ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Genetics.

I went on a date with a guy yesterday who was funny, nice, very easy to talk to, has alot of similar interests as me, seems masculine enough. One problem.
He is about 40lbs overweight, kept mentioning his love of food (I like food but not like that much? I don't want to get fat more). His body isn't great and if he gained even 5 more lbs I might not be able to have sex with him. I don't like that much body fat.

Obviously sex isn't going happen on the first few dates but he is long term potential except for being overweight.

Should I pursue him with the intent in getting him to lose 40lbs or just walk away from this?

If you have to question yourself if you're attractive, chances are, you are not attractive. Women ask out attractive guys and make it obvious. You are obviously are not attractive if you have to rely on some prime number on the clock to ask a girl out.

So A) I have been asked out, multiple times in the last few years
B) by your logic, every guy who has ever asked a girl out is unattractive, because the girl didn't ask him out first?

How do I unfuck what my mom and dad did to me? I'm so hesitant. It's my biggest flaw. And why? Because my mother was bipolar and would threaten my life as a child. I had to learn how to not react.

I'm visiting a female friend and her husband is such a self centered douche. He about drives off and leaves her but gets angry that she forgot to grab his hat. Later she had to beg him to stop to look at some car damage. He's like this every day. Everything is about him.

I step back and ask myself why anyone would put up with this and my only answer is that his selfishness can come off as assertiveness. That he goes in and gets what he wants.

Maybe I am a better guy than him but a lot of fat fucking good it does me. I don't assert myself. Why? Because my mother hit me and told me she'd murder me if I ever hit her back.

Life is so stupid. All this shit I miss out on because of the conditioning I received as a child.. but some bozo can make my friend cry for hours but it's ok because this same selfishness can be read as strength.

Any actual input?

> I have been asked out, multiple times in the last few years
>I'm so bad at dating shit, when do you ask a girl out
Yeah no. Nice LARP. Even if you did, landwhales do not count.
>every guy who has ever asked a girl out is unattractive, because the girl didn't ask him out first?
Now this a logical fallacy called a strawman.

You don't know me dude, why are you attacking me? What did I do to you? There's no need for you to spew hate at me when I'm asking for help. I have bad anxiety and so I haven't dated very much, so I'm trying to wrap my mind around the nuances of how this works, because I met a girl I like and I don't want to fuck it up like I always do by over analyzing and freaking myself out. I just want understanding of normal protocol and what women expect in terms of this stuff

If you really feel the need to insult me over that then fuck me for existing I guess

Calm down

I'd say pursue and try to get him to exercise. Offer him incentives to and even exercise with him.

Spotted the incel

Calling someone incel isn't going to fix your subhuman genes. Cope.

No

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Girls does this look awful to you? (veins)

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For Femanons
If a guy has thick eyebrows is better to trim them
or is it better just to roll with it

mine occasionally grow into a mono but i pluck in the midddle

Don't get in a relationship with the intent of changing the person you're with.
It never happens and you only get disappointed.

I was trying to get to know this girl better before I decide to date her. I know she likes me, that's not something to question here, its just that she acts cold a lot and tries being passive aggressive with me even if I'm trying not to be the same because it just doesn't do anyone any good. She also likes to argue instead of talking about things, even if they're not big issues, it just comes out sometimes out of her. Is it a good idea to date a girl like this?

See, I'm fairly new to dating and don't know if arguing before/during dating is a normal thing

Looks normal to me, veins and all.

Trim a bit. Super long eyebrow hairs that curl upon themselves aren't that attractive.

He's already fat. People typically get fatter when they get into a relationship, so don't bother.

stop trying to change ppl

>short, 5'3'' / 163 cm
>fat, manboobs
>somewhat big nose
>hairy
>otherwise heard i've got a "handsome" face and a "strong yet comfortable" personality
Would you date a guy like me?

No, lol.

Dang.

In short, no

I see what you did there.

