So this girl I’ve been talking to for almost 2-3 weeks has a major crush on me and she admitted it last night after we started talking every day and night. However she tells me that she has unresolved issues from her past relationships and wants us to take things slow before she agrees to dating anyone new.
Is this a reasonable solution? Or should I not wait around for her and move on?
If she is worth it and you are comfortable with it why not?
Hunter Peterson
It’s just that sometimes I hate having to sit around while I could use the time to talk to other women but I do like her a lot. It’s just the problem of how long I should be waiting. What is a reasonable timeframe?
Henry Young
basically, someone hurt her really badly what she wants is for someone to show her they teuly care about her, and actually be a kind and safe person to open up to based on this I think you two would be incompatible, and shouldn't waste each other's time. Sounds like you're too impatient and she is too sensitive right now for this to work out.
Cooper Fisher
No matter what people think, "let's not date yet, and take it slow because of my mental issues" actually means "we won't be dating" or "no", OP. Here is why: How long does it take to get through unresolved issues from past relationships? That's how long you would be waiting -- move on.
Even if you supported her through this period, she would be getting your support for nothing on her part. A relationship gotten for nothing isn't valued, she would literally be investing no effort and gaining a benefit. This would likely turn into her manipulating you even more. Why not? She can easily scrounge up some issues to keep you waiting even longer. You'd have shown her that you were fine with that state of affairs by waiting around for an indefinite period of time. When people say that sort of thing, move on.
**If she had offered to date you, but warned you of mental issues, it would be an entirely different situation.**
Jeremiah Cook
As a woman who had an abusive relationship last, I completely disagree with this. I think you have a selfish and entitled attitude. I say this because "wait for me" usually just means "show me you're a safe person to be around, then we'll move forward". She just wants to find someone who isn't shit, which is hard for all of us these days. But this bullshit mentality you retards have is why I said this your autistic, jaded, and narcissistic viewpoint is like a fucking virus and I think you love that, user. You just assume everyone is as shit as you are, lol.
Hunter Bennett
agree with you femanon. I also take it slow because he too might have unresolved issues from a past relationship.
Lot of guys don't really care because they think having steady sex is all there is to a relationship.
Matthew Young
>almost 2-3 weeks wow thats an eternity
Aiden Gray
OP here. I believe a lot of what you guys said is true but I do want to date her and I don’t mind waiting as long as it takes. She said she has no interest in talking to anyone else or to waste my time as long as we are both trusting each other on the patience process. I used to be impatient on these things before but I already told her once before that if I need to wait for her then so be it as long as there’s no strings attached to what she’s attached.
She once told me she made a guy wait for 2-3 years due to the guy being underage so that they could date. But she promised me she wouldn’t make me wait that long to date her.
Colton Campbell
You sound like a cunt, if a cute girl confesses her love to you and you come up with some abstract reason why you won't at least hangout with her and give her a chance for a while then you will never be able to find success in life because you have super high standards and drag your feet on everything.
Eli Flores
how to people talk girls into admitting them having crush on you? I don't even know how to do that. Or even how to confess correctly because i now realize simply telling her i like her is useless because they will mostly just scared off by me pushing my feeling on them.
Isaac Johnson
Breaking news OP now indulges I'm cuckoldry alongside faggotry. More at 7
Zachary Sanchez
>She once told me she made a guy wait for 2-3 years due to the guy being underage so that they could date. But she promised me she wouldn’t make me wait that long to date her. hahaha what the FUCK? there's like a million other women just like her waiting for you
Robert Hughes
if you talk daily for more than 30 mins she likes you
Oliver Gray
You seem to think mutual give and take in a relationship is unnecessary. This makes you selfish. You actually approve of OP being an insistent stalker, this makes you a fool and hypocrite. To expect someone to put a major portion of their life on hold, because you need to sort your mind out is the absolute definition of entitled. Many mental problems do not actually have cures or go away. Now I will prove you a moron.
If you admit that brain damage was involved in this abusive relationship, then I'll apologize.
Try logic on for size: 1) If she doesn't think he is safe, she shouldn't be talking to him. Furthermore, he shouldn't be interacting with her and potentially setting off her fragile emotional state. Waste of time. Potentially damaging.
2) If she does think he is safe, then she is wasting his time by approving of his obsessive stalker behavior. Her first decision didn't need 3 yrs to consider.
No one's even discussing sex -- don't even bother pretending going out on a date is some massive difficulty. If it truly is, then see 1). This is so simple that no one should have to explain it. Why?
She's not even willing to go on a date on a public outing with the man. That is a pathetically easy show of interest that requires no effort whatsoever. She could bring a friend or something. What is she doing instead? Thinking about it for three years. Glad you support his stalking, femanon. Good job, dipshit.
You wanted to date her, she said no. Insisting on waiting is the equivalent to being a needy stalker. All of this for a woman you've known after only a few weeks. Take a fucking hint, OP. I think you shouldn't take up what society views as weirdo stalker behavior.
1) Willing to wait on a indefinite mental illness to heal before dating a woman who has literally rejected you. 2) Ignoring her rejection in favor of simply nagging her for three years. 3) Will end poorly.
Julian Gomez
I feel like she simply "don't hate me" or like me in a "friend" way.
Asher Kelly
>she made a guy wait for 2-3 years due to the guy being underage so that they could date Grooming minors is seriously concerning, OP. Do you know what kind of person you are dealing with here? Let's not mince words about it: she's a predator. And guess who her next victim is?
>but I do want to date her and I don’t mind waiting as long as it takes Do you think it's a healthy, natural response to be so devoted to somebody you met about 3 weeks ago that you're willing to wait "as long as it takes" just to fucking date them? This behaviour is unnatural and unhealthy. So why is she encouraging you?
Because she is a predator, and they excel at finding and charming victims such as yourself. You poor naive bastard. Do you know what you are getting yourself into? Look up "emotional abuse" and tell us if any of it sounds familiar to you. Don't think I'm kidding here either. You are entering an abusive relationship and you are the victim.
Wyatt Lopez
ask her out
Alexander Kelly
tried that. Sometimes she's ok with it, sometimes she's not. This is why i think she's just treating me as a friend. I heard that if a girl like you, she would change her schedule to go out with you. Is that true?
regardless, she's giving me some mixed signal here, so i'm not sure how i should proceed.
Oliver Ramirez
Huh. That is a good angle to look at it from, I was just concerned about the stalking, ignoring her rejection in favor of her mentioning a crush after weeks of him pressuring her etc. Good point. OP probably is way too young, I just assumed he was a psycho that should be dissuaded. Either way the result is the same. No matter how you look at it: A) this situation stinks, and B) femanon is objectively a terrible person (or perhaps has some form of brain damage) C) OP should do something else.
>True? Yes. Scheduling is mandatory for dating, OP. If someone can't/won't schedule then there will be no dates. How old are you, exactly?
Brayden Torres
what do you mean she's ok? did she say yes and you guys went out? if not just slowly ghost her and she'll realize you wanted a more serious relationship