Hey Jow Forums, what's a good way to show interest in the opposite gender?
So a secluded youth of video games have left me somehat socially awkward. Now I don't have trouble talking to women, but I tend to talk to them like you would to a friend. Unintentionally friendzoning myself.
Somebody help a desperate old wizard out!
Fucking say it
I grew up in America, and as a femanon this is a fucking problem
Every guy I knew growing up was always like
"wanna chill? wanna hang out?"
When I grew up and moved to China I had grown ass men, wearing suits/professional work attire come straight up to me on the street, with a smile and say
"Hey, you're really beautiful. Can I take you out on a date somewhere?"
I don't even really have a preference for asian men, and this shit made me fucking drip right goddamn there on the street corner.
Don't be a bitch. be direct
Women love a man who is fucking direct
This seems like a terrible idea in Wokeland.
I guess it depends on what you want to communicate to these women. Do you want to friend zone them or do you want to fuck them.
Wokeland?
Is that the place grown adult-ass men go to discuss relationships problems in the west?
Because if thats the case, I can tell you based on the average relationship that wokeland aint shit
Is it because of slanty eyes or just communism that turns you off
It was actually more to do with how they treated me after we'd been on a date.
Women are infantilized in eastern culture, and generally seen as big kids
(Men will feed/take care of/set rules/buy things for their gfs/wives)
I felt incredibly uncomfortable accepting a gift on our first date, and when he grabbed my wrist to pull me across the street with him (to make sure I wouldn't get hit)
I realized that the culture gap was too big for me to be comfortable with
I politely discontinued contact
They aren't even really communist these days. The politicians might be in official policy, but the people certainly aren't. The Chinese are big on consumerism these days, they've just got a sort of Big Brother vibe going on all the while. That said, if you aren't outspoken against the government you won't usually have trouble.
I never been shy to chat with girls/women. I wasn't looking for sex however. Too me. I won't have sex with random women just because.
I wanted to know you first, find out if you might be riddled with sexuality diseases. I know I'm clean. So that's why not shooting for sex right off the bat.
In America. I often got turned down or rejected because I was direct. So much for wanting a strong man. I moved to a few different countries for work related things.
Japan, Greece and Finland being my top three. I did the same thing, Japanese, Greece and Finnish girls loved my boldness, saying how "soft" their own men are. Made me laugh but I told them about how women in US were quick to deny me, even if I just wanted to chat over coffee or something harmless.
American women quick to anger, quick to judge and rush into the arms of black men. Always weak willed fools too, all show no bite types.
Foreign women, polite even if they turn you down. Willing to get to know you and just chill and chat. Not suck dick on the first date, having some pride inn themselves.
My advice to OP. Work on your interest towards none American "#metoos" and you will get over your fears and find a worthy woman.
Be sure you are taking care of your own needs. For example, going to a gym helps develop confidence. Confidence is attractive. When you aren't trying is when you will attract a good match. Remember to look people in the eye when you talk to them.
>Somebody help a desperate old wizard out!
Yea somebody do that.
Accept the non-verbal opening signals they're sending. If you only partially like what it implies or are confused, then you have to talk about it -- or you can simply ignore it. Ignoring it is seen as rejection. Since the opening signals from women are constrained, you'll be "forced" to engage them in conversation to clarify. This is basically a method to draw mental/emotional investment from you.
Otoh, this is a horrible way to communicate anything complicated or contribute to a healthy relationship. It also signals laziness and unreasonableness. Why? Because a woman doing this could have simply talked to you before trying to drag you into deciphering a literal time-wasting message.
During conversation these non-verbals along with metaphors will be used to give signals in a sort of negotiation process. Most women I've met give so much crazy signals at this stage, that talking to women is a chore. That's just me though.
If you were just talking about platonic based interaction, I'd agree with you. Since this is about sexual relationships, you are actually very wrong. Not too wrong that it can't be made to work, but some physiological differences make it clear that it should be the other way around.
Women (on average, compared to men) have greater sensory acuity, empathy and sexual desire than men. Technically, the female is the leker in our species. The real problem is that men don't realize they're selecting women due to poorer male senses.
The simplest example is the peripheral vision system. A woman's peripheral vision extends quite far. Men otoh can basically only see thing in front of them clearly. The majority of women's "come talk to me" etc signals are usually not seen by men unless you do it directly in front of them -- it's a physical limit.
Male logic: If a woman is interested enough to signal interest in such a way while making sure the male sees, then she might as well have just talked to him. Is she lazy or stupid?
>Is she lazy or stupid?
Why not both?
>Can I take you out on a date somewhere?
Still vague. Direct approach is time, place, activity. Not asking but telling
Plus, doesn't that line get boring after a while. You get all that "you're beautiful" talk on instagram, snapchat etc.
its pretty simple
>eye contact
Not too creepy, blink and break it periodically. dont just fucking stare forever
>smile
>laugh at humorous stuff she says
simple shit like that. then you get flirty
>talk about how their eyes/clothes/hair looks good
thats the extent of my knowledge. sometimes you gotta fuck the scalpel and use the sledgehammer and just up and say
>ARE WE FUCKIN OR NAH?
Possible. She could also be a sociopath and merely see you as a tool to be manipulated for her own purposes. The only way to determine these things for certain is more interaction of some sort. Or apply logic.
Most of the signals women choose to initiate interaction are of a vague quasi-sexual variety. These are meaningless, since you can get a sense of that merely by looking at a woman. The important information for relationships is usually conveyed via verbal or situational means. Picking vague signals instead of concrete communication is a poor choice. People generally try to start with their best foot forward. Not very appealing is it?
Continued vagueness in the conversational stage is a flag in itself. At this point you are responsible for picking the questions, showing expectations etc. As a male, you are very unlikely to be as sexually motivated as her at this point, so repeated or strong signals of chastity would imply sociopathy.
It rationally wouldn't seem like a beneficial move to interact with her if that's what she decided to start with. So you can be happy knowing that those sorts of women are to be avoided while you ignore her.
So many women don't seem to realize that no amount of physical attractiveness (or whatever they believe they possess) is much of a motivator when weighted against someone who fails simple commonsense and basic knowledge.
This method still works for women. However, the men who go for this female method have traits that **look like but absolutely aren't** confidence: impulsiveness, disregard for consequences, poor judgement etc...
Strange how people don't realize that true confidence involves being able to ignore non-useful distractions due to being certain that your own priorities are more important.
These two phenomena bode poorly for society in general when combined. Oh well.
Ask her on date.
Lol
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You're so full of complete shit it is disgusting. Please go back to le upvoteddit and stay there until the world ends.
It depends user. Are you looking for gf or are you looking for some quick pussy?
bump
Whip out your dick and ask her to suck it. If she does, she's a keeper.
This put me a worried look on my face
When the opportunity presents itself, ask her:
can i kiss you?
This has a better than not chance of producing beneficial results.
yes. it really is that simple.