Well, to be completely honest I don't really mind either way. Been there done that, regarding being in relationships.
However maybe it's about time I lose weight. My biggest gripe every time I try is that there is almost nothing nice to eat that is "allowed". Damn I hate that. I think last time I tried I got so bored of eating "healthy" that I only lived on water and carrots for like a week until I gave up.
Gosh ding dong dang it.

are you the Bagel Boy/Boss, by any chance?

A what?
Jewish? Nah, finn-swede mixed breed.

Can any women give me advice on girls with anxiety? I’m happy to lay out what’s happened just wanna know if anyone’s got meaningful advice

google bagel boss, its this manchild incel. There is a whole story about him, its fascinating stuff. Just the description and the nature of the question is something that reminded me of him, kek

Oh. Nah I don't do things like hate people for no reason. I like to consider myself as cozy and laid-back.

That guy seems like a huge douchebag though.

How do I deal with the shame of having sex while blackout drunk? It was with my boyfriend but still..

What you are going through is very normal when you don't have much experience yet. I can tell you something that you won't like and that is - just try. I can already tell that you are the over-analytical type. That's just what I'm going to assume. There are doers and thinkers and when it comes to dating, doers are vastly better off. Look dude, all girls are different and depending on timing, location and who you are the outcomes could vary even more based on that. In other words, there isn't some step by step guide for these things. Just flexible social norms. If you want to hear an example, here

>approach girl for first time
>small talk
>introduce yourself
>make some jokes
>flirt (just a little bit, nothing overt if it's daytime and you're meeting her for the first time. but you definitely have to flirt so she doesn't get the impression you just want to be friends)
>tell her you want to see her again and ask for her number

That's the basic rundown from what I can personally recall. But remember, you could also meet a girl at a house party and have sex with her 20 minutes after meeting her. It can be all different.
When you are interested in a girl it's better to move things forward early. Don't be that guy who is essentially just friends with a girl for a couple of months and then suddenly asks her out after he mustered up that courage. The longer you wait, the more she is going to see you as just a friend.

But as I already said, just do it and try things. You gain the most experience from trying.

>If you have to question yourself if you're attractive, chances are, you are not attractive.
Not true. Good looking people can be insecure about their looks as well. I've been told numerous times by now that I could be a model or was asked if I was a model. Also get approached by girls sometimes. I even had someone stop me on the street because he wanted me for a photoshoot. I still am very critical about my looks. I don't see myself that way.

>If you have to question yourself if you're attractive, chances are, you are not attractive
My boyfriend is the most attractive guy I've ever seen IRL and he thinks he's too fat and he looks ugly.
He won't let me take pictures of him, even.

People are fucked in the head.

Accuse him of rape, I hear that's popular these days

You should be more ashamed of the fornication itself than your mental state preceding it.

As if, the one fleeting moment I remember of it I was enjoying myself. Plus I trust him and know that I seem to act normal even when I don't remember shit when drunk.

I feel more ashamed about how I let myself get to that state.. I'm afraid I did something stupid like fall asleep during it idk. I don't know how to bring it up, like would he be upset when I tell him I don't actually remember it?

Well, if you feel ashamed then treat it as a learning experience and don't do it next time you get the opportunity.

But seriously that is how like 50% of teenagers or even adults get INTO relationships. That's the whole reason why people go clubbing when they're single, either get laid and blame it on alcohol when it doesn't work out or get laid and if she wants to stick around, go out with her. If people do that outside of relationships and think its ok, then I can imagine you doing it in a relationship is even more ok.

Why do men like eating ass?

i don't

It's tasty.

When should I message this girl I met?

>At pub with few friends
>see cute girl with one of her guy friends, doesn't look like they're together
>Make eye contact a few times, smile at eachother
>at one point ask her and her friend if they want to play doubles, we do so
>me and my mate are pretty decent at pool so we win, we play again but switch teams. Ask girl to be on my team, says yeah
>few times she's quite touchy, touching my arm while taking a shot
>when they're heading off, ask for her number, get her facebook
>next day message saying it was lovely to meet you
>see's message but doesn't reply

Should I send a final message asking her on a date next week and drop if she doesn't respond? Or should I try start a conversation first to get to know her before asking. Trying not to seem autistic. I would've thought she'd responded reee

If god didn't want us to eat ass why did he make it so delicious?

