attractive people want something from you. Women want to fuck you sure. Not because you’re actually a great guy or kind or smart. Because you’re hot. Men want to bring you down or use you to bring themselves up. It’s not genuine loyalty either. I feel the same pain every man feels. Insecurity, loneliness, depression. Men hate you by default so you can’t find love and genuine friendship with them so you turn to women to medicate your loneliness. Then you realize women don’t want you for who you are but what you are, and that it’s built on a lie as well. I have no friends, I have no family, i don’t pursue women because sure I could fuck them but it wouldn’t bring me any closer to not being alone. I spend most of my days alone with my dog and playing guitar. When you’re attractive and realize women are unfulfilling your realize how fufilling genuine male friendship actually is. Like ugly men get hated by women. I get hated by men. And genuine real friendship with another man is all i desperately want because i know how fake companionship with women is.
It’s probably bullshit, but in the possibility that it isn’t, I sympathise. I’m an uggo like you described so I can’t empathise, but do sympathise. You’re the first attractive person that I’ve met who can put it into words. Never stop never stopping lad, you’ll make it.
Long story short, it's horrible unless you know how to deal with the extra attention and expectations.
>that also happens when you give ugly stupid people chances they don't deserve.
Or when normal people get drawn into a life of excess. It's pretty hard not to go cray or at least addicted to drugs when you're a celeb.
Yeah.
>It's pretty hard not to go cray or at least addicted to drugs when you're a celeb.
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That's honestly amazing, I hope we can all have that one day too
This reminds me of what another really attractive guy told me once. Back in highschool there was this guy all the girls wanted to fuck. One day I was at a party and I met him and I asked him his opinion on all his "fame" and he said "they all like me but none of them want to get to know me" honestly I really felt sad for him in that and we had a nice convo.
Come on man, do you see how you are complaining the same way a rich person would.
>do you know how hard it is to manage all this money, and all the help staff are nice only because i am rich!
I am a short, awkward, shy , used to be a fat and now balding guy. The lonely solitary stuff you do becasue you are bored with people? i had to do those because i didnt have a choice, it just was my life.
I had to change my entire personality to be outgoing and witty and funny just to be in groups. I organised dozens of event with dozens of people just to be stood up with egg on my face.
The reason you get hated by men is because your insecurities. I fucking love my chad friends, they qre great. However they qre my friends not because they are chads, but because they proved their merit to me and i to them.
I told you all this so you can see a different perspective. I hope you have a fucking awesome weekend.
constant attention and people sucking up to you and jealous of you at the same time. people don't think you have any problems and use you to project and blame all their issues on. nobody bothers to get to know the real you
actually it's not all bad and I have some genuine people. but usually it's that people judge me by looks alone and never go beyond that.
Agree with the high social expectations.
Everyone wants to sleep with you. Vapid people want you around them as an accessory.
>I think a value of being average looking or ugly is that you have no doubt that the people who want to be close to you are there for you as a person and not just the IDEA of you.
It's up to you to change that. You give me a strong vibe that you try to conform to everyone elses expectations and that's causing you psychological damage.
Not that user but these are legitimate complains. And given how the issue one deals with is relatively small to shit other people have to handle, it's even harder to find someone who understands what you're going through.
Not being able to eat in two days and not being able to buy a new Macbook because Apple discontinued it are both shitty situation but at least it's easy to find people who'll understand the pain for the former.
Are you for real?
I am not saying pretty people dont have provlems but you come back with
>they dont have anybody to empathise!
And most ugly people dont either. So their life is double shitty!
If i complained about how i am suicidal, there is not a single day in my life where i genuinely dont think about killing myself because how i see myself as a failure, worthless and useless sack of shit i wouldn't have anybody in my life. I am all those things and yet here we are..
Please for the love of the god-emperor dont let some issues hold you back. I know you are liked by some people for the genuine person that. Go and embrace them, find true friends and make an effort ro be happy!
He's not Chad, he's an autistic loser who happens to be handsome.
Assuming he's being honest. That's the fakest post so far itt
>7.5/10
You are not a 7.5/10 if you have to ask this question.
>And most ugly people dont either.
They have all the other ugly people, who tend to be in bigger numbers than the "too pretty" or rich ones.
>not a single day in my life where i genuinely dont think about killing myself because how i see myself as a failure, worthless and useless sack of shit i wouldn't have anybody in my life.
And if you voice these complains to someone or at least post them online, you'd find tons of people who struggled with something similar and even more at least offering you #thoughts&prayers
Complaining about "I feel like I'm too pretty" or "I can't decide which Macbook to buy" are far less likely to get you genuine compassion.
You are dumb.
I literally empathised with you and you are too high up in your ass to see it. The things you mention dont get compassion cause they arent really bad things. Can be fixed easily and usually means the person is vapid if they stick with that complaint.
>malleable, well-adjusted personality
can't please everyone user
>I literally empathised with you
>The things you mention dont get compassion cause they arent really bad things.
I mean, you don't have to prove that you don't get it right in the next sentence. With the whole talk about perspective, you miss a key bit. Knowing that someone has it shittier doesn't do much to relieve us of our own suffering. "Yeah, your parents died but at least you have parents, I never knew mine" isn't just worthless, it also can make the person feel more shitty, since they bitch about "small things".
What would "Really bad things" even be? If it's something existential, then literally no one living in the first world deserves any compassion going with your logic. If it's less than existential, than you gotta acknowledge the suffering of people who have it materially better without belittling it by comparisons.
>Can be fixed easily
It literally can't. Only the attitude can be adjusted, which applies to basically anything.
>usually means the person is vapid if they stick with that complaint
Nice empathy you got there.
