Sexless relationship

i've been in a sexless relationship for the past year. im in my mid 20s. before this girl, i was with a girl who i fucked on the second date, and had all sorts of crazy amazing fucked up sex for a few years.

why are we not having sex? she has a septate hymen, which is like a string of flesh in the middle of the vagina. she has been saying for like six months that she is going to get it fixed surgically.

but it's like, she's so fucking frigid sometimes. we fool around, like she'll try and jerk me off, and occasionally i get a blowjob, and i've gotten real good at fingering her and making her cum. but it's just not the same as sex. she won't let me fuck her ass (i haven't asked but she mentioned she'd never do that) so that's out of the question. i got to fuck my ex in the ass.

also, she's kind of fucking annoying. always tense. like she gets so uptight about dumb shit. i try and help her and she gets mad. this bitch doesn't know how to correctly put gas in her car and doesn't know how to properly hold a fork and knife but i'm an asshole for trying to help her do things. and the worst part is she has a huge fucking ego because she's pre-med and gonna be a doctor one day. she never had a job before, she's a child with a huge ego. i've worked full time since i was 18, and worked all while getting my degree.

dudes. I NEED TO GET LAID. i'm losing my mind. i feel my testosterone levels dropping since last year. i'm a bitch now. dumb fucking cunt ruined my life.

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So leave her and stop blaming her for your lack of sex. Obvs you don't love her or even know what that is and aren't mature enough for an adult relationship if 1 you talk to strangers about your feels on this instead of her and 2 only like women for their vaginas.

you are kind of a fucking bitch.

i come here because it's anonymous and i can vent about whatever the fuck I want.

Thanks for the advice, asshole.

also, the point of a relationship is to have sex. if you disagree, then you are a fucking idiot.

if i want to hang out with a girl who there is no chance of sex, then we are friends. don't give me your progressive bullshit about relationships not needing to be about sex.

Even if she does get the surgery eventually, she'll still be frigid.

As much as Jow Forums recommends breaking up over even the slightest problem, it might be the only solution for avoiding these things. She's not going to get better, at least as long as her ego is inflated. Are you ready to accept this behavior and lack of fun sex?

When you find the right woman, it won't be *only* about sex, though sex is a really big thing the relationship still.

Thinking a relationship is only about sex is as dumb as thinking a relationship shouldn't be about sex at all.

He or she also is free to dissaprove of whatever the fuck you're venting about, its an anonymous image board.

Try talking to her about it if sex means so much to you, and maybe you can find a middle ground where you're both satisfied.

There's your advice, faggot.

>When you find the right woman, it won't be *only* about sex, though sex is a really big thing the relationship still.

that's a social construct
we're evolved primates
we need to mate

Oh my fucking god

Then just find people to fuck with or find a fuckbuddy don't get in a relationship

your advice is fucking useless to me because i'm here venting about essentially getting blue balls for a year.

obviously i like this girl. i've been with her for a year and we've experienced a lot together.

but I need to get laid. honestly, telling me after my post that "relationships aren't all about sex bro, stop being such an asshole reee" is like telling a person without legs that "stop complaining, life isn't all about walking bro"

honestly this is my biggest fear is that even when she finally gets this surgery she'll still be super awkward and we'll have boring unadventurous sex. i can't be 100% certain though but it's a fear.

I never said anything like that.
Obviously its important. I just responded agressively because you did the same.

How exactly are those mutually exclusive?
Second, if you want this to be within the context of evolution, it seems obvious that the personality of the woman would be a major quality to consider for raising successful children.

Yeah, I didn't say that either. I did the sex is important, but it's not the only thing that is important. For a successful relationship all the important things are needed.

Dude ive been there, minus the sex with a gf a long time ago- total waste of time when i look back- but it made me so jaded that afterwards i ended up not giving a fuck and focusing on my career. I ended up saying fuck it, i make plenty of money and ended up with a lot of escorts or hookers. Probably one of the greatest phases of my life- made plenty of money, Did a fair share of blow and managed to not get addicted AND fucked about every single type of women on the planet. I literally conquered and paid every shape, size, and race of women out there.

Needless to say, a fucken women whos a prude bitch is not worth it. Sounds like you have a good sexual appetite ans this bitch is dragging you sown. Youre not going to chance her no matter what.


Do yourself a favor a fuck around. Dont waste your time.

When you find the right women to be with- shell want to fuck you till your raw

Unfortunately, my experience tells me that your fear is warranted. That she hasn't scheduled the surgery already suggests that she wants to use it as an excuse for avoiding sex. Things might change for the better, you never know, but I think it unlikely. The more ego, the less likely she is to change. Especially when it's a fragile ego based on asserting your superiority.

All I can say is good luck, but don't get stuck being unhappy hoping things will change.

And here is a great example of a fragile ego of you needed one.

>You sound like a bore and a dick. No wonder she didn't want to fuck your diseased sociopathic ass.

Has she ever had sex?

Also, has she had any trauma growing up? I know sometimes when people have gone through sexual trauma it makes them not want to mess around.

Leave her and find a Lutheran girl. Lutheran girls let you fuck for the uterus and the anus.

I agree with this attitude. Lack of sexual experience is terrible. There is value learning to have sex without feelings. Emotional energy is overrated. Relationships must be reciprocal otherwise you are just giving and to taking. Later in life when mature you use that experience to choose a good companion. The younger you are you should maximise physical contact and minimise emotional attachment. When mature do the opposite and having experience helps to balance itself out.

no she's a virgin, but she had a long time boyfriend before me and, no surprise, she said he left because she never gave it up. that should have been my warning but I thought it'd be different for me.

also that guy was like suicidal and bipolar and threatened to shoot the school and other crazy shit so there is most likely trauma, albeit idk about sexual trauma.

like, something she does that kind of saddens me is if my dick even gets close to touching her vagina without anything between it (pants) she will physically jump back. like an instinct.

i get it because she doesn't want to get pregnant but it still kind of hurts my ego.

hmmm

i thought this girl WAS the good companion after trying to fool around as much as possible. she might still be, might be worth the wait, might not. i'm 25 so i'm tired of starting new relationships desu and just want to start having a family