A friend of mine, not an incredibly close one, seems to have a thing for my GF.
Since he first met her he has been seemingly quite 'impressed'. When meeting him and asking about us, he occasionally drops some suggestive quips... >Let me know if it doesn't work out between you too... >(In case I can't come to his graduation) Otherwise send your GF...
It never bothered me, even found it flattering at times. But now that I've been paying attention to it, it does seem a bit weird to me. He has never done or said anything forward to her. And he lives in a different country, so the risk of anything happening is basically non-existant. But still...
>Do you consider this appropriate behaviour from a friend? >Should I tell her or would that make it awkward between them? >How should I react to such comments? >Would this be a deal-breaker for you?
Tell her so she knows to be on her guard. Otherwise, it should be fine since he lives in a different country and can’t do shit about his weird crush
Jacob Jenkins
Seems like he’s joking? Me and my friends say that shit to each other all the time. “Yeah I’ll be at your girl’s house later” or some shit like that.
Jackson Murphy
Gas him. Behavior such as this should never be tolerated in the western world. For that behavior is only preserved for the untermensch.
Gabriel Brown
With friends like this, who needs enemies?
Aiden Torres
I trust my GF to be observant enough to detect on such things were they to happen. But I have thought of telling her. I just don't want her to destroy a human relationship without any proof + I don't want to come across as a jealous bitch.
Also my initial thought. But he is bad a emoting so it's often not easy to tell. Given that he is single and that he sometimes attaches it to normal catch-up conversations does seem a bit insensitive to me.
Gabriel Phillips
Don´t trust this one. Men have never the intention to be just friends with women, if they don´t think they are ugly or if they don´t havbe boner problems.
Never send your girlfriend to guys. Maybe quit the friendship and find some excuse for this behaviour, so she will not think your are over jealous.
I see your point. I have some cool, platonic female friends, but that's besides the point here. They have never hung out together and she only knows him through me. So for now I don't see a huge problem. But I don't know whether to tell her about it.
Daniel Jackson
>Do you consider this appropriate behaviour from a friend? fuck no, not at all >Should I tell her or would that make it awkward between them? don't say a word and try to bury it >How should I react to such comments? cut him out of your life >Would this be a deal-breaker for you? yup.
i'm 29, have a wide circle of friends, have had a number of GFs, so have they, and this behaviour is not normal, friendly behaviour. dude has the hots for your girl and would act if given the chance. may have messaged her already.
David Fisher
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Carson Morales
I wouldn't ask this if it were a one-off, bro-to-bro, comment. But given that this has turned out to be somewhat regular, I'm becoming sceptical.
Why do you suggest burying it instead of just telling the GF to be cautious and distancing myself from him (given that enough trust is there).
Lincoln Ortiz
why even tell your gf? what gain could there be? she's not retarded, girls mostly know when dudes are coming on to them, we do it all the time. you'll just plant the subconscious idea that the guy threatens you. you'll come off as insecure, and she may find herself intrigued, to some extent, in him.
Benjamin Lopez
I totally agree with user and the reasons given.
Anthony Wood
OP you gotta listen to this guy. he knows how women work. Bury this shit and do not say a word to your gf. Why risk anything when all you have to do is shut up and cut this guy off. Since hes in another country and not a close friend it should be easy.
Mason Ward
Great point. Don't want to appear like I feel threatened by a random dude. I am always hesitant to burn bridges, especially because there is no proof that he has done anything. But being preventive is probably better in this case...
Easton Reyes
The one to talk to is your girlfriend. Determine she's not feeding the inclinations and then proceed from there >do you consider this appropriate? If he said 'just send your gf' I'd reply, ad verbatim, "Don't make implications you don't want picked up"
Owen Wilson
Beat him infront of your gf or Cut contacts. Rat tries to smash her you naive fuck.
Gabriel Murphy
Yes, he wants to wiggle his flesh tail inside of your girls pink wet sticky pocket.
Juan Phillips
It's not appropriate behaviour but he is your friend and you allow him to talk this way so it's appropriate to you you don't know why he's saying that I said that to my brothers gf as well, just for shits and giggles I don't want her at all, I just liked her as a person
Daniel Garcia
>I just liked her of course you do so stop your passive/aggressive play for her
Josiah Thompson
I don't date brown girls.
Noah Myers
Call him out on his crap next time he says something