You are fucking disgusting

Is it appropriate for an adult (24) to ask a friend or acquaintance to help "grease the wheels" with a girl?

I almost want to ask if she's too pretty for me but that would probably just come across as pathetic. I have no idea how attractive I am.

Na man just delete her off Facebook, she was probably a little drunk and being over friendly

I'm gonna give it one more shot, if not I'll forget about it. Just not too sure whether to just ask her on a date straight up or see if she wants to chat a little first

I'm assuming by "grease the wheels" you mean for her to wing you and speak good of you? If that's so, then yeah that's totally fine.

>I almost want to ask if she's too pretty for me
One thing I learned is that the level of attractiveness you think you are entitled to is what you are going to get. If you are not even trying to get girls that are that pretty, you are obviously never going to get one like that.

>I have no idea how attractive I am.
Doesn't really matter. Do basic grooming, dress well and from then on out it's just your social skills that will do the work.

>I'm assuming by "grease the wheels" you mean for her to wing you and speak good of you? If that's so, then yeah that's totally fine.
Yeah, I mean just someone to kind of put some feelers out there so I don't get slaughtered out there. Last time I tried asking a girl out it was pretty humiliating
>just your social skills that will do the work.
HA

>Last time I tried asking a girl out it was pretty humiliating
Dating is not without its vulnerable and embarrassing moments, user. Exposing yourself is literal proof of how strong you are as a person.

>HA
I BELIEVE IN U user.

>up until mid february was seeing my ex-gf again
>last memory of her is her in my arms telling me to look after her
>find out days after that she fucked with the guy she is with now and she's moving in with him after being together for 3,4 months they've been friends for years, so have we

i honestly feel toyed with, haven't had any form of contact in a month with her now
and i'm mostly over that bad human being, but still hurts to be played with

Sorry man, but yeah move on, if she's the kinda person to do that you wouldn't want to be with her anyway. I find meeting new girls is a great way to actually move on emotionally and boost your confidence

i've had my share of making out and/or meeting other girls sure and to be honest i don't think of her or think about texting her anymore, although everytime i see her i tend to be a bit ignorant? towards her, dunno if i should or shouldn't

if i made a move, how would you react, as a woman?

I have a boyfriend, so slap the shit out of you.

fairs fair, i suppose

I honestly don't see the big deal in trying to change his weight. If he got in shape, it would be great for everyone involved, a positive thing all around.
But if he doesn't want to do it, then he doesn't want to do it....

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Is it okay I flirt with every girl at work that comes to our team? Friendly talking, no sex topics. The girls seem to be responding pretty favorably, but once I stop doing this and start to talk in a formal manner they get upset and become extremely cold, maybe even hostile. I have Asperger so I may confuse words and meaning of what I'm actually doing. However I don't understand their reaction when I stop that friendly bullshitting.

You should completely avoid flirting at work. Work is not the place to do this.

Well if you have aspergers then I would just disregard whatever supposed impressions you've had. no, flirting at work is inappropriate. banter is okay, it doesn't have to be all serious all the time.

They don't. Spend less time on the internet.

no u >:(

>flirting
>banter
What's the difference? Doesn't flirt mean friendly talking and banter is kinda friendly talking too, no?

Don't date him if your intent to change the guy. it won't happen

I met a man. Been spending nights together on two separate weekends. We had sex but then we decided to be friends and had some good talks and cuddles too. It just so happened that we kissed as well. Recently he told me he had a crush on me last week, but now he doesn't want me to fall in love with him and start wanting a relationship. What does this mean? I don't know if he has feelings for me and is trying to hide it, or if he wants to play me. Either way he doesn't seem like either a good friend or a potential boyfriend, even though I like spending time with him and think he's cute.

How do I stop searching for clues that a man likes me more than I like him and getting anxious when it doesn't seem that way? It ruins every budding relationship when I get desperate.

Are you sure your breath was fresh enough?

Hmm no, they both go in a friendly direction, but your are dismissing a lot of depth if you leave it at that and call it the same. Banter is making jokes while there being a very comfortable and open chemistry in the interaction. So much so that you could make fun of each other or make some edgy remarks and people would be cool with it. Flirting on the other hand is implying sexual interest in a playful manner. Key word "implying". That's what makes it fun, because it leaves people guessing "is he/she into me or..?". Granted, there can be a seeming overlap there, for example teasing a girl can look like banter, but depending on your intentions it can be flirting.

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Yeah.

He also talked a lot about wanting a girlfriend, but that it will take a long time to find a girl like that. He said he wanted to wake up every morning next to someone, but then said stuff like "she would have to be clean" (I'm not) and constantly saying how I'm not the kind of girl even though he says our relationship is special and that I'm really sweet and awesome and have helped him. Just playing me, I guess?

I don't think he's playing you, he could just be honest. He had a crush on you, he saw more of you and decided you aren't exactly the type that would be right for him. But he still appreciates you because there are other things he likes about you. I know that feel to be honest.

Had ghosting a girl after flirting awhile ever worked?
Especially when you're the one into the girl, not the girl that's into you

The thing is it seems everybody decides that way. I'm pretty and sociable and nice, but I have serious problems in my life management. Even the guys that have such problems themselves don't accept me, even though other girls like me seem to find relationships too.

No-no, I'm just being friendly, no sex talk.

Pretending to be disinterested can make girls more interested, I even managed to do it with girls who initially disliked me, but you gotta be clever about it. Like for example, you can't ghost her if that disinterested girl isn't even texting you to begin with, right? I think playing disinterested only works when you manage to make that girl think about you. You should be sort of unavoidable. For example, if you go to the same class, you can talk with other girls infront of her. Or have an active social media profile e.g. snapchat stories that show you're doing fun shit. And in the few instances she actually contacts you, you gotta be distant and cold at first. You play that game for a while and only slowly warm up. But when you start paying attention to her again, be a bit flirty.

Looks Delicious
Just get them waxed by a salon girl so you have boobs to entertain you while you endure the pain.
no
By listening to Beyonce- Drunk in Love
Probably feign stupidity, just to watch you squirm.

Why do I love the act of sucking dick ?
I'm a guy that is exclusively attracted to feminity and hate masculinity (even with myself), l but I love the act of doing it and use it in my fantasies as well.
I'm really confused about what exactly I am and it's making me really uncomfortable with myself.

Guy here. Ex just unfriended me, broke up three months ago, havent spoken to her since. She gets back from overseas in 2 days, she left while we were still together and broke up with me 2 months in. Any guesses why she unfriended me?

You are a faggot

Maybe the heighten sex and desperation of the guy for wanting a GF Seems to be a bit suspicious. But if he is a genuine dude why not right?

He seems like a narcissist to be honest. I was able to open up about the dark sides of my own personality for that reason.

Don't compare yourself to others, everyone's life is much deeper than that, as if you could just draw defeatist conclusions like that.

It sounds like you are somewhat needy for acceptance or being approved of and take personal offence and question yourself, when you don't get it. Bring your life in order for your own sake, if you are unhappy with it. Live a life where you can be happy alone. Sounds corny af I know, but from what I can make out from your post, it seems like you would just end up in a co-dependent relationship if you got into one right now.

Maybe your gay and don't know about it until now

bump

The answer is 'whenever you feel like it'. And immediately after so.

And always do it directly! With a yes/no response, and accept whatever she says. This is where guys mess up a lot.

They either do it indirectly (creepy) way like "hey i'm going to blah this weekend you can come if you want". This is bad because your intentions are not clear. Are you just friends? Is this a date? Will others be there? Do you normally do this?
Remember: ambiguity = creepy. Be direct and shameless.

The other half is the yes/no response. Some guys reaaaaaly want the girl to say yes. They want it so badly, that they'll pout like a little boy if she says no. She will feel this pressure. If you pressure her like this, then it's not a question anymore, it's a command. It's just super immature. So you just need to prepare yourself for both the yes and the no, and handle each with compassion.

So how do you do it? And when?
The MOMENT you feel it in your heart. Even if you never spoke to her, or if you known her for years, don't hide it and don't feel shame.

A girl you just met:
"Hi my name is user, what's your name?"
"Anonette"
"Anonette would you like to go out with me?"

This is very good because it's direct, she knows exactly what you're asking and why you're doing it. There's no ambiguity. Also you gave her the full choice (and no pressure) to say no. Or to say yes. You really laid the choice on her. Girls like feeling this. Even if she says no, you'll have made her day because she'll feel validated because a guy asked her out.

A girl you've know for a while:
You can say something relevant or personalized, fine. But when it comes the moment, it's very quick:
"Would you like to go out with me?"
"What, like out on a date?"
"Like out on a date."
"I... didn't expect this..."
"So is that a no?"
"Of course I want to go out with you!"

In this case, if she instead doesn't give you a yes/no, you have the right to remind her "Indecision is a decision, too."

I don't like men in that way other than using their dicks for that very specific purpose.
I dislike masculinity and how guys smell.
I dislike my own male smell to the extent that I use more girly scents to mask it on my own body.

I just broke up with my gf a few nights ago. I really don't think women are capable of being good. I think this is why men evolved to love them and fall for women. It's to blind us to the reality of how awful they are.
I'm picky af. She's got to be between 14-24, white, skinny, beautiful, and well behaved.
You should never enter a relationship on the circumstance that the other will change. Guaranteed failure and suffering for both of you.
>How do I unfuck what my mom and dad did to me?
LSD and I'm not kidding. I came from an abusive mother that ruined a lot of my life. I was able to overcome it, largely in part to this drug.
Also consider therapy.
>It was with my boyfriend
By reminding yourself of this. Just keep it a secret between you two and it won't harm your reputation. Channel the pain it causes you into action. Every time this memory troubles you, tell yourself "And that's why I will never do _____ again"
Fill in the blank with whatever weakness/vice led to you blacking out.
gross I could not do it
>What does this mean?
The first "what does this mean" post of the thread. Read the FAQ. We can't read his mind, just ask him.
You probably have issues with your sense of worth. What happens when people are scared, they try to control everything. You're just controlling the wrong things.

So instead, my advice is to control the right things; take inventory of why he likes you. Ask yourself "what do I offer in a relationship" and write it all down on paper. Everything that comes to mind, no matter how crazy, just put it down on paper. Maybe also just ask him "What do you like about me" and just remember what he says.

Take this list, then choose the things you are most proud of.

From those, you might be surprised how much control you have over these things. So channel your energy into improving (controlling) this, instead of controlling him.

Yeah, you're right. I'm a woman and, realizing some things about myself, I tried to be good. It didn't work out. I ended up being taken advantage of and alone. As a woman, don't be good. It takes you much farther if you are a subtle asshole.

why do women demand that every sentence of my conversation must carry some groundbreaking comedic value?
I swear to motherfucking god, it's impossible to exchange like normal human beings with most bitches nowadays if you're not some certified clown who can compete with adhd fueled phone addiction. I've lost the count on how many times a bitches pulled her phone in the middle of a sentence.
As soon as I discuss a topic that isn't about silly shit most of you just disconnect.
Every person I've been on a date with this year alone had lower level of education than me, lower income and yet acted like I was some idiot because I didn't feel like extrapolating some retarded forced joke for hours. Because that's what game is nowadays, it's not about carrying yourself with charisma, having a spotless hygiene, putting effort on your clothing. No guys who fuck on a weekly basis just find some slightly silly shit and just pushes the comedic aspect of it for hours and that's basically how they keep a bitch in tune all the way to the bed.
What the fuck is wrong with you bitches?