Well yeah, i think people living in the first world have it pretty good. Sadly i dont live in there.
And really bad things involve problems that cant be fixed, terminal diseases, indentured servitude, war and violence. I am not saying other stuff arent problems, they of course are. But they can be amended.
It can be fixed, there many people who are trying to help even the "incels" the most hated the least liked group in the first world. But you still believe people dont get empathy.
I fucking empathise with you, the issue is you seem to believe this involving me feeling sad with you. No, fuck that. You are a person who can improve their lives greatly. You have the tools of the entire humanity at your disposal, almost begging to be used.
My compassion for you involves me kicking you in the head so you start moving forward, improvr your life.
And yes, even attempt after attempt of convincing them otherwise, the person still complains and doesnt do shit. They are vapid.
You are worth so much and can do so much. It is amazing how you couldnt do those things yet..
I feel like I'm too good for women and don't have sex with anyone anymore.
I don't have any guy friends but I have a girl friend I met after getting married who wants to be my mistress
It's not so bad.
I don't know what I am. Seems like I'm on the higher end of this spectrum, but I don't really get much feedback.
Occasionally I get compliments about how "handsome" I am, but they're pretty scarce.
I do regularly get compliments on my impressive beard though.
>Sadly i dont live in there.
You live in a place which allows you access to this site and the free time and calories to use it. Based on your own logic you don't deserve compassion.
>indentured servitude, war and violence
"just flee, bro"
>But they can be amended.
Which applies to almost everything. And for the unfixable ones, there is still attitude change. If you don't mind dying and learned how to see the pain as an interesting experience, getting cancer is a non issue. The criteria doesn't seem useful nor helpful. Besides, what use would even be there in classifying how shitty something is? "A deserves compassion and B doesn't" sounds like a horrible world to live in.
>But you still believe people dont get empathy.
People with problems that are less commonly perceived as problems by the majority rarely do. The incel cult is a sort of self-help group already only with the help part being very skewed. A person who'd asked how to get the best 100 guys out of 1000 tinder matches would get shit on by most.
>I fucking empathise with you, the issue is you seem to believe this involving me feeling sad with you.
So how exactly do you empathise if you don't feel compassion for my issue nor how it affects me? Shit, "discontinued 12" Macbook" even qualifies as something that can't be amended short of becoming a billionaire and buying enough shares to influence the course of a company.
>You are a person who can improve their lives greatly. You have the tools of the entire humanity at your disposal, almost begging to be used.
All true and you might mean it well but still miss the point, that fixing something isn't always the priority. Sometimes people just need compassion. And some will rarely get it because their problems don't qualify as "worth compassion" by some.
>My compassion for you involves me kicking you in the head so you start moving forward, improvr your life.
My life is great already. Moving forward and improving it further won't fix my issue.
Ffs man. You are blindly being obtuse to what i said.
Read it again, but give the benefit of the doubt. I am a person here who understands what you said, but you act like your problems are nigh impossible to solve.
I will hold my tongue for this post for now.
>you act like your problems are nigh impossible to solve
I mean, they literally are. It doesn't make them big or ruin my life or anything but they are still practically unsolvable. And sure complaining doesn't do shit but when no action will do have an effect short/medium term, venting is all that's left to deal with pain. It just sucks when you can't even expect compassion.
But there is a solution?
Form genuine friendships and relationships, they might feel fake to you but you cant know that. Try to find honest people who will not lie to you.
That's the sort of "if you're thirsty, just drink something" solution which works when you have a bottle of water next to you and gets next to useless when you don't. People usually look for honest people who don't lie to them, telling these apart when you're surrounded by tons of people who appear that way and only show their fakeness down the line is where the problem even starts. Plus there is a lot more added pressure when you have more options. By picking person 1, 2, 3 and 4, you will lack the time to invest in 5, 6, 7 and 8; hence will feel even more guilty by going with the wrong ones, because you also failed to give a chance to the potentially decent ones.
Besides again, not that user. Muh struggle is the lack of new macbook, a practically unsolvable problem. And the point isn't about specific problems or how solvable or unsolvable they are, but how all of the shit deserves compassion and how hard it is to get for people with less conventional problems, adding another level to their troubles.
You can never have friendships that don't eventually end up in feeling on their end
Even with girls
Also, shittier people are insane and crazy obsessive
So many stalkers
Being stared at since I was 13, and feeling like I've been a show pony to those close to me most of my life
So yeah
>be me
>ugly as fuck 0/10
>manlet 5'6
>baldening
>horrible teeth
>horrible hair
>horrible skin
>born with speech problems, people can't get what I say for shit
>walk like the hunchback of notre dame
>everyone give me sights anywhere I go, all eyes Always on me, people empty the streets for me to pass
feels good, almost like a king
Oh fuck you man. I tried to be helpful and you are considered to just sulk, you are as worse as an incel at cope.
Your problem is not "less conventional" it simply is "less". Jesus just like everybody else do stuff while taking a risk.
I am honest with you, from the bottom of my heart i am honest. Go get the water bottle, it is far away and might take some time but it isnt impossible to take.
Girls look at me a lot. Get shy if I make eye contact. If i just plainly ask a girl out like "Hi I'm user, would you like to go out with me?" they say yes 70% of the time.
Lots of matches on tinder, superliked every day (but I also live in a huge city)
And I think I get away with a lot of awful stuff. I think part of the reason my personality is so bad is because i'm beautiful.
Idk what else to say. It isn't something I think about much.
lol shut the fuck faggot
>they say yes 70% of the time
The other 30% got their blood too far off their brains to say yes. Solid bait.
Me too, genuinely.
It was some real soulmate-y kind of shit.
Lonely at the top